₦airaland Forum

Ladikwa:
Is it true that women lose respect for men who love them and find them boring and easily manipulated

Davash222:
To kneel and beg a woman to be your responsibility is the height of foolishness!!!

TayehJiboluwa:
1) Your sister may be under some spiritual bondage probably a hex or spell, stand in the gap for her and break it.

2)It's a literal dream and it means you are moving forward, making progress or on your road to success. You are going to be using planes a lot later in life.

Andhominem:
Take heart my brother!
Don't mind the various lunatics attacking you.
You did the right thing!!

We are Africans and not oyinbos.

And the LORD has given us full dominion over all animals.

franchasng:
Being happy and friendly doesn't require much effort.

I am an introvert but I am always happy most of the time, I rarely get upset in real life and this trait I know has won me so many wonderful friends and business partners. I smile a lot because I am always happy.

I worry less about life issues because I know they sure must end one day. Don't let any issue you are going through in life determine your mood.

Whenever you feel depressed or worried that you don't have something you need, sit back and count the things you have that many people are praying for; there must be 1 or 2 or 3 things u have now that some people wish and pray to have.

If you are an unemployed graduate being depressed because u don't have a job after graduation, remember those that couldn't go to school because of poverty and those that couldn't graduate because of poor result and those that died in the cause of their study from illness, accident, etc

If you are depressed that u don't have a serious fiancé or boyfriend or girlfriend, then remember those who have a lover that infected them with HIV or other STDs.

Remember those that had boyfriends that impregnated them unprepared and they tried to abort it and ended up at the mortuary or ended up ruining their womb forever!

If you are financially broke and worried, remember those that have money but battling to live at uncountable hospitals all over the world as we speak.

Once you learn to focus on the positive things you have in life, you will become friendly and approachable.

Free yourself, being an introvert does not mean u should be moody, unhappy, unfriendly and uptight, there are many extroverts that are uptight, mean, unfriendly, always moody too.


So cheer up.

Take life easy, life is nothing but vanity, don't take it too serious, be happy and friendly to people, u never can tell

franchasng:
Any single lady that wants to marry a great and wonderful man who wouldn't give her issues in future should stop giving men rules and regulations to follow to be her boyfriend, it doesn't work, you will only end up being with pretending men with abominable attitude and sinister motives.

Be free, don't let society determine who you will be, even though you are 30+ years and unmarried, its not the end of the world unless you are very sure you caused your spinsterhood through your bad character and immoral lifestyle of past, if not, live your life like a teenager, always be happy, stop being moody, too upright, too rigid, too commanding, too autocratic and too serious with life, free yourself up as a lady no matter your age, don't let your age define your life or destiny, age is just a number for real it is. If you are a successful lady with respect and friendly character, your age is nothing to amazing/mature guys.

If you meet a good guy you click with and he clicks with you too, let the natural attraction/desire happen, don't use rules and laws that you will still break at one point to chase a great guy who maybe your Prince Charming away.

Majority of men of our time hate rigid ladies who live by laws, rules, restrictions, as if life is an exploration mission you must achieve with a map.

Yes there are still archaic guys who crave and die for ladies that give rules, laws, restriction and live uptight life but there are not many of such guys today, those archaic/religious extremists guys are few who believe a wife material must hate sex, in fact she must never hear anything sex, must cover all her body, walk holily and talk holily too.

But majority of today guys have a different perspective of who a perfect wifey or partner should be, she should:

1.) Be financially independent
2.) Happy and friendly
3.) Respectful
4.) Career or business focused
5.) Love kids
6.) Respect and love her male siblings and relatives
7.) Must not know everything (men hate ladies that act like they are too wise)
8.) Must be good listener
9.) Must not be a talkative and must not be a Dundee that can't contribute meaningfully in a healthy conversation
10.) Must not be a 21st century type of feminist (both white and black and Asian men hate the characters of our modern feminists women )

The list might look long but they are simple to imbibe. A virtuous woman is a virtuous woman, whether she has sex with you or not, it won't take that away from her.

Whether you withhold sex or not, a guy that will marry you will marry you.

Not allowing a guy who genuinely loves you and treats you right after a long time can kill his passion and love for you, forget those nonsense talk that a man that truly loves you won't leave you because of sex, in fact, most ladies lost their true lovers because they refused to allow sex....

I am a guy, I have lots of married and single male friends, we discuss manly, I know why my close friends married the ladies they married and why they left the ladies they wanted to marry initially, so when I talk listen.

Though I am not advising ladies to go about sharing sex to any guy that comes their way, no pls, but apply wisdom, if you are honest to yourself as a lady, u will know a guy that truly cares for you unless you are a fake lady or the type that are saddist, always unhappy and too serious and uptight with life, then u need special prayer and deliverance.

Budline:
must you date a slay queen? What happened to the simple pretty ladies around you?


