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[quote author=vanessa_ra]Thought I was going to see the Gov dancing Etigi to show his fitness #timewilltell[/quote]no be only etigi, you will also see him dancing azonto.
You talk as if you aint a Nigerian, abeggi!

vet707: The issue here is that after spending 8 months without active duty, is there an assurance that he can still function effectively to assume his duties considering the rigours of the office?

The man ought to have resigned and allow his deputy take charge completely. Doubt if we Africans will ever change!

i wonder too, even the dead still want to rule in Naija.
May God help us as a country.

Thank God for him, but until hes back to Nigeria, i reserve my comment.

Tammy13: I appreciate your advice. Can you please tell me what is the unexpected that you speak of? (Him continuing the affair, him leaving me?)

anything can happen, he can decide to leave you, he can decide to bring home his first baby mama, he can decide to bring his first child, he can even run away with another woman entirely, leaving you two baby mamas alone to find another woman, who will eventually give him another baby again. Anything, just anything, expect the unexpected, such men are not predictable, but prepare yourself, so that it wont break you down beyond repair.
Sincerely wishing you goodluck.

@op, are youi sure you are very truthful and honest with what you wrote here, if yes, then,find a way of communicating with your hubby during his less busy period, tell him all our grieviances, tell him how you have been enduring the marriage instead of enjoying the marriage, tell him how he has been starving you of love,romance and s...ex, tell him everything that is bothering you, not with a raised voice but with all sincerity and humility. Above all, tell him you are determine to take a walk if hes not ready to change, the responses he would give you determines your next line of action.
For example, if he tells you that, if you want to go, you are free, then, it means the love is absolutely not there again and then, you are free, but if he comes up with some reasonable explainations, it means your marriage can still be worked on, and that means you need a lot of patience and need to tolerate him more while the two of you strive to make your marriage more blissful.
May God help you both

Tammy13: My husband and I have been married for a year. We have a 2 year old son. He recently cheated with his previous child's mother. Before we got together, she left him but I believe all this time he still has feelings for her. Recently I found out they created a plan for him to leave me to go be with her. But this whole time when he comes home he acts like he wants to work on our marriage. There are other times, though, when he acts mean and I wonder if he is pushing me to divorce him.

Why wont he just leave me to be with her, if thats what he wants? Is he staying with me out of guilt?

Does he think he wants to be with her but just "wants what he cant have", so he like the thrill and chase of going back to his ex? And so she cant be with anyone else either?

Lastly, if i decide to stay with him, how can i make him only want me and not want to cheat?

@op, did you read what you yourself wrote here

Tammy13: My husband and I have been married for a year. We have a 2 year old son.

the fact is that, he married you because you already have a child for him, which also qualifies you as a baby mama and the truth is that he will continue to see the two of you, because of his children. Hes a man with baggages, you knew this beforehand, so you have less reasons to complain now. Even worse, from what you wrote, hes even a mummy's boy, which is another problem entirely.

My advise.................. Expect the unexpected. Prepare yourself, you havent seen anything. If you aint working before, start working, empower yourself, earn money and learn to be independent, so that, when he carries out the unexpected i asked you expect, you will have enough and strong shock absorber to absorb it.
I sincerely wish you goodluck.

@op, if your parent allow you to get your own place, please do and dont worry about the cost implication, when you get to the bridge, you shall cross it, but if they dont accept, continue to endure, the time you have to continue enduring with them is less than the time you have already spent with them.
Meanwhile, if this guy is ready, why dont you get your wedding done.
However, never take any shortcut, it could work against you in the future.
May God continue to guide you aright. Amen.

Inu eda jin!

The heart of human is desperately wicked, who can know it


May God continue to guide us and deliver us from the evil ones. Amen.

Both of us.
Its inside our bedsafe, together with all OUR valuable documents.

Recommended for FP, needs lawyers' opinions on this. Thanks.


https://www.nairaland.com/1325966/it-right-what-make-disown

[quote author=Mynd_44]When your own son becomes a terror suspect and decides to use your boysquarters as a base for his boys and him. Keep talking oooo[/quote]lol.
Parenthood is such a great task, afi ki Olorun ran awa obi lowo.

