10. Extreme stinginess.

This is a very serious issue, but before you go off and confront your mother I would like you to consider a few things. What would you gain from telling her? Relief? What if you tell her and she denies it which she would most probably do, and if she confesses what would her apology and tears do for you? If I were in ur shoes I would not say a word, chances are she already feels ashamed of herself and disgusted hence the hatred towards ur uncle, telling her would only make her feel even worse and may cause a big health problem for her which in turn u may even regret becos the depression and high blood pressure may even lead to her death. We all have our lives to live and ur mother choose hers and there is absolutely nothing u can do about it, she did it without you in mind so please don't let her past foolishness ruin ur future. Pray to God always becos He is a great comforter and will heal ur pain, yes I know it's not easy but wat other options do u have. As for the mental images in ur head they won't still go away even if u confront her, it's more of a phsychological issue which u have to find a way to get rid of either by making urself occupied with activities u enjoy doing or praying, with time u will heal. With regards to the DNA I wouldn't even go there. May God give u the strength to carry on and heal ur pain. God bless.

I wish I kept my virginity till my wedding night...

Its slowly becoming a crime to be very pretty in nigeria.

Retin A

I used to have this experience sometimes and I noticed it when I don't pray at night. But now that I take my spiritual life seriously its a thing of the past. Every nite before u sleep soak urself with the blood of Jesus and u will sleep like a baby. If its a medical condition how come when I started praying every night it stopped? Its Just white pple giving a lame excuse for what they can't explain.

No decent girl will hook up with a man she doesn't know from adam in a hotel room, she doesn't even know if he is a rapist, ritualist or watever. She is 23 yrs old she is not a kid. Sorry to say if u continue with her she will leave u when she finally meets a man who has more money than u, she is simply looking for the highest bidder.

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Am beautiful both in and out

I've always loved dogs and I when I have kids I will want them to get used to animals. I've always felt that pple who love animals are more caring and compassionate.that's my little dog

January 20th

A guy who talks too much in an unconstructive manner, reduces my respect for him and can't be with a guy I don't respect.

Ogbono soup

Thanks a lot missy b

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heart breakers and players, and am not any of the two, been told am the kinda girl you wanna take home to mama but why does this keep happening to me

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. He's just not that into you if he's not asking you out.
If a man is excited about awoman, he can’t stop himself— he wants more. If he’s attracted to her, he’s going to want to take it further. If he’s not making a move, it’s not because he is ‘scared’. The only thing he is scared of is how not attracted to you he is.

2. He’s just not that into you if he’s not calling you.
He says he didn’t have a moment in his busy day to call. Rubbish! The real reason is that you are not on his mind. If a man leads you to expect he will call and then doesn’t follow through on such a little thing, he will never follow through on big things. Be aware he is okay with the idea he is disappointing you.

3. He communicates via TEXT and email. By doing so, he avoids the “getting to know you” conversations. He really isn’t interested in moving things forward. He wants the down and dirty. When can he see you? If you have already had sex, his TEXT is to set up his next booty call. He usually steers the conversation towards telling you how sexy you are and how he can’t wait to see you again. DUH!

4. He warns you that he isn’t relationship material. Men usually say what they mean. He is telling you that he is not relationship material-at least with you-believe him! You might be the exception to the rule, but more than likely, you are not. He is probably going to have sex with you and dump you when things get too complicated (you want more from him).

5. He puts little planning into your date. He tells you that he wants to hang out and watch a movie or something. “Something” means having sex in case you haven’t figured that out by now. If you always go to the restaurant, because it is his favorite, he isn’t trying to please you. More than likely, he goes to different restaurants with different women. A guy that is really into you will plan a date. Even if the date doesn’t cost him a dime, he will plan.

6. He makes lots of empty promises. He keeps talking as if you have a future, but he takes little or no action. He talks about having a future together or all the fun things you will soon, but he doesn’t plan a date! Some men promise the moon, sun and stars, but deliver…nothing! He really isn’t that into you. Think about this. If he can’t come up with a few things that make you swoon despite his pocketbook, he isn’t that into you.

7. He makes last minute plans to see you. You are just so glad he calls that you don’t realize that that he is definitely not that into you or he thinks that you have no life and would be readily available at his beckon call. Either way, if you accept, you aren’t scoring any points. You were probably one of the women in his “little black book” and not his first call.

8. He avoids the “getting-to-know you” conversations! He really doesn’t want to get to know you better. He wants to know what he needs to know to get you into bed. If he really wants to get to know you better, he is asking questions about you, your life and what you want. If not, he is looking for the easiest, quickest booty call. He will flatter you! He will tell you how amazing you are! But he doesn’t really know anything about you. If you fall for this, don’t expect a call anytime soon. He will call you again when he is Hot.

9. He is pushy about getting physical. He tries to move things forward beyond the “make out” session with minimal clothing. If you resist, he makes you feel bad that you aren’t that into him. He says that he just wants to cuddle, but he is really trying to get more. (Just so you know, most men don’t really like cuddling. They do it because it gets them sex!) He is kissing and holding you, but in the process trying to take your blouse and pants off, wants sex. If he gets upset or offended when you put the kibosh on moving forward, he isn’t that into you. If someone really likes you, he is willing to wait until you are ready to move things forward.

10. You initiate and he doesn't follow through. If you're really into a guy and you think he may be shy, try initiating a conversation, phone call or texting session. If you start the conversation, he'll want to continue it. However, if he doesn't return your calls or texts or tries to end the conversation quickly, he may not be into you.

