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usebog:
So your girlfriend will not cheat if you don't have money or what?

headbasher96:
oga by the way am not the reason u cant feed yourself dont ever tell me Bleep me again.

headbasher96:
Once u have money she will not even think about all those crapbu wrote there ask me hw them the sheepishly follow guys wey the harvest their organ a woman first weak point is a full motuary standard a.c once e blow am the brain go reset the rest na history

Comradegist:
Happy weekend guys.
Sorry to bother you with my own issue. Please i just need reasonable advice. I was in a relationship with a girl I met through her elder sister friend. We got Introduced to each other last year November 2021. I chatted her up and we started from there, we kind of clicked and we decided to meet. We stay inter city just two hours traveling from each other. We met and she seems to be so much into me. She showed me everything a man needs to believe that a woman loves you. After like 3 months of being together. This lady that always tell me her self willingly that she loves me, she cant wait to have a family with me, she cant do without me suddenly told me she dont love me again. I thought I was dreaming at first, but indeed she was serious and she said she doesnt know maybe she's the problem but she has tried her best that she doesnt love me. We talked about why she's not feeling every efforts I made, she mentioned she doesnt feel romantically connected to me, mind you I disvirgined this girl after many guys have made attempt and she didnt allow them. She allowed me to dis virgin her withing two weeks of meeting her. She said I'm good on bed but she doesnt feel me in the romantic part, this is her main reason as she said. We continued the relationship. We fought again after the 5th month of the relationship. Her sister came into this issue. She settled it for us but she mentioned same thing to me that she's not interested in me anymore and she's not saying this because she has anyone or anything but she just doesn't feel me. I've been seeing this red flags as a guy but I didnt leave because I love her I choose to stay. We still continued. It finally ended the 7th month. This is how it ended, on Eid mubarak day, she had told me before that she was going out and she even asked me for money for Eid cloth. But I told her I didnt have much on me right now. And truly I didnt, mind you I always give this girl money even tho it's small but I do try my best but I think she wants more. She went out this faithful day on Eid mubarak day because she posted pictures on what's app. I now asked her that who was with her? She didnt reply. She continued to use me to post pictures, ignored me and I called her several times she didnt pick. She later responded in the night that she just doesn't want to reply my question and she doesn't want my wahala I should leave her alone. She didnt talk to me for two days and she looks very happy in everything she posts. I was wondering why asking a simple question like who is with you cause what she's doing to us. I called her sister and explained,even tho she has told me to stop calling her sister anytime we have issue. But because of I was so confused and didnt know wath to do, I told her sister what happened and i told her she once told me she dont like me telling her anything we have issue in the bid she'll not tell her everything I told her and maybe use style to talk to her without her knowing I called her sister, but her sister got so annoyed hearing it that her younger sister could say that. She advised me that I should man up and move on and never beg for love. I didnt know her sister later confronted her, abused her of playing with my heart and not being serious. I didn't know all this happened until she suddenly text me that I called her sister and told her, she said she's not interested in me anymore and she never loved me and she will never love me, this Is coming out somone that has told me she love me several times willingly without forcing her. She blocked me in every mean I could reach her. I'm so heartbroken broken and pained

Please what should I do OPs in the house?

Mavrick2012:
Bia,did i just hear 1.5 million for just one,a single night?

O boy,can the dog meet a man?

Danyyyyyyyyyyy:
This is actually very true , I was always the one getting hurt before and then I got used to it , I just started going with the flow
Last ex came to me , cute and everything said he wanted me , he got me and all of a sudden , he didn't pick my calls anymore , didn't call or text , lied about where he was when I was seeing him at a different place , cheated on me a lot but I acted like I was dumb , I was always happy around him , he didn't even know that I knew everything coz I actually did not care and I did not want to address it , I believed at the time he didn't know what he wanted and maybe in a month he'll see that I'm definitely a lady and not a girl and he'll get his act together and if he's still blind adieus

