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Memphis357:
Eseoghene (Gift from God).

If Eseoghene is Gift from God, OkeOghene is what

Iyaebube:
It started last two Sunday at the children's department. They were taught covering of the body as a child of God and ever since that day, my son has not remain the same again on his way of reasoning. My husband n I was all joking about it but it's getting out of hand the way my son is going about it

What he does now is he doesn't allow us especially me to wear skimpy wear at home anymore.whenever I put it on he will be shouting mummy cover your "private part" even my last baby that's not up to 2 was playing with the sleeveless top she was wearing the chest was showing immediately my son started shouting baby cover your private part. The private part he use to shout instead of another word cover your body provoked me to flog him to stop using that word cos he's just 4.

The incident that happened yesterday made us speechless was my family n I went to have a nice time because since that last two Sunday my son haven't stepped out of the house. We decided to have fun yesterday only for my son to screaming mummy see this one she or he is showing there private part. It brought alot of attention to us that we quickly ended what we came out to do.

How do I handle this issue to clear it off his head cos I have spoken n spanked him to stop but this is what he refused to stop saying n is embarrassing. Of all they where thought in Sunday school, why did he chose this one to practically implement?

Its you who needed that scolding not your son,the boy has learnt what really is true, but because you prefer to stick to immodest dressings and the world around seems to be haywire, you want your son to be a conformist, whereas his path is to be a reformer...

It's your choice to be modest or immodest, don't change his destiny because you want to expose your flesh... allow his reformer zest build up inside him, don't infuse your own thought into him...

MadamExcellency:
Why are Nigerian Youths not interested in farming.

Every of our AI and technology are all about money collection and transfers. Why are there no developments in farming and food technology? Nothing in medical sciences and Electricity generation.

We should concentrate less on singing and dancing to solving our existential problems.

Ai and technology can't be deplored to farm lands that are constantly under terrorist attack, recently we have added perennial floodings to our list of problems, Ai and technology needs a favourable atmosphere to germinate on, just as peace is the prerequisite for luring foreign investors, political will by leaders to upturn the status quo is what is mostly needed before A.I and technology can come in.

Westerhoffe:
What will be your reaction if someone gives your sister such conditions?

As proud as he sounds, that's the taught process of many Nigerian females, just because a man is saying it out loud is the reason you are bringing his sister's into it. I am sure his sisters are not single mothers also. Single mother's made choices just as everyone of us and we must continually live with the consequences of our choices...

The single mom has a choice to make... I am sure she also have a guy down her street asking her out but he probably is a bolt driver, and she will weigh her choices and make a decision base on what suits her present and her future. .

Wodu89:
You don't have sense. Not just as a man but as a human being. If everyone keeps dropping people like that would society not be in chaos. Oponu.

Isn't it a nice British Naija lady working in Met police, came for reality show, saw a man, got married to him and today there's bliss and peace all over her.


You think like a wretched poor person. This is your thought pattern. That of wretched poor people. Disloyalty, wretchedness and betrayal.


E go meet you for front

Wretched people are very irritating, their priority is all about leveling up, they will jettison all other virtues just to level up... They are the cankerworms eating the fabrics of morality that holds the sanity of humanity together, the guy irritates me sounding so pompous in his wretched and myopic mind.

Women of virtues have been known to assist their partners level up same as men of virtues done to, it's wretched people who upon hitting some measures of fortune abandon virtue and begin to leave as midas

Oluchia:
See as people dey dish advise anyhow while some are already abusing the girl. Anyway, I blame the OP for not including the information about the wife's siblings' ages in his original post. THEY ARE ALL CHILDREN for God's sake, the oldest is 17 yrs according to him, so leaving them behind or asking that they should work is ridiculous. It is definitely a sad and tough situation; no responsible elder sister would want to leave her underaged siblings out there on their own.

Nigeria is already in a tough situation, men are saddled with so much responsibility within a terrible economy and the loyalty of women is not guaranteed, don't blame people talking harshly it's the economic reality.

However with proper planning he can make them useful, open up a laundry shop and let the elder ones work in it whilst the younger ones go to school from the proceeds of all their combined earnings. He can be going out for his daily hustles and gradually he could build something good in and out of the whole situation...

Tob456:
I have a 7 months old daughter her mother is an orphan, she is the eldest of 7.

We broke up when she was pregnant because we had a disagreement about her siblings living arrangements.

She wanted her 4 sisters to stay with us after the wedding and I only two of them to stay with us. The problem is seeing my daughter growing in a bad environment away from me makes me feel so bad.

Whenever I visit her I feel so bad leaving her behind that I don't sleep well thinking about her all night.

I also doesn't like the idea of having kids with different mothers.

