pamito:
Good morning good people!

Please I need possible suggestion if we are a candidate for IUI?

I married my wife as a virgin about 18 months ago and ever since having a child is becoming a prayer point. We have been experiencing series of miscarriages/ chemical pregnancy.
The miscarriages/chemical pregnancy is always between 5-6weeks.

We recently did HSG and were told one of her tube block but the other is open.
I also did semen analysis again and it came out fine(178million count & 70motility with 50 morphology).

Every time we visted the hospital, they ask her to use dusphaston and vasoprine ,still no improvement.

This time she went in for hormonal test at the lab. Everything came out ok except her T3 and T4 with (less than 0.2) and the Doctor says is insignificant.

She was placed on clomid for this month and she was late for 5days, which we tested negative on home strip and blood work. Today she started bleeding.

I am confused and don't know what to do.Thank you as I await your responses

Did the doctor treat the thyroid issue? That could be the cause of her miscarriages
Also, I would like to encourage you by saying that the fact that she can conceive on her own is a very hopeful thing. Even if they end up in miscarriages, I believe she's 90% there since she conceives on her own. She just needs some sort of hormonal support. Maybe Thyroid support or progesterone support. Just ask your doctor. I doubt if she needed clomid in the first place. Clomid has worsened infertility in some cases

Arisheloaded:


Asking questions doesn't mean I didn't know that Google is free of charge.

You don't need to be rude to answer simple questions, if you're feeling arrogant, you can clearly ignore the question. That is better than sounding saucy.

Blendy77 is really one of the best moms in the TTC thread. Right from over 10 years ago when she was going through her several failed ivf cycles until she gave birth to her children, she still never abandoned this thread. Despite that God has answered her, she still takes her time out to answer TTC moms and I believe her passion runs deep because she was once in the same shoe. I'm sure that nairaland doesn't pay her to respond.

So sorry, if you misunderstood her point or body language. But even if everyone ignores your post, she's very likely to ease your anxiety by offering some kind of response.
I apologise on her behalf. I believe she meant no harm.
May God answer every prayers for babies

Mide70:
Please I need your opinion on this issue.

Though before I got married I discovered my mother inlaw calls all her daughters both married and unmarried everyday (only 3 ladies no boys) and they fear her to the bone.

At times every morning and night just to talk to them but I believe when they get married they need privacy and respect but this is not the case for my mother-in-law and I detest such act.

Mind you I'm not against call or trying to break the bond but I believe this is marriage. I'm looking for a way to stop all that

I'm I wrong or right to take that step ?

If you're not comfortable with that, please tell your wife about it. Communication is key. There's absolutely no point enduring what you don't like. Marriage is for life

DukeNija:


Utter gibberish! I kept seeing my aunt, my mom, my dad, my neighbor Jesus Christ! Are they all in this relationship with you?
He made the right decision to walk away because it’s obvious he’ll have to deal with more than an indecisive and emotionally dependent wife. Aunt wants him to thank her for taking you, her own niece to the market to buy wedding items? Really? You should thank your aunt not him!
I congratulate the young man for saving himself from an entitled and overly intrusive family.

This is a good point here.
Her family probably has issues of entitlement mentality, which would have been a big problem in future

Mindlog:


A diagnosis has not yet been made by a Psychiatrist, so it is wrong suggesting medication as it is only the Psychiatrist that can prescribe.

It's a supplement and not a drug. Helps with my hallucinations

RockhouseCafe:


Are you ok. Are you alright at all.

Such drugs come in varying "g" or "mg"....like 5mg, 10mg....and as much as 200mg.

A doctor almost killed a friend by prescribing drug outside of his field of study. He gave him 200mg of a drug when all he needed was 10 mg which was corrected after he went to "Yaba".

My guy go just dey, him mouth go dey open by itself, go belike say all him tougue wan pull come outside.

No try this nonsense wey you just do again oh.

