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Acidosis:
It's not His wish for anyone to suffer for eternity. It's a personal decision. Same way, God won't physically come down to rescue a man that decides to commit suicide. I believe that life is full of options. The choice to obey human laws and live, or default and be jailed or killed. If mere men legally take the life of another, why can't Satan? Btw, God won't send anyone to hell, Satan will.

To be honest, if I were God, I would raise a higher standard like: Join a cult or a terrorist organization and get burnt instantly. Why wait for hell fire to punish terrorists, rap*st*, killers, etc. It takes a very meek and patient being to give everyone a chance, don't you think?

If God is almighty and all-knowing why will he allow Satan to lead people, HIS CHILDREN, to doom and eternal suffering?

If I can save my child, I will. Why won't God?

Let me guess. The said wife did not have the financial means to leave the husband and look after her kids because there are no laws protecting mothers and kids. And some people on this forum will be babbling something about fourth wave feminism. In Nigeria!

camri:
As what if I may ask

As an even better and happier version of myself.

I want to evolve.

What about you?

I can understand she wants to quit. I can't blame any woman who is unable to forgive this.

Let them decide on how their kids will be taken care of after the separation. Their well-being is of paramount importance. I hope their parents can handle this maturely.

I wish your sister strength and wisdom.

Acidosis:
I think it's easier to explain eternal hell fire than the principle of reincarnation.

Is it?

I can't wrap around my head a cruel God who creates human beings in his image and as a punishment wants them to suffer for eternity. I can't wrap around my head around so much cruelty.

AlphaSoul:
This is the reason why a significant number of people have left Christianity for e.g., because the pastors or priests could not answer their questions about the
near-death experiences they
had.

This is why many left and became
adherants of Eckankar, Buddhism, Taoism, Grail Movement, etc, which all clearly teach about karma, reincarnation, spiritual
responsibility, and discipline,
etc.

They had out-grown the dogmatic teachings of their former orthodox faiths. Of course it's not an accident that people are born into specific families and religions. This is what they have earned for themselves in this lifetime. It is not all Souls that
reincarnate because they have
learned the spiritual lessons that
they need to learn. The FACT is that
there's nothing like the "eternal
hell fire," and "lake of sulphur, fire
and brimstone." The doctrine is
part of the medieval era "fear factor" that the male-dominated priesthood have used to dominate
and suppress people over the
centuries.

Cc: Intheclo.udysky, Ha.thor5

Looks like you adhere to Buddhism.

theForth:
Why does human population keep increasing?

where do the new souls come from

Don't know. Maybe from God.

camri:
looks like you'd love to come back Hathor

Why not?

Acidosis:
I found this creepy thread online There's a lot science don't understand.

I don't think it's creepy. It's fascinating.

I definitely believe in reincarnation. It makes much more sense to me than the narrative that a person has one life to live and if they mess up they find themselves in eternal hell fire.

ptoall1000:
E don cold

How is it outside of the oda room? Are you nice to each other? Do you gist and joke? Do you enjoy spending time together? Are you affectionate and caring? Do you have meals together?

The reason why I am asking is because a wise person once told me that the pre-intimacy begins long before you actually think it begins. If you like your partner and you are gentle and affectionate and caring outside the bedroom, you will desire and enjoy the person in the bedroom too.

It doesn't always have to be the bedroom though.

Why do you need to spike it? Is it boring?

Kobojunkie:
Is another husband what she needs right now?

Is she better off than those who have no husband, no STDs and a mighty dose of peace of mind?

I don't know why people think that everyone must be married or that a bad marriage is better than no marriage.

In your case even 1 day is not too soon.

How can the best man have numerous girlfriends when he hangs out with the husband every day? I was suspecting them to be gay until I came to this part of the story. This or your friend is exaggerating.

Whatever you decide to do, don't allow the relationship with him affect your business.

I can't believe what I am reading here.

Vision101:
@Hathor5

If you think that baby mama brings no drama you are in it for a BIG surprise.

And before you ask which is better for the man, ask which is better for the children.

If you don't ask this question first, you are not fit to be a father.


@me
God bless you for this wonderful comment. I will add that when he gets involved in any major sickness, challenge and old age, that's when he will understand that baby mama nobi marriage.

I agree. Having a strong family support system is priceless.

seyi360:
Life is far from perfect and I surely can't die because I want my kids to live in a "perfect" environment.
Besides, that "ideal" atmosphere is a myth.
Giving my best to my kids is my priority with or without a woman.

And yet you are asking us which is the best for the man and not the kids.

I wish you the best with whatever choice you make.

seyi360:
The ideal scenario you're pushing is no longer the barometer by which good fathers or children are rated.

A child can grow under any circumstance and turn out well in life and because life doesn't give people choices of what environment to grow, it shouldn't matter the environment we find ourselves. What matters is what we make of it.

And there are no poor choices in this matter, it's a matter of perspectives.

You still can't postulate who should or shouldn't be a father. I know you're not suggesting that attempting to raise a kid as a man makes him unfit to be a father.

You have a choice to get married or not. And I have no problem if you choose not to. All I am saying is that when children are involved, it's no longer only about you.

seyi360:
No need to overrate the marital institution

It's not about the institution.

Ask yourself:

Would I rather grow up with my mother and father loving each other and living under one roof?

Or would I rather grow up with my parents separated not being with one of them on a daily basis?

There are kids raised by single parents who are better of those raised by both

Never said anything else.

Shit happens in life, a married person today can become single tomorrow for many reasons

There is a HUGE difference between shit happening and making poor choices.

Lastly, don't be hasty to conclude that a man is not fit to be a father.

Someone who asks what is better for him without even considering the kids' interest in all of it is not fit to be a father. I stand by it.

If you think that baby mama brings no drama you are in it for a BIG surprise.

And before you ask which is better for the man, ask which is better for the children.

If you don't ask this question first, you are not fit to be a father.

24kmagic:
Why am I not moved?


Give those Afghan women all the liberty they want and in the next ten years, that country will be devoid of any good morals like the west.

The other day, Demi Lovato came out to say she's non binary. What the heck is that?

Each time I see what our girls do in the name of civilization, I can't help but thank goodness for Islam.

Morality is no longer preached even in the church, only giving, giving and giving.

Whenever I watch music videos and see some of the results of freedom for women, again, I'll just thank goodness for Islam

I believe women should be educated but anything to clip their wings is welcomed.

Nonsense

Look who is talking about the West.

As if your country men and your country know any morals.

All you know is to police women but then you will kill, rape, do rituals and be no. 1 in corruption.

Nonsense!

It has happened to me and at least one of my friends too. Some men feel attracted to pregnant women. Those who don't make an effort to hide get this look from me.

Can jump grade B
Enjoys outdoor play grade B
A grade for coloring too

You married your ancestor for money. What is there to be proud of?

There are many reasons for the attack, let me state the few that come to my mind first:

1. For men: They don't want to give up their position of power and privilege.

2. For ladies: They were raised/brainwashed to accept very low standards for themselves.

Better days are coming.

Congratulations!

abidem4real:
If you are a man and you know you don't have tendency of being with another woman besides your woman, then something is definitely not right with you.

Because you say so?

Low moral standards. Lack of integrity. Weakness.

sapientia:
Who told you black lives don't matter before?

Large movements for blacks

That's racism

Every life matter.

Blacks kill blacks daily

This is the dumbest statement I have heard in this century along with the statement 'I don't see color/gender' bla bla bla.

Yeah, every life matters but some folks think that black lives matter less. Whites don't have this problem. This is why it is must be emphasized that BLACK LIVES MATTER too.

And context matters too.