For my daughter's sake I want to get back with her mother for us to raise her together in the same house. But getting back with her means that I should also allow her 4 siblings to stay with us after the wedding.

I am doing this for my daughter's sake but I don't know if I am making a wise decision.

What do you guys think should I get back with her or forget about her and concentrate only on my daughter.

Please help

What are the ages of the siblings?
What promises did you make to her when you were gisting her? Reflect on those promises and act accordingly.

Although she is being manipulative and she is currently on self destruct mode just to punish you, but I am sure it's based off the promises you made to her and the expectations you created in her.

Tumbuleke:
This man has lived over 20yrs in US, although he comes to Nigeria Occasionally but never built even a room for himself. According to him whenever he send money for a project, the relative squander and steal it, thinking he has lots of money in the US. That’s the reason he had disagreements with most of his relatives, they are not even in talking terms with some. That’s what he told my friend, his wife.

He only managed to buy a bungalow when she came into his life, and that was partly her contribution as well, though majority of the fund came from him. What makes you think a man will write his name and wife’s name on the property if she has no input?.

Manipulation is one reason why a man will write a woman's name on a property.

The man who couldn't get a property in over 20 years only managed to get one in Nigeria in less than 7 months after your friend came into his life, that's nice, I guess your friend must have properties littered everywhere in Nigeria to herself...

All I see is a gold digging, entitled woman trying to cash out, while you are probably the side meat wishing to take it all...

Its always selfishness and selfishness...

Heard about it on Sunday and heard it was a cult war

MsJackson:
Hello my uncles and aunts.

I'll make this as brief as possible. I teach in a school where the owner uses his father's compound, back flats. His family lives in front apartment.

Some months ago, last year precisely, i had an issue with his sister, last born, and i decided to avoid her totally to prevent future occurrence. I face my job and do it well.

We the teachers observe that the family always call their son to report any issue, especially if we faltered in some cases. It was getting too much.

So on that day, exactly two weeks ago, we were asked to oversee the students sporting activities, done in front of the school compound. I was walking out with my colleague and we were discussing something we both saw on social media, about gistlover. The sister overheard it and believed we were talking about her, calling her gistlover.

She walked up to me and confronted me in a harsh manner. I tried explaining to her that we weren't referring to her, but she wouldn't listen and before you know it, we were exchanging words. I said a lot because I was angry that she singled me out to confront, when we were two discussing the issue.

She was telling me to get out and i was sooo angry that I used the f word on her. Later, her parents came back and she reported me to them. Without calling to hear my side of the story, they both told their son to send me away. The mother even said that wherever she saw me, she would strip me naked. Their son my boss came, me and my colleague were called to say what happened,we did, then my boss told me to go home and stay put for a while.

After a week,he called and told me my services were no longer needed, that he made his own private investigation from the students and they confirmed I used the f word on his sister. I am not innocent. I admitted my fault, but he refused to temper justice with mercy. He promised to pay me for this month, but my reputation is stained. AGAIN.

Considering the fact that I had some issues with a previous school two years ago, very close to this one. There I resigned on my own. Now everybody is looking at me like I am a bad person. I AM NOT. I try to be sooooo nice and polite, but people always take advantage of that to look down on me. I am extremely humble to a fault, even hubby says I present myself as mumu to people too much.

Is it a crime to be of small stature? I am 39yrs of age and this girl I had an altercation with, she is in her early 20's. I felt so disrespected because of how she confronted me, even poking her fingers in my face in the presence of the students, so I lost my temper. I didn't mean to. Now people are looking at me somehow. I don't feel like waking up in the mornings because I wonder how I would face the day.

I NEED A JOB, that will help me heal from this trauma. Graduated 11 years ago, Chemical Engineering, University of Benin. But I still don't have a good job, I have been teaching to hold body, but I am fed up.

The salary is sooooo small, compared to the work load I was handling. I would love to work in a good company, but nobody, no one is willing to give me a chance. I am depressed daily. God should just use a good person to help me, wipe my tears. Sorry for the long write-up.

It will be wisdom to allow people call you a bad person, so when you do good, they will cherish it.

I sometimes enjoy when pple think I am bad or rude or arrogant, it gives me the freedom to operate...

All is fait in war and crisis, that you used the f word should be the least of your worries, why should you guilt trip yourself for using the f word? A little girl confronting you and poking hands in your face should spike your anger more than you using the f word...

November 2022

tesppidd:
These Jonathan fan boys led by Reno sef !

Even the man Jonathan has been quiet ever since; he probably realized how much he messed up and like the gentleman he is; has chosen to remain quiet.

But his soldiers have been crying since 2015 till date.

The performance or non performance of Buhari has got nothing to do with Jonathan.