In as much as I agree with most things you said, I want you to view it from my own point of view too. Have you noticed lately since the introduction of social media, girls have been more difficult to woo(the average and pretty) we shower them with so much compliments, they see men as 'tasty' and they will always play on our intelligence, wooing a girl of your choice&taste wasn't as complex back then like it is now because they have raised the bar to the highest bidder now because of what we have exposed them to. They have been materialised. Diamond is expensive because we attach value to it, bitcoins is nothing but numbers and alphabets until we attach value to it, same is happening with our slay queens and they will never respect you except you have what it takes(money) to bid for them. Some days ago, a guy told a slay queen on her IG page that she didn't respond to his message, to my surprise the girl started cursing and bullying the guy saying he's not worthy of her standard and he should never try to chat with her again. This will keep on going because of our mistakes, they take some of the blame too tho but the society and men on social media keep reminding them that they are way superior and too special. Sometimes I wonder how they will respect their husbands when they get married because of all this hypes. They will keep slaying, treating us badly and never respect us if we keep giving them all the attentions and compliments. Respect a woman that only respect you, when she doesn't compliment you back, don't like, chase or complement her too. If all men could do this, women will change, they will respect us and we can all be friends.

proxillin:
Those posh girls you see actually have sex with agbero (bus conductors). They date them.

That's one of the reasons most of them are always suffering from one virginal infections or the other.

I dated one beautiful girl in Lekki last year. She felt severe pains when we were having sex. She later opened up to me that she had candida, virginal discharge. I had to go for medical treatments. Then it later occurred to me that she was actually dating one area god agbero

I couldn't imagine a beautiful, posh, light skin with polished/fake ascent open her vg for an agbero who don't bath in days. No sexual protection, no body hygiene. And this girl play hard to get when I toasted her. I even thought I had seen a decent angel, not knowing all nah pretending and forming.

Girls don't care whenever money is involved. Same goes to girls dating armed robbers. When they r caught, they will say they didn't know their guys were robbers. Na lie, they knew, but money is more important.

One girl even boasted on twitter that her boyfriend can use her for money rituals so far she is not dead, he is spending the money on her and family.

Randy guys are open to get infected with STDs. Don't over rate any girl. I have overrated some girls in the past, I later found out they don't worth it.
Candida is a fungal infection not an STD, only if it was something else and she lied.

Suzette911:
Hello Everyone,
How is everyone doing. Looking for a bit of advise from people from Nigeria. First off I am Canadian(black)and I met this guy from Nigeria in september. He lives anf work in Canada. I am 35 with two kids. He says he is 38 with no kids.He came up to me and began talking to me, i was somewhat agitated because i really didnt plan on meeting someone. We exchanged numbers and I didn't think anything would develop out of this. He waited 2 days and tried to get in contact with me. I ignored him after a few messages. He eventually calls and I asked him so who are you supposedto be again. I knew he felt out of sorts but of course a lady has to play hard to get. I noticed how persistent he was and I decided to talk to him via texts and calls. Currently we have been on three dates and counting. I really seem to be enjoying this young man's company for some reason. He is very sweet , says the right things, treats me very well. It feels like I knew him for so long. I am very open and honest with him. I feel like I can call him whenever and he calls me whenever. We spend a lot of time on the phone. Honestly speaking we are kind of fast paced,we have made love once which we both wanted.I have a very deep liking to him and I am smitten by him. I can't say that I love him but it's getting there. I can't help it I am somewhat of a detective or PI if you want to call it that. I went snooping on his Facebook page and saw a lady with his same last name. I asked him if he was married. He struggled somewhat before he gave me an answer. He said it was his cousin and ever since we are just arguing. He is accusing me of other relations of which I am innocent of. We blew things so bad, we have been arguing for days. I genuinely care about him and I am stuck at this point because I honestly don't want to date anyone married but I dont want to walk away if he isn't. It's been so bad I think I am causing him to go grey because I am giving him an extremely hard time. He has invited me to spend time with him but I just can't go. I told him let's go to Nigeria,he said he will take me. I really want to go with him to see the place and experience his culture and meet his family

I don't know what to do. I feel stuck. I amso miserable I wonder why he wants me...what should I do.

crankedup:
I'm very certain if you see me one on one you won't be able to muster enough courage to call me that

biosilicon:
but you know that's what you are. better find one idiot you can deceive, or better still go the linda ikeji way.
silly woman just come online to start insulting your father. am i the cause?

biosilicon:
product of a failed parental upbringing, thats probably why you have turned to an evening newspaper. i am sure it is your father that feels stupid for bringing you here. that is if you even know him.

biosilicon:
I dont know how old you are or if you have kids. But dont be a hypocrite. And stop acting like you were not beaten when you were growing up. She is the mother of the child and was provoked to discipline the kid. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Y'all should learn to mind your business especially those stupid hypocrite neighbours. That will do worse to their kids assuming they were in her shoes

GoTV:
Even though I'm a born again Christian, cheating is prevalent amongst we Christians because of the indecent ways we dress unlike our Muslim counterparts who are mostly covered and guided by the tenets of Islam.

kay9:
So now it's the Nigerian men's fault? Smh..

Look, by all means fix whatever you wish on your head/hair, it's yours afterall. But while you're at it, grow the fcck up and stop blaming other people for your own decisions.

Franklyine:
Watch and see how this same brother will brutalize any human being that touches her outside. But she should learn to respect her siblings not just her elder brother. She has grown to the extent she realized she has been rude.
Believe me same way people here in Nairaland responds to things are same way they respond in their daily activities.
Yesterday I met a 17 year old boy insulting his mom, I asked him to stop but he refused, I saw a broom laying around, I picked up the broom and hit him very well from behind. His mom said that's how he insults her.

Franklyine:
You said it all, when you Are Rude. He is trying to correct you. Try not to be rude and the hitting will stop.