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Angelfrost:
You are making the same mistake of assuming I don't appreciate their efforts however flailing...

....And, nope... financial investment is not the sole thing lacking in the industry (It's not even the main thing)!!!.. In ages past, exceptionally good movies like Things Fall Apart, Rattlesnake, Violated, Igodo, Figurine, etc, were produced in an industry lacking far more funds... The issue is more of a dearth in creativity and artistry.

You see why history is needed in our educational system for people like you...

You mean...even the attah that attest that the war was fought with benin has gone mad

I dont see any benin actor there ,

The movie is going to be bleeped once again,
If its gonna be english throughout

They should do well to research before they act the movies most kogi indigenes do not even know the history of inikpi

They will even argue with you inikpi was a tale between the idah and nupe and not benin
They better come to benin to do full research of this movie because benin palace was the place the history really began from in 16c

goldony:
The "UGIE EWERE ' festival of Edo state is being broadcast live by NTA, please our wonderful Edo brothers and sisters,kindly explain its significance as I am watching the rich cultural display, thankyou.

Ugie( celebration, festival)

Ewere( a magical leaf found deep in the forest that is belive to bring peace and prosperity and drives evil spirit away)

It was originated by oba ewuare the great who saw the tree in the forset when he seeked refuged ,the tree helped him in the forest so when he became king he sort to use the tree leaves to cleans the land during the end of the year...but the culture is dieing because of christanity

The igue is the benin end of year festival
It was started by oba ewuare the first to celebrate the end of the year ,and mark the end of rainy season and beginning of harvest...the oba gets to perform the ceremonial ritual by giving the gods
The new yam which is pounded( ema) with the eguisi soup ,before the commoners follows suite most places who who share the edo monarchy stool could be seen practising this culture too,
This has result to the popular yam festival in the nation....

odigbosky:
I love the comments between greyboy amd chidox. I am esan. I remember confronting a Benin boy in school for calling me a slave. Dude was telling his fellow Edo that these ones are our slave. I walked up to him and told him to go to the Palace in Ogbe and he will see that his Princes have slave blood in them. I informed him that he is not more Benin than the people in igueben who has to stay back after the Idah war at the request of Oba Esigie or the people in Agenebode. If Oba Ozolua was alive he would frown if you called the owan people slaves either. When Benin city fell, Esan land fought on and most of these new villages that are everywhere are only recent migrations. My ancestors i was told came from Agbon (agbor) into esan land. Benin has always been cosmopolitan.

What makes you Edo is your absolute loyalty to the Monarchy nothing else.....absolute loyalty

Dont mind the bigoted fellow

After reading the history of esan people i saw that they are even more benin than the present benin people ,
Esan is 100% benin undisputed

sexyhalima:
is it benin language?

Yea ancient benin had police who run thier city....and vassal state under it so i guess thats how the yorubas gets to also call police olakpa too

Olakpa

Meaning = police in benin

Balogunodua:
Oba of benin or oba of edo is only known and repected in edo state, and we don't give a Bleep about him.

You all do thats why you all are bearing the name oba in Yoruba land

The ooni is an ooni and not an oba
Thel lonly oba we know is the oba of benin

benn94:
How can I stop it, I am 25 too

I stop first mentally ,before i went physically

I had this philosophy that the strongest men are men who has full control of themselves,that alone i fought it mentally

Physically it was even harder , i went a day without masturbating ,days were added by it,some days it was unbearable and the urge to masterbate increase day ,like after like days abstaining from it the urge increase and most times i had to fall back to masturbating to calm the urge down ,the rest of other days i try to also abstain from it ,untill the urge rises rise again to masturbate, in total in a week i could only masturbate for 3days
The next week i try to improve by reducing it to 2 times a week
The following upper week i try to go full week without masturbating
As soon as you're following this routine your sexual urge to masturbate start dieing off even if is only one day u abstain from it
If you can go for a full week without masturbation trust me you will be able to do two weeks straight ,the more you masturbate less the more you feel less to masturbate....


Note: quiting masturbation gives you advantage over others who never indulged in it ,it gives you mental and physical sexual control of your body ,because those periods or days you try to abstain from masturbation ,You will experience a great sexual urge and if you can control it ,then there is no konji in this life you can't control

When you are experiencing this high sexual urge get yourself busy or you could stay quite and fight it mentally

googi:
Mention one name that is from Benin. Any of you guys that do not bear Yoruba name, does not belong to the royal house. If you do not speak Yoruba, you do not belong to the royal house.