Every patrioitic and reasonable Nigerian as at 2015 would call for the sack of Jonathan.

So also every reasonable and patriotic Nigerian would ask for Buhari to be sacked as of today..

Enough with this blackmail of Nigerians who voted for Buhari over Jonathan.

Jonathan was also so incompetent at 2015 that a stone would have defeated him in an election.

Reno and co should move on with their lives and stop blackmailing anyone who didn't support Gej.
Gej himself has moved on.


Besides that post from Reno does not prove that Wole campaigned for Buhari, that statement was made after Buhari had already won.

GEJ was not incompetent, tribalism and religious bigotry should not be mistaken for patriotism.

A patriot is not one who is hoodwinked in a mass hysteria, a patriot correctly forecast the right trajectory for his country...

Feel free to idolize you tin gods in Soyinka or Buhari, but please for the sake of truth don't ever say people who voted pmb are patriots...

Sonfethopia:
The girl had already cut the product into the desired shape the buyer wants and he can't say he won't buy. Its not fair. Don't be sentimental.

In her story, he kept saying she should snap and send the products, why didn't she snap and send She was able to quote what he wanted, but she couldn't snaap and send what she had.

She isn't completely open with the truth, that truth she isn't completely open about is what made the buyer to block her...

StarchAndBanga:
I am 55% certain she had not gone to the park yet as at when I told her something came up. We talked on video till after 3pm and as at then she was at the market.
She told me it's when she closes for the day that she would go to the park. If she had intentions of going to the park at that moment, she would have just told me while we were on video call that she would be on her way to the park any moment now.

According to her, she spent over 2 hours in traffic but the time between when we talked on video and the time I told her I was no longer interested was just over 1 hour

That you took out time to open a thread is enough to give your side of the story is enough, you shouldn't go about explaining yourself to every Tom Dick and Harry, most of them are only speaking from the woman wrapper department of their brain, should this story have been reversed in gender, the fulls sittings as judge over your explanation, will blame you also for not calling the buyer before going to send the items...

Even if you don't have the intention of buying from her again, it's all good... Businesses don't always go as planned and you didn't scam her...

Someone said Taye Taiwo could be richer than him...

Many Nigerians are very sympathetic to the plights of struggling Nigerians, I wish I could relay my experience in words so I can give normal warri body demonstrations.

So sometime in 2017, things where terrible for me, very very terrible and I kept swinging like a pendulum in and out of depression, I left my little abode in warri Delta State and set sail to set up camp with cousins in festac Lagos, I relaid to them my mission in Lagos, to jejely submit my CV in as many companies as possible.

Armed with the little change I could dust and gleaned from my malnourished bank account and leaking pockets, I was optimistic, I already made alot of photocopies of my CV and also edited to standard...

My cousins gave me directions how I will arrive "ligali", I carefully jotted notable landmarks, I wore a well ironed shirt to tocked in a blue jeans trouser, my bag hanging loosely behind me like a hunters bag, I bounced through "Amuwo odofin" just as I was to cross the express, someone tapped me by my shoulders, waived a not so clear i.d card in my face, introducing himself as a police officer and telling me to follow him, with my rude warri accent and bass voice, I asked "follow you go where? Why I wan follow you?" He said what do I have in my bag, I quickly opened it, he saw many envelopes, brought one out, I allowed him read it and told him I was going job hunting, he looked at me and said "good luck", I didn't even care if he was a police or not, i jejely continued my journey...

Whilst the story is very long, I arrived at ligali and asked a police man for pan ocean company, dude asked if there was a problem, I said no and he just gave me directions without any qualms, at pan ocean, the security didn't allow me walk in but honestly they were sympathetic, the security man and lady told me to reach out through the web site, they gave me their number to call if I had difficulty and that they won't allow me in because they were protecting their own garri...

I walked down and got to halliburton, same thing, the security guys there liked my warri pidgin and one bought me "expensive" indomie, they encouraged me, one even pointed to a staff for me to go meet with and talk to, trying to talk to the staff, he kept walking away and pretended he was making a call, me sef i press am leave am when e shakara con too much for my body.

When I got home, I had dropped 11 cvs with security men and spent about 4k for tfares.

The next day, I told my cousins I needed to go to where there were petroleum depots, he gave me directions to apapa and "Abule Ado", I walked round Abule Ado dropping cvs for safety officer job, I made sure I asked for the safety officer/ manager and I met with them, in all honesty, I never received any bad word from anyone, they encouraged me, took my numbers and I dropped my CV, infact I went to a company depot, I have forgotten the name of the company, but they had red and ash colour to their painting/ coverall, the safety manager, took time to listen to me, offered me a cold drink on that Thursday afternoon, dipped his hands in his pocket and gave me about 3,000 naira, he said he remembered he did what I was doing, he said prayers and told me he had no vacancy, he didn't get my number and didnt give his number, but he was almost in tears...