Suprabrain is a supplement, not a drug. It helps with my Hallucinations

RockhouseCafe:


Are you ok. Are you alright at all.

Such drugs come in varying "g" or "mg"....like 5mg, 10mg....and as much as 200mg.

A doctor almost killed a friend by prescribing drug outside of his field of study. He gave him 200mg of a drug when all he needed was 10 mg which was corrected after he went to "Yaba".

My guy go just dey, him mouth go dey open by itself, go belike say all him tougue wan pull come outside.

No try this nonsense wey you just do again oh.

It's a supplement, not a drug

Get her Suprabrain. Helps with psychosis

Modify: Helped with my Hallucinations. It's a food supplement not prescription medicine.

Hello future mummies, please who can recommend a very good clinic in Abuja, where frozen embryo transfer can be done. Or where embryos can be frozen and thawed successfully

99% of ASUU lecturers have their children in public universities. Their kids are also at home. I'm at home as well
Let's endure while they fight for our education.

it may be her laptop
Lecturers use available laptops to present na
Lecturers used students laptops on several occasions. Especially if it has some high tech features

HeroHero:
The girl takes precautions. She is not that stupid to get impregnated by u just like that.
If she is ur sister or daughter, will u support her to get impregnated by a mere boyfriend like u?
Tell urself the truth. Ur girl is smarter than u

My thoughts too

TheLordofHost:
She has been staying with me since the beginning of ASUU strike, almost 6 months now and we have been having sex without protection. I don’t even pull out.

I don’t think she is on birth control. I love this girl but I think she is infertile.

Is this normal with some women? Because I don’t want to take the relationship serious anymore .

MODIFIED: To those down there accusing me of being impotent. I AM NOT.
If you check my previous posts you’d see I have a child already. 2 other girls have gotten pregnant for me but ended up aborting .

I would not be posting this if I didn’t love this girl and plan to marry her later on.

Two ladies aborted for you? I find this quite unsettling.

Something is fundamentally wrong here.

grop1040:
Hi guys,

Something happened 9 months ago, I decided to keep mute or probably just wait for the right time to commence my investigation to actually know what is going on between my step brother and my wife.

So I'm 9 years already into my marriage, and we have 3 kids. My step brother who is the 2nd of my mum has temperamental problem.

He's bossy and very vulgar plus he's controlling, everybody knows him for that, he was married 13 years ago, however after his family relocated to the USA, he later found
out that his 3kids aren't his, the marriage ended like that, ever since then he's been traumatized, emotionally and any other way one can describe him as. Sometimes in order to at least feel that children presence around him, he would ask me to have my children come over to his place for some days, and I could witness how that really helped him over time, but then I noticed the absence of his wife started making him familiarize with my wife in certain odd manners which I was not really down with.

For example, if he comes to our house, most times comes around with a friend, either female or male, my wife seems not to be the attache type who would sit with us in the living room, she will rather be upstairs in the room, I have witnessed cases where he will shout at her, saying how can everybody be here and ur there upstairs?

There was even a time when one of the visitors he came with sighed and made face in a way that defined, wow, "was that necessary". Or times when he will ask her to cook stew for her, if she forgets or probably didnt want to do it because she knew it isnt her duty, she will be yelled upon, you'll here things like, where
is the egusi i told u to make, even the one you made last time, u didnt put enough this and that

Now yall might think am a dullard or a simp, or someone too relaxed as gentle and as patient as I am, I be original demon, if I start my madness, the result will end in eternal damage, and our family background from my mums side where this my brother was born, we tend to uphold unity over adversity, so when things like this occur, mum would rather have us calm and not fight so unity can continue.

So sometimes last year, the major issues started grooming that made me start to think if there was something going on with my step and my wife, it started with when the kids were with him, so madam and I were suppose to go for outing, so we decided to branch at his place to check up on the kids, on getting there while in his living room, he said to my wife "I like your hair" she responded thanks, he was like are u guys going out, I was like yea am taking her out, next thing she asked my madam, so when are we going on
our own outing? I shrugged and didnt understand where that came from, though she didnt answer him.

