₦airaland Forum

NONNYG:
Me no dey advice anyone make dem no come Dubai, before dem go say I be enemy of progress, I came , I saw & I conquered,, if you're fully prepared for the journey, oya come shoot ur shot

But make nobody come dey ask, as a graduate of this or that,,, what is my chance of getting a job

The answer be say, when you come you go know

#Peace

sarrki:
Hmmm

Pdp really mismanaged our resources

holatunde1759:
Abeg o help a brother with a job. Staying in Sharjah. Visa expiring soon

tonyhoney:
The family is no more lovely since the wife can no more fulfil the primary purpose of the marriage.

kennydotkom:
My wife has always denied me sex with her, though I know that whenever she is not in good mood, she won't allow me, but this has become frequent with her. Note that I work in another state but I come home every weekend in which I have all the privileges to have girls because I live alone.

I can decide not to come home on a weekend just to attend to other girls but I didn't. Many people often call me a pastor because my neighbor where I work has not seen me with girlfriend with all the freedom I have.

Sometimes she jokingly says that I so much like sex that she doesn't want to grow old fast because of sex. With just 2 or 3rounds am OK till next weekend oo.

HOW TRUE IS This? as for me I get satisfy whenever we have fun togeda such that I can wait till next weekend when I will return home from work.

She is not a working class type, so she does her business at home, no stress except to take care of kids. at time she complained of headache, tiredness, or even if I wake her up at around 4am when kids have slept, she will complain that why did I wake her up when she was dreaming. And if am forcing her, she will being to make noise that can wake the kids up.

Here in my place of work in abeokuta I have all the reason to sleep with other girls, in which I have told my wife herself that my conscience cannot judge me if I do, because with little time I spend with you, u often turn me down and mostly she never initiate sex with me except she is extremely happy but very rear.

I don't know who to report her to .i just don't want to flirt around because of fear of God and love I have for my kids. We can go a month without sex, she is very OK with that, I told her that she had turn herself to just roommate.

RealFeyi:
Good day people, so my friend is Dubai working in an hotel earning 140k monthly and he met this agent that helped his friend to get an hotel job of 140k, the friend did not drop any money, the agent paid everything with an agreement that the guy will pay 1.2m back(60k monthly).

All though, dude advised me not to use this agent as the 1.2m is too much but man got no option at the moment and I've been thinking of giving it a try.

Do you guys think its a welcome idea?

My people in Dubai, is it easy doing hotel job like cleaning, shisha refiller etc.

I need serious advice, I don't wanna make a life time mistake.
thank

laudate:
Nobody is asking for your help. It is not needed. So stop finding a way to get back into my mentions.

laudate:
Self-appointed...what? You are just recycling falsehood and clutching at straws.

Even the man who perpetrated the act, does not have the guts to put up a robust defence to exonerate himself. That is why he chose to issue that watery set of excuses, and then opted to step down from the pulpit.

He does not have the guts to even sue the Dakolos to court, because he knows that by doing so, all the skeletons in his backyard will be revealed.

Yet, you are the one coming online to dress him in borrowed robes of angelic innocence and sainthood, that he does not possess.

You are happily discrediting the victim he sexually assaulted, because you want to paint the perpetrator as a knight in shining armour.

You are saying she cannot claim to be paralysed, as if you are the one controlling her reflexes and psychomotor abilities.

Some people can bury memories of a bad encounter for years, by living in denial in an attempt to pretend it did not happen. There is something called dissociation, that victims undergo as a coping mechanism, to handle trauma.

Many years after, an event may trigger the pain and all the bad memories then start flooding back into their minds.

She left the church a few months after the rape, and joined WINNERS Chapel. Watch her video again. Stop recycling lies.

Anyway o, all you defenders of wrong doing can continue with your trade. Maybe, that is how you get your kicks. Very soon, you will be awarded a PhD in rape apology.
#SayNoToRape
#SayNoToVictimShaming

SirWellington:
Hello everyone,

Just a quick on, anyone has an idea of how I can get a partition or room in Dubai for just a week for blacks, my fiancee is coming to see me in August and she will be staying for a week, she will be booking and presenting her passport as ID because Most hotels require physical copy of international passport for both parties (you know the case with most of our ababs here) tho ibhave thevl soft copy of my passport and my Nigerian national id, I stay in ajman but will be coming into dubai once she arrives by mid August.