I went somewhere again and these guys where talking to me like they knew me from Adam, one was saying abeg help me call sulemon, it was latter I called someone and told him I came here to look for work o, he said he thought I was a staff, he directed me to another guy who took my CV and said its only the MD that hires people, I should come the next day to meet the MD....

There was a depot under construction, so many mopols were around, and people on suits, I joined them in their walking entourage and discussion, they didn't mind me, they were concerned about a puddle of water and mud, funny enough, no one even noticed I was not a member of their team, it was when I discovered their Waka just start, na so I press am leave them, I got one guys number and told him I needed to check something.

Okay, nothing much happened from the Lagos trip, but I felt happy and revigored at the encouragement, God bless that man who gave me that money and prayer; humans are not as bad as we sometimes feel or hear from the news, that was my first and only time being in lagos, I left Lagos the next day for Ibadan and back to warri...

If I had remained in Lagos and kept pressing, visiting and revisiting those areas, with my mind focused, I should have gotten one of those jobs, I also enjoyed the carefreeness of people, little wonder it's easily taken advantage of by terrible individuals...

Whilst I still work on contract basis with companies in warri, I would have love to enjoy working as a permanent staff to a company, I am very open for any offer...

So many people think it's going to be business as usual, in one hand, there is alot of individuals without basic career skills who are not even ready to be employed currently in Nigeria, on the other hand, employers are treating employees badly, they don't even realize that the bottom of the pot of soup is leaking badly... Government on the other hand is gearing it's belt to exploit taxation without making checkmating the excesses of employers, even the expatriate in Nigeria are beginning to be treated badly, I worked in a barge last year and there was no expatriate food for the Asians, they had to resort to eating only rice and cabbage for more than a month... The very first time I saw expatriates downing tools, Nigeria local content contractors no fit pay indigens and expatriates...

Anyways, there will be an harmonization somewhere somehow...

robosky02:
Truth is we need some serious business minded inform and experience hands too


Not just youthful jamborees

You are one of the numerous problems plaguing Nigeria, in a post not so distant away, you accused Gernot of not taking advantage of the home base players, you also accused him of not building a formidable team with the current crop of Nigerian youngsters in football, not you are speaking from another side of your mouth, talking about Victor Moses and experience hands, I pity the Nigerians who do not have the sense to decipher all your propaganda from truths, the Nigerians who do not see that your stand against Gernot is for personal reasons, how much will be you and your oga cut when Victor Moses gets called up to S.E and finally secure the endorsement you guys have been missing out from

Stupid how blind your ilks think that Nigerians dont see beyond your dotted lines...

Gernot was the best thing that happened to S.E after Bonfere Jo and Steven Keshi...

I am here to help

I know you have been a liar and full of shit from the beginning

Don't give out informations that will lead to revealing the identity of the child

Why are you not posting the document? Why are you posting 3 or 4 pages

Be remorseful and plead for less time and mercy

If you were innocent why did you plead to be tried in Nigeria?

The document available to everyone where the documents presented by the prosecutor

The document convicted you Mr. Bah, you are lying and full of shit

Don't call him condemned

He is not an accused, he is a convict

They didn't allow for gps kini kan

My lawyer said I shouldnt tender that one

I have spent over 150k dollars

He calculated 25k dollars



*Too many statements that contradict themselves from the protagonists and antagonists

Bully bully

Derail

Derail

Bully bully

Black mail

Chatacter Defamation

Black mail


My take on all these:

THE FIRST SET OF PEOPLE: Many of the people here, were moved by emotions and funny enough, they represent the multitude who didn't read the 1200 page kini, these people are much and I fall within this category, for us, our justice system revolves around the practice of "tell me the truth na you do am?"

Whilst this system is flawed, it's the system we are used to and it appeals to our state of hopelessness, we do not understand the Complex system of juror and forensics, at most we only get to watch CI and marvel at the complexity of develop investigations.

In all our bits, what is valuable to us, is our integrity and our investment is our emotion, that's why when our integrity is brought to question, we quickly rest, our emotion is only loyal to us... The fear of the future to be likened to a "condemned" rings fear in our ears, so this piece here on this faceless forum can hinder or make us in the future, after all, the forum is not so faceless...

THE SECOND SET OF PEOPLE: They are the antagonist, they are the elites, they came around dangling tales of helping the course of Mr. Bah, they sounded so puffed off, maybe it's the American spirit (the reason we all want to go to the America to be baptized in the American spirit; Nigerian has a way of humbling you even before ambazionians), I notice they have the capacity to give assist, they did read the document or pretend to have read the document, but they claim to see lies lies lies of the op, if you dont see those lies of the op, then to them, you are a rapist apologist...