One day he raised his voice at me and it was an absolute turnoff , I know the patterns coz I repeated it twice so I ended the call and I waited to confront him physically but when I saw him , I couldn't help but feel stupid for allowing someone like that to feel comfortable to the point where they think they can talk down on me because I look like a nice little girl who doesn't know what love looks like ( he said he wanted unconditional love from me LOL)
I Sha came back home and blocked his entire existence and it was like that till he found me on FB and started trying to do that rubbish where exes become friends and just keep each other around but I had to tell him off , I blocked you for a reason and I haven't unblocked you yet that's a sign that I don't want anything with you anymore,
If you see the insults he rained on me on top of say I don't want to be your friend " you're heartless , I regret anything I had for you , you're this and that , if you see me don't greet me "
Someone that was seriously fucking around and even asked my friends out , someone that I did not take anything from , someone that couldn't even make time to speak or come and see me

He just packaged himself as fine boy and one innocent girl will think he has sense and I feel like I'm the first girl to break lose so quickly and that's probably why he was so upset because I can bet with the last #500 in my akant that he was trying to use me and he didn't give two shits about me from the get go
He wanted a girl that would kiss his butt and rub his feet and he got the wrong biatch

ThatrealestApex:
Why are Nigerian girls like this? They are so full of themselves, very Proud and Arrogant like they've got it all.

I was trying to inquire something from this girl, I actually called her and she said she'd get back to me but never did, I texted her on Whatsapp to inquire about the said stuff and it took her forever to reply my messages yet she'll be online posting statuses. This is someone I can just text once in a year, I barely knew she even existed on my WhatsApp!

The most annoying part of it all is that they form for everybody, even the ones that doesn't give a Fvck about them They always think every guy wants them

I really do not blame them, it's those Perverts and Sex-Starved Male folks that when a girl Sneezes on social media, you'll see 10,000 likes and comments as "Awnn, I love your Catarrh” That causes all these. Those number of ''Likes" they get on Facebook, Instagram, TikTok etc keeps getting into their head and making it swell so big. RUBBISH!

Pascopele:
From on inboz

Good day,

I want to share my story,please keep me anonymous. I broke up with someone that I was in a relationship for almost two years. The relationship was the best I ever had. I think I am still in love with this lady but something happened that made me leave. And that has made me to have trust issues with ladies and I am finding it hard to trust even as I try new relationships.

Dupe (not real name) and I knew each other since 2016. We met during NYSC. I love that she was a homely and godly girl. After service year,I got a job but Dupe could not find a job for almost one year. So,I got her some money and she started a buying and selling business. I liked how industrious she was. She started an online business too. She would deliver orders to customers at their homes or offices.

Early this year,she made a delivery to a man and claimed that the man ended up raping her. I was livid and wanted to report the matter to the police but she said she did not want this to come out cos of the shame and stigma. I tried to convince her but she would not bulge.She begged me to let things be. I then asked her to tell me who the man was,she initially did not want to but maybe cause she did not want me to be suspicious,she told me but made me promise not to do anything about it.

God knows,no man will hear that his wife to be got violated and will do nothing about it. I tracked the man down and confronted him. He laughed and told me he never forced my girl. That it was a mutual agreement. He told her he liked her and before he could buy stuff from her,he wanted to sleep with her. At first,she resisted but he made her a handsome offer and she finally agreed. I told him he was a liar and I would deal with him but he said,go and ask your LovePeddler girlfriend to tell you the truth.

Now,this whole revelation was very hard on me. Here I was,dating this lady for two years with no s*x cos we wanted to wait until marriage and here someone else is claiming she willingly gave it to him? I could not take it and I asked her. Of course,she denied it. I then asked her to let us report to the police to prove her innocence but still she refused. She refused on the grounds of the shame and stigma of being known as a rape victim. She said,my family would also find out and hate her. I know it will be hard if people find out the truth but I did not care,I just wanted justice for her and wanted to make sure she was not lying.

This disagreement between us caused a strain in our relationship. It was clear there was trust issues. We could not get past it. She would cry and say that I am insensitive to her plight. I was torn between believing her and sticking with her.

Thrycimacus:
Hello guys I'm in need of a solution. I started dating my babe since last year, and we plan on getting married this year.

Believe me, I'm completely in love with her. Since I met this girl, it's as though every other girl isn't worth my time. I would say that we love ourselves to the best of my knowledge.

