₦airaland Forum

Desusi:
If that be the case,what would you do where no kids available after years of marriage?

In that case marriage becomes the business of trying to get the kids. A perpetual striving to get the kids. The marriage works as long as the hope that the kids will come remains alive.

VULCAN:
Instead of whining he should give her quit notice and rent out the two flats to take care of bills and enjoy himself in his old age.

I don't like men who whine about things like this when action will solve all.

Then she will make his home uninhabitable for him and also rouse up their children against him with her tears. It's not as simple and easy as that. Except he wants to call it quits with the marriage at such old age...and how can he do that without money. Except, quit the marriage, sell the said house and fund his retirement.

Dougyclan:
This man has been Spiritually killed by dis woman long ago,....

Your head dey there. The boy married his classmate. A woman bigger,smarter, more exposed than him. He has been serving her all this while and she was totally fed up and disgusted by his lack of manliness.

Sorry. RIP. You were alive long enough to know how you went wrong as to behave better in your next life.

HonestJOE:
Are you my twince in the same problem? Exactly what I'm going true. Mine has gotten to the stage of divorce this Christmas since my life is being threatened severally for voicing out my dissatisfaction. A fine good looking man with good heart like me? I cook, wash, does everything myself. I mean, we cook, eat & even sleep differently. My pain is my son whom has been the only reason for the marriage to still be standing in pretence up till today.

SMH....na una dey use una hand dey cause all these things

BirtherOfKings:
Stop regretting and take action
Threaten her with divorce and keep praying for her. She will change ..get her pregnant too.works wonders

OP, dont follow this advice. She won't take your threat seriously. Pregnancy will worsen matters.

Feggie3:
illiterate!!

You are so ignorant and sheepish.
You are the buffoon. Go and research and think independently. Abacha was one of the best detribalized leaders this country ever had.

It's on record, Abacha arrested sanusi ( former CBN governor and emir of Kano) when sanusi was implicated in a Moslem mob blasphemy lynching. Abacha disciplined Dasuki ( then sultan of sokoto), removed him and installed Macchido.

I think we can settle on 'gross stupidity'. Lol

erico2k2:
more like pocketing it

Sorry, on this one buhari was correct. Abacha did not steal Nigeria's money.

Abacha cleverly saved all this monies for Nigeria. If you know, you Know. If Abacha hadn't hid it, IMF/World bank would have taken it in 1994.

Abacha stopped the payment of loan servicing of over 2 billion dollar per annum to world bank/IMF. Not the loan itself o! Servicing of the loan. Abacha also stopped the floating and devaluation of the naira forthwith. Naira was steady at 20 naira to dollar through out his reign.
Now tell me if IMF had been allowed to collect of 2 billion per year is it not 10 billion lost? Abacha saved all that and hid 4 billion of the 10 billion IMF would have taken. Abacha is a hero. Go and confirm all these. It's on record.

For this heroic defiance against the IMF/World bank Abacha was demonized by the west. Opposition like Saro wiwa was sponsored to frustrate his government etc. Eventually the west sponsored his mysterious demise.

Abacha is a Nigerian hero and should be celebrated.

Our people say the sky is big enough for All flying objects to fly without colliding, but apparently not in this case. The pilots must be high on something. Let them test their blood.

Hezzyluv:
No b incompetence, If something wants to happen, it must happen.

Can you see the level of your reasoning? So events and inanimate objects now have conscious agency, then we human beings are now their pawns. Kai!

VeeVeeMyLuv:
it is wrong that's why our country is so twisted & backward, the family unit completely destroyed because of this thing.

If u wanna help the less privileged must it be through this thing? Op is not saying fucking is wrong. Ofcourse it is our natural right.

What he is that splashing such amount is wrong. It has a multiplier effect of destroying the value system. It mocks and rubbishes the girls who choose to do legit work.

These monies they are even splashing is mostly I'll gotten, looted, stolen, embezzled funds.

Check it out na, does it make sense? If someone daughter is seeking for a job or appointment letter, the person daughter will be mandated to Bleep even guys are not left out Bleep Bleep Bleep! Wetin?

The economy is not bouyant bcoz money is not circulating, why? Because such money or cash has been stash by these same guys in geepee tanks, sockaways, farms, bunkers!

You talk go here, talk go there, without addressing the crux of the matter. I tire. OP is complaining about the 'consensual' meetings between men and women in the hotel where she works, and the large amounts paid out to the girls. What's there to complain about? The girls worked for their money without compulsion. The men paid out willingly. You complain that the men locked down money, now they are releasing it through that avenue, you are still complaining? If you want to label it prostitution, is it not the oldest profession in the world? And it is legal in some oyibo countries. Besides, is there any man that knows a woman biblically without paying for it before or after- be it girlfriend or wife? So what are we talking about?

You are saying the men should spend the money on the less privileged. The men paying the girls for sex, are they not helping the less privileged? Or are the girls not among the less privileged? What you should be worrying about is if the girls are using the monies for something useful.

If you like no take your share, after all is said and done, na six feet under the ground for all.

1 million used to fulfill man's biological prerogative. To obey the only commandment known to be given directly by Almighty God to Man upon creation: Go out and multiply. Fill the earth and dominate it.