The third people: the follow follow, they just follow the winning side, when Mr. Bah was winning the discussions, they were everywhere, cheering him on and calling on the village elders to come seat in parliament and chew kolanut over the case, when the antagonist started picking holes like stones from Mr. Bah's carefully prepared ewa agoyin, these people jejely changed sides o, they did give me some comic relieve... These crew don even want their ancestors to be called rap singers talkless of rape apologists, these set of people are just after the contact and influence they will get and make from here, e be like say single jand babes full this discussion

After all said and done, powerhouse5050

Only you and God knows if you are innocent, a part of me still feel you are innocent, but honestly the fact against you is huge, should you even plead for reduce sentenced, it has implied your acceptance of guilt, should you hold your ground, you will be accuse of being arrogant and rude..

@ Chatinent, I feel for you, you are a good man, a refined man, you did stand your ground and faced persecution, not for supporting Mr. Bah but for having a listening ear... Kpele, you didn't write anything defaming about the Atlanta journalist (at least from what I read), you only posted what he wrote by himself and he even acknowledged his sarcasm, I wonder where you tried to defame him as was adjudged from (in Peter Drury's voice) "some sections of the crowd"

@ Powerhouse5050 give your attorneys a detail event of everything, hold nothing back, calmly use the questions asked by the lead antagonist and her elitist team to form some of the questions the world and the prosecutors will ask you... If truly you are innocent as you still claim, Keep the spirit high don't falter, hunter no de shoot monkey when de inside cage, infact na banana e go give am...

Lead antagonist, you did well o, I wasn't also convinced by the "convict"... Take nothing personal...

Abeg make I rest, I no get power to find trouble...

But if you are not innocent, @ powerhouse5050, may the fleas of a million camel invade your scrotum and may your hands be too short to tickle them off your balls for a million lifetime...

legendgalas:
Nigeria is not serious at all
How will you sack a coach 6weeks to a competition he has qualified the team to?
A coach that has met all targets set before him since he got the job?
I will rate him 8/10 since he was appointed

I really don't understand all these hate and calumny against the coach, the coach is doing well, very well... I enjoyed Nigerians nations cup outing, it's only unfortunate that Algeria were a better side with a world class striker in Mahrez

If you notice in all the calumny, there is this use of "we football lovers" phrase, that goes a long way to tell you it's an orchestrated calumny, and making some selfish desires to paint for the desires of all Nigerian football lovers, it's same thing about the people who say "we the Patriots of Nigeria"..

Anyways, anything them like make them do...

kenzysmith:
what abundant talent how many of ur player dey uefa champion league this season name one? For the ist time players is selected base on form u think football in Africa is child play?
What will ivory coast who had abundant talent says after they miss out
Na so una do goodluck appoint buhari shey una see the results
Make I see wetin una Emmanuel amunike go do

You speak wisdom, the only thing Rohr has done, is not picking players recommended to him by "big men", hee has also refused to give bribe or collect bribe in the normal Nigerian fashion, hence the recent media onslaught against him

Let's be honest, the man has met all the targets given to him since he was appointed coach, so what is the problem I not corruption trying knock this man off...

The current Nigeria team don't have a style of play, that itself is a style of play, Rohr is careful so the S.E is not over rated and opponents come strong against them, watch Greece, Denmark, Croatia, Poland, it's wisdom to be an underdog and win surprises than to be the strong man and weak countries come against you and you are surprised, nonsense giant of Africa.

Relieving Rohr of his job, will be our greatest undoing after relieving GEJ of his job

after4:
What you have heard is the boys story, have you heard from the woman? Is it her business that the boy was arrested? What if the boy was lying? Every school in Nigeria said you must complete your siwess why did he not complete it? Is she obligated to allow him without the siwess? You see the reason why we have graduates that cannot speak or write their names in Nigeria. This boy has not fulfilled a critical criteria for graduation why should he be graduated? That siwess is a whole semester work and he came out to give some excuse.
Mister, if that boy was well trained at home, he would have learnt to control his temper. Do you k of that that lecturer is someone's wife and mother? Imagine one small boy beating your wife for doing her job to the point of coma and you are here defending the useless boy what if he had killed her, you will then go to the husband and children to tell them "sorry". Am sure the school will deal with the boy, when they do, go and defend him

I stopped reading at "is it her business that the boy was arrested?"

Havilaah1:
Good day all, i want to pour my heart on what's bothering me and get people's view and possible solutions to the issue.

