The likes of our mothers and grandmothers are no longer being moulded this days; as a result many men do not enjoy their homes again and many marriages have turned to hell on earth for both parties. The following are some tips FOR MEN to manage today's women:

1) First, as a young man looking for a woman, you need to - literally, this time - pick the coat that is at your hand's reach. Do not be greedy and bite off more than you can chew. For those women who know they are beyond the reach of many young men, be honest with yourselves and don't go and create hell for yourself and one misguided young man. Resign yourself to single motherhood, baby mama, or seek out a mature widower or divorcee, or polygamy or whatever works best for you.

2) Age difference between you and your spouse should be in your favour and preferably you should be older by at least 5 years, ideally 10years, the more the better. Women age more than men - physically, mentally, emotionally. At closer age gaps she is more mature than you are. You cannot hope to be the leader of a person more experienced in life than you are.

3)As a man, you must be the main provider of your family. At least provision of the basic needs - food, shelter, personal security. Guide this right jealously. Do not allow anyone to usurp it in the name of assistance or any other name. Whoever or whatever usurps it has taken your place. If you fail to meet this basic requirement, just quietly and voluntarily abdicate the marriage because you have surely lost your position as husband.

4) Maintain your masculine mystique at all times. Your spouse is not your mother and you are not a child. Don't go crying on her laps ( no matter the inducement) after any slight upset caused by the vicissitudes of life.

5) Use people management techniques to control human relations between your wife, children, and extended family members, especially female ones. Disorder at home is a symptom of ineffective leadership. You cannot succeed outside with an anarchic home.

6) Your spouse is your friend and partner - true, but you are the senior partner. You cannot reveal all the secrets of your soul to her especially when it would compromise your machismo and aura of leadership. Women are natural and deep actors and you cannot fathom some of the secrets that dwell in her own heart, so do not be pussy-whipped into revealing yours and compromising yourself.

7) Never let your spouse get the impression that you cannot do without sex from her. This is a big DONT. If you do, then be ready for a miserable life of extortion and manipulation. Be disciplined, learn self control. Always create the impression of reluctance for sex, or busy fending off unwanted female advances (which you actually encouraged)

Lastly - and if you have adhered to all the above, this step may never be necessary - when you need to effect discipline on your spouse do it vigorously and viciously, and let the period be as short as possible. Let your response be shocking and afterwards quickly smoothen it with many nice acts. Continue always with good exemplary behaviour, let the moments of discipline be seen as an aberration that ought not to be allowed to occur.

9) Do not be scared to use the demonstration of physical force to intimidate your spouse, that is the only advantage nature has given you over the woman. She has all other advantages over you - sexual appeal, greater stamina and endurance of psychological trauma, superiority in verbal aptitude, longevity, and sympathy of the public ( men and women) on her side in any dispute or conflict. However, be careful never to use your physical advantage and cause harm. Use the threat of physical force, not the force itself. Convince her that you can apply physical force, even though you will never do so.

kingsclass:

That's a naked lie.Read U S A history very well.

Na wah o!

EVILFOREST:

The entire NIGERIAN Nation which you claim is BIG is SMALL my Brother.
CALIFORNIA State in the United states is Half the size of the entire Nigerian Federation.
TEXAS is 2/3rd the size of the entire Nigeria.
ALASKA is bigger than Nigeria+Benin+Togo+Ghana all put together.
These are just 3 STATES ooooo
Yet our Population in Nigeria is chasing that of the United States with the speed of Light.
That's the only DEVELOPMENT we are good at

No doubt the entire SOUTHEAST is small but it's 2 times bigger than Jamaica. .
QUESTION of the DAY:
Now if it's really small, why does the Nigerian Government find it difficult ceding such a small portion to self actualisation with territorial integrity, if they could easily cede a small Bakassi..?

The 'states' in the United States of America are actually independent countries that joined together to form a union. e.g Texas was an independent country before it decided to join the union.

Yes. Women always queue up behind the nearest available successful man. It is not the reverse.

As a grown man, if you want to be successful you must learn to work independent of the negative influence of women. Women will derail you from your vision and mission because they demand that you focus most of your time and attention on them, and that is antithetical to achieving breakthroughs in life. After you have achieved success they will line up behind you and claim to identify with your mission.

Ningen:


END IT MAN.
Stop wasting both of your time.

Don't end it! You are on to a good thing. The present dynamics of the relationship is to your favour. Maintain the dynamics like that and you will keep enjoying your marriage as she strives to win you over but you will never completely succumb to her wiles. Perfect situation for a marriage. Kudos.

victorian:






Since you've been hearing of divorces cases. Have u ever heard a younger guy beat his matured wife to stupor over infidelity?
Have u ever heard a young man macheting his older wife?
Have u?