Sometimes, i dont know why, but i have seen an extremely nice and godly parent whose one of their children turn out very bad, i dont know why is this. I have also seen a highly rebellious parent whose one or more of their children is extremely enviable, why Is it destiny is it their luck Why
Afi ki Olorun ran wa lowo.
(Only God can help us all).

Only if it is not with my knowledge and it has been changed to powder form and the powder has also been capsulated.


But, with me knowing.........GOD FORBID!

bellong: Disowning a "rotten" child will not make him/her become good but will harden the child to continue with his atrocities. The best bet in dealing with such children is endurance, patience, wisdom and prayer. Above all showing them love that will one day catch up with them to change.

However, lawyers should help answer the question if there is a legal provision for disowning an erring child.

im also expecting lawyersor should i say a law enforcing person to come and educate us.

chaircover: How do you disown your child anyway. Do you suddenly just stop loving the child or what?

I can understand their frustration but verbally disowning him is not the answer to their problem. A child is permanently linked to his/her parents for life so they are just wasting time.

yes, we may think so, but, who knows, how the boy had pushed them to the wall before they can come to such conclusion, however, other methods can still be employed instead of disowning the boy, and who knows, whether the threat they gave him can make him have a change of heart.
May God help all parents and let not our efforts on our children be in vain.

yellowpawpaw: U cannot verbally disown ur child. I don't know abt d constitution but even if u do,it holds no ground.
Yes children can be a disapointmnt sometimes but that doesn't call for verbally disownin ur blood!
Nothing pass lv.it conquers all. even if ur child is facing firin squard,has humiliated and even beat u,still muster d courage to say child I lv u even though I hate ur xter.wish it would hv bn diff.
As for any parent that thinks bc they gave birth to u and that gave them d right to talk to d child anyway,I pity such pple cos they really don't know d abcd of parentin.
Word r d most powerful weapon on earth.even in heaven.
David wasn't really that good but he always turn away God's wrath with pleasin words!
One of d reasons I like watching western movies.u hardly c them curse their children unlike our own,no matter how bad d kid is.

As for that woman,tell her that somebody said she failed as a mother.train up a child d way he will grow... C her mouth like I want to disown my son.
,u even no try at all! If na me,by d time I finish with that woman,she will go and look for her son and ask for forgiveness!
Patience,endurance,perseverance, faith,hope and most importantly love are every parent's companion

i cant easily and quickly call them failures, only God knows how hard they have tried to make the boy what they wanted him to be, which the boy have refused to cooperate with them. However, i dont believe that disowning him can be a better thing to do, they could have adopted a better technique like what coogar said(hiring a soldier to discipline him), or changing his enviroment or any other better method.
May God help us all.

coogar: why not?
no one has to put up with any form of abuse. i would definitely write off my child if he's abusive and if he displays all the characters you listed above.

he smokes, drinks, womanises and he's not even doing anything in school? his mates at 18/19 are defending the honour of their respective countries in war-torn areas and this irresponsible boy is bent on dragging his family name in mud.

to hell with such child.....
i would grass him, i would personally pay soldiers to ship his arsë to a military camp where he can learn responsibility. errrrrrrrrrrrr, lest i forget, where's the boy's father?

coogar, you got me rolling on the floor laughing.
Did you read the part where i typed that both the mum and the dad had jointly decided to disown him.

HotNaijaBabe: Your prayer is a sensitive one..hope you are a good person? Or let me put it this way, hope your good qualities far outweighs the bad ones...?

only God is perfect and He is the ultimate judge and the rewarder, let Him reward me accordingly.

k2039: [color=#1E90FF] I disagree.
You should be the least requirment as a wife for them.

Which means if there is someone better, they should have her. Each generation should be better than the previous. Better wives and better mums that should be the progression.

As much as I would like to be a great dad and husband, I want my sons to be even better and greater.
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yes, im aint perfect, i have inadequacies, but if each of them can find a woman who can treat them the way im treating their dad now, and who can treat her children the way im treating them now, then, im satisfied. Im not expecting a perfect situation.
May God help us all.

I pray that my male children marry someone like me.
May God let it be so...... Amen.

God forbid!
Thank God i didnt.

Rest in peace.


Tinubu and very many Lagosians will def miss you.
[quote author=maxwello.yg]Rip to the dead.
To the family she left behind including baba tinubu, take heart, i have always known you to be a strong man afterall. Sad indeed.
I hope she didn't die in an overseas hospital? I wonder what killed her sef[/quote]you wonder what killed her at 94

Rest in peace.


