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ghidhehorn:
Hi guys, trust you're doing well. Pls I need ur advice. My 18 months old son is always proving stubborn in recent weeks.

1. When he's angry only God can pet him
2. Now he selects the clothes he wishes to wear(Latest trend) same as food
3. He can cry for Africa if all he wanted are not provided or obeyed. In short he's a chairman
Just to mention few...

Wanna ask if it's normal or there's a way to correct him.

pansophist:
Read my response to Tutu82.

Furthermore, for better for worse is not biblical. There are religious, cultural, legal and ethical conditions for divorce. So you'll expect a man/woman to stay with a serial cheater or/and a violent partner because of "for better for worse"? Don't do that.

Your life is more important than marriage. And if a partner feel secured that you should accept their inhumanity under "for better for worse", then that should be more reason why you should dump them and move on. Enjoy marriage, don't endure it.

pansophist:
Instant divorce.

Women's madness is limited when she knows well that you won't tolerate, and even leave if she continues. Lots of men really do not value their contribution in a marriage, hence a woman is assured that he will stay even if she act like a total b!tch. Nothing, I mean nothing puts a woman in check when she knows well that her man has options and will leave when she starts being mad.

Op, you did well. Your peace of mind is better should be above all things. If she can't carry her own weight (by keeping her emotions in check and just be a good person), then you must not carry it for her. Infact you insult yourself if you do.

Toks2008:
If you have been following this thread as you should you will agree that your last paragraph is lame.

You are never immune from std as long as you will ever sleep with another man without protection.

Now let me ask you?

Why get high BP over a cheating man when Polygamy is not a sin and a man can decide to marry as many ladies as he wishes? Can't you see that you are fighting a lost battle?

On this note I will drop my mic. I wish you all the best

TarOrfeeek:
My current GF is from a single mother home.

Immediately I finished reading this topic. I will break up with her mentally.

Toks2008:
If our mothers moved out of their matrimonial homes cos their husbands cheat then many of us won't be in existence today

As I wrote, your choice remains your choice...

For me I will rather refer my daughters to this thread I created sometime ago if they truly want a happy marital life.
https://www.nairaland.com/4065809/10-realistic-steps-lady-should

There is more to life than jumping from one dk to another in the name of searching for a faithful man.

Cheers.

Ishilove:
100%

Toks2008:
There is nothing to distant from cos it is just an opinion. Anybody who wants to make contribution should focus on the subject matter and not the writer... That is what sound minds do.

Was I not the same person who also wrote "Before you divorce your adulterous wife"... https://www.nairaland.com/2560505/before-divorce-adulterous-wife

Shall we say I'm also a female writing about my personal life?

I'm a freelance writer and I write realistic stuffs that has no correlation with my life or who I am and whatever belief I have does not change reality.

I'm so GOD fearing and sexually decent so much that I am totally against adultery but does that mean married men don't commit adultery at will? Does that mean I will now start preaching to men not to do it? When despite all the sermons and scriptures against it men still do it.

So rather than start wasting my energy writing against it, I prefer to be realistic about it and this is the problem with many ladies... They refuse to embrace reality but have chosen to wallow in self deceit... They always want to hear what they love to hear, they enmesh themselves in the deciet of me and my husband alone... The foolishness of leaving an adulterous hubby thinking there is one faithful man out there for them...

Ishilove:
Nnmaka why? All of us will chop the blows together While chopping the blow, I will make sure my mouth is running like typewriter because after the blows, the person administering the blows is finished (if we survive it sha)

Toks2008:
Don't you think it is very lame attributing my write up to my personal life?

Where in the write up did I ever write about me having issues with my home or any woman?

Incase you don't know, it is a sign of low IQ for anyone to juxtapose a writeup to the life of the writer except the writer specifically state that he or she is writing about a personal life... More like attributing a movie to the life of the scriptwriter...

Please grow up.

cococandy:
That’s so very true. However that’s how I feel in this moment. I hope to never have to find out for real.

Newboss:
You don't know what you are talking about. In Nigeria, all you have to do is to have toto and men pay you. Guess what? That's patriarchy!

Riding dick for money. That's patriarchy.

Getting pitied when you fight with a man. That's patriarchy.

"Don't raise your hand on a woman", that's patriarchy.

You don't need a job, just get him to marry you and you get to sit all day at home gossiping and watching movies. That's patriarchy.

Whip alert from your boyfriend/husband! That's patriarchy

If you cannot educate yourself, the least you can do is to think. Fûcking think!

DoggoneDogg:
I should have put the "gender equality" I meant in quote. My bad.