While we were leaving, I was waiting for her to bring up the topic and put it to me that why did ur brother say such a thing, even if its a joke, its too expensive, but she didnt, I brought up the topic, and she was like shes surprised too that she never thought he would say such a thing.

5 days later, we had a family party in his house, my other brothers, cousins and my mum, my children were there, while the
caterer were cooking outside, and we were all in his living room drinking, he opted to get some meat to dish and give everybody to at least be chewing something, he served it round but when it got to my wives turn, the one he already bit off from was what he gave her, funny thing is, it was only my mum and myself that saw the scene, my wife was not aware, that was when I knew something could be going on.

Afterwards, I put the ish through to my wife, she acted disgusted and said she cant blv he would do such, that although my mum already called her to say the same thing. So I asked details of what she discussed with my mum, she said my mum advised her that whenever he calls her, she shouldnt pick, that when he knows its obvious that shes avoiding his call, he probably would want to report to her, and then she will now break the silence of what she my wife have been experiencing with him thus her refusal to pick his call.

So I called my mum and I was like being calm, patient and cooperating with the useless policy of the family doesnt mean that the recent things happening won't seat any longer with me, that am gonna have to confront him and put him in his place. My mum begged me and begged, cos she's 76 years old, I considered and I had no choice but to cooperate with her advise.

The funny thing is, after this whole ish, I asked her that if he calls, will you pick, she answered yes I will, but I will have to see what he has to say first to know if I will continue the conversation or not, I was like for real? You must be kidding me, it means something that I am not suppose to know of is happening, she was like oh well its ur fault, why didn't u confront him instead of listening to ur mums advise.

Since then, I have let it slide, but what actually made me bring up this issue again, was when I went to my bros house to pick some stuffs my sister sent from the USA, madam was off to the market, I called her to ask if she would like the only size 10 of the shoe I saw cos she wears 9, she didnt pick after calling like 4 times, immediately my brother called her with his own phone, she picked and was like sorry when you called I try to pick but it was nt connecting, I just weak at that moment sey wetin dey sup.

Guys, ladies, from deep experiences u guys must have gone through, what do u think could be wrong and what do yall think I should do, something could be happening
that if I dont unravel early, it might be the cause of ones demise or destruction.

If all that you have said is true, then something is fundamentally wrong. Don't let it slide, don't ignore it.

A woman can't love two men at the same time. That being said, your life is at risk.

Hire a private investigator to unravel the mystery. Go to Instagram and type #privateinvestigator or #privateinvestigatorinnigeria.
Goodluck

afribabe:
How/why is the father not capable?
And how/why is the wife suppose to be capable??
If you want to excuse the father's incapability, then we can as well excuse the wife's as well...

Abi o.
Don't mind him.
If the father is not capable, it is the innocent wife that is now capable abi?
I don't know how these people reason sef

Nozino:



This isn’t chid abandonment. She left the child with her father.

Bottom line is this: If the mother who of course loves her the most on earth can get tired, why do you expect someone else to face such a huge emotional, physical and financial battle as if it's nothing.
Let's be sincere please

If it's so "cool and not a big deal' like you're making it out to be, then why was the father also absconding his duties


She may eventually decide to stay but please she has every right to be upset and even leave if she wants to.

As a woman for example, if you know that you don't have a womb, you don't expect to be asked before you disclose such an important information to your fiance.

He should have informed her beforehand that he has an offspring and one with cerebral palsy for that matter. Who hides such an important and life changing information for christ sake?!?!?!

Nozino:



Quick correction. The mother didn’t abandon her. She dropped her off at her father’s house.

"Her mother came to dropped her off in my house saying she has done enough and she's tired it is now hubby turn to take care of her."

Princewell2012:

HmmI have read so many comments here, so pathetic. Did she asked a question before saying I do I do? a lot of people don't understand the meaning of marriage. What if reverse is the Case will she be happy if her husband abandoned her? I didn't see any deceit here since she did not ask her man about his past. That little girl needs her help, she should give her the necessary assistant she deserved. It is only God who will give her her reward. In this life everybody have a cross to Carry. Let her Carry her cross in fact this is the time her husband needs her most.

You obviously don't have cerebralpalsy children or know what it means to have one. Because if you do, you'll know that even their own mothers are constantly TIRED AND DRAINED.

Even her OWN MOTHER has just abandoned her. Please don't guilt trip someone's daughter into hardship. She is only obligated to stay if she was pre informed about the situation.
Whether she stays or not is a decision that she has to make on her own and whichever choice she makes is perfectly fine

H0711:
I got married two months ago. I am 7 months pregnant my husband didn't tell me he had a child from his previous relationship and the child has a disability celebral palsy. Her mother came to dropped her off in my house saying she has done enough and she's tired it is now hubby turn to take care of her.

The child can't do anything for herself she can't sit, talk, walk and she does toilet in her clothes. I can't do it anymore I love children because I have taken care of my own nieces and nephews before I would have taken care of her if she was normal but taking care of a child in this question is hard and if her own mother has had enough she abandoned her and why would I kill myself taking care of her in my condition.

I want to divorce and go back to my village I have told him i am leaving next month. He is pleading with me not to leave him that he will take the child somewhere else but the place is not free he has to be paying like 200k monthly for them to take care of the child and he doesn't even have that amount of money because he is not financial stable.

I will stick to my decision but I want to know what will other people do in my situation.

Tell him to give her a supplement called Suprabrain. It will help her to regain some or most of her lost functioning. Gradually though but it's a cheaper option than the 200k school where she will just be cared for without hope of improving.

The marriage was built on deception in the first place, therefore, you are not obligated to stay.

Taking care of special needs children is a very daunting task even to their own parents.
Emotionally, physically and financially tasking. It's not for the broke and faint hearted at all.
Don't mind anyone who is trying to guilt trip you, they're not being sincere.

If you stay though and go through this with him, he'll love you more for it. But make sure he is worth it and deserves such sacrifice.

I hope he gets only 1 week jail time. SMH. RIP to his useless brother

Serial48:
I wasn’t in an accident, i just parked and me and my brother preceded into the bank to sort some issues that kept me there for an hour, I returned to where my car was parked and i found out that.. I can’t even explain it!

Has happened to me a few times.

But yours is really bad o. From the look of things, it was a bit high impact and must have sounded loud.
The bank security or CCTV must know who did this. Trace the car plate number, identify the culprit and ask him to pay.

Repairing this will cost at least 500k. Not nice at all

Burnt our house. If not for neighbor's intervention, the house would have burnt to ashes

The artisans sabi work pass. Especially those that worked with Julius Berger

The last occupant was a subject of high profile investigations. The private investigators couldn't get access to retrieve their cameras. Period!!!

All my friends prefer dark guys.

siofra:
I don't want to see "SIMP" On this thread

Any man who loves his wife or gf will not have a problem doing this.

That's creepy

Matured Maternity photo shoot. Didn't have to go naked

InsideLife2022:
I have been an active member on this forum for the past eight years. I just created this account to bring this issue to limelight. Good evening gentlemen and ladies. I got married in late 2020. God being merciful, we are blessed with a baby of 5 months. My wife has been giving me attitudes of recent. I have tried to find out what the problem has been, she is not saying anything tangible. I am being confused and depressed. I have been begging her to come back to join me after delivery. She keeps traumazing me emotionally. She just told me our marriage is over. She couldn't say what the problem is.

She has not been taking care of the baby. She was medically advised to stop breastfeeding our baby permanently. Is not that she breastfeeds our baby. My mother in-law and sisters in-law have been complaining about her lack of motherly treats.

