₦airaland Forum

I really don't get, is marriage an achievement?
Someone is building herself, you are talking about her settling down that she can't continue building her career in music, Wtf is wrong with you?

She knows what she wants, so who are you to decide what or how she wants to live, her creator?
You better go help yourself out.

The best thing is to live outside Nigeria and miss the things in Nigeria.
That's the Nigerian dream

Psalme91:
It is almost 4AM my husband hasn’t come home yet , just because we found out that I am carrying another baby girl. I’m in pained , I don’t know what I have done to deserve all this . Please help me beg God if I offended him unknowingly to please forgive me and blessed me with baby boys ( triplets). Please

Be joyful.

You can never tell the height those kids will take you, depending on the wisdom and education you pass to them.

For your husband, if he so much desire a boy, there are fruits that can boost his chances, and there is a set time to mate to improve his chances to guarantee a boy.


You are just the carrier of what he deposits, and your womb does the rest by the programme of God

densiks:
The advise is not for everyone.
He was speaking to his ‘sons’
Those who think differently can pass by and avoid getting involved with his sons.

He also never said the woman MUST always do the cooking.

As for me,a woman that can’t cook is a security risk to the livelihood and well being of my children.
I enjoyed my mother’s meals as a child and I still do anytime I visit her and she rose to the peak of her career as a professional in the health sector with multiple qualifications likewise many women I know.

In a proper family setting, there’s a special place for the food prepared my the woman.
My children have a right to enjoy same or better.

I can always take care of myself without some woman cooking for me but these wack comments denigrating the old man is completely unnecessary and shows a fundamental error in how most young folks in this generation have been raised.

He is not speaking for his sons alone o...
Some ladies are terrible. So it's that nonsense noodles and egg they want to cook for children till they are grown?

So they don't know that adage that says "your leg can take you away from home, but your stomach will bring you back"
It seems we are not raising kids well anymore, how can a sensible lady defend her deficiency in the kitchen? Like how?
Even when Abraham saw the angels in the bible, he entertained them with food, and they ended up telling Abraham what was about to go down.... Please someone should explain the sense these ladies are trying to pass?
Mind you, rice and stew, noodles and egg, those things are not what we are talking about o.
Check @iya olounje on twitter and tell me if you are not feeling the dishes from the screen

And someone is defending why they can't cook.
Wash, men already improvised with washing machine, even dry cleaners since the world is revolving.
Now cook, they are saying what? Love fades o, but hunger can't fade.

spinna:
Why him sef run..police get capped by criminals too so atimes they are jumpy. A calm and polite yet confident approach is the best way to deal with police..when they are in their bullying mode accusing you wrongly dont get riled up claiming rights just defuse so as to be left alone..and move on

Are you aware if you are a black, and you reach out for anything at all, you will be shot?
And are you aware, if you are a white, and you reach out for anything, they can't shoot at you?
Do the maths, and you may want to modify what you wrote up there

PrimadonnaO:
I grew up in Delta, so I should know, but prior to now I’d never heard about it.

Na wa o...

Even me that is full blood Lagosian, I sabi am well.

Choiii...

So this soup is still in existence?
Urhobo people I hail all of us o

ultron12345:
Rubbish

Firstly, I do not support owing employees salaries. Salaries should always be paid when due as specified in the employment contract. If for some reason, you can't afford the salaries at that particular time, inform the employees of the situation, explain to them and an understanding should be reached.

I will however talk about the so-called 'Peanut Salary'. What exactly is peanut salary?. Were you not informed of the salary before taking the job?. If the salary is too small for you, then the solution is simple, don't take the job. If you've already taken it, then resign, abi did they tie your hands and legs.

Salary is determined by productivity and market-value. You cannot be producing N4000 and be expecting to be paid N10,000.

Demand and supply of labour must also be put into consideration. When demand of labour is higher then the supply, wages are high, but when demand of labour is less than supply, wages are low.

You don't expect an employer to pay N1,000,000 when others are willing to take less. Will you buy a bag of rice at N200,000 when the near-by store is selling the same bag of rice and the same quality at N50,000. Never. So why do you expect employers to do otherwise. The same way an employee will not stay with an employer paying him N100,000 when another employer is willing to pay him N900,000.