Give it time. With time all things shall pass away. Without exception.

hammerT:
INSTEAD THE WOMAN GO SAY SHE IS JEALOUS HER DAUGHTER, ATRRACT THE MAN SHE DEY FIND.

SHE DEY MAKE THREAT.

WE ALL KNOW SHE HAS COBWEB AND THAT THING HAS NOT SEEN A MAN IN YEARS.

SHE COULD NOT HOLD THE JEALOUSY.

Gbam!

Conner44:
These scientists are very late to the party.

There are already aliens within us here especially in Nigeria, if not how can some living things that disguise themselves as ’human beings’ still campaign and scream upandan clamoring for the leadership of both PDP and APC . . . after everything the genuine human beings in Nigeria have been put through

In fact, I’m sure we will soon unearth their space ship where it crash landed in ogbomosho

Lwkmd lol . Why Ogbomosho. Of all places in Nigeria, why did it choose to land there. Ha ha ha

Kasssandra:
Western nations don't choose the best leaders. Most of their leaders are at best mediocre, and not competent.

What they do well is holding leaders to account...which can help make the worst leader do very very well.

Here in Nigeria, most of us are content with what we have. Most of those who shout at their leaders prefer to shout at the Aso rock inhabitants, and not at their state or LGA leaders, and most of those shouting at Aso rock do it because they are left out of the sharing of cake.

Also, in the West, they realise that things cost money, and they act likewise.

Here in Nigeria, we want government to give us things for free...and when the resulting freebie giveaways damages our economy, we then blame the whites. We don't have a working refinery or a working power sector because most of us want free power and free refined product ...because we are poor apparently.

You were making sense until you spoilt it with the bolded.

MarcExcellence:
This is so wrong. Here in London, the police guys have more tattoos and piercings. We should wake up and chase more important things as a nation.

Why do we love copying the wanton and sordid negatives from them, but shy away from emulating the positive traits like technological culture and rational thinking? They are good in using their hands to make things. Almost every technological artefact we use in Naija is imported. Yet we don't aspire to emulate that but we hanker to wallow in the sordid and sultry.

No. You look and speak like a drunk. Frankly.

rusher14:
It's not government that promotes such people.
It's done by private enterprise.

That's what oyibo wants you to believe. However government is the biggest promoter and investor. The us government kick started aerospace development by placing huge orders for the new invention of the Wright brothers.

NobleAngell:
Well, there's nothing to say concerning the woman again, SHE'S DEAD. As for the man, I'm not sure he will get over this in a hurry. It will haunt him for a while.

Important lesson for those women who put their lives at risk because of husband.

Finally, May God punish every side chick of any married man out there [/b] especially if the wife was never anyone's side chick in the past .

...@bolded. But if the wife was, nko?...in that case God should bless the sidechick? after all karma is said to be a bitch.

Of course. The number 12 gives it away as an allegory. 12 zodiac signs. 12 months in a year. 12 tribes of Israel. Jesus was 12 when he was said to manifest wisdom in the temple where he engaged the priests on the fine points of the scripture, etc etc

Damisam93:
If you can reply this question I want to ask you, am not a fan of the Pope or a religious fanatics.

All the wars that has happened in your lifetime, did God caused it?
Are you inferring that the Bible is fake and you don't believe in God?

The bible is a story book written by Jewish authors just the way the Englishman wrote the various books of Shakespeare. Now, do you take the events in the books of Shakespeare as actual literal true stories? Some of them are based on historical events like the book of 'Julius Caesar' or 'Henry V' while some others are pure fabrications to illustrate a moral. There is a divine power behind the existence of the universe, if you want to call it God, fine; but it doesn't seem to give a damn about you as it appears to have its own priorities. No human being knows what it is or how it is. So-called human prophets are just guessing. Yes the Christian Bible says the "...the fool says in his heart that there is no God..." And yet a much bigger fool ( or should I say, fraudster) tells his comrades that God is like this or like that, and has commanded this or that. And usually the obedience of the commands will transfer power and people's resources to the 'bigger fool'.

Mercury12:
I have also observe u on this forum. I told u before.
U not fighting righteousness2 o but you fighting God and giving people wrong perception about God. You trying to make people doubt God. You disconnected and you need to find your source real fast cause demons speak through you

Abeg, what are demons? Where them dey? and how can I see and speak to them? I wan confirm something.

Karleb:
So simping means taking care of his child?

Abi you need someone to help you explain what you quoted?

Simping is allowing a woman to emotionally blackmail you with their usual weapons of children and sex. Say no to simping. No to all blackmailers.

Karleb:
So simping means taking care of his child?

Abi you need someone to help you explain what you quoted?

When the daughter grows up he can relate to her. Meanwhile he needs to keep his mental health and move on, cultivate heathier relationships and have more children. After all, statistically, most children prove to be a disappointment to their parents. You shouldn't lose your head just because of one.

Karleb:
Some of you guys amaze me.

He should neglect his daughter because of the sins of his wife.

C'mon man! You can do better

Should he put his neck in the wife's noose and die, Simp? When the daughter grows up he can relate to her. Meanwhile he needs to keep his mental health and move on, cultivate heathier relationships and have more children. