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Kay25:
12 years of age

Kay25:
I will like to know other means of discipline a child apart from using cane and kneeling down that is effective..

Klass99:
Okay thanks, your summary is appreciated.

I'm good, just exhausted and edgy today, from inadequate sleep.

Klass99:
So, after your post I went back to read it. The doctor did say somewhere that family planning doesn't reduce population it only slows it down.

Ayam even getting confused sef. . How have you been?

Klass99:
Lol , I didn't read the original post myself I just responded to the topic without reading the entire post.

Klass99:
The whole point of family planning, is to have a number of kids, parents can take care of, without losing themselves in the process - my opinion.

I'm not sure it was ever about population control, but it ought to help with an explosive population, yet the good doctor says it doesn't even help with that.

Family planning = The fewer kids, the better for your mental, physical, spiritual and financial health as a parent.

hopefulLandlord:
“Asking, "If there is no God, what is the purpose of life?" is like asking, "If there is no master , whose slave will I be?" If your purpose of life is to submit as a slave, then your meaning comes from flattering the ego of a person whom who should detest.”

Dan Baker

I'd assume he has all these locked down


They have to care because belief in god affects everything or everything is organised around it.


Imagine a world in which everywhere you turned, a belief in a literal Santa Claus was staring back at you. national Pledge “So help me santa” Imagine if when you went to a courtroom to testify, you had to put your hand on a copy of the book, “‘Twas the Night Before Christmas,” and say “So help me Santa” at the end of your oath. Imagine that town meetings all across the country started with the singing of the song “Here Comes Santa Claus” or “Santa Claus is Coming to Town.”

Imagine that everyone you know insists that you go to services at least once a week during which you write letters to Santa, and if you don’t, they tell you there’s something wrong with you. Imagine if the first thing that anyone asks you in a social setting is not about what you do for a living or some other question, but, “What have you written to Santa about lately?”

Imagine if you couldn’t go to a gym, or a coffee shop, without Christmas music being played in the background year ’round. Imagine if you couldn’t get your hair done, or go shopping, or go to a doctor’s office without having Christmas music playing, whether it’s Christmas time or not. Imagine if you tried to complain about it, or suggest that maybe some other music should be played, and people told you that you’re a terrible person with no morals for saying such a thing.

Imagine if friends and family shunned you because you had the audacity to say that Santa Claus isn’t real, that he doesn’t bring presents to children around the world at Christmas, and that to believe so is silly with no evidence to support that belief. Imagine parents of students at the school in which you are a faculty member saying that the fact you don’t believe in Santa frightens them, and that they don’t want their kids in your class.

Imagine everyone around you telling you that if you don’t believe in Santa Claus, you will spend all of eternity being punished by being submerged under the ice at the north pole, and poked by Santa’s elves with sticks.

Imagine everyone telling you to just shut up about the fact that you don’t believe in Santa, and to just go along with all of the nonsense, because to everyone else, Santa Claus is absolutely, positively real, and you can’t tell them anything different, and since the majority of society believes in Santa, you must follow what they do.

If you think this all sounds ridiculous or farfetched, this is exactly what it’s like living in Nigeria for people who aren’t theists. This is why we keep engaging in discussions about God. It’s because this idea—which other people seem to think isn’t any of our business—is all up in our business every day of our lives. That makes it our business.

Kagd10:
They need to be disciplined. It's simple. Even the same Oyinbo don't tolerate unruly behaviour like we do in Africa country.

Kagd10:
The olden days children are far better than the woke children we have today.

Kagd10:
It's not about beating but discipline. I can argue that the olden days children are far better than today's children tho. Anyway, different parents have different methods of disciplining their children. Whatever method such parent has employed, he should do it with love. But yes, discipline should be employed and shouldn't be overlooked.

Cc: Mu.fasalion hat.hor5

Kagd10:
The Oyinbo children behave well because of their functioning environment and possibly their genetic traits. Most Oyinbo have always been selfless and humble even as kids, hence their good leaders and selfless constitution. The environment is conducive too, thereby moulding the new generation.

Whereas we blacks don't have functioning environment to begin with. What we can have is our home. It's either we do the training of our kids in our home or allow the environment to train your kids. You pick one.