I didn't ever believe that my babe was a cheat, so I don't suspect her, neither do I read her text messages , nor even ask who called her and all that.

Something stupid happened today though. I checked my babes whatsapp chat out of curiosity without her permission (please guys forgive me for that). She was working on a project beside me while I was reading her chat.

I noticed she wasnt comfortable as I told her I only wanted to preview her whatsapp stickers. As I spent more time with her phone, she became so worried that she had to get her phone, asking what I was doing with her phone.

I told her I was reading her chat, then she got real angry, that I shouldn't have read her messages. There are contents there she doesnt want me to see.

Pretending as though I havent seen anything yet, I asked her , which content? Then she was already angry and collected her phone.

I tried getting g her phone but to no avail. Then I sat her down. Babe tell me, are you a lesbian ? She vehemently denied, asking why I will even ask her such question. Then I told her about her chat with one girl. She was trying to defend her self that the chat doesnt mean anything. The said chat was actually lesbian related.

I asked my babe, is the girl you were chatting with a lesbian, she said yes. I said fine, give me your phone let me continue reading then if you have nothing to hide from me. She refused.

I told her that her refusal only means 1 thing, and that can threaten our very relationship...

To cut the low g story short, at some point, she began to cry. I told her I knew she was a lesbian from that chat, I only wanted her to tell me with her mouth. She didnt directly admit it though, but she said that she was working on fixing her problem.

Admit it baby, so I know if its something I can fix with you, babe said she will tell me everything tomorrow, that she can't get herself to discuss anything with me today. With this, I had to understand and let her go. Hopefully tomorrow she can confide in me finally about her (I suppose) lesbian affairs.

Honestly I love this babe. Up until today, i have always believed that she loves me too. But this revelation is really threatening to destroy my future with her.

Before she left today , after I must have given her my word that telling me all her dark truth will not stop me from loving her, she said I was saying those just so she can open up. That if I leave her or change my behaviour towards her when she tell me what shes been hiding, it will not be good.

Please guys, how do I face this serious problem now in a mature way ?

Please I'm not here to play, I need mature contributions.

I created a new account for privacy sake

Northernblood5:
To decipher the true propagandist, ask the idiots, "Why did Russia invade Ukraine, Putin idiots will answer " according to Russia, to stop Ukraine from joining NATO.

Ask the imbeciles again, Why then are they still on offensive despite the fact that Ukraine has dropped it's ambition. They will start mopping like idiots they are.

Unclesmart12:
Some days ago a lady posted about being torn between her ex and her new boyfriend. Here's the link
https://www.nairaland.com/7021168/im-torn-ex-new-boyfriend#110871298
I happen to be the new guy in question, I even recommended posting the issue on Nairaland so neutrals could advice her since she won't let me rest because of the issue. She couldn't read past page two of the thread cos nairalanders were giving it to her hot hot.

My own issue is I can no longer cope with her confusion, she clearly doesn't want to let the other guy go. She's been sending me recordings of her calls with the guy where the guy has being begging her like his life depends on it. [s]I sincerely wish I can contact the guy so we can be running her together on a low but it's obvious he will snitch on me cos he's obviously obsessed with the girl.[/s]

Most of the calls has been about the guy talking about his accomplishments and how he will get her heaven and earth even though the girl admitted to having sex with another guy. He's been peppering her with credit alerts all these while and even promised to get her a bigger phone while the one she's using now which he actually bought is just few months old. For me I see those money talks as a challenge to make my own money.

I have more serious things to do with my life than compete for a lady that doesn't know what she wants. She wants to keep the guy for the financial benefits and also wants to keep me for the romantic benefits or whatever.

I have been trying to ghost her but I've come to realize that I actually like her a lot so its not easy. How can I do this effectively?? For some days now we not really been on the best of terms, she blanks me at any slightest provocation and if I don't call she will just lockup.

How do I swing the balance and dump her in a way that will hurt her?? She always brags that she's never met a guy that will make her beg cos she always has plenty options and can easily replace anyone that misbehaves.