Anyone with useful info should please mention me.

Regards.

laudate:
Oga, stop recycling this crap, I beg you. Talk to any psychologist, and they would tell you that people react differently when attacked, assaulted or faced with danger.

At the time she slapped someone when she was 10 years old, the circumstances, location and perpetrator must have been different, compared to when she was 16 years old. Don't forget that you are talking about her pastor, o!

Somebody she used to fear and respect. It must have been a different person who looked at her when she was 10 years old.

And like I have explained cover and over again, some people can fight or resist when they are being sexually assaulted, while others will freeze in fear, when thrown into the same situation.

Somebody who is bold while facing a particular situation, might cower in fear or shock, if that same situation occurs, in a different location at a different time.

If at the age of 10 years, an adult family member was present, she might have had the courage to take action that she could not take at a later date, without anyone beside her.

laudate:
I can't believe you said this. So you haven't heard of young kids or people being raped by close family friends or relatives under the same roof for years, before such acts were discovered??

And you have the guts to say she was complicit in the rape? Maybe if your sister, daughter or female relative is raped, you can say they were complicit in their own rape....it just shows the kind of person you are.
#SayNoToRape.

laudate:
She should have told who? Are you in her mind or do you have control over her healing process, or her mental state?

Please talk to a psychologist who can educate you, on the emotional trauma that rape victims go through, and the length of time it takes for their recovery.

obekediamondfuto:
Nigerian police?
Many people believe they are the custodian of rape addicts?

Me? I'm indifferent!

Many people believe Rape has a different definition to the average policeman.

Imagine a well-dressed sparkling lady going to report @ the station that she was just raped.

Question 1: where did this "rape" take place?
Answer: his house

Question 2: What time
Answer: around 2am

Question 3: Did he force you to come to his house and sleep over?
Answer: NO

Question 4: wetin you go find for man house sotay you sleep over?
Answer: I went to visit him and when I decided to leave it was already too late.

Question 5: Madam, if he didn't pay you, tell us.... No come tell us say person rape u joor!


I'd advise any victim to first get a lawyer before anything else!

In the end, I just hope this is not a case of Joseph and Potiphars wife

laudate:
Go and talk to a psychologist, to enlighten you. A woman may not be able to give her consent in such situations, if she is paralysed by fear!

Some women freeze in shock, become numb or powerless in the face of such intimidation and coercion, if a powerful person pins them down.

Finally, what on earth gives you the idea that I am a woman? Is it because I believe the pastor is trying to pull the wool over everyone's eyes, by insulting our collective intelligence with the watery excuses, he is using as a defence??

Amanstailored:
Truth be told youre right and since its Gods word the bible its hard for me to argue the narrative there in. But you have to understand that if we were still living under he law of moses, also known as the mosaic law, somany sins today as a matter of fact, somany crimes today would be purnishable by death, but today in Gods mercy he gave us a new law. The of the Christ that preaches forgiveness.
Bisola never said she stuggled, she never said she screamed even when she admitted her sister was in the house, and admittedly all of these happened in the 90s when there was no gsm or mobile phones. So someone came to ur house unannounced with the intention of raping you, by the time he knocked ur door wouldnt the first to do be, to ask if your parents are at home, or if ur siblings were at home just to make no one comes against him and his agenda. So how did he know u were home alone and even if he knew it begs common sense to say he still wud have asked just to double sure. But i cant recall bisola saying any of that in her story, all she said if my memory isnt cheated by some spell, she said as soon as i opened the door he pushed me to the chair and started unzipping and i was abt to scream and he closed my mouth. And yes he eventually succeeded. He forced himself on you but when he left for his car to go get krest(a soft drink that taste like sprite or lemon) u never thought of running upstairs to go alert ur sister u claim was at home?