Some companies honestly can't pay better. How can you expect a school in one small, interior town, that collects school fees of N6000 per term to be paying salary of N50,000 per month to teachers.

If you're not happy with salary you're offered, then don't accept the job or resign. If you're worth more than that salary, you will surely see other employees willing to pay your more than what you were paid before. If I offer salary of N40,000 per month, and no-one takes the job, I will be forced to increase the salary in order to fill the vacancy. You can also choose to start your own business and begin paying water-melon salaries instead and we'll see how long you'll stay afloat.

Let's also not forget how lazy and wicked Nigerian employees are. They are ready to ruin your business with fraud at the slightest opportunity. All they do is to steal your money. That is why Nigerian employees coined the phrase "Na where person dey work, na there e dey chop, na e make them dey callam work-chop (workshop)" as a way to justify their fraudulent character. Money that is supposed to be used to sustain and expand the business and even provide better packages for the staff will then have to be used to employ extra-staff to monitor each other, biometric scanners, CCTV cameras and other things that are not supposed to be needed, just to monitor staff to avoid fraud.

Start a poultry and they will be stealing your eggs. Some will even go ahead to be killing the chickens so that they'll be allowed to take them home.

Start an entertainment/viewing/game center and they'll be pocketing your money. On the days you're around at the business, the money realized will be x10 of the money realized when you're not around. Because they're eating your money.

Lease out a vehicle to a driver to use and watch as he'll finish you.

Start a restaurant, the same thing will happen. More than half of the total food ingredients will end up in their personal kitchens.

Even ordinary provisions shop, they will find a way to steal.

The major problem of doing business in this country isn't power or infrastructure, it's finding honest and competent manpower. The average Nigerian employee is waiting to steal from you. The ones in management positions will not only be stealing but will be hiring incompetent staff solely because they are his friends, relatives or church members. That's why I don't blame companies who hire expatriates like Indians and Lebanese for sensitive positions like Finance and Accounting even when we have qualified Nigerians.

Some people have money to do business in this country but they don't have time for it. They'll have employed staff to manage it, but they can't do that because there are no trustworthy staff in Nigeria, so they abandon the idea, and rather invest their money in treasury bills and fixed deposit accounts. And later, they'll be complaining they there are no jobs when they are killing all the businesses with their evil character.

Let's not forget their rude attitude that they'll use to drive all your customers away, just like they exhibit in government offices.

That's why they like government work, where they're allowed to be lazy and to steal. Where they can get money without adding any value. Where they can steal, where they can come to work by 10pm, gist till 12pm, sleep till 3pm and spend the next hour preparing to leave by 4pm. And they'll go home and tell people they went to work. That is why our government agencies are not working, that is why our government corporations like NNPC and others are not working. That is why we say Nigerian government cannot run business. Any private company that allows such will fail like Nigerian government agencies and corporations have failed.

If you think your salary is Peanut Salary, then quit and sart your own business and be paying water-melon salaries. By the time you crumble, you'll start blaming Buhari.

Peanut salary ke, paw-paw salary ni.
Resign and start your own.

That Govt job gangan, you really touched it. How do these people go to work so late and close very early?
If you work in a private firm and have one thing or the other that takes you to federal offices, you will end up shocked.

The aspect of youth being lazy, I don't agree with you, I have seen and worked with the hyper active, knowing they have bills to pay.

sisisioge:
You guys can't possibly be in Nigeria!

Firstly, you wife needs to take a chill pill. Talk to her in front of her own mother and let her feel through her eyes how it feels to be hated by one's own child's spouse. Put things in perspectives for her and remind her of her days of mother in-lawhood coming too. After all, she has a son.

Meanwhile, you mother needs to get a grip of herself! You are married now and living your own life. Talk really well and stand up to her....infact, threaten to move far away if she doesn't amend her ways. She can't be visiting every weekend! She cannot be included in everything! She cant be insulting your wife! She should mind herself really well so she doesn't break your family and lose you guys. Hian!

This is what those celebs may also face, those with only one child (son) and are not with the child's father, the way they show off with them on social media ehn, they will face such scenario with their daughter-in-law.
Imagine the son getting married and there is no one in the house with them anymore, they will believe it is their right to stay with the son as well.


What am I saying sef? Let's just cool down for future movies

A wife, you can always get another....