Tell us one piece of land you own in Lagos. All the forming of Idi- or Olu- all Nigerians know belong to Yoruba as yours is silly. Onitana, Idi-Oluwo, Idi-Oro not to mention Olu make you guys look like and are fakers.
Every Yoruba town has them. Even English and Portuguese names we have history of, not Edo names in Lagos.

The Ogiso, also from Ife before you, and Ogiamen have won a Supreme Court ruling against Oba to vacate the land each Oba rent during coronation.

As for if I am a Lagosian, leave that to Lagosians. Wetin concern Alfa with itan elede.

Get this straight, I am not going to argue nonsense with you. Another one of you will soon open another topic on the same thing trying your luck to see what will stick.

Usurpers. Why this Lagos from all these ignoramus, all the time. What is wrong with your own sheethooli?

You claim you know ogiamen and oba beef but you cant get the history straight

Benin history is too broad for you to read


Names in lagos that bears benin namea

Oshodin= the popular uiben vc bore this same name

Eko, ekosodin = camp

Idumota= idu(area, road) mota(center)

Ehin(spirit)


Just as migrant who comes to setlle ,benin also settled in lagos in areas that was never inhabitted but due to thier. Few population they assimilated to the yoruba culture

Lol ...ogiso is yoruba hahaha ....

Vick4rill:
bro lost of weight no matter how l eat, tiredness, unnecessary nervousness while in means of opposite sex, anger and depression after l am through.

Try to go 2days without masturbating

Then try to double that two days again ,

Again go for a week

Then two weeks

Then improve it by going longer

While you are doing this you will feel a geat urge of masturbating but try and over come by all means fight it mentally and physically... If you can go two weeks without masturbating your body chemistry will change instantly...
When you can go for a month without it...
That great urge that want to make u masturbate would have been reduced or totally gone ,you sexual organ would return to default...

Even now i watch porn without wanting to masturbate ,i have full self control

You can start by ignoring or delete all sexual content from your phone

Note: former masturbators who quit masturbating have the best sexual control than people who never indulged in it,because there is no sexual climax that could as worse as the ones you bore while recovering

Vick4rill:
This all started right from my primary school days when l was barely 10yrs Old. Am now through with my university and l am still battling with this addiction. the minimum time l maturbate in a day is four times. atimes six or seven . l look so lean and weak, am always tired due to this habit, l find it hard to relate with girls despite been an extrovert. Am a porn addict . most times l try to stop this habit by deleting all the porn in my phone but l keep going back, the force is just too strong. l can barely keep an erection when having sex with a woman, barely 25yrs old, l most a times take Viagra when meeting a girl. l need help nairalnders this thing is killing me.

I have a similar case as you i have finally quit it but first
What are the symptoms you're experiencing

Trust me quitting masturbation is the best exprience ever i could really help you i started mine at 12 ended this yr and i am 25 too
So tell me your symptoms

googi:
Metaphysical,

I am sick and tired of these captured slaves of Oranmiyan and their surbodinates laying claims beyond their dream and reach.

Now it is the turn of Esan. What type of insult is this?

They cannot trace one piece of land to their ancestors except that piece of land less than a plot which has been taken over by the children of Alagba from Ilesha.

There is something about this Lagos that everyone of them desires so much. No wonder the new generation wonder what their parents were smoking to accommodate so many.

Time to deport all of them.

Deport who ,very stupid comment from a very stupid fellow
We beinis migrated there and settled we are also part of the families and they need to be accored thier recognition and respect
Almost all the names in lagos bear benin names ,
On the otherhand you're just a yoruba defender and not even a lagosian by tribe

ComrGodwin:
I want to let the general public know that the issue of Benue people giving their wives out to visitors as a welcome kola, is nothing but a fat lie.
The Benue man love and cherish his wife and can not offer her as a gift not even to a his fellow brother let alone a visitor.
Am proudly a Benue son. A Benue man can kill his fellow brother because of his wife.
So please let's not be decieved by this story, permit me to say it's a big lie.

To every rumor there is a truth ,the benue peole used to practise that culture of giving thier wifes to vistors...now it has stop the benue peole have so many wierd culture this just happen to be the common one
Since you say it never existed then tye benue people have been accused wrong for years ,as they need to start the culture of giving thier wives out for revenge against those peole who accused them wrong

I stop masturbation late this year for medical reasons

I still had that confidence to approach a lady
But i was a very choronic masturbator i could go for 6times a day ....