I've been in a relationship with my boo for a couple of years now and it's a serious relationship, we're are very close.. infact we're practically besties aside relationship. For some months now i noticed he no longer gives me attention like he used to, the vibe between us dropped and it was getting me angry. He stopped doing the things he knows i like, he knows my love language is attention/care as well as complement but he stopped doing all these. I'd send him a photo where i look so beautiful and he'd only say you look good, at a point i started preparing my mind for the worse.

Just yesterday he told me there's something he wants us to talk to me about and it's been bothering him and i asked him what it was, he said it's about us. He said 2 of his siblings asked him same question on different occasions but, he didn't see it as a big deal the first time but when it was asked the second time he got angry and that's the reason he hasn't been flowing well with me.

The question was how can you get married to someone who is not close to your siblings, when he said this i was weak. I know when we started the relationship he told me his siblings are free people i can relate with, i told him i will try. I was in contact with 2 of his sisters before this year( i sometimes chat, text or call during birthdays, new month and festivities).

This year i started chatting with the 3rd sister, her wedding was coming up and she sent me IV. I congratulated her and she asked if i will be around, i told her i will try and create time so i can travel down to attend. I really did travel down to attend the wedding, she was surprised when she saw me but i noticed my boo wasn't happy with me all through the event.
Now he's saying he's in close communication with my mum and siblings, they talk all the time but same can not be said about me. He was thinking how can he get married and his siblings will refuse coming to his house because there's no relationship between us.

I'm a very introverted person while himself and his siblings on the other hand are extroverts and ambiverts, i don't find it easy building up ties with people from a distance. I have very few friends, i can be in a place and i won't talk if I'm not used to the people or there's no serious thing to talk about (that's the reason i talk to his siblings during birthdays, new month or festivities). I don't know how to build up a strong relationship with them before marriage, it's even worse because we don't get to see often cos they're in a different state but I've visited them on a few occasions.
How do i handle this issue. I was in deep thought all through the night, i couldn't get up to 4 hours sleep.


God knows i love his family as much as i do mine, he himself said he knows i care about them 100% but his family cannot read my mind to see that i have them in mind. After our discussion last night i couldn't sleep, I've been feeling bad about the whole thing. Introversion is making me look like I'm not a good person.

I really don't know how to go about this, please i need advice from people who have been in similar situation.
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Please help move to front page for wider view.

I hate when people especially ladies say tgey are introverts, you jusy dont want to leave your comfort zone and thats very fine, stop masquerading as an introvert, should there be a reason for connecting with his siblings, you will do that, you just don't see a reason, and forcing a reason to be friendly with his siblings will be counter productive, just be yourself and let him love you for being you... Learn good mannerisms and attend to his family in good manners when they come... Just dont lie that you are an introvert...

after4:
So rather than spend an extra year you chose to be rusticated, nice choice. Some people were not well trained at home. How can you have the guts to beat someone who is old enough to be your teacher

What has training got to do with the post? This boys narration clearly shows the lack of empathy in Nigeria and the instances where police brutality has boomeranged into future problems...

I remember the frustration I felt each time I left my office to go do clearance and the "big madam" was never on seat, she was either somewhere making aproko or still home attending to her business, I became enraged and caused an uproar, whilst some staffs took my side and acknowledged the "big madam's" lackadaisical attitude, some staffs tried to come me...

If truly we want to reform Nigeria, the refi should start from tge institutions and family circle, they hold the key, because that's where a whole lot of Nigerians went through to learn wickedness and stupidity...

Ehn destroy his life and render him useless, tomorrow he turns to an arm robber and kills 12 people on the high way, then you say nonsense...

I once went to work during an exam and I bless Mr. Usele of PTI and how he explained to me why I will be getting a spill, I enjoyed my spill and got the maximum mark out if it...

Double0h7:
It's because you started the conversation like a beggar. Be confident and interesting and nobody will block you.
You wven acted shocked and laughed at her for not knowing a country in a different continent (@ laughing emoji) as if your country is the USA.

The whole conversation was awkward. Next time, be casual and don't bring in countries and personal stuff. Ask about the person and don't rush... just have a normal conversation.

Can you please explain what is begging in the ops statement with the pole?

How best do you break a conversation without first sharing certain personal information especially like location Oh he should talk about the sky, moon and Jupiter?

Personally the first thing I tell any foreigner is my country and residence, so if you are not comfortable, you back off...

pocohantas:
“School is scam”
Why then is there no cluster of youths learning skills or businesses?




People in business, what has been your experience with apprentices?

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Iyaebe:
Hope you won't demand for what you don't like?that'll amount to selfishness.

You rest nau, life is not about sex and mouth action, if you so much like it and your hubby does not, but a dog and enjoy all the mouth action you want...

Easylion3569:
Previous thread https://www.nairaland.com/6821339/girlfriend-pregnant-please-me-im

And there was a voice, and he said to me; you're about to become a daddy.. And i said to him, i my really ready for this?