All cases we see and read online is a matured guy breaking his younger wife head cos of infidelity issues or extended family issues.

You are right because the young husband has been so emasculated that he becomes a shadow of himself such that the wife despises him and no longer pays any attention to his miserable self.

The worst aspect of marriage is that when a woman has succeeded in dominating and emasculating the husband she totally loses desire for him and no longer wants anything to do with the poor wretch. The now impotent husband can only wallow in self-pity.

victorian:





Even if they are few, they are not divorced nor separated but still married with kids.

Cause the matured women knows how to handle their men with wisdom RUTHLESSLY MANIPULATE any unlucky man that falls into their clutch

Not by how many but how well and how far.

It almost always never ends well.

In Genesis 19:30-38 Lot's daughters got their father drunk, and over two consecutive nights had sex with him without his knowledge. They both got pregnant. The daughters were the instigators and orchestrators of the Incest.

Abeg, make dem free the man. He is a victim of a daughter from Hell.

ModestGal:
I don't even know what to feel here, like I'm I reading something?
Am I sleeping or dreaming?
Your daughter said she would bear your sexual responsibilities and you agreed? Are you mad? Like, are you crazy?
How were you even able to have sexual urges with your own daughter, the baby you carried and pat?

This your excuse is more annoying to me

I'm so angry

Both parties are guilty. The grown-up daughter should not escape sanctions from this incest. How can you stop your father from remarrying, and then start sleeping with him without remorse. She became vengeful because the father has finally taken a wife.

ImaIma1:
Falling in love with your friend is awesome and makes life and marriage easier.

I am a beneficiary of this

Last last you will still turn to his enemy. MARK MY WORDS!

Friendship between the opposite sexes is not sustainable, as they have divergent and irreconcilable interests. What is best for the male is at the same time disadvantageous to the female, and vice versa.

We can all contribute to issues without being obnoxious.

Yes, yams are indigenous to Africa. Same as the mighty Oil Palm. During the the European voyages of discovery and international trade they succeed in being the principal agents of intercontinental dispersal of food crops, herbal medicines, local technologies, etc from one continent to another.

No need to be shocked at Ankara being foreign, because the tea, chocolate, and coffee the Europeans have appropriated as an essence of their own culture is not indegenous to Europe and cannot even grow there. They took it from other continents too. The Europeans found out that Ankara resonated well with the preferences of the Africans and started selling it to them, that's all; And the Africans have now made Ankara a cornerstone of their culture just as the oyibos adopted tea, coffee and chocolate drinking as their culture because they liked it so much. The people that grow all those tea, coffee and cocoa do not even like consuming those items the way the oyibos do.

The maxim is never give out what you can not part with and forget. Always forget what you give.

That being said, in the game of love (A.K.A battle of the sexes) it's sex for the male against material resources for the female. So denial of sex might prompt a temptation to retrieve material resources if it is believed to be far in excess of the sex received.

However such attempts are dangerous and could backfire because in the universe of the womenfolk even a round of sex is a fair and sufficient exchange for all the riches of the whole world were it to belong to a single man. So she may resist and fight this 'injustice' with her last blood, or worse still, seek to recover what she has lost by subterfuge, and failing that revenge.

It hardly ever goes well for a man to attempt to retrieve resources. Even when successful it might turn out to be a pyrric victory. Best bet is to count your losses, work to recoup your losses, and in future follow the MAXIM of NEVER GIVE WHAT YOU CANNOT FORGET.

Mraphel:


Can u please name the rivers in Lagos?

I seized to reply u again...henceforth....u r an infant on the topic

Apapa port is on the PortoNovo creek

FlordFlorez:
I fear who no fear woman. Abeg people, if u wants to marry, try marrying ur friend/bestie. I'm currently dating a girl that was once my bestie for 3years. Its 99% sure im marrying her cos since we've been dating (for 2year), no quarrel whatsoever in our 'table of contents'.

My brother, sorry to burst your bubble, but that is no guarantee that you won't meet with surprises AFTER you have married her. Even bestie of 10 to 15 years offers no remedy. Women are fluid and changeable and they themselves do not even understand the forces and motives pushing them hither and thither. The game of love, the quest to procreate, to tangle with the female, is very perilous to men. You may find all this hard to believe or accept but finally you will realise that you also have failed and fallen at the same place where your betters fail.

Fraternities are indespensable for the smooth running of society. Throughout history, in all societies, fraternities exist as elite guardians of culture and society.

Note: There are fake fraternities

BLUELemon:
what reasonable people will dress like this... With danger skeleton inscribed on their cloth?

Many paramilitary groups all over the world use the same symbol. You identified it right: danger symbol, signifying deadly potency for its cause. It's not necessarily negative.

You resign your job because of what trump said on Facebook. Meanwhile Trump is still keeping his job as presido. Classic case of cutting off your nose to spite your face. Foolishness of the highest order.

No chance. The child will remain with the mother till adulthood. However you may be given the right for him to identify you as the biological father. Your best bet is to maintain the best of terms with your girl and her family, if not they will indoctrinate and brainwash the child such that if you finally get in touch with him after 18 years or so it will be worse than relating to a total stranger if not an enemy. All in all, its a bad market. The best advice for you is to forget that episode, move on and get a child from another woman anytime you are ready for it.

mofeoluwadassah:
so you saying he did the right thing??

She probably lured him into it. I mean there are ways to nip this type of behaviour in the bud before it even manifests. Instead she was more interested in filming. Some of this behaviour is on the borderline of the natural mating ritual between males and females. You are supposed to firmly object when not interested, then it will become an offence if the unwanted attention continues, not recording video. Nonsense.

Yeah

Carchoice:
lol. “Already been shaped by ANOTHER”

Please read the thread on front page again , Also read your first comment and this last comment and tell us if you are not confused like bubu. The man doesn’t understand the situation of Nigeria anymore.

On 2nd thought...
You know there are 3 or 4 states of matter, and you can move an object to higher or lower states by applying or removing energy. And some materials require higher energy to transit states. Now, women in relationships with men, has as their default state, liquid form. They constrain themselves to the nature (shape) of the man after testing him vigorously to ensure his worthiness and fitness for purpose. The man has to expend energy/resources to withstand and overcome these tests. If a woman appears inflexible it may mean the man is not acceptable and has failed her tests (does not have capacity/energy/resources), or she has already adjusted to another for a long time (It might take more resources to melt) etc...

Now, capisce (understand)?

Carchoice:
lol. “Already been shaped by ANOTHER”

Please read the thread on front page again , Also read your first comment and this last comment and tell us if you are not confused like bubu. The man doesn’t understand the situation of Nigeria anymore.

I for break am down, though to give proverb and also to interpret dey tire person. Suffice it to say, 'a word is a enough for the wise'. Again, 'He who has ears let him hear.'

drmikeadams:



U never meet bad woman before,,,if u like make she be in gas form,,e no go ever take shape provided by container(their male partner and father)

When that happens look very well...she has already been shaped by ANOTHER previously (it will just take more energy than usual, and you may not be equal to the task), or is presently in the process, in competition with you.

To start with, you call another man a simp but what would make you invite a woman to your house for some days and you don't touch her, after spending on her and you are now spending more on tfare to send her back. Don't you have better things to do with your time and money? Why won't she disrespect and mock you too just like her simple father who failed to discipline and provide a good masculine and fatherly role model for the daughters.

No need to spit out the morsel of cake already in your mouth by sending her back.

There are no 'good' or 'bad' women. They are like liquid and will take the shape provided by their container ( their male partner). You, the man, must provide her 'shape', though not usually without some emotional/psychological clashes as she vigorously tests your mettle.

Just look at how he was posing with his hands in his pocket as he was nonchalantly strangling a human being with his knee in broad daylight without fear of witnesses present.

We dey talk say SARS bad, but SARS still dey learn work compared to American Police on blacks. God's own country? Really! This guy's are masters of propaganda and hypocrisy.

Good one

chiboyo:
RIP to the dead!!

However, i wish our politicians and top government functionaries of money spinning parastatals would realise that death would come to everyone and you will not die with all the funds amassed/stolen.

Do your bit when you are alive to help people and do not eat govt funds entrusted to you ALONE !!

I guess you meant as Modified?




Just kidding.

StubbornGENIUS:
[ :let's Face it:hundreds more have died within the same period due to other diseases.

You should be talking of thousands not hundreds. Only fulani herdsmen has killed more than 200 since covid-19 started. Don't even talk of boko haram. Thousands have died due to the lockdown alone. The lock down has killed thousands of Nigerians.

At the same time we can console ourselves with the thousands that has been born to replace the lost.

KingAzubuike:

Oh this is the new excuse? God wasn't using a 24hr system but rather the milky way

...or Andromeda or any of the other galaxies.

You think God is a man like yourself living on the earth counting days using the rotation of the earth?

See am? Who is fooling who?

Okortor:
110millions years ago? Lived bfor Adam or after Adam? Who senior sef?

Definitely before Adam. Remember, the animals were created before Adam. The 6 days of creation are allegorical. One day of creation in the narrative of an Immortal being ( GOD) literally means 100million years or more in the reckoning of man. Who knows what cycle GOD is using as HIS day. Definitely not the rotation of the Earth. Perhaps the rotation of the Milky way Galaxy about ......who knows...