DrMrsFunmi:
nah I'm a guy and I dey use this account dey troll one bastard here.
I realized she was a lesbian after I came across a post she said she stays at ekosodin so I got her number and gave one girl still at Benin and she messaged her and the star fire was all over her asking to meet her in uniben and she wants to suck her pusssay. So I now messaged her and when she observed that I'm a guy she snub.
like you Said it's so terrible, and she come fine small.
how did you know she was Les?

DrMrsFunmi:
that star fire girl that dropped number did you message her?
be like the girl sef na Les wey dey snub guys

SirNewtonNG:
Mr man you've been embarrassed severally. I don't understand how a record of over 500 years is propaganda. That's crazy! Especially when you literally have no evidence or anything academic or scholarly. It's embarrassing. Nigeria is what is making people like you insecure about some ancient history. You feel sad that a descendant of what is now yoruba a major ethnic group in the contraption called Nigeria once brought civilization and keeps ruling you. You think it's a coincidence that from the late 1960s to 1970s that oba erediauwa in an attempt to assert some form of independence for his people and some pride as a distinct group began to re write stories of over 500 years?? Ekaladerhan who died in ughatan all of a sudden became oduduwa, some even said oranmiyan. All this to assertions that the kingship has some paternal edo link. Nigeria happened and the British did whatever they liked. They increased the difference between groups and that's what you are suffering from. In the olden days( mostly pre colonial and even pre European contact) Kingdoms went against each other, yes between some kingdoms there was shared heritage like for instance oyo, ijebu, ijesha, ife and benin. They knew this but the idea of ethnicity wasn't ingrained. So the benin kings could proudly know where they came from and pay respect to ife while at times they could be in conflict with other kingdoms from ife. Same as the other yoruba kingdom states. In the past the bini palace was bi linguistic. The lingua franca was lukumi(ancient yoruba) and was spoken by many of Bini people both with ife ancestry and core bini people that's why there's so much inter relationship and why today's bini language has some yoruba dipped in many bini names have yoruba prefixes and suffixes.

And as to your spurious claims no one actually cares. It's usually bini people with crazy threads and on YouTube and on every media space trying to show some form of superiority with you being the leader here on nairaland, i mean this ridiculous thread was started by you and the question has been shown to be a lie and another attempt by you to show superiority. Only that your position is completely alien to what your compatriots say who don't deny the obvious relationship but turn it on its head, infact i somehow respect your position because at least you are not telling lies about Oduduwa and oranmiyan whether you believe they are real or not but at the end of the day your goals is similar to them at its core; you lot are trying to feel independent and unique in a nigerian space that has highlighted differences between groups. And that's why in the face of so much evidence you on one hand deny any relationship which is absurd the others try to turn any relationship on its head as emanating from bini

SirNewtonNG:
Slave to the yoruba king of edo our son, the omo noba are you done with your work keep crying

SirNewtonNG:
Slave to the yoruba king of edo our son, the omo noba are you done with your work keep crying

Theplotter:
But i thought that it was the Yorubas that attached their history to benin, but now you are saying it is Benin.

Guy, what your point gangan?

abulude:
I disagree that the history of Yoruba was falsely attached to the Benin for political relevance by the Whites. Your claims are not only irrational, baseless but also laced with sentiments. I would love you to furnish me with literatures and references to back up your unsubstantiated claims. Why would the Whites favour the Yorubas history over the Benin? What makes the Yorubas so special to them? I hope you know that most historical literature about the Benin and the Yoruba were mostly written before Nigeria independence, some before Nigeria was even formed? The word Ile Ibinu (Land of Anger) later corrupted to Benin is a Yoruba word and was coined by Odede. Likewise, the word Ewomika (my hand has reached it) later corrupted to Eweka is a Yoruba phrase. The royal house of Benin, Oyo, Ile-Ife, etc, are all related by blood. Even the Ibini Royalties never dispute or deny this (except commoners like you). I noticed that many of you that often meddle in Benin/Ife issue are not even from Benin. Being from Edo state doesn't mean you're a Benin.