ThothHermes:
Not early enough.

akinade28:
In addition, when they separate from their parents and siblings and refuse to take care of them, it is the wife.
Men have been blaming women for their mistakes since the time of Adam, they prefer to shift blame than take responsibility for their actions. It is unfortunate that this is embedded in our culture and society. "A good child is because of the father, a bad child is because of the mother". In homes, women are blamed for men's bad decisions as leaders in the home. It is just quite unfortunate.
Today, before I came across this thread I was thinking about the constant female bashing and yabbing we see here on nairaland. Sometimes I wonder is it that men derive some kind of pleasure in bashing, blaming and belittling women?

Klass99:
In retrospect it's amusing and you've got good vibes/energy, so I know it was coming from a good/playful place, not a hateful one.

Klass99:
Lol , you cracked me up!

You forgot to add family section resident demon and children hater.

Klass99:
So, after 25 pages of this thread I am mostly curious about two things;

1. What constitutes disrespect to or for you men? You can share with real life examples of times you have felt disrespected by your woman.

2. Apart from your kids, what would make you remain in a marriage with your wife? It seems a lot of couples (both male & female) opt to remain in marriages for the sake of the kids.

If you don't mind sharing as a man please share, I want to read and learn. Even though I have a reasonably good idea about question one in particular, a male perspective won't hurt.

Klass99:
Lol wannabe feminist, how are you?

Klass99:


If there's anything I have learnt about nairalanders is that, they will not click on a link which takes them outside of this site to any blog, for any news/gist. Same thing applies to most YouTube videos.

If you want comments you can copy and paste on your blog/site, you are better off posting your full article here.

cococandy:
100 %

That’s every single one of us that was raised with cane and beatings. It doesn’t teach you to be a good person. After you grow up, you have to retrain yourself to act properly for the sake of itself not just to avoid getting punished.

Mindlog:
What has Nigeria benefitted from the beatings majority of Nigerians received during their childhood...... the beatings like drums, like criminals.....attempted murder?

Has the beatings made majority of Nigerians trustworthy in personal life and business? Has it infused ethical thinking in us?

With the level of dysfunctionalities in many families, crime rate and insecurity.... beatings has not worked for Nigeria!

MufasaLion:
I hope many people get to realize that

Mindlog:
I will have clients when I eventually decide to set up practice in Nigeria!

Beatings do not reform as intended but rather represses to generate blind submission and in most times, only for it to resurface when no longer under the control of the authoritarian figure.

MufasaLion:
Some Nigerians are just dumb! Beating doesn't change anything just like putting hardened criminals in the box doesn't change anything. It toughens 'em more, but that doesn't mean criminals shouldn't be jailed.

However, this little child's tantrums/anger can be controlled without beating.

ThothHermes:
Na talk be this one? This is how people grow to become nuisance to society.

Proverbs 22:15
Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of correction will drive it far from him.

MufasaLion:
So beating is the best option? The way y'all reason is just myopic.

descarado:
Village life na the best o.

I naturally don't like the city.

If you live outside naija, you will become master in DIY.
Nigerians don't even try. If not for diasporeans that come out with cooking alternatives etc we will still be stuck preparing dishes our ancestors started with. Our comfort zone is something else. We are not adventurous. And this has affected all facets of our lives. We will rather buy spagetti from the market than prepare spag ourselves or make common bread.

We only know how to buy dry fish but we are blessed with the environment to smoke our dry fish ourselves. When madam is busy being madam that will relegate duties to housegirl and oga will be like ' it's unafrican for a man to enter the kitchen'.
Tor.

And the world has left us behind.

Ishilove:
No fact check. One person posts and the rest follow like sheep

Ishilove:
Oya come and push me.

Youngpo413:
Lol,why purse?

LilMissFavvy:
If man a man wishes to practice polygamy, let him tell his woman explicitly during courtship. Some ladies accept polygamy if a man is rich, so that they can make a fortune. How can a man bring a new wife to his home and expect peace? It's impossible.

Toks2008:
And when they decide to cheat, they will have justifiable reasons.

One thing I know is that 90% of ladies will not mind to be a side dish or a baby mama to a billionaire but these same ladies will want to box a struggling guy into the facade of me and my husband alone.

As I wrote earlier, Women are very very hypocritical and crafty. Most of the ladies ranting about me and my husband has lost count of guys who have slept with them and many of them have dated married men before and worse still many will prefer to date a married man but will turn the same man down if he decides to marry them.

Only a simpleton lives his life by the dictates of a lady.

pocohantas:
You are right. The day a tinted car showed up, I sent my location to everybody.