They told me she doesn't even know how to take care of the baby. They cannot allow my child to be in her custody because she can't take care of the baby as a mother. She has fought her mother for asking her to leave her house to join her husband. Every member of her family has been asking her what the problem is. She keeps telling them to come and marry me that it's over between us.

I haven't told any of my family members or my friends of what is going on in my marriage. I am a kind of person that do not like involving a third party in my new marriage of lest than two years.

Her family has never supported her actions. Her mom and her siblings have been asking me to come take my wife and baby. But, my wife is not ready to join me. It has been a serious issues in her family house each time they push her to go meet her husband.

Her family has ask me to come with some soldiers or the police to come carry my baby and leave her since she claims she is no longer interested in any marriage. I have been trying my best to make sure my wife never lacked anything during her pregnancy and even after delivery.

My in-laws have been very supportive and good to me. I know they have never and will not support her for her wrong actions and behaviors. My challenge is, my baby is just 5 months and I don't want to take the baby to my parents because of the questions people around will be asking. I don't want to be seen as someone who is separated from his wife. I hate divorce with passion. My wife does not have any concrete reason why she decides to stay off our marriage.

Her family is fully in support of my next actions of going to take my baby. Now, the question is this; is it advisable to keep the baby with me while I employ a nanny to raise the baby with me?

Please and please I need mature and sensible advise.

Cc: RoyalRoy

I want this thread to be moved to the right and appropriate section. Thank you!

Post part depression is real o. Chai!!!.

afonjabreed:
I have witnessed this first hand, I had a friend who made a huge amount of money, though illegally but went broke within months.
I have also heard of some situations where a bet or lottery winner goes back to his broke state within a short period of time.

Why do they go broke so fast?
These people get big money, millions as proceeds and they go broke within months.

Depends on the amount. Inflation makes seemingly huge amounts of money to not be 'huge' these days

press9jatv:
Good one here from Shekarau and his team.

Shekarau the baba of vote splitting. The man is wise

Lucasmuyiwaa:


Yes I’m the first son of the family.

Genn genn!!!!!
You are fighting a battle that is beyond you. That battle is not between you and your dad but between you and your stepmom.

As a first son, what makes you think that your stepmom loves you and cares about your wellbeing. She may appear to do so, but your dads reactions towards you may be from seeds sown in his heart over the years.

Now, I am not very certain as these are just assumptions/allegations. Nevertheless,
LEAVE THE HOUSE FOR THEM!!!
If not, your dad will end up killing you and the murder will be covered as an accident.

You had better be prayerful and hold your God tight and always pray that "the Glory of firstborn son shall not be taken away from you". Pray that your light will not be put out.

Lastly, don't put eyes on your father's wealth. As a first son, by divine ordinance, you will be great on your own.

Stay away from them (your dad and your stepmom), your dad may be under manipulations.

Pray pray pray

Lucasmuyiwaa:
What happened was that my Dad collected a brand new iPhone I bought from me February last year all because some uncivilized people like him keeps telling him the phone I use is very expensive and said it’s used by yahoo boys and which my Dad hate the word YAHOO.

Though , I felt very sad wondering why he would collect a phone from a 27 years old Son.

I pleaded to him severally to please give me back the phone and I also sent some of his friends which they value each other to him to please help me beg him to return the phone but he keeps telling them he’s not gonna give me and instead get me a small phone that doesn’t browse so as to stop having internet access.

After many Months of using a small Android phone which is very uncomfortable for me and hoping I will gather some money and get a better phone for myself anytime soon.

I waited for some months but couldn’t afford a better phone cuz I don’t want to buy a very low budget phone since I’m addicted to smooth browsing on my IPhone.

Then I tried to find solution for myself by going to find the iPhone he seized in his room even though I don’t enter his room anyhow.

God so good i got into his room when everyone wasn’t aware and I found the phone where he kept it and took it.

I started having conscience on it and asking myself if I’ve messed up.

