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I hope those were truly badoo members. They deserve a million worse death, may God expose all the remaining members to the very last.
Such heartless animals.
I wonder what the police is doing about this menace. They keep wiping out families, crushing people's heads with grinding stone and nothing is done about it.

Yoruba's say 'darosa'.
I never knew it was someone's name o, thought it's a Yoruba word for someone that spends anyhow for others

She is not a nursing student

Movingcoil:
Who is a kid, am 32 already. The beautiful ones are not yet born so them never born my lady.

Age doesn't determine maturity then.
My 10 years old sibling would slap you for your immature posts.
There is still time to grow up before you become 40.

ZaraGift:
Why is there no restriction on Christian thread, why do Muslims comment on Christian/Atheists thread?

The reason is obvious to even the blind from this thread.
Some idiots will always want to show themselves.

AyilaraFingar:
lol yeye of the highest order,..keep deceiving yourselves..

And you should learn to read.
There are many resources at our finger tips, no excuse for a supposed educated person. to speak like an illiterate

iamrealdeji:
they're married and is you are single . everybody knows a woman's boobs sag when she has a baby or abortion

Only ignorant people and close-minded blockheads who refuse to learn beyond hearsays

An extremely dumb thread.

To all the ignorant ones, not every woman is gifted with naturally firm breasts. We are all different

Adekorya:
One of the things we don't get choose is How beautiful we look naturally... You saying one person is ugly is not traditionally, religiously or morally sane.

Grow up kid. And if you're not comfortable with her look, go and sue almighty God that created her.

The guy is a troll.

PaperLace:
You forgot "my house" and the plenty threats to throw her out and back to her father's house. They don't know that there are women also praying their husband doesn't get rich...hehe.

Abi o. Very annoying, send her back to her father's house, like she is a little kid.
They don't see that as being arrogant and egoistic, it's normal to them.
That is why those with esteem issues amidst them will always seek to draw their wives down, or make her dependent so they can step on her anyhow they want.

Silly thread.

Men don't handle riches any better.
You know a man's true character when there is money.
And what of the songs we hear everyday, ' the woman I paid on', the woman I did this', ' the woman I did that', always talking about how they provide, even those who don't sef will talk rubbish. They expect to be worshipped. They are proud.
But let the woman have just a little more everything she does will be seen as pride. Not necessarily cos she is proud but the man's ego can't handle a more successful woman.

Hypocrites

One of the problems of the health sector- Corrupt CMDs

Hmmmm

This man is just plain evil

Story for the gods.
The mother has been misleading your child since he was 3 years old and you as a sensible father kept watching abi.

When the child is bad he becomes only the mother's.

Organs:
Haneefah: Nope you did not understand the guys point. You're still in the "he has to pay for it mindset" He clearly said the husband in that scenario knows and understands his brother. Remember they most likely grew up in the same household and most probably have the same ethical values . Females find it difficult to forgive honest mistakes. Also, immediately i read the story i knew immediately that he couldn't have stood there apologising like she'd stated, think about it how come she that was busy trying to cover herself up how did she know or judge time and what he was doing? Also, you hear and see these things a lot when you listen to cases of this nature, females for the most part will always exaggerate and make it look worse. I have two younger brothers and if this should happen, i will do the same thing the man did, cos i know my brothers well also these are brothers.

Alright, thanks.

SonsOfLiverpool:
when a man takes care of the bill 100% there's no problem. when a woman does close to 90% there'll be problem. so much for gender equality nonsense.

on that note, please keep paying the bills but leave out some and get him tensed. like make him understand its not enough. don't push too far with this though.

anyways, I think he is too relaxed because of your pay. talk sense to him or talk to his family for help.

and yes am not married so this advice is based on common sense.

About your first point, the woman has her roles in the family. If you think dropping money is above what the woman does in the home, then I'm not sure you know what you are saying.
And some even do their part and still take up some part of the man's role.

You are plainly been used.
You are carrying out both the husband's and wifely duties in the Union, while he relaxes and take advantage of it.

Cut back on what you give out, if your children's school fees is expensive, change school, seek a cheaper one also with quality, do not pay the next rent, decide and find with him where he can afford to pay for within his capability, ask him for money for the house upkeep, foodstuffs and the likes, you can augment if not enough.
Stop doing more than yourself, it's cos he knows you will surely carry up all the responsibilities that he decided to live the extravagant life he can't afford like a bachelor. Men earning 40K are taking care of their families, he has no excuse.
And have a fixed savings, have a separate account you drop a fixed part of your salary in every month, I won't advise to have a joint account with him, he could use the I am the head, you are proud cos you earn more mantra to keep having his way yo use that funds anyhow.
And I don't think you should think of having any child for now, unless you can cope with the extra finances.

He will claim to be the man of the house, the head of the house, he has to provide, you can help augment where necessary but do not allow him take you for granted by living like a single mother while married with another extra big baby.

Imagine not dropping money for foodstuffs and wanting to chop more than a meat per food. Ah ah , who does that.
I hope he turns a new leaf soon, cos your children are still young, the financial burden can only get worse and with a carefree man as husband, it won't be easy.

This OP is high sha.
My dad is just like this, can talk for a long period of time, if you have a guest, he or she must receive a lecture too, they usually don't mind anyway. Or if he was watching a film when you walk in, he can tell you the details even without you asking or a news or about natural medicine, he can talk about a variety of topics. He will tell you the year he learnt it sef.
But I think it's cool, though it can be annoying sometimes, like when you are sick and he decides to tell everyone he knows and meet on the way, that you are sick and we are going to the hospital ' rolls eye'.
And I know how to dodge him when I get tired of the talk, just tell him, I quickly want to do something and coming back.