A mother, you can never find another, talk less get another, mother figure you can only see....

How on earth did the situation go, that made you choose your wife over your mother? You couldn't even play neutral by staying away from both till they decide to settle. You have already empowered your wife, and I pray she doesn't live to be a laughing clown for others.

Seriously, how did you even choose your wife sef, like how?


Do you have friends that you talk to at all? Do they come to your house? Are they comfortable meeting you in your house?
And your siblings, do they visit you at all?

If your friends don't come to your house at all, then we all know the problem o.

KingSatan:
I knew I would meet your kind.

This is not a thread to breed competition or promote hypocrisy.

You woman are good at dropping lines like these in order to portray the luckiest woman on Earth.



I have been married for over 3 decades and I can say "Marriage is beautiful if both of you love each other truthfully" and are determined to make your marriage work. Though it's not a smooth sail but with a determined spirit, you will conquer all.


You will sometimes fight your extended family because of that woman you love and cherish. Marriage is not for the feeble heart.

I remember one time, I looked straight in her eyes and I saw a helpless woman. I stood up to my late uncle's and told them never to insult my wife again or I stop bearing their surname and cut ties with them forever.


I could remember when i slumped, my wife was crying like I child. I woke up to her screams and tears.

I love my wife and I am without any doubt that she loves me too. I married her because I couldn't imagine living so far away from such beautiful soul. I wanted to have her all to myself and I succeeded.

Today, I don't see the curves (Of course I wasn't interested in all that when I married her) and she isn't seeing the albs, afro hairstyle etc but she is still my "Sexy Amigo".

I will marry her over and over again if given a chance.


PS: Don't even think money brought us together. I was still trying to find my place in this world when I met her. She told me "I believe in you"

After my mother, no one else except her said those words to me.

I held on to those words and today, it's all history.

Learning....

You just typed (spoke) words that went directly into my soul

wman:
COPA America is worse.

They somehow want Messi to win it.
Now Copa America is appearing like headies, it is not as valuable as before

AntiChristian:
Of cos I would marry a young girl if her parents consents to it. Marrying her young doesn't mean one should sleep with her when she's not ready for that!

Islam is our tradition

Easier said than done.
Will or can you allow such for your daughter?


Before you respond, make sure you are not one of those that condemned Regina Daniel.

najib632:
وَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلَّا تُقْسِطُوا فِي الْيَتَامَىٰ فَانكِحُوا مَا طَابَ لَكُم مِّنَ النِّسَاءِ مَثْنَىٰ وَثُلَاثَ وَرُبَاعَ ۖ فَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلَّا تَعْدِلُوا فَوَاحِدَةً أَوْ مَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَانُكُمْ ۚ ذَٰلِكَ أَدْنَىٰ أَلَّا تَعُولُوا -

4:3

And if you fear that you will not deal justly with the orphan girls, then marry those that please you of [other] women, two or three or four. But if you fear that you will not be just, then [marry only] one or those your right hand possesses. That is more suitable that you may not incline [to injustice].



About Indonesia, it is not implementing fully the law of Allah in fact. They're some what a secular country.

The passage you sighted above, deny all you want, how can you be just to more than one wife? No wonder my friend said it comes with a clause, but many Muslims don't talk about the clause and talk more about 4wives.
Parents find it difficult to love children equally, and you guys think you can love 2 women equally (some even talk about 4).



I gave an example of Indonesia having the highest number of Muslims in the world and what they practice, but this is all you have to defend Indonesia not permitting people having unnecessary wife? I thought you could do better.

AntiChristian:
What is right or wrong is determined by law. Nowadays men marry men in some countries and this too would be regarded as not normal back then!

So you can't use your current thinking to judge the settings of a thousand or more years ago.

Not judging a thousand years ago, that's why I talked about civilization....
You can't keep living like a thousand years ago, you can't keep say because of many wives, that's why you are actively defending thousand years ago, that's selfish.
A thousand years ago women couldn't do a lot of things, right now they are free to have career, that's what civilization brings.

I gave you an example of how we killed twins here in Nigeria, is that the kind of life you prefer?
Civilization helped us take away some unnecessary things, if Koran actually backed you having many wives without a clause of loving them equally (which is impossible) kindly refer me to the passage.
Though Mohammed took a young girl as a wife, but you know right now civilization makes us rebuke such because you have to be an adult to go into marriage. Will you want to get a young girl as well because that was how it used to be a thousand years ago ?