I came to Nairaland to ask what I should do maybe to return the phone or keep it with me.

I found out some people blamed me for invading his room and getting m my stuff.

Some people told me to return it and never do that again.

when I was going to return the phone I found out that the whole house are back and it’s not possible to go there that time.

I don’t know what to do because it was a luck that nobody was at home that day.

I reasoned to my self maybe I should go and deliver the phone to him myself fearing if he found out the phone is no more there the issue will escalate and will be too late.

The next morning I took the phone to him and told him I find it using a device on the phone with another phone to track it.

He was very annoyed and said what I did was bad with a very cool voice and gave me the phone back himself.

After few hours he called me and said he put some Saudi Money (Riyadh) in the carton he hide my phone and he couldn’t find the money there and asked me if I took it.

I sensed he was trying to tell me that in order to know what I did was bad.

I told him I didn’t take any money there and I honestly didn’t see any money there.

He let me leave and said he will try to find it very well later.

Then just today he called my married elder sister to come to our house and wanted to have a meeting with us cuz we are just two from our late mother.

From his speech he said he can’t be seeing me not working since I’m a graduate and I should find something doing.

He knew I was into exportation of Petrol to Cotonou before the work stopped due to border close down and too much customs officials on the road.

So he started insulting me I’m just being idle and don’t want to work because I’m getting money from yahoo because he returned my phone to me to have internet access.

I accepted all the insults he did to me and didn’t argue with him not until he said if I’m a good boy I won’t go into his room to take my phone and even take his money he kept there the other day.

I then knew he meant that word that I took his money again and which I didn’t even take or see.

Then he began raining insults on me and begin to lay emphasis on the money that I took my phone and his money.

At this point I was very mad and couldn’t hold myself from keeping silence and then I had to break it.

I told him I can take everything he do to me but accusing me wrongfully I will never take that with a mini voice and suddenly wanted to hit me which I run from him to escape.

On running through the steps, he suddenly grab the big stool in the sitting room and dropped it on my head which nearly hit me . (If that stool hit me I don’t know what will happen to me )

But I managed to escape and he started raining curses on me and insulting my late mother for giving him a son like me.

My sister was there too and all she kept saying was I’m very rude to disclaim the accusations and defending myself and she also start insulting me that how dare should I talk when he’s talking.

After few insults he gave me so he came downstairs and started insulting me again while I stand not too far from him.

He quickly picked up a very big stone and a big plank on the floor threw at me which if these two objects meet me I will still be bleeding by now.

He told me with anger that I’m a bastard and cursed me saying it will not better for me and we can never sleep together in the house today and he left and went out.

So my stepmother returned and I narrated everything to her and made her known I’m leaving the house to avoid unnecessary violence again because I’ve been planning to leave the house due to everyday arguments and his nags.

The stepmother told me not to leave the house and rather he will talk to him and calm him down and everything will be fine.

I already made my mind to leave the house and stay at the hotel for some days because my friend which I could go and stay with has traveled last week and said he will be back today.

I got to the hotel and booked the room and having some rests then I saw my stepmother call and she said I should come home and we need to talk.

I sensed maybe she was trying to set me up and I told her I’m at where I’m going to sleep tonight because I just don’t want to come home today.

She said I shouldn’t even think that way and promised me nothing is going to happen.

I believed her because she knows I respected her and I knows she likes me.

Then she told me to come home and sleep and assure me no violence will happen as she just need to talk to me privately which I don’t have idea what else she want to tell me .

Now should I go home or just sleep at the hotel and probably not going to go to that house again soon if I sleep at the hotel today ?

For your own good, DON'T TRUST YOUR STEP MOTHER.
Respect her, but I forbid you from trusting her ever again. If you continue this your naivity of trusting people, you'll land your destiny in big soup.
Pikin wey nor get mama dey wise, them nor dey trust people at all. I don't know why your own case is so different.
Are you the first son? Let me know, so that I can advise you further.