Cuz as far as I'm concerned, they've always been equal. Each with its own distinct advantages/disadvantages.

DoggoneDogg:
Lol
Gender equality doesn't favour women but they don't know it.

yomi007k:
Shey "22 Successful Children" or "Just 22 Children"?


There is a difference.

cococandy:
I would take blows for someone I know to be innocent even if I didn’t love them. If it’s someone I actually love, you’ll kill both of us there, no ifs and buts.

I can’t imagine the fear she must have felt knowing they could kill him for something he didn’t do.
I hate our society . Ugh

This is why I’m always ranting on jungle justice threads. Disgusting. Absolutely depraved behavior from “humans”.

Mstick:
Wow it's alright! I've read someone's marriage criteria on nairaland and he wants a woman that knows how to use grinding stone, so you marrying from a family that the brother runs as fast as Hussein bolt and she withstands blows like Mike Tyson isn't such a bad reason to marry.

Hopefully the genes come to play in your kids and in the near future Olympic runners and boxing medalists will spring forth from your loins.

Klass99:
Lol , you've got a mouth on you.

I've mostly met men who were real about their achievements, no faking it, no exaggerations and no pretence either.

Toks2008:
Because I enjoy the secrecy and the Cluelessness of pumalistic nairalanders.

Sometimes I even make some posts to confuse them more.

LilMissFavvy:
It was in one of his threads that someone exposed him as a divorcee, I can't remember the exact thread. The person said his wife divorced him. He dosent seem to learn. He probably will continue to marry, and divorce because he has decided to trade his family/marital happiness, to skirts outside. His type do not respect marital vows.

Toks2008:
You dey find husband?

Cos I no understand the basis for the question...

Toks2008:
Sis or bro please believe what you want if that will make you sleep at night.

I have stated my candid opinion based on real life situations.

Ladies rant about contracting std as if they will never make love with another man without a condom who is not immune to sleeping with another lady without a condom hence stands the chance of infecting the same lady who ran out of her marriage cos her husband cheated on her.

You talked about ladies leaving their hubbies to be with a better person..

Please define your better person in the context of this discussion...

Ladies are the biggest hypocrites especially African ladies who will not mind to be a side dish or 10th wife of a billionaire yet will cry like a wailing banchee if their struggling or not well to do husband cheats on them.. Bunch of confused selfish shallow minded species.

Sis I am way above 4decades in life I don't know your age but it will be in your best interest to put your raging emotions in check and face reality...

ONLY A FOOLISH WOMAN LEAVES HER MARRIAGE COS HER HUSBAND CHEATS... I could interpret this in many languages if needs be.

The worst part is that these shameless ladies who wail cos their husband cheats on them had also dated a married man before or probably enjoyed a randy life as unmarried lady but they suddenly think they have the audacity to control a man's sexuality...

I don't blame them but the simpletons of men who cheat on their wives until she finds out and makes a big deal of it.

A real man will tell his wife he is getting another wife not because he does not live her but he wants to for the fun of it.

Let her pack out if she likes and starts looking for a guy that will covenant his dck to only her for the rest of his life.

Please let me just stop here. Continue fooling yourself until you realize too late.

Cheers and happy Sunday.

iLegendd:
I know you're in a long distance relationship. Sorry.

iLegendd:
In summary, you're a weak man. If you see how scared beautiful and rich women get in thwarting my decision, you'll think I'm God or a gang leader.

How did I attain that status? It's by having principles early on and making the principle favorable for everyone without giving them room to thwart it or making myself appear rigid.

Even my parents respect my decisions let alone a woman from another womb. Most men of nowadays have been weakened by love and feminism.

I guess those of us that don't fall in love are the only ones with our brains intact.

Who in his right mind does long distance relationship? The moment the distance is far, remove the person as your girlfriend or boyfriend but friends-with-benefit.

light9393:
Guys are coming to terms with the idea that feminism has its benefits. I enjoy sex with a feminist in a noncommittal relationship. Mrs. Independent is sexy and smart. But you see, she is "smart in a shallow way". But that's how far it goes. I can't plan a future with her. May the gods forbid that.

Ps: You see that phrase in quote, if you decipher it, you understand that there exist no real depth in the quality of thought of an average feminist.

heniford2:
Ah!! This got you pissed off i like the vaxation is a nice mood for awesome sex believe me in this particular period making love to you will be heavenly but i guess u already know d truth so why can't we take dis hate between us and make memories

Ikwerelastborn:
Fact is that the game of feminism and irresponsibility from these female folks will grossly favour men,thats just the reality