In ancient times, there are tribes, clans and kins all over Africa some of which are related by blood, marriage or via common ancestral relatedness and cultural similarities. It was the creation of countries and states that divided us as a people. For instance, the Okuns, Ijebus, Ijesha, Aworis, Ibadans, Sarkis, Itsekiris, etc, are all kins. The first people to be called the Yorubas are the Oyos (Katunga). Although in recent times, the word Yoruba is used to refer to people with ancestral link to Ile Ife. The Oyos have a great empire that extended from the bank of River Niger to Ibadan and westward into Dahomey and parts of Togo, just as the Ibini empire extend eastward to parts of Niger Delta. Mind you, the Oyos are great people with an organized system of government just as the Ibinis. So, why would they need the Benin to be called great people? Meanwhile, these two great empires (Oyo and Benin) were founded by the same person Odede (also known as Emperor Oranmiyan) the son of Odu'a, the great king of Ile Ife. Invariably, the royalties of Oyo, Ile-Ife, Ibini, Eko, Ijesha, etc, are kins.

In modern era, the Yorubas are known to be educated, intelligent, exposed and are pace-setters, so why would they need anyone to validate them? Politically, the Yorubas need more of its population, education and expose to be relevant not an attachment with Benin. No matter how much you try, you can't change history. To break your heart, I would like to inform you that the Benins just like the Oyos were great in the past not anymore. I get am before no be property.

Theplotter:
If you say some yoruba are used as sacrifice in Benin, that is another fact of history that i can not deny.

Yoruba has a race, is too large to be assumed under the more militaristic Yoruba societies such as Oyo, Ibadan and Abeokuta and thus do not enjoy maximum military protection, and so they became a target of slave traders, and the mass of this slave traders were Yoruba themselves.

Benin is very small and so more easy to control especially by a king who has absolute power over the people ( that is because of his Yoruba blood), couple with the fact that Benin contacted the Europeans early and so they had assess to guns and gunpowder, Benin transformed from a kingdom filled with cowards who built large moats to protect themselves against invaders and started expansion against their neighbors using the power of gunpowder.

But Benin glory was short because they only got the guns not the guts, the Ibadan travelled a long mile and recover Akure and some other eastern Yoruba tribes under Benin.

Ogendegbe decided to teach the Oba a lesson and marched on Benin, it was the Benin Chiefs in their large feminine skirts that came to beg him( that is to tell you that because you kill a snake doesn't mean you can kill all snakes)

Concerning the whole of Lagos being under Benin, in your wildest dream.
Omo you dey dream big time.

I don't have time to write epistles on that chapter,Tao12 had done that several time but since you are dumb you still don't get it.

Now concerning my identity as Yoruba which had become your own problem,let it be your problem.

You are a child, a naive child,pained by the outcome of history which is difficult to accept, sorry, because at the end of the day Yoruba benin is just a weak minor tribe that has to keep quiet when great kings are talking.

Take the itsekiri kingship as example,there is a written law that states that only a son born of itsekiri or Benin blood that can become king, but a son born of a Yoruba woman cannot, aaahaa!! I laugh.
When the Ooni and some other Yoruba kings intervened in the matter, kiakia the Yoruba boy became king, that is power, that is influence.

The Oba can't do anything, he knew his seniors had put their hands into the issue so he could not interven.

Today Lagos had become a prominent Yoruba city known far and wide, call it a no man's land, your opinion.
Even some parts of the acclaimed Benin are been bought by powerful yoruba men, there is nothing you can do about it.

We are smart, we are strong, we are cunning, we are precise, we are strategic.
No wonder the Edo people asked for a son of our father to rule them. There is nothing you can do about it.

Benin can never start whahala with Yoruba, because they are not fit, the day they do, they will lose all they the influence, the glory and their ties even with other minor tribes, Yoruba people will make sure of that.

No be by mouth, we are great.
In culture,in language, in tradition, in music in all you can ever think of.

If you speak trash again, i would still come and give you your medicine, good morning.

Theplotter:
There is nothing like someone forcing history on you, history is a record of past events which sometimes favor and glorify some group of people while it degrade some other group of people, that is history.

Yoruba people in all their glory were defeated by fulani due to their disunity, it had happen, it had become history and they are not denying it.

