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LutanFyah:
Yes, HIS house.

No man will house a WHORRE in the name of marriage. The BITCH will do her prostitution outside HIS house and there's nothing you can do about it.

Sebastine1994:
Muslim girls have their Toto sewed until the night of marriage.

they leave just one small hole for urine to pass. the husband will be the first to penetrate her and they have a white cloth stained with blood to prove her virginity.

They cut the clitoris but they assure you that it would regrow, it will be even longer in future, so as to reduce tempation.

let us copy this style. or just avoid this bride price shit.





Marriage is now old school.

I don't want to get married, these days you can get children,sex etc without getting married.

The women of today are nothing to write home about.

danilmo:
Till they can properly care for themselves kwa

What's ur source fess.. abi which kind amulumala rhyme is this

I Have never encountered girls who have no hymen, it's part of there anatomical structure except there is any congenital anomaly( Agenesis).. and that is term not normal.

U would have sounded better if u tell us other ways hymen dislodge aside penetration...

DoingBetter:
To say his comment is disturbing is quite the understatement. His mind never went to the pain such a child must feel, not even the trauma such that some develop severe issues later on. I cringe at some of the comments made by men on this site, men who are actual human beings and I wonder what system of upbringing or education failed them. To be alive at a time when every knowledge is just a click away and then willfully remain ignorant must be quite tasking indeed. I’m worried about the breed of men Nigerian ladies are exposed to and the women who will marry such men in future. Thankfully, this is a case of empty drums making the loudest noise. The men I’ve met are actually sensible and make better choices.

cococandy:
They have absolutely no clue what’s inappropriate and disgusting.

fineboynl:
you are a fool

fineboynl:
What I find difficult to understand is how would a mother of 7-9 years old girl who got disvirgin by a adults men not know or find out?

The thing is that once a kid of that age test sex. It's everyday nacking for them as it will be sweeting them.

fineboynl:
that's the age most girls start having sex. 9,10,11,12 and 13. All the 30 to 35 years unmarried girls you see around if they open up to you, you would be shock as there is nothing left there again. The worst part is because they started too early they would be having sex like every day because they control it at such age before they develop sense everything has finished. Reasons most men prefer to marry girls of 20 to 22.

Mindlog:
The earlier, the better and should not feel shame seeking professional help.

Mood11:
Please don't turn my thread into a chess club.

Pocohantas and Hathor5

Create a WhatsApp group for that.

Mindlog:
Low energy, need to be a recluse and others he shared reflects affective disorders which bipolar and depression falls under.

He should seek out a Clinical Psychologist for interviews and vpsychological assessment, who would determine the most suitable tools for the assessment and scoring in order to reach a definitive diagnosis and come up with an appropriate treatment plan.

Just as we have depression, we also have clinical depression which is a more severe form.

pocohantas:
Lmao! I hear that a lot. A teacher. When I was in Primary school, my parents put us in a chess club.

pocohantas:
Yes I do. Though I am quite rusty now. Kinda hard seeing people that are very interested around me.

pocohantas:
Just me, him and two witnesses at a Registry.

After that we go home and play chess.

Next day we carry on like nothing happened.

pocohantas:
My expertise nko?

Dayotheeone:
So you have come to massage your ego in public
Kukuma bring out your schlong and jerk off in front of us na ... rarada oshi

Klass99:
Enjoy , I'm going back to my documentary Deadly Secrets.

It's about a man married thrice who killed all 3 of his wives - you go fear men nah!

Bola146:
Marriage I don't know why I'm always shocked when I see this word. May we never be victim of bad spouse. If you marry the wrong person, na the end be that Lord, I don't pray for a bad man as husband please

Klass99:
@ Hathor, Ladyhippo and Undercover you people have started o!

Abeg make all of us rest, let others contribute to the topic.

TheUndercover:
Well for the sake of people that's gonna read up this thread and probably learn a thing or two. I will expatiate further.

Being hypergamous isn't just only about money or how rich one is. Being hypergamous can be psychological. A woman has to believe or perceive a man is better than her in one way or the other to be attracted to him. So the fact that a woman dates a man poorer than her or less famous than her doesn't mean she isn't hypergamous, he has something else going on either physically, socially or psychologically that makes her believe he is superior. If this wasn't the case, she wouldn't be with him.

Ladyhippolyta88:
Boring sex is the excuse some of them use to go outside the funny thing is that some of them are not that good and cannot explore different styles.When they do it everyday without restraint and spice why won't they get tired when they refuse to evolve and change.