I started having low sperm count
Frequent and easy erection
Tired and sleepy
Early ejaculation

I just hard to stop ...when all this signs were glaring...
No one adviced me to stop it just took me to understand i was killing myself and now
I dont watch porn any more ,i can now control my sexual urge and i did all this without having a gf uptill now...

Advice: if u want to masturbate dont over do it ,you will only injure yourself atleast make it moderate and not frequent
If you need a girlfriend to stop it then get one health wise it is risky

davidnazee:
Itsekiri was part of Great Benin Kingdom until it broke away to become an independent kingdom.
And also, many parts of Yorubaland was colonies of Benin Kingdom under Benin rule for many years.

I guess they had they enjoyed their political autonomy....at a particular time

Probably benins let them autonomous because they didn't give the bini kingdom worries

Walai:
A girl I paid her mothers hospital bill, fed and provided for her and paid her expired house rent around May with my hard earned proceeds from keke without making any effort to bed her (until marriage) have the mind to have sex with another guy in the house I paid for.

Next time do that samething you did for that lady for your fellow man ,una too they spend on women self,
Many men are hungry outside but you rather spend all the wealth on a woman and neglect your fellow man
u got to learn this the hardway so sad...
The guy she beding probably don't even spend a dime on her but she spends all your money on him thats the painful truth....
For my hustle na fellow man dey support us pass if we meet woman the look when them go give us self don discourage local man,
If you had succeded in marrying her this would have still happen when your money finish she go jappa...
Them nor dey use money hold woman...

Modified: gregboy 22 v 2 : whomsover spend bountifully on a lady and neglect the help of his fellow man thou shall be paid with thine infedelity

samuk:
You hardly find any tribe or community in Nigeria that has an exciting history to tell without the Benin connection. Connections with the old Benin empire is what spices up and bring to relevance most history of the various tribes in southern and even middle belt Nigeria. The Yoruba hardly tells their history without the mention of Benin.

How many of the various states and communities that make up latter day Yorubas have an illustrious past to talk about, what these little know communities do is to attached themselves to the history of Lagos and Ife because of the Benin connections and the pride and prestige that it brings. I challenge them to tell us an exciting history of the indigenous people of Oshogbo, Ijebu, Ilesha, Ijesha, Ekiti, Egba, Owo, etc, without the mention of Benin or some other imaginary foreign land.

Its hilarious but its true

ibkayee:
Yeah guys find it more difficult to look past a cheating partner because the mechanism for cheating allegedly differs across genders because women cheat with their heart or something so it's lEsS fOrGiVeAble but a man is just being a man when he does it obviously so iT's dIfFeReNt.

I don't know if this applies to your boyfriend however, not all guys have this mindset and for all I know he could expect you to react the same way if the roles were reversed. It's going to take time for him to heal is all I can say, whilst I wouldn't bank on him taking you back you know him more than we do and he may just need time, all the best

What do ladies offer in a relationship than sex ,men offer everything ,attention,time,money .just d little attention bf couldn't give her she went to spread her leg in a marries man car
So if a man cheat he has nothing to loose he is literally everything in the relationship but if a lady cheat she has everything to loose so she would bear a cheating bf ,because she has no choice not because she wants to so they are two different thing....

Ladies forgive a cheating guy because of thier selfish interest not because of love fpr the guy or because they are emotionally soft...
So dont come here and make it sound like women learn to forgive

You all ladies are gold digger's

dober:
I have read a lot of comments here and I only feel soory for you.

THE NEGATIVES:
First of all. You guys had consented sex, stop blaming it on the married man and on your emotions.

I think you really didn't genuinely love your bf. If you did, you would have stopped after the first time and amended your relationship with him by all means possible.

I[b] am sure you later discovered that the person you were cheating with isn't ready to have a life with you apart from the sex. And you had to run back to your supposed bf. If the married man wasn't married and was willing to marry you, I am also sure you wouldn't had even remembered to apologise to anyone or feel any guilt.
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HOWEVER
These may be your way forward......

Give ursef time.
Pray to your God to help you heal.
Get busy with work,
Disconnected yourself from that married man (mind you, he didn't take advantage of your vulnerability as we always hear from you ladies. You may have taken advantage of his too. ).
Be grateful he has forgiven you. Don't push him to accepting you back. If he comes back later, be very open with him like you would be to yourself.

