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This reminds me of a situation I had with a girl I briefly dated.

There was a time we were in her room together and she was busy tidying up her washed clothes. Then I jokingly tickled her by the waist the next thing I saw this girl grabbed a knife and threatened to stab me.

I quietly apologized and gently retreated from her room. I took the next taxi home and on my way, I deleted her number. I broke up with her instantly without second thoughts even when my friends were trying to bring us back saying the incident was minor.

My dating rules is that I Never tolerate a violent woman... NEVER EVER!!

Guts over fear --------------- Eminem ft Sia
I wonder ---------------- Kanye west
Empire State of Mind ....... JayZ & Alicia keys
Trying Sleeping with a broken heart..... Alicia keys
Free Mason ---------------- JayZ & Rick Ross



One of Top 5.. Its hard to pick the exact Top 5

Real soldier indeed.. When your mates are fighting boko haram.

On a serious note, Nigerian security forces contribute more than half of all criminal situations in the country from selling guns to criminals to actually robbing people.

They bail criminals without charges, they know their hide outs but prefer to take bribes instead than arrest them..

Go to the nearest police station and report this issue... This is child abuse and rape!

Take the child to an NGO that is capable of handling such matters.

This might nit be the easy step but I believe it is the best thing to do.

The man need to be taught the lesson of self restraint.

- Absolute power corrupts absolutely.


- Power is like a black hole, it sucks you in and then destroys you.

- The best way Mugabe would have shown love to his people, was to build a credible institutions and system that would stand even when he was no more but he FAILED!

Good Riddance.

I'm in love

kozmicity:
People usually say I have the perfect personality...Ah dunno what say means oo

Is there anything like the perfect personality?

I would want it to this Strong personality whatever.

makydebbie:
Thank you.

Pleasure is all mine...

makydebbie:
Exactly, intellectual discourse brings me out of my shell most times.

I think its harder finding women who doesn't talk petty. You are rare!!


Thumbs up..

makydebbie:
Lool, I'll gently explain I don't wanna be involved in a convo. I won't be rude trust me. But sometimes, I indulge some people I find intelligent and interesting.

I understand... It's hard talking to people who are gloriously ignorant with heavy irrational sentiments,, to me conversations with such kind is punishment.

Op one thing I have observed in my long life on earth is that people always try to bring down anyone who is better than them through words and actions.

Live your life bro. Don't let anyone define what success means.

Because success is definitely not an admission into a University neither is it the acquisition of Billions in your Bank account.

success is what you think it is.

The fact that you have been able to stave off their negativity is enough Big success and you needed to drink and celebrate to it.

Nevertheless as someone up there said.. Never stop working to improve yourself.

The epitome of failure is kill yourself for whatever reason..

hanassholesolo:
90% of the world population? Are you sure you don't have delusion of grandeur? because it's common amongst your type who think they are such a special snowflake, and that nobody gets them while they are just plain weirdo's.

Ok maybe not 90% but 9 of 10 persons I met on random have low self esteem....
#myOpinion don't worked up... I am honestly wrong.

makydebbie:
Sure, we learn everyday.

Lool, like you said, people have given different interpretations of introversion. I just love keeping to myself and I'm not a social person. Does that make me a snub? Definitely not. I'm not just the type that's free to mingle.

Don't argue you are not a snub because technically you are.!
How would you describe someone you tried striking a conversation with but keeps ignoring your attempt?..... SNUB!!


By the way thank you for pointing me in the direction of being an 'Ambivert'. Having gone through this articles
https://www.buzzfeed.com/lukebailey/ambiverts-for-the-silver?utm_term=.esVKJxAWp#.pv5nX0g7N

I think I am more of an Ambivert than anything else.

One world summarizes me....."I easily get bored"

makydebbie:
Maybe you're an ambivert , and your behavior sometimes confuses your friends. I asked because I'm introverted and most people mistake it as being a snub.

I'm seeing the word "Ambivert" for the first time in my life... No wonder it's said "we learn everyday"

Sure many people ascribe all negative interpretations to introverted people.