I really wish i can exhaust all the questions in my head right now but goin back to the mosaic law i want you to understand that even when moses wrote the law he also took into factors like persons with anxiety disorder, people who are petrified by fear and would simply go numb and speechless in the face or terror, u also have to consider the fact that u have a man weighing almost 85kg pouncing on alittle girl completing overpowering her closing her mouth and having sex with her against her wish, these are exception to the law stated at deuteronomy.

My take on this whole saga is this. While there is no rule of saying exactly how a woman should react when being raped, if shouting and screaming is a anguement to prove nonconsensual sex then who is to say that being numb and speechless and not struggling means u consent to sex. Hence one cannot argue consent on whether or not she could have struggled cos that would be an insult to every girl or woman who has been raped and wished they could struggle but just cant because there circumstances made it possible. If you point a semi automatic riffle to a childs head and tell her mother that if if she screams while to are about to rape her you would blow off her 5yr old daughters head do you scream of stay quiet and should she be judged for that?

Bisola told a story that begs somany questions a story that questions her character and her sincerity. A story that leaves somany neutrals asking the tough questions that if she was stand on trial she would loose this case.
Biodun on the other hand is a dog and bully, a paedophile. It would take more than bisolas narrative to take down this man.

Amanstailored:
You should have read down to verse 28 and 29. Am sure you would get a different take on the matter

brotherly:
A typical.ilorin girl may not have your lagos street sense .

From the interview he was someone with the testimony of a former notorious cultist that had been converted

When someone you are beginning to trust as pastor shows up in the morning not to ask you out but use physical strength to pin you down with the statement that if you corporate you will be fine ..you no longer are seeing a pastor or an ordinary man you are seeing a cultist and depending on the mood and person in question shouting for help.may not readily come as an option .

In the video she said she told her siblings and her brother finally knew about it too and confronted the pastor . That the pastor came to their house to beg that it was the devil

Let's not be too smart and try to twist the story

She said she is responding to a calculated attempt to change the narrative and cause further emotional pain that's why she is forced to come out and say her truth

Adakintroy2:
I did not add class difference. But since you did. What if you are equally in financial strength and social placing.

Would you still report to the media or police and a good lawyer?

Again think.

dyydxx:
Did you hear he cancelled his 7 days of glory because ministers dont want to be associated with his tainted brand? na small small e dey start now. only brainwashed followers will remain after a while

Adakintroy2:
If you your child is rape, do you go to the media to report or the police?

Think before yu answer!

dyydxx:
i mean among the general populace. globally, worldwide, country wide not brainwashed church goers...How many people attend his church anyways compared to the wider society? you must be kidding me?

NextBuhari:
But he's said he'll institute a legal action. So let's wait and see how it all pans out. I don't know if you can still have regards and respect for someone who raped you. Somehow I feel Timi forced her to take that line of action. More like, "if you want me to believe that the sexx was not consensual, then you must go public". Do you know how pained guys feel when they know and see other guys who ate from the same honey pot with them? Don't forget that Timi was the choir master in the same church and the same pastor tied them in holy matrimony? And she never told him? And if she did, why didn't they bring it up all this while?

RealityShot:
if you intend to move to dub
you should be on sites like this to know whats easily availabe there...
...
i just searched "walk in"..see options...lol

https://dubai.dubizzle.com/jobs/search/?page=3&salary=&required_work_experience__gte=&required_commitment=&added__gte=&required_education_level__gte=&is_search=1&is_basic_search_widget=0&content_language=0&skill_level=&keywords=Walk-in&job_title=

...
..
i have one question though,
are there newspapers with local ads there? Do the ads work job seekers?

GrabHisBalls:
Ibiyeomie was falsely accused of sleeping with an actress. You all crucified him on the internet if not that the man doesn't tolerate nonsense. That said, anyone could be accused of a crime. The pastor is a human being.

1StopRudeness:
There’s is what is called conviction by trend... that’s what happened to bill Cosby.... u think all those ladies that came forward actually got raped. Many did it willingly..it’s the US for crying out loud sex, drugs, and weed go hand in hand especially for teenagers....they just wanted to jail bill Cosby by all means

engineerboat:
And does social media and stret protest solve her problem.

People are making millions from this already