Not exercising and gaining some weight

Now I see why divorce is on the rise

Suzette911:
Hello Everyone,
How is everyone doing. Looking for a bit of advise from people from Nigeria. First off I am Canadian(black)and I met this guy from Nigeria in september. He lives anf work in Canada. I am 35 with two kids. He says he is 38 with no kids.He came up to me and began talking to me, i was somewhat agitated because i really didnt plan on meeting someone. We exchanged numbers and I didn't think anything would develop out of this. He waited 2 days and tried to get in contact with me. I ignored him after a few messages. He eventually calls and I asked him so who are you supposedto be again. I knew he felt out of sorts but of course a lady has to play hard to get. I noticed how persistent he was and I decided to talk to him via texts and calls. Currently we have been on three dates and counting. I really seem to be enjoying this young man's company for some reason. He is very sweet , says the right things, treats me very well. It feels like I knew him for so long. I am very open and honest with him. I feel like I can call him whenever and he calls me whenever. We spend a lot of time on the phone. Honestly speaking we are kind of fast paced,we have made love once which we both wanted.I have a very deep liking to him and I am smitten by him. I can't say that I love him but it's getting there. I can't help it I am somewhat of a detective or PI if you want to call it that. I went snooping on his Facebook page and saw a lady with his same last name. I asked him if he was married. He struggled somewhat before he gave me an answer. He said it was his cousin and ever since we are just arguing. He is accusing me of other relations of which I am innocent of. We blew things so bad, we have been arguing for days. I genuinely care about him and I am stuck at this point because I honestly don't want to date anyone married but I dont want to walk away if he isn't. It's been so bad I think I am causing him to go grey because I am giving him an extremely hard time. He has invited me to spend time with him but I just can't go. I told him let's go to Nigeria,he said he will take me. I really want to go with him to see the place and experience his culture and meet his family

I don't know what to do. I feel stuck. I amso miserable I wonder why he wants me...what should I do.

you didn’t tell us if you snooped through the ladies Facebook page. Did she have pictures of both of them? Any kids? Does he have more than one picture of her on his page? I guess this can be little clues. Having the same surname isn’t enough evidence as I have male cousins with the same surname as me on my fb page.

crankedup:

I'm very certain if you see me one on one you won't be able to muster enough courage to call me that

the truth hurts, you were stupid to do that and i don’t care who you are and really don’t care to know. It’s either you leave her or stay, nothing anyone here can say to help your case.

biosilicon:


but you know that's what you are. better find one idiot you can deceive, or better still go the linda ikeji way.
silly woman just come online to start insulting your father. am i the cause?

ok am an evening newspaper, satisfied?

biosilicon:


product of a failed parental upbringing, thats probably why you have turned to an evening newspaper. i am sure it is your father that feels stupid for bringing you here. that is if you even know him.

read my post and read yours again, it’s easy to know who lacks proper parental upbringing, but I don’t blame you your parents are the average unexposed, illiterate and barbaric Nigerians with no emotional intelligence to properly raise their children, hence having a sick animal as a son they had to brutalize because he was soo dumb to even take corrections.

And next time come up with better insults than the usual “evening newspaper” it’s really getting old honey lol

Sorry to say you married a useless woman who hid the fact that she had such a deadly disease as HIV and she didn’t care about infecting you. The truth is she never loved you, she probably just married you because you were stupid enough not to go for HIV test before marriage.

biosilicon:


I dont know how old you are or if you have kids. But dont be a hypocrite. And stop acting like you were not beaten when you were growing up. She is the mother of the child and was provoked to discipline the kid. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Y'all should learn to mind your business especially those stupid hypocrite neighbours. That will do worse to their kids assuming they were in her shoes

seriously what can a small child of 5 years old do to “provoke” their parents to this extent?? So as old as you are a 5 year olds actions would push you to the wall to brutalizing them? Don’t you feel stupid for saying such am just speechless

This is soo true, my sister has type O blood group and it amazes me how mosquitoes rush her and she always gets malaria.

What’s the use of this silly question

I can’t live abroad for one simple reason, the western world truly depresses me I don’t know why, it just feels like am not meant to be there after a short period of time good luck to all those relocating.

Very possible, it’s no big deal. I have even gone longer than that and it wasn’t due to lack of male attention but how many guys would a girl have sex with before marriage? secondly no pregnancy or std scares so it is worth it .

GoTV:
Even though I'm a born again Christian, cheating is prevalent amongst we Christians because of the indecent ways we dress unlike our Muslim counterparts who are mostly covered and guided by the tenets of Islam.

undercover Muslim spotted, Christianity is going nowhere go and bomb yourself.

kay9:


So now it's the Nigerian men's fault? Smh..