Some yoruba towns such as Akure and some part of Lagos was under Benin control, no argument, because it was so and apparently so.
Those are the times history did not favor Yoruba people, but Yoruba people never deny all this fact.

But when it comes to Edo people, especially dreamy gregyboy, their pride would not allow them to accept the obvious words of history.

Your kings answer as Oba, you denied that Oba is not indigenous to Yoruba but to Edo, but history says your indigenous kings are called Ogisos.

You said Oduduwa is a Benin man, but that was a recent theory propose by patriotic Benin revisionist.

Oranmiyan named Benin but you deny this also and claim that it was itsekiri people that named Benin...etc

Now, here is the truth, either you accept history or not we the Yorubas are the source of your royalty, either you agree or not, your own opinion doesn't matter to me because it doesn't change anything,if you like ram your head hard against history book, ntoooor, it will not change anything, we be your baba, your father.

In fact all this comments and response Yorubas on this thread are given you is because they just want to chat to kill their time, they know that you are just one pained Edo boy intimidated by the dominating nature of the Yoruba culture.

In the real life, you can not be spitting all these trash, even if you say some of this things in the hearing of your father he would have dash you atleast three slaps in quick succession.

You think Yoruba is your mate.
If you want someone to play with, go and meet, some other minor tribes like yours to banter with.

You kid, infact, intellectually you are not mate with The descendants of Oduduwa, i am always amazed at how Tao12, a wonderful product of the Yoruba race whipps you mad in all trends you stick your ugly head, your IQ cannot be compared with our IQ.

Do you even know how hard it is for me to be answering your stupid trends and comments.

Becareful, in case you come across Yoruba kings in real life, do not disrespect them the way you do on nairaland, because if you do, heaven bear me witness that you won't go unscathed.

So pin your mouth and think before you talk, when you see trends about Yoruba just. Ignore it and if you can't go through it and comment like a good boy, ok.

Ma gbadun....

Olu317:
Stop lying . Igodomigodo was never Benu/Binu/Bini before Oranmian. Efas,Ogiamiens, Yehkee, Ika, Urhobo etc.
treaty will stand the test of time forever in Edo land between your Yoruba Oba and Ogiamien family relationship cannot be broken. No matter how much liars you people spread.

It was before your many of your ancestors and so shall it live till death do you7 and your Yoruba overlord king ; Oba Bini Omo n'Oba n'Edo Uku Akpolokpolo and you , the servants and freeborn in Edo land.

Furthermore, Itsekiri was not in existence as at when Bini was formed . Infact Bini
was formed as a name around late 11 century AD. So stop polluting the air with this false information.

Ginuwa was even a distant patrilineal son of Ọwọ́mikà/Owọ́mikà(eweka), who himself was a son of odedé Prince King orànmiyàn, who later became Ooni/ Aani(Owner) .

Meanwhile, answer my question on the sword that I ask you . Or is it hard to know the family that gives such out ?

Olu317:
Can you proof that the family cum house name in Igodomigodo that gave Oba Bini the sword of authority ? Stop ranting and learn it that Yoruba imposed her culture, language and her monarchial system in your land.

Olu317:
Can you proof that the family cum house name in Igodomigodo that gave Oba Bini the sword of authority ? Stop ranting and learn it that Yoruba imposed her culture, language and her monarchial system in your land.

Theplotter:
You mean the way Oranmiyan our father trashed the useless Ogisos of Edo descendants and installed the sophisticated political system of the great Yoruba people.

jesmond3945:
She is a slay mama. Cravings are normal, there is nothing you can do. Please leave the telly for her till she gives birth. Try to minimize her chores as much as you can. If she goes out of shape, please love her like that. You married inside not her body. If she gives birth buy her the car, it would help her to carry your baby around. Her laziness is just a slay mama trait. You are her ticket to a good and stress free life.

googi:
These fabricators nor dey Taya?

Camp of water ko, camp of ocean ni.

The days you guys used to go on social media and spew trash are over. Your idle monikers got away with it for too long.

TAOII kudos.


Hold your mouth

TAO11:
gregy the dullard is back. Hurray.