11. His actions don't match his words. If he says he'll call you and then you don't hear from him or if you suggest meeting up and he is "too busy," he probably isn't interested.

12. If you have been dating for a month or more and have never met his friends, he isn’t that into you. When men think they have found a great catch, he want to show her off. If you don’t get an invitation to meet his friends, you aren’t that girl. He wants to see you alone but not integrate you into his life, this is not a good sign. If a man is really into you, he wants all his friends to see the woman he is dating. If this doesn’t happen, you are not the woman he wants to be with long term.

13. He says he just wants to be friends. He means it. If you offer up sex as part of the package, he is willing to be friends with benefits. He isn’t stupid if you are! If you offer to satisfy him sexually, why not. If you think being friends with benefits will lead to more, it won’t. He isn’t into you in almost every case. When he finds someone who rocks his world, you are history.

14. He's not that into you if he's still hooking up with other women. Or you even catch him at it, he’s not ready to settle down with you. Even if he still maintains inappropriate contact with exes or even other women friends he’s not ready to invest time in you or ready to have any kind of future. He’s just not worth the time if he’s out looking for someone else. Save yourself the heartache and move on. You’ll find someone who will be so thankful for you.

15. He’s just not that into you if he doesn’t want to marry you.
Every man you have dated who says he doesn’t want to get married or doesn’t believe in marriage, or has ‘issues’ with marriage, will, rest assured, someday be married. It just will not be to you. (Tell me about it, lol)
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OK that's it ladies. I'm sure some of you were able to relate with a few of these signs.
Please stop making excuses for him. If he likes it, he will put a ring on it, *wink*
If you know more signs, please share with the rest of us.

On a lighter note, here's a sign he's definitely into you,

http://girlsguideto.com/article/15-signs-hes-not-you

We go out once in a while but most of the time he prefers we stay in the car and talk. Am getting really bored with the relationship.

@aameyah, I just finished uni this year while he has been working most of the time. His mum has her own money so I guess there is no need to take care of her. He gave me the gift in 07, although we've been in a long distance for a while I still manage to buy him little gifts when I get back.

I have been dating this guy since 2006 and he has only given me a gift once, which was during my birthday.he doesn't give me any surprises, doesn't credit my phone once in a while(although I don't ask),when I try and hint him that I don't have money to make my hair his reply is "why don't u have money and that's it. when i travelled the first time I got him a nice perfume, next time a t-shirt and then a ysl shirt. He is actually the only guy I've dated so I don't know if its me or that's how other relationships are, but when I hear my friends talking it seems that's not the case. Now his talking about marriage and I don't want a stingy husband. Pls do u think am being inconsiderate or a gold digger?? Sincere answers pls.

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@babygirlfl sorry if i misunderstood you but most people who would read what you posted would probably think the same. i just feel that telling people to be more productive with their lives and marriage are two different things altogether because marriage should not stop people from being productive, i feel its better to have a society where people are eager to get married than one where it is becoming a social problem like in the UK(i did family law).
if men should stop looking for money then how would the productivity come about?? its as a result of looking for money that people want to have industries which would improve the country and provide employment for example globacom, and also dangote business empire, if they were not looking for money how would they bring about these businesses which has provided employment opportunities for many. its as a result of men looking for money that those westerners started producing cars and doing other things, its better for men to look for money than being like those in the west who simply collect benefits hence being a burden on the taxpayer.

babygirlfl:

Women too in the west have biological clock just like african women but the thing here is that it seems like that is the only thing most Nigerian women think of. @ olas2u : you amaze me and I don't argue with your type. I will use my strenght for more productive things.@ Osama10 read my post and u will see some suggestions of other things to think of and if u still want more suggestions, I will tell you. What about thinking of developing drugs that will cure dieases that has no cure at the moment,producing cars of our own etc. Remember the country these thing are produced also have women with biological clock and rich men that still get married. All I am saying here is that we should do some other things apart from getting married and chasing money. When I said marriage should be when u r ready and with the right person, I said that cos these days, u see girls being pressured into marriage just becos they have to get married.Pls olas2u and osama10 leave this post for more reasonable pple.

are u saying that people should stop getting married because of this, have people in the western world stopped getting married because they are doing cancer research or finding the cure for hiv when producing mercedez benz did people in Germany stop getting married even those in the western world was it everyone that produced cars and found cures to diseases, so if i read political science then how can i produce cars or find cures for diseases those in the west don't care much about marriage because they can cohabit and have some rights just like a married couple would, but in nigeria cohabitation is frowned upon. if they didn't care much about it then why have online dating and match makers which to me is the greatest height of desperation. people perform better when they are settled and happily married, as the saying goes behind every successful man is a woman which is a fact.

i think you should not even wait till you start having feelings for each other before avoiding him, i think you should stop all contact with him before it is too late and you regret everything, your better safe than sorry.

no way!!

i might be a little old fashioned, but i would not go clubbing as a married woman, i believe there is a time for everything. if i want to hang out with my friends we can to a nice eatery, go shopping, or watch some nice movies together and chat. am not a great fan fan of clubs anyway. but for those who want to go i think its best they go along with their husbands, cos i dont know wat a married woman would be doing in a night club alone.

that is totally disgusting and unhygienic. i dont even share a bra with my own sister talk more of buying used undies. please if they dont have money there are cheap made in china pants in the market.

thanks everyone for the advice, but i just called home now and my sister just told me that he just got married this weekend!! so i guess we werent meant to be together, i have to be all means move on, i have been praying about it and am sure i would find someone who i love and who loves me just as much