I have being called 'Proud' 'wicked' 'snub' 'pretender' you name it..
But some people's comment here in nairaland usually give me hope like one said in a thread I can't remember now.... "people usually fear what they don't understand"

But lets be honest, I have an idea how introverted minds work, .... Introverts are snubs ..

makydebbie:
Are you an introvert?

Seriously I don't know... Because some of my friends who assumed mme to be introverted when they see me do stuffs in public that they themselves the self assumed extrovert dare not they always thinks I am pretending to be introverted. The truth is that I enjoy my personal time alone not because I am extra shy of mingling.

Blackfyre:
How old are you?

@emboldened you deserve a swift kick to the head...

..... I may have exaggerated a bit, but the truth remains a lot of folks on the average have low self esteem... Slay queens included.

Wazlax:
I'm mildly infuriated that you lumped my post with that of others when it's obvious that I was speaking from a more "informed" perspective. Again you've proven that you aren't a sociopath. Sociopaths can easily identify other sociopaths and they interact with them differently.

Are you a sociopath?

You sound questionable.

Wazlax:
Complementing the physical attributes of someone who might be a sociopath in hopes of getting on her good side isn't a smart thing to do. If you are looking for a girl to befriend, date, have sex with or marry, it's safer if you consider someone normal. It's for your own good.

No, no.. I was not complementing her to get her attention. She is truly beautiful. And I have have a girlfriend whom I love and is also as beautiful.

I believe she is normal anyway.. At least she has not given any cause for alarm that might scare me or anyone.

Personally, I have a little trait of dulled empathy too and it nothing serious.

A very beautiful sociopath indeed!!

On a serious note, you should be concerned about depression setting in...

What you have to do talk about the bad things with people and appreciate the fact that they are really bad stuffs and try to be open to friendships and relationships at least to the point of your tolerance and comfort.

Kondomatic:
If I testify about myself, my testimony is not valid.




John 5:31

Seriously I have enough practical experience to testify about it. Believe me they are not exactly positive ones.

I am often misunderstood.
Called proud, which from the hearts of my heart I am not and nit trying to be..

Very low self-esteemed people( which from my observation accounts for over 90% percent of the world population) doesn't make it any easy for people like us.

Being someone with super-personality is more pain than gain and I think you should empathize with us not because we are. Blowing our trumpets, but because we are a minority being marginalized.

Wow.. That's me!!

I always suspected I had this in me
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I'm so number one, one of my girlfriends thinks I am actually a proud person who does not believe in other peoples weaknesses.

Although I have tried to explain that there are no reasons good enough for being inadequate but she looks me like some very weird egoistic person.

adepeter2027:
That's if you acquire ya wealth without much stress

Where do you get the idea that wealth could be acquired without stress?

You must understand that being rich is relative unless you are in the league of the bill Gates and Dangote of this world.

Your savings is so someone else's shopping bills.

Really nice motivational speech.

You must know you are not alone there are lots of us like you maybe in varying degrees but the fact that you could identify the source of your problem, I believe you have solved half of the problem.

Keep developing your self and seek true happiness by seeing others around you positively impacted.

Good luck bro

Benita27:
On the contrary, it's said that a friend's loyalty is known when the chips are down. Those who made this quote were not drunk and it has been proven to be true 'cause wealth attracts sycophants. The married great men of this world met their women when they had nothing 'cause that's when you test a man's loyalty. Wonder why Mark Zuckerberg ended up with an average looking Asian instead of the beauties of America?, it's 'cause she was with him when he was nothing.

You said it's easier to pick your kind of woman when you have wealth. Sorry, it's a herculean task to pick your kind of woman when you have money. A wealthy man is full of insecurities.

You wouldn't marry a lady you're not sure whether she loves you or not, realistically speaking.

Very well said!!


As for the Op, He wrote alot without saying much, the write up is lacking in convincing narratives.. Why?
The Op should have stated how many instances he knew where the rich genuinely found love (I not saying there are none) but when you compare it those who found genuine love when they had nothing, I don't think there would have been any need for raising a counter argument against the obvious.