AntiChristian:
Adultery means a married (wo)man sleeping with others (s)he shouldn't be sleeping with!
Adultery is as we define it now.

It is right to sleep with slaves in Islam, Judaism and Christianity!

It isn't right as a Christian... Judaism, I think it isn't.

You know this thing is not right, but you are just defending what is wrong.
You are at least civilised, aren't you? You know the kind of unnecessary disease it will bring upon you.

Rashduct4luv:
What is right, what is wrong and where is the law?

What does adultery mean?

Do you realize civilization opened our eyes to a lot?
Example, it was right for us to kill twins way back, but civilization made us realize we were being inhuman.

najib632:
excuse me stop acting like you don't know that slavery ended just last century. You either have a wife or a concubine, it is best to have a wife since it is more desireable with Allah. Also a man has a limit of four wives, but can have as many concubines as he can afford. Who started all the problems in Nigeria.

This 4 wives you guys talk about, can you shed more light on it? Like tell me where the Koran supports that.
My Muslim friend claims it is different, he said there is a clause (If you can love them equally, which is impossible)...

Secondly, Indonesia has the highest number of Muslims in the world, but the 4 wives thing is only practiced in one state, if you are in another state and desire more than 1 wife, you have to move...

So kindly state where it is backed by the Koran

All I can say is simple...

I read through the comment sections, and I realized those backing the sleeping with wives and slaves forgot we are not in the BC era.
All the parts in the bible being referred to, to justify what the civilised world see as rubbish were all as far back as the time of Solomon..... Mohammed lived in the AD time/calendar, and it is kind of embarrassing seeing anyone backing that kind of life.
What then does adultery mean? Yeah many hypocrites are cursing..... But condemning something you know is very wrong even while practicing, is far better than backing what you deeply know is wrong.

Modified :
No be spatacus lifestyle na, abi what then is civilization?




What do I know sef?
If you like, marry 30, na you sabi... Just don't add more problem to Nigeria than we already have.

Rashduct4luv:
Kindly read my previous verse. Your question has been answered. We can sleep with our wives and slaves!

Are you kidding me, for real? But deep down in you, you know what is right and wrong, are we communicating?

Damn.... I comment my reserve

Omotayor123:
Met this guy late September, he was in for loving doving and all. Told me I was the perfect definition of what he was looking for in a bride.

This is a well to do single man with chains of businesses, cars, a good house & also working for mining company. He is Responsible disciplined and religious.
Bottom line is He's what any lady would be glad to have.

The thing is, He had problems with his bae & wanted to find solace and comfort with me, forget his Fiancee and moved on.

I could have taken Advantage of their situation, played the Angelic Good wife, hold him tight, pretend to tolerate all his mess & made him forget totally about his bae.
But I see it as a challenge I have to overcome.
Why

I had issues with my fiance, he left to find comfort in the hands of another girl. The girl jumped on the opportunity without hesitation, played the perfect babe and the rest is history...

I couldn't do the same to another girl, i know how heartbreak & betrayal feels.
so I decided to help them for I know their issue isn't beyond repair.

I took my time to let the guy know I am not perfect and equally have my flaws.
I made him see reason why he shouldn't give up and run to a comfort zone each time his relationship has issues.
Their issue was just communication breakdown & lack of understanding. They could fix it if they really want to and ready to shift grounds...

And now, I'm grateful my efforts played off, with my coaching, he realized he was making a mistake taking the risk of throwing a 3 years relationship away for another one which the outcome is yet unknown.

Now they are back Together, settled all differences and their wedding date is set.
I just received an IV to attend their wedding holding on 18th of January 2020.

If i had entered their Picture, it may be impossible or almost imposssible for this great feat to happen.

I couldn't be more proud of myself.

Ladies This Year Let's help ourselves out!
Don't take Advantage of other people's situations
Don't be the reason why a relationship or marriage breaks totally.
Don't let Despiration push you into hurting others.
May God help us, Give us the best of partners and not make us a stumbling block to the happiness of others.