The annoying thing is the men complaining of boring sex are not that good and since they have money to offer the side chickens will indulge them and they will work extra mile to do the do sex which they can't give their wives at home but will come and be shouting boring sex.Chai,women have suffered

TheUndercover:
LOL, when a woman fails to provide counter logical arguments, instead of coming to a conclusion, or agreeing to disagree, the next thing they would rather do is to resort to insult or shaming tactics. I didn't expect more. They just proved one of many truths altogether. Enjoy!

Rule 1: Never present logical proof to emotional beings.

MrBrownJay1:
why dont you ask her?! you dream about her everyday, and now that you have a chance to talk to her again, you come here with stories!!!

TheUndercover:
Smiles, if you're a woman, I understand where this argument will already lead to. Women can't stomach the thought of sharing their man with other women.

Men are polygynous, women are hypergamous. It's the way it has always been. There are no two ways about it. LOL!

TheUndercover:
@Hat.hor5

If sex doesn't become boring amongst partners, there won't be cases of broken marriages due to cheating. A man might have an uncontrollable erection for a third party, while for his wife, it's a totally different story and vice versa.

Men are not programmed to stay with a particular woman for a life time. If a man is rich or have the means, he will either acquire more wives or have side chics. Men who stayed with a particular woman for a lifetime in most cases, it's either he doesn't have the means, or afraid of what the society or family would say. This is why the Qur'an (4v3) and Bible (Exodus 21v10) provided men with an opportunity to marry more than one wife.

Klass99:
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Make I address the points I get energy for

Some of us want marriage for the sex and companionship only, we are not interested in building a strong family foundation for ourselves or society, not interested in keeping the family line going or passing on our possessed power to the next generation. I am sure the next generation is capable of creating their own wealth and power.

Are you saying those reasons (sex & companionship) are not valid or good enough for people to marry or sustain a marriage? And the only good or valid reasons to marry is to build a strong family foundation?

My personal ideology of marriage is two adults taking good care of each other, while maintaining their individuality, living out the purpose they were created for and combining forces as a couple to do good in their world, community etc.

I'm not sure what went wrong with this generation as you put it, but people evolve and some of this generation (like me) is realizing that marriage doesn't have to be about strong family foundations, for it to make sense, be good or enjoyable.

So let's say for instance, we really like each other, we enjoy each other's company, we are able to uplift and bring out the best each other, fight and still make up, and as believers we don't want to continue fornicating upandan, is it wrong to get married?

Things may wane (decrease in vigour) like you said, the sex, love etc But, you seem to think if it's not about strong family foundations then it's not worth it at all. You do realize that couples with kids and this whole idea of a strong family foundation gets ruined when couples divorce.

Family foundations, keeping the family line going, passing on possessed power, are not the sole reasons why a marriage will be good or why it will last till death do us part. People who went in with these good intentions still abandoned ship along the way for ABC or XYZ reasons.

PS I don't think companionship wanes though, if it did, friendships from childhood, secondary school wouldn't last for as long as they have. And oh yes, the sex may get boring, become less frequent but nothing beats the companionship.

Sorry, this was longer than I intended but it was the only way I could articulate my thoughts on the matter.

Pecoleee345:
Why does the society see men hitting women as bad thing but women cursing and abusive as normal.

A woman who curses and abuses you will still have the nerve to ask you for money.

Am not a perfect man..... I have my flaws but I am careful with words because I know what bad words can do to people.

Should a man be forced to stay with a woman who curses, abuses and threatens to get him arrested if he touch her despite you have never lay a finger on her in 3yrs of marriage.

People are telling me she is doing it due to anger that she doesn't mean it......am told to avoid making her angry and is that possible.
She gets me angry most times but I just leave the house and go cool off...
I have tried to teach her the act of keeping quiet in moment of anger but she never learns

She is permitted to rain curses and abuses on me because she is a woman and am expected not to react because that's how most women behave.

At this junction have made up my mind to divorce her.....I never wished for this but I can't take this ...... many people see this character of most women as normal (am told there power is in the mouth) but I can't.

Lastly men please avoid women raised by single mother they come with venom and naturally demage psychological...they will take revenge on you for their father's sins.

Ladyhippolyta88:
I pity anyone who comes on nairaland to solicit advice from immature small boys.

Instead of bringing solutions they are bashing the OP and asking him why he married a single mother as if single mothers are not human beings.

Idiots