Please don't let anyone make you feel like you have committed the worst crime on earth. A lot of us had been in this kinda mess before. And I must commend your efforts for confessing to him.
I feel you are a good woman..Please don't do that again for the sake of love..
Stay Blessed Butterscotch92

The bolded is the truth

Great6Pack:
The worst set of hypocrites in this world are men. You can go Bleep as you like either as married man or while dating but it is a taboo for her to do it.

Let it be known here that I am not in anyway in support of cheating while married or courting. But let the truth be told, if you access 10 men, married or courting, at least 6 of them had at one time had sex with someone not their mate. One thing is sure, if this babe is the one that the man confessed to, she will happily forgive him and move ahead with the relationship.

Why can't men sometimes do same. Especially when you know your mate isn't promiscuous but was overtaken by moment of weakness?

Sis, please gather yourself together and concentrate on your work and life. I give you 3 months, a RESPONSIBLE guy will be dying to be your man. And if your present guy (soon to be ex) comes back, tell him he was in the past but you have moved on.

Please abuse me ONLY if you know you are innocent and never cheat. God is watching!!!

Bleep your opinon

Lets start from here what do most ladies contribute to the relationship than sex, but
most men have to contribute everything even up to the finace and the regularly calling and conversation men are basically the backbone of the relationship and what our ladies would use to thank us back is cheating and you're simply taking side with them, If most ladies are the backbone of every relationship they will dump a cheating bf evn before the action takes place.

Secondly most ladies are gold diggers in nature so they will bear anything in the relationship such as the guy cheating because they know if they get angry and leave the guy ,they may run at loss ,they probably would find it hard getting another serious guy ,or a finacial boyant guy so they endure the relationship not because they want to ,but because of thier own selfish reasons , that's why when they get married they openly frown at it ,unlike when they are dating and swallow it ,

Be a broke guy and cheat on your girlfriend and watch how she leaves you....without thinking twice

Maybe the o.p nor fine

Maybe she nor carry ...i trust d dean he for fall

Thankyour stars you are not hot

thelish:
U can't heal him when u haven't healed urself.
U r loss urself, how do u find somebody else?
Don't allow a mistake define u.
Show him d new u. Full of confidence n courage.
Its his choice whether to come back or not.

There is no choice there just dont put her in more future pain with your advice no guy wpuld stick around a lady who he had probably invested financially and she could do was payback cheating on him
Ask her what benefits she has even been to her said bf other than sex you would find out its just sex only but she could chest on him and claim she was emotionally down
Imagine if she was also marries to the guy ...
I am really not buyi g your advice you're probably petting her to do more instead of scolding her ,if she heed to your advice more gbese to her
She should probably not even go back to the guy even was the one who rsquested for it ,it would be dangerous
She did cheat with the married guy with full
Awarenes of herself and to make it worse to a married guy
She literally hurting two people hete the wife of the guy and the bf

She is a born cheat, lets leave it like that

Quality20:
its not really about fish brains pls. women are created like that, in religion, we d men are told that its better we touch fire than touch a strange woman cos it could generate sexual tension from d woman. On d other hand ,men don't really get into sexual tension when touched by women either mistakenly or deliberately.

All this thoeries are lies....

A lady keeps besties that his attractive like every guy does and one day they give in to the guy and it is not because of her been emotional down or been touched sexually
A lady has more sexual control tha a guy of a lady cheat 100% blames goes to her she did it willingly
Dont be fooled by useless thoeries

samuk:
Don't mind these guys, how can Benin be a subgroup of Yoruba that was created less than a century ago? Rather it was some of the tribes that now refer to themselves as Yoruba that were subgroup of the old Benin empire.

The Benin empire encompasses people from various tribes, Ijaw, Ikas, Yoruba etc and there were administrators from these various tribes who served at the pleasure of the Oba of Benin.

In recent past, there has been a member of the empire who returned from Akure, Ondo state to serve as the Iyase (prime minister) of Benin, his name was Iyase Okoro-Otu, there is a road named after him close to government house in the GRA Benin City, the son of the king of Brass, an Ijaw community also served in the same capacity, the present governor's grandfather who was formerly from Delta state, also served in various capacities and the present Iyase also has his root in Delta state.

The Benin empire encompasses almost all the tribes in southern, middle belt Nigeria and beyond.