Tinubu and very many Lagosians will def miss you.

Hi peeps,
Yesterday, i went to my mom's place to visit, and a certain younger friend(omo afe) of hers also came to visit, and along the line with their discussion, i overheard the woman telling my mom that she had disowned her son, because the boy had refused to yield or listen to elderly advice, she said the boy had joined bad groups who smokes, drinks, womanises, and that she even heard that those groups he joined are cultists, she said, she had talked to him severally, but the boy refused to adhere. Therefore, with her hubby's support, they had jointly decided to disown the boy. She told my mum that she had called him and gave him 7 days ultimatum to choose between the group and them(parent), if after the 7 days, the boy has not changed and leave the groups, they will completely disown him and even publicise it in some of the national newspapers.
After she left, i asked my mum of the boy's age, and she said.....around 18/19. I asked if hes already in school, she said, hes yet to gain an admission, but has refused to live with his mum, they dont even know where he sleeps, he only comes home once in a while.


Now, my question is, is this right? Arent other better ways to go about this than disowning the boy? Can such decision have any effect(negative or positive) on the boy? Can anyone here do the same?
Lets discuss and learn. So, over to you, hopefully, many may likely benefit from this thread.
Thanks in anticipation and may God help all parents.

Likes attracts likes, if you try to be the right partner, there is 90% probability for you to attract the right partner, also, the golden rule can never be over-emphasized in marriage.........doing unto your partner what you will want to be done to you.
In addition, learn to speak out,(effective and timely communication) when things do not work out the way you expected, instead of bottling up, it helps.
Above all, have the fear of God in mind when dealing with another person and learn to forgive freely.
May God help us all.

Is this for real or an extract from a nollywood movie

When the two of them are still alive and still sexually active, and also accessible to each other i thing its not needed/necessary.
May God help us all.

@olammi90, is this what you are looking for

https://www.nairaland.com/1226211/things-must-know-before-get#14765010

Let us all learn to shun hypocrisy and deception. THERE IS NO AND WILL NEVER BE REAL HAPPINESS in a polygamus home. From someone who said there was happiness in their own polygamous home, but wont want his own children to live and grow up in such a setting speak volumes, that is a full grown hypocrisy, if there was real happiness, why cant you emulate, afterall, we are suppose to emulate good things, if you cant emulate it and you are preaching it........its called hypocrisy.
Im not trying to crucify anyone, im only trying to be honest, im preaching honesty, im against deception/hypocrisy, im trying to make it real. WHAT YOU ARE NOT A FAN OF AND YOU CANT EMULATE means its not good or advisable for one to go into.
As for me, i cant encourage my worst enemies to go into polygamy or become a polygamist. Its the riskiest thing to do.
May God help us all.

mum2: @ Yellowpawpaw, thanks. The doctor checked his stomach and said nothing is there. She (i.e. the female medical doctor) was even surprice that it's not paining him. She said it was the drugs and the injections that reacted to his body. She promised that he will be better (i.e. the stomach will come down naturally on its own). He can eat normally, play, walk, active etc. Only that it just swell up. She didn't even recommend anything. She ask us to bring him back next week if it has not be reduced. Although I have also notice that it has been reduces gradually. I'm still watching him. Also, I discover that he occasionally talks, shout, shake from his sleep at night since last week that he has been receiving treatment. I guess it is the effect of malaria on him. God bless u once again yellowpawpaw and to everybody that view this page and make some contributions. You are just too wonderful

it is well with your son IJN, just in addition to what the doctor said, let him drink a lot of water everyday, it'l help to wash away every strange things in his body, also, let him take more fruits than all those junks(biscuits,candies, processed fods,etc). It helps.
It is well with you and your son.

Question: How early should we teach s. ex education?
Answer: as early as when they know what their sexual organ is capable of doing.

[quote author=lola.luv]A million likes. Running when there's no one chasing.

I'm not saying people should not be sensitive o but if they become paranoid, they see things that are not even there. Using all their energies to bind and cast.[/quote]lol@running when no one is chasing.
@op, tell your friend to free her mind, it is good for her healty. Being paranoid about so many things isnt healthy.
May God help her.