I did well right


Sorry for the Long Epistle
Cc. Lalasticlala help push to Front Page, Let others Learn.
lalasticlala
farano

You are one of a kind.
Just like you indirectly stated up there, ladies tend to be selfish by not caring about the other woman's feelings. They just care about their happiness and bs about others

Thales01:
It is baffling how this social degenerate seem enjoys a widespread acceptance among the Nigerian youths who are ever eager to join any existing craze.This is indicative of a worrisome paradigm shift in what we deem condemnable or what is worthy of celebration.
This is evident in how people who condemn wrongful things in this country are labelled as ”bad belle or enemy of progress" while the Nigerian youths brazenly celebrates inanities and trivialize intelligent contributions.That explain why a talentless and unapologetic rascal like Naira Marley is famous while talented folks like brymo,Johnny drille and many more are not given the recognitions they deserve.It also explains why the current crop of the Nigerian youths are not socially and politically woke.

They are already calling you Hater...
I really don't get how they enjoy his song, I would rather play Damian Marley's instrumentals instead of that guy's noise.

Music is different from noise...
If you can't listen to such tracks after 2years, just know it is noise

horpeyemmi66:
Personally, If I have told her my mind, that's all...I would just keep mum and be looking at her. In most instances they usually realize they were being foolish and they'd be like "Why didn't you tell me?" and I'd be like "WTF!?"

That last part got me laughing so loud

highlordmarcus:
My guy he knows what he is saying. The fact that your own was successful does not mean others were. People has lost opportunities , some have even committed suicide over this same issue.
In short, I believe you are lying! People that their own failed mentioned the name of their universities, You can't even say the name of your institution. That is to show you are a liar.

Did you read I was surprise about it?
I purposely didn't want to mention the name of the institution, because the average Nigerian thinks going to a those Uni means you are from a rich home.....

I responded because he generalised all Nigerian universities. Iwasn't expecting to receive it as well, because I believed the stereotype thing happens generally.
Since you think I am lying, fine by you. But I have a copy in my email, so you are free to believe I am lying.

Me, I could not read all, i just had to stop........

Sometimes, God shows us the clear signs, but we just want him to speak loudly from heaven.
What other language do you need?
And the bad thing is, a man somewhere else is busy disturbing God for you, while you are busy forcing yourself back into this bitter relationship.

Ginaz:
It’s human nature. Cos a lion is the king of the jungle doesn’t mean he can fight a crocodile.

The cool adage is made for Africa.
Asians see Tiger as the king of the jungle, and it can hunt down a crocodile on its own (I still wonder why Lion is king, when it is not among the top 5 bravest, or even the top 5 apex predator)

If you like burn the Cross, na you know.... She burnt her bible, so what's the big deal?
If she buys Quran to do same, it's her Quran...

Don't be surprise when God arrest her, and she turns into a strong evangelist tomorrow.

Depressed101:
that's heartless.. And you are happy somebody lost their job because of you. I am in no way in support of the way you got treated. But habba how can you get some one sacked in this harsh economy and you have peace of mind. You dont know if she is her family's bread winner..

Why do people think like this for the love of God (after you must have prayed and gone to church).

Do you have any idea of what the person was about to lose before the lady tore the letter?
Have you ever come in contact with these FG workers?

solmusdesigns:





so because of fish protein and income to fisherman , we should deny 200 million people access to cheaper petrol, gas for power and fertilizers for farming



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Wow, so you really believe there will be cheaper petrol when Dangote is done?
Wow, just be patient, while they turn on reality

The only thing this lady is concerned about is her wedding.... Not the kind of problem this thing will cause in her relationship or marriage.

I am really surprise seeing response of some people sha, letting us know they don't know Angelina Kidjo.....

Ahhh, truly na children full this place be that (and they don't know music).



Mind you, I am a strong fan of BurrrrrrnaBoy, always been from his first track, and till date.
I know how people won't let us hear word at all if those other guys were the ones nominated.

Thank God for God, Jah bless your relentless effort and strive for success BurnaBoy

GistMore11:
The 2-year-old lion cub which was found in a residential apartment at No 229 Muri Okunola Street in Victoria Island has been tranquilized html

Haba.... Are we learners?
How can you call this a 2 year-ol lion? Have you seen a 10months old Lion before?

If you don't know about animals, or don't have the actual age, just say a Lion Abeg.