They have not read benin history ,but they will be quick to start the history of Benin from were oduduwa gave Benin's his son
I still dont understand why oduduwa is so special to the Yoruba's he was not a conqueror, nor was he the progenitor of the Yoruba race ,
I think is popularity amongst the Yoruba people was the fact that he gave his son to benin,that's is what had made oduduwa history popular amongst the other oonisin ife, just simply because oduduwa had an attachment to the benin throne so they saw it as a means to elevate his history and some even called him the progeniture of the yoruba race ,
The fact remains that if oduduwa had no influence with a strong empire like the benins the Yoruba's wouldn't even boast of him or we wouldn't even hear that he ruled as an ooni ,oduduwa historical popularity amongst the yorubas can be tied to the fact that he had an influence i.e sending is son to benin
Just the way the benins popularity can be linked to the clash it had with the british in 1897
Remove the influence oduduwa had on benins you will never hear of oduduwa history from the yoruba people's mouth
And remove oduduwa from benin people history you will have lot of history in benin to talk about,

Make dem open that statue eyes let if fills is eyes with the action of men

Housing:
Most Benin words (language) are corrupted Ijebu words (language). Iga means palace, Iduganran the present name of the official palace of Lagos. Iganran means pepper in Ijebu. Iduganran means pepper farm/station/place.

Have ever ever read about the story of EMOTAN? Even the present Oba of Bini attested to Yoruba root of the Binis

My friend don't create something from nothing , there is no evidence tracing Yoruba root to benin the infleunce benins had with the yorubas is almost 70% compare to other tribe on the otherhand the influence yorubas had on the benins is not even above 2% ....
Before oduduwas gave his son to benin benin had already gave ife oduduwa ,we can start reading the history from there and not from where oduduwa gave his son to benin......
All tribes that were under the control of benins had people who serves as representative and interpreter in the palace to translate for thier people....
So you only saying yorubas was spoken only in benin shows your aim of tribal superiority because yorubas were not only the different ethnic group in the Benin empire or palace...

I repeat no Yoruba's can understand benins and no benins can understand yorubas...

Offpoint:
Useless thread. you went to Dubai and take shots of best of their road, then you take shots of Nigeria worse road and do some useless and bias comparison..


Why not take best of Dubai road and best of Nigeria road to portray whatever the hell point you're trying to portray.


Nigeria is the best country in the world, take or leave it.

And who said that was Dubai's best road ?

And even If it was the best you would want him to compare it with our few good roads and that will satisfy your ego...
When 95% of our roads network are bad ...?
Is that not deceit you simply want to decieve yourself and satisfy your ego that is simply the analogy our government are using on us and then you complain....

Even our best roads cant be compared to thier best of roads ,again our best of roads are mostly maintained directly from the people pocket....

Your statement speak deceit

Yoruba was never once the offical language of benin at anytime all benin names since history attest to this....

And on the otherhand
Ehinogba is a typical edo name and not Yoruba it means in Benin ehin( spirit)

I noticed so many benin related names in your post and had beem influence by yorubas spellings benin indeed left a trademark in the entire lagos history

NegroNtns:
but yoruba and bini are not linguistically distinct. the land belongs to edo but the crown is no doubt yoruba. the situation you have in bini between land/throne nativity is repeated in itsekiri and lagos as well.

i will accept the lagos kings have bini names but reject that they have edo names.

fulani emirs are not hausas but their ifficial language is hausa. they dont own the land but they own the throne.

bini is an outcrop of ife. edo has nothing to do with ife...different people and culture. that they speak edo in bini court does not in anyway make it a non-yoruba throne.

lagos is an outcrop of bini (not edo). lagos has nothing to do with edo. that the language of lagos kings is yoruba does not change the fact that the throne and crown belongs to bini.

net-net, ife, bini, lagos.....are all in the same fold and yoruba.

so if Omo n'Oba is the crown head of bini throne and a bloodline of Ife, then by extension all bloodlines dotted line to Omo n'Oba are also of Ife, regardless if they speak ibo, jukun, edo, or whatever else. contradicting that will be like saying since fulani emirs only speak hausa, then they are hausa bloodline and must not be traced back to futa, their ancestral home in old massina.

Benins says they originate the ife throne ...and all evidence supoort it ....please respect that fact ....
And stop basing history one sided
If you sont want to cause an uprise just keep it nuetral because you would still turn the post to a debate between the two tribe ife and benins
If you understans history benin conquered for economic intrest and they. Were highly travellers

Your stupidity reigns supreme

I think you're simply looking for attention or free bashing by people