*What do i know about being a dad?
*Don't even know the duties of a dad,
*Don't even know the responsibilities of a dad,

I told him i've lost everything i had,
& he told me, what ever will be will be.
I told him, you are wrong, how true is that statement, when what would have been, has now seized to be.

Does one have to wake up every moning suffering?
i wish i could turn back the hands of time, it seems like someone is sitting down on me.

And now, i had to enter my room through the windows. Repeating one song over & over again.

i can't even eat nor drink water now, & i'm very hungry.
I've tried to read some funny stories on nairaland if it could put that litle smile on me, but it did not.

where can i start from here, how can i prepare for my mistakes, how can i avoid that wrong decison? It really got me down, and there is no one to take me back up.

*this is my song*
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If you could take time out to read what I am about to write:

That you are concerned about this shows you are a responsible human, I know the feeling, I bet you really do love this girl but seeing her now, it seems she is a destiny killer, it's okay that you have all these feelings inside of you. You should also consider the trauma the young lady will be going through, maybe she isn't your spec or even you level, but also consider the trauma she is going through...

Both of you should take responsibility, infact, the more you try to be responsible the more frustrated you will become, but I urge you to olease keep tge baby, don't make the mistakes most of us made...

A beautiful girl became pregnant for me, she ran away with the pregnancy after I told her and gave her money to abort it, she showed up 3 months later with a protruding stomach, I so much loved her, but I was mad as fuk, I was jobless and in a quamire in my life, just as you feel now, I felt no appetite to eat or drink anything, I told my closest friends and honestly they did give their advise, soon I took courage, I told my younger brother to go inform my parents that he is suspecting my then gf was pregnant and he is suspecting I want it aborted, I told my younger brother the truth and I needed him to break the news to my mom in a subtle way. Funny enough, my mom was over joyed with the news, my mom later sat me down and was explaining how she had a dream that my gf is pregnant and I am urging her to terminate the pregnancy, she said she will disown me if I do...

Prior to informing my younger brother, I had seeked the counsel of my best female friends and make friends and I asked them how do I cater for the baby and the mom, they said double your hustle, I asked how, they said call your formal employers and tell them you need a job, I said it's not so easy, they said I should try it out, I did call about 4, the first employer said he has been looking for me and he needed me to come do some job in Dubai, sent money for my passport and said I should be fast, the second said he needed to get a mail address for me to send an email, if I will be willing to receive 700k per month on a 6 months project

So I pet my then gf, and told her to go inform her brother and we should keep the baby, upon informing her brother, the idiot said I am a poor man and he can't allow his beautiful sister have my child, I talked roughly to him though as I was already very tensed, he took her to a hospital and they aborted a 4 months old pregnancy (18weeks), they ceased her phones and disconnected communication with me, I later learnt she almost died, rushed from one hospital to another and then she revived and established contact with me... The relationship died immediately, I couldn't bear the thoughts of letting the innocent lady go through a terrible ordeal, I was her first, she was an orphan, it's a guilt I live with everyday...

You may ask about the Jobs and what happened, lolz, everyone cancelled the appointment, my passport got so delayed and I couldn't travel, the other guy couldn't get the email and I lost everything.

What did I learn?? We are only care takers of children, most children come with what will be used to cater for them, truncating the process causess a big gap in the spiritual realm...

I didn't blame anyone, I blamed myself... My friend's said I should go arrest the brother and other stuffs, I asked them to what purpose I did confess to my mom the truth and to all who cared to listen as a way of reparation, but truly tge guilt still lies in my heart. I will be 34 by next year with no child or wife or even wealth...

Why have I said this story So you can learn and make wise decision...

I read tte father of Zeus was making life hard for Zeus and hiss siblings, what did they do They went to war, the Olympians (younger generation) fought the Titans (old generations) and banished them to a land beneath the Hades, it's time we retire these old men making lifee difficult for us...


Tinubu for president sha!!!

endsarrrs:
folks like you voted the PMB government in. Now you want me to continue wailing?! We are in it together. It's either we hang seperately or we hang together...enjoy your e-buhari

I swear I was visibly angry with your first statement about Buhari administration better than GEJ till I saw this post, the trolling sweet me, If I remember the energy these buharideens sapped from me pre 2015, I feel the best way to pay them back is to show support for Buhari and APC and ruga, and anything "nice" thrown at Nigerians... But I somehow wish I could do it from somewhere where there is snow and a maple leaf flying swaying with a red and with colour hanging somewhere...

sirjamesjnr:
. What cake do they eat? It is their body, respect it. That is what maturity is all about.