Look, by all means fix whatever you wish on your head/hair, it's yours afterall. But while you're at it, grow the fcck up and stop blaming other people for your own decisions.

men indirectly affect the appearance of the women in their country, if women notice men gravitate towards very light skinned ladies then you get many women trying to be fair because they subconsciously feel being light is better, same thing for natural hair and dressing. Obviously there are men who don’t care, but a lot of men are superficial and move towards anything flashy.

Franklyine:

Watch and see how this same brother will brutalize any human being that touches her outside. But she should learn to respect her siblings not just her elder brother. She has grown to the extent she realized she has been rude.
Believe me same way people here in Nairaland responds to things are same way they respond in their daily activities.
Yesterday I met a 17 year old boy insulting his mom, I asked him to stop but he refused, I saw a broom laying around, I picked up the broom and hit him very well from behind. His mom said that's how he insults her.

well I’ve always hated beating and violence maybe because I’ve seen a case where a parent has sustained serious injury from trying to beat their child and I wondered if it was worth it. I guess every case is different.

Franklyine:

You said it all, when you Are Rude. He is trying to correct you. Try not to be rude and the hitting will stop.

so anytime someone does something wrong the best thing to do is to beat that person? Am sure he never tries that with people outside the house. He is not correcting them he is just protecting his ego and lacks self control, am sure if she were rude to outsiders he wouldn’t care.

In a home violence should never be encouraged, especially not a boy beating a girl, I wonder why parents would allow such.

The day Nigerian men stop going after girls with artificial hair and start appreciating our natural beauty then women would start going natural.

When a man of 30 is chasing a girl of 17 years what do you expect.

Offpoint:

11 years difference not bad? c'mon dude, max should be 5. anything above that should be considered abnormal.

my sentiments exactly.

Mcslize:


The age difference is not bad c'mon! You should know girls mature faster in body than guys. If the guy marry his age mate of 30-32, the girl will surely look like his aunty. Marry someone younger than you in age.

Go online and check out girls of 23-29 , they look way mature in body. Don't marry a woman that you will go out with and people will be asking you is this your aunty? That will be pretty embarrassing don't you think?

Go and see girls of 20 to 25 years old. They look like they are 30yrs. If they don't tell you, you won't know. Like me , I look younger in my age. If I tell some people how old I am they find it hard believing. And most importantly, I am not among those that like reducing their ages.

I wanted to do it back then by reducing my age but hell no, I decided to leave it like that already people say I look younger. So if someone like me go for a girl I am older than with 10yrs, you won't even know I am that old in age but gallant in body and look.

i really hate it when Nigerian men go on about not marrying a woman close to their age because the woman would look older or like his “aunty”, please is marriage all about physical looks or how people would see you outside? What happened to getting married because you love her personality, love each other and are friends? Being with someone closer to your age is the best because you relate like friends and it’s soo natural, when you get old you both age together and even depart this world around the same time.

simple250:
Hanger is their major tool


Ask Unilag hostel girls

my God, I cringed when I saw this.

Spirit husband loading.....

HardMirror:
she is also daft. I see...

grow up kiddo

HardMirror:
if you have never had a guy lavish money on you with the way guys are foolish with spending, then you need to check yourself.

Perhaps you are very ugly and un cultured

By the way. I dont live that kind of life any more and i dont give a damn if anyone calls me broke ass.

let me get this straight, you are telling guys not to spend unnecessarily on girls and now am a girl saying guys don’t spend lavishly on me and that now makes me ugly and uncultured Doesn’t that defeat the purpose of your right up?
I may be ugly and uncultured but you sure sound dumb and confused. No wonder the girls keep using you as a mugu.

Pls where are these guys that lavish money on girls?? I’ve never met one only read about them on this platform

id4sho:

All Southerners are bastards, street urchins and hooligans.

with your response you just proved him right.

My husband

Jman06:
You are wrong bro! If getting married at such young age is so bad for the girl like you make it appear, no girl of today would be willing to marry that early. But as I'm talking to you many girls that age are getting married or planning to. Forget the mob psychology thing. Why don't such girls follow the mob of ladies campaigning against early marriage these days Because they simply want to get married! And like I said before, it is not always just about trying to escape poverty like you imply, women are naturally marriage oriented! It is people of this generation that are trying hard to redefine who a woman ought to be.

So brother, let's not make it look like it is a taboo for a 37yrs old man to marry a 20yrs old lady. Provided the lady is not being forced against her will, they are good to go!

just go and marry a new born baby girl, paedophile

Brightgem:
I pray he does. Mscheeeewww!

you probably have psychological issues from being beaten by your dad as a child. Sorry dear it must hurt really bad.

It just feels weird and soo wrong seeing a father beating his daughter. I pray my future husband never lays a finger on our daughter.

Nothing, they brought me into this world and did their possible best for me. They made mistakes and so did I. I will always love them.

360great:
True talk my brother, come to my parish you will weep for the true essence of Christianity. All what they are interested is your money. The church don tire me o

then leave am sure your absense wouldn’t even be noticed.