That been said, I would mention those who found love in nothing like the handle I Quoted had pointed

Zukerberg.. Facebook CEO married his sweetheart from when he had little

2face...Nigerian musician.. Despite all Odds still ended up with his lover from his struggling days when he had little

Ay.. Nigerian comedian..

To mention but a few...

The truth remains If you could find someone who loves when you have nothing... They are more bound to continue loving you... Despite the change in status.

But how many people who found love when they are rich and still manage to stick together when the fortune changes.? Should be the question and the yardstick with which you judge if it was easier finding love when you are rich..

Why are trying to denigrate the guy based on his skin colour. You be more concerned about yourself if an Albino like you put it can take your girl, your game must be wack!!

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donblade85555:
we are having light 23 hours everyday since on Monday here in sapele, delta state oh.

Same thing here In Asaba.

A wise man ones said[b] “when we pursue Justice so earnestly, we are bound to lose our peace and Happiness in the process.”[/b] But we must not go to sleep in face of injustice.
In the demand for Justice we must factorize the place of our peace and happiness in the scheme of things.
We must accept our responsibility, and take blames for our short comings.
We owe the responsibility to life not just to ourselves, but to our loved ones, our community and the future generations.
We must not throw rationality to the dogs because of resentments because at the end nobody gains from the relics of violence.
Hating others because they are Muslims or Christians or whatever religion they practise reeks of ignorance and shallowness because what one does not understand, it tends to fear and what one fears, it tends to hate.
Hausas, Ibos, Yorubas, efiks, Ijaws and all the over 300 ethnic groups in Nigeria is a beauty we must learn to appreciate, it is a beauty that stems from the vastness of our varieties. Our differences should be our source of strength and the gains of our unity.
As Nigerians those of us who were privileged to be born into the entity Nigeria, it is our responsibility to preserve this identity for our children. Is fine when those who were not born into the NIGERIAN identity to want to sabotage it, but is irresponsible for all those who was born into the Nigerian Identity to be major role to bequeath a lost identity to our children. We must be seen as the courageous generation of those who faced a problem in our co- operate national identity and rose up to the challenge to tackle it and won. We must not be assume the cowardice position who run in the shallow depth of seeking the easy way out by running to our little enclave of monogamous ethnic identity as a panacea for our surmountable problems, one which has undermined every little cultural integrity we may have been able to boast of.
We must begin to ask real questions, we must stop being mentally lazy, we must start holding ourselves to the utmost moral responsibility on how we treat our environment, how we treat our neighbors. We must respect other peoples believes and their faith.
Hating on others is a corruption that destroys the soul. If we must live without others, we must do it without guile or resentment. We must seek for the fellowship of those around us because life by its very existence is meaningless without friends and those we can call to for help.
Those of us who plead for the Nation to remain one indivisible country are always taunted as “Unity beggars” but the truth remains I must continue to beg for the Ibo to remain a part of Nigeria.
We need you, whether Ibo, Yoruba or Hausa. I plead with you don’t go away from Nigeria. I am not ashamed to Beg for all of us to remain friends. Nigeria is so much fun with you guys in it.
And if after a critical thought and superior argument have identified Biafra is the Answer, it must then be pursued with sensitivity and respect for those who think otherwise because at a more critical thought, boundaries mean nothing to human existence it is our relationship with others that determines the boundaries we set.
Finally I urge all Nigerians or whatever we might decide to call ourselves, to restrain on our tendencies for anarchy, violence and disregard for authority as it is not the right way to go about demanding justice or fairness, because at the end of it all, what goes around, comes back around.

END HATE: Being guilty of the act of comically enjoying the name calling, the hate spewing, I have come to repent for being a passive accomplice in the spread of this terrible venom that has poisoned other people’s self-esteem and undermined their Identity. I apologise and also urge all those who actively or passively propagate or support hate speeches, It is time to come clean and call it quit for the development of our dear country.


Thank you all for you time!!
God bless Nigeria
God bless us all