What is matured about body counts? Society will always shame immorality in any guise, just recently Tega and Boma were shamed by both the young and old, married and single, it's what holds the fabrics of our collective moral values together, you can't tell me otherwise, a slut is a slut... A slut should endeavor to tell her man who she is and was, and she should be responsible for who she was/is, not camouflaging under the umbrella of past is past and not wanting to be shamed after being deceptive with the truth to gaining a partner.

An arm robber should not be job shamed, it's in his past... A ritualist should not be job shamed it's in his past... Same goes for a murderer and a drug king, and a boko Haram member... It's all in the past

sirjamesjnr:
There is no sure thing as a sexual quota. And there is no such thing as a ‘hoe’. Men that slut-shaming women are not mature to be in a grown-up relationship. No lady is not accountable to any man for her past. It's none of a man's business.

That lady A has one guy she sleep with when she was 15 till she clocks 30 and married, lady B has a body count of 100 before her 30th birthday. The truth is the two ladies have sex and they don't owe you any explanation.

If you are going to marry for 'purity" look for a virgin girl. Do not condemn a man who wants a team player, homemaker, companion, and someone who can resonate with him. A virgin girl can tick all the boxes agreed. If you found that virgin girl with these qualities good luck. There is a lady out there for every man. Time is hard, while the world is moving forward, the Average Nigerian man is talking about body count. Shouldn't you be worried about a lady who can build a great home with you so your generation won't abuse you? Whether you are wealthy or you are coming up, I will like to think you need a proper woman to build your home with you.

My time in this uncertain world, both in the corporate world and among great minds. What we care about are ladies with decent character, basic moral values, ethics, cleanliness, abilities to accept responsibility, and willingness to learn something good. Never for once within this circle of friends and learned mind do we care about what a woman does with her body. What you do when you are in a relationship with me is what matters.

To that man who is in a decent relationship:
I know how you feel. When you develop strong feelings for a girl, it’s hard to think of her being with other guys. Even though you can rationalize that her past relationships happened before you met, it doesn’t make it any easier to accept that there were others who had been intimate with her. But you can’t dwell on this. It will destroy you, and it will destroy your relationship with your girlfriend.

Unless your girlfriend is the kind of girl that is very flirtatious, and who loves all the attention that she can get from guys, you probably don’t have anything to worry about. If she were a “hoe” she wouldn't want to have a decent relationship. So how do you get over this? There are only two things that I know of that you can do:

1. Don’t torture yourself with the details. There is no reason for you to know with whom she did it, how many times they did it, what positions they did it in, how big the guys were, and if they were better in bed than you or not. As tempting as it is to ask her these things—don’t! And stop her from volunteering that kind of information. Knowing these things will not help you or your relationship with your girlfriend in any way. They will only become mental and emotional burdens to you—obstacles and barriers that you will constantly have to overcome in order to treat her the way that she deserves to be treated. You protect yourself and you protect your relationship when you avoid rubbing your nose in her past.

2. Change the way that you look at people. Start realizing that every one of us is screwed up in some way. There are no perfect people. Every single one of us does dumb things and makes mistakes in our quest to find love and belonging. Your girlfriend is no exception. Choose to see her through the eyes of love and compassion, rather than through the eyes of judgment and condemnation.

To our ladies. I have one thing to say to you. You don’t need to apologize for your past relationships, and you don't need to explain yourself to any man. Simply understand that all you need is to be loved by someone, and if it didn’t work out, move on and build your life. Hopefully, your next relationship will work out for you.

Me personally? I’ve never longed to be with a virgin except for an ex and my girl(I am not with her because of sexual purity). I prefer my sexual partners to already know their way around their own sexuality. That means they’ve gotten some practice. Now I understand that as a man you need some certain confidence that some of you may are probably still forming. But when someone says something derogatory about the woman I’ve chosen to love I don’t reconsider my love. I conclude the person saying it is an idiot and ignore them in the future. I have faith in myself which leads me to have faith in the people I choose as partners.

Ladies out there, know the class of men you allow into your life. Be responsible for your actions.

Please enlighten me what is basically moral, ethical and clean about having multiple body counts

Your last paragraph should be and advise to ladies with outstanding amount of body counts since your post is celebrating and validating outstanding amount of body counts.

I see that the lack, poverty and hunger in Nigeria has really permeate our values, we deride chastity and edify callousness... I wonder what the op's involvement in corporate world have to do with appraising ladies body counts?

Poverty has so permeate our values that's working or owns a car is a wife material, the ones who are not working are liabilities (that's on the one side)

Poverty and class segregation has also distorted our minds that any lady who is working and living comfortably is a prostitute or corporate olosho (that's on the other side)

@op, the reason you don't care about the ladies with a billion body counts within your learned and corporate circle is very simple, you are not the husbands to them...