Op you should be used to your dad's nature by now, you can always create interest in his discussions and developed ways to evade him when not interested.
I don't know why it should bother you unless he says things that are embarrassing or demeaning to you.

No one knows her story or what she went through that made her do that.

And how much is 80K she couldn't have raised herself if she has good saving culture and other business she does.

And the issue of the wife being made to return the dowry is not well understood by me unless they haven't consummated the marriage yet.

I used to like her.

kaymart:
You know what?
It's d guy's approach that made me commented that way though, I mean d guy I quoted.

Back to the main topic, to be honest, I agree with you. you r absolutely right. The saying that the guy stood still and was apologizing while the lady was trying to hide is sth that I won't agree with. I doubt that was truly want the case. How could he have stood still while the husband was also there in the room?
I doubt any sane person in his right state of mind 'lld do that.

Dear Haneefah, what we need to know is that some issues do not require over flogging. Let me be plain with u here, I'm sure the guy who barged in wouldn't be comfortable in the house too, at atleast for a couple of time. He wud hate himself for those period more than you hate him or his mistake. I'm sure he would have reprimanded himself a thousand times in his head.....The husband's reprimanding him wouldn't do much, Infact, if at all, it does, it 'll do the worse. The most effective approach is just to let go. I'm so sure if the guy is sane and in his right mindset, he 'll knock and knock repeatedly any other time has a reason to be in that room again, even when he is so sure that the wife had travelled a thousand miles away from the domain. Besides, he may never come into that room for the rest of his stay in that house.
However, the husband's decision to play it cool goes to show that he understood the brother's intention and he knows what's wud be going on in his brother's mind, he's so sure that the guy would have himself reprimanded all by himself. Remember, he is his little brother ns am sure he knows him better than anyone else.

Going to him or reprimanding him is like opening up a sore. To me, It's absolutely not necessary.

Though, everyone with his/her opinion......

Away from that dear Haneefah.......
are u a practising muslimah? with a good to moderate understanding of the Deen, if u are, pls reach me back.
I think I like ur approach to this issue even though we have slight differences in our approach to it.
You can contact me through text on 08092268498 or better still tell me how to reach u.
Thanks as I anticipate.

You weren't there, it is her story so you saying you won't agree with something doesn't mean it didn't happen.
I am certain the woman would have gotten quickly over the embarrassment if he had said 'I'm sorry' while immediately leaving the room upon seeing she was naked, immediate turn out of the room. He can nau come back later to apologize after she is covered. And let's assume he was shocked and his brain couldn't process he was supposed to leave, the husband should have spoken up, 'leave and do not barge in like that next time without knocking'.
And the case would have died there.
I think the op is more shocked the husband took the matter with such levity.

I get and understand your point too though


About me contacting you or the other way round, sorry, don't bother.

PaperLace:
Heavens bless you.
See how they are trivialising a married woman's body. They won't want their wives to wear skimpy wears, yet there is no problem with this issue. I even had to ask my husband to be sure I am not overreacting, his face just changed..."what's he doing in our room to start with?"

Maybe she should have just carried on like the BIL wasn't there, the husband would have been the one opening this thread and the comments would definitely be different.

Amen.

Don't mind them.
You can notice it's mostly single guys, some of who are known women haters that seem to support it.
They would support anything obviously wrong as long as the woman takes the blame.

Some men are that crazy.
I can't remember the social media app I once opened. I know it came with my phone. I was just curious and opened an account, had to close it down and delete it, not a single wise human being, just randy idiots everywhere sending in messages.
I didn't even upload a pic so it wasn't a matter of how the dp portrays one.

kaymart:
Mr lover, take it easy o......hmn

If it were to be you, perhaps u 'll send him packing or kill him.....ryt?
what's even so special about the nudity. Mtscheww
So long you could see clearly that it wasn't intentional, then just let it go. No need talking anything about it sef 'cos d young dude already 'll feel remorseful
and he won't ever make such mistake again.
Some ppl shud start applying wisdom in their dealings.
More respect to the husband of the OP for his maturity and wisdom.

There is absolutely no big deal about nudity.
You can always display your wife butt-naked on TV for the World to see to show you are mature.

I know lots of guys here have been programmed to always fault women even when it's obvious a man is at fault.

The BIL is very wrong, you just don't barge into people's room anyhow. A married couple for that matter. Courtesy demands you knock.
I guess not everyone has that home-training though.

Let's assume it was a mistake and excitement made him forget to knock, he knew she was unclad, could see her trying to dodge. and hide and he still stood there supposedly apologizing.
A right thinking husband would reprimand him, it doesn't have to involve sending packing or the rubbish some people keep spewing up there.
He should have said something, warned him never to barge into their room that way ever again.

Next time he will still barge in, probably when she is home alone and unclad or they could be busy in the act, there should be a limit to everything.
I can't even enter my parent's room without knocking and seeking permission.


It's plain disrespect, but boys who don't respect women on a normal day would still defend it

I love loud house too. Can never get tired of sponge Bob squarepants.
I love cartoons generally unless it's just too babyish to watch.

If he was indeed a member of those heartless gang. Then he deserved a thousand worse death

My mum sef looks younger than her and she is claiming 17.
She is over 17 in the throwback sef

She was so stupid and vain.
Starving your baby cos you don't want the breasts to sag, when won't the breasts sag before?

God forbid it.

If you had learnt a skill or trade or handiwork within that period after NYSC, you would be close to if not be a boss of yourself by now and you can always look for better suited jobs while at it.
Or you can look for a teaching job for now.

I'm a nursing student, I know I have a high probability of getting jobs easily with or without attractive pay but I'm not planning to sit with just my certificate and license . I'm learning and even planning to learn more skills so within and even outside Nigeria I'll have other skills I can survive with asides being a nurse.

Fool
Both male and female ain't shit.
They should both get married, cheats should marry themselves.