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crackerspub:
hahahaha i swear woman matter worse pass HIV


There is no smoke without fire



Just don't put your mind on women because no easy way to death



Its left for her to cheat or not to cheat



A faithful wife will always be faithful no matter what



there is no smoke without fire, just focus on the kids not on the woman hahahaha

eitsei:
your opinion should not be what will cause a separation between a husband and his wife

eitsei:
of she has the right to divorce and it's not hard to understand but you don't encourage things like this, in fact Allah's rahmah will not be on anyone who partake in separation of two lovers . Divorce is not a good thing if she thinks she won't be happy seeing her husband with another wife, she divorces him because of that what is then the assurance that she will be happy after the divorce
I want you to remember this saying of Allah

" there is that one thing that you dislike which is in fact is good for you "

eitsei:
if there were jealous did they intend to divorce their husbands simply because they married another wives?

eitsei:
it's permitted by Allah and if one can fulfill the conditions then why are you against it?
Remember the word of Allah that says

" why are you against what Allah has made permissible for you "

Alennsar:
is it haram?

Alennsar:
I know but y I mention piety is because it's remind you of your maker and you need to admit dat all Allah's command cant be in our favour but we av to obey.

Alennsar:
hahahahaha u are very funny. but what do you expect uhm? should a woman behave like man? woman's are known for jealousy except those who understand d Deen and fear Allah . but to say d truth is not easy.

Fourwinds:
y are women dis stupid...he raped ur daughter., u didn't speak out now d foolish and useless man has aggravated things by cuuting off ur son's pen..is


kai .!!! I'm just angered on what to do to d woman

searchng4love:
Cancer of the cervix loading... You of all people should know

DarkRebel101:
In other words, monogamy is built on the premise of jealousy. Is that it?



*No, I was referring more to your previous post.
I think it's based more on commitment, loyalty and love for just that person you choose.
The context of jealousy came in where you actually considered sleeping with other women besides your wife but thought twice about her doing the same thing, cos you know it'll hurt your feelings, ego, probably your esteem, etc.*




Yes, there must be rules. Rules like “no man must kill his fellow man”; but not arbitrary rules that robs one of his/her freewill. I know that in Islam it is nearly mandatory for the females to put on a hijab, at least for as long as they still live under their parent's roof. I see most of these elehas wear their hijabs grudgingly, waiting for the slightest form of freedom to present itself so as to free themselves from what I suppose they consider to be a cage. And this as you may know often happens when they gain admission into the higher institution, away from the watchful guidance of their parents.



* Lolz, yet to meet a niqabi that grudgingly wears the hijab except one being forced to use the niab by an 'oversabi' husband or elder one.
I have friends that willingly choose to, even having to deal with having their family and friends accept them that way. That's the more common scenario. They don't see it as a cage, people around them paint it so.
Like when I use my hijab, someone who has never used one would think it's nice to pity me cos of the heat, when he or she is the one bathed in sweat and I'm as dry as can be*




You said it yourself that your religion permits men to marry more than one wife. What you did not state is that while your religion permits this, it does not allow for a woman to marry more than one husband. Now, is this rule arbitrary or not? Is it sexist or not? Is it fair, or is just another subtle reaffirmation of passive-agressive patriachy?


*I won't delve too much into this. Looking at it, a lot of things isn't fair to women. *

Never mind that I'm pointing fingers only at Islam here. It actually is the case in all religions.

TINALETC3:
Nice one, A frnd of mine has dis body odour bt I don't even have d courage to tell her, sometimes, she tells me Dat pple sed she smells, den she wl ask me if it tru bt, no b 4 my mouth she go hear am

DarkRebel101:
Here comes the dilemma. I would say yes, but I cannot guarantee that I would not succumb to jealousy at some point. We humans have the tendency of being possessive. Even as kids, majority of us did not smile at the prospect of having to share our toys with other children.

For me not to get jealous then I probably would not venture into the relationship wearing my heart on my sleeves. That way I would be free of the emotional yoke that is naturally a concomicant of many romantic relationships. For as long as the emotional course remains unchartered our arrangement would purely be of the sexual variety. In theory, I think I could live with that.








* That's what I'm getting at. I agree with you.
Jealousy is a strong emotion, it will surely come in at a point. Some can't stand their best friends being close to some other, let alone a lover.

I know I won't love as much a man that cheats on me. My religion allows polygamy but the day my husband tells me of his intention to get another, whatever feelings I have for him will greatly reduce if not disappear , that's the only way I can cope, by not caring. *








Yes! Exactly! And therein lies my major problem with religion – with Islam and Christianity taking the driver seat in that regard.

DarkRebel101:
Lol.

What is cheating, though? Who invented the concept of monogamy? Who conjured up the rule that states that Mr. A's pênis belongs only in Mrs. A's vagîna as long as they are married to each other? Doesn't it chime a tad cruel and selfish that I can be allowed to bring joy to my wife but cannot be allowed to spread that same gospel of love and happiness to other women?

The way I see it, it's is like we are asking people to rebel against nature; to oppose biology. When did it all begin? --- the institution of marriage that is. And how viable is it in this age?

I've been doing a lot of thinking these days and I've realised that nothing is in fact real, that nothing makes sense, that [most] things we deem appropriate are usually just one gigantic, well-embellished farce which we've invented to inject some measure of graspable simplicity in our otherwise complex, shambolic existence.

BoboYekini:

@op, I concur. I long for the good old days where women only spoke when spoken to, and had to eat their meals in the kitchen with the children.
I actually mean this.

yuiop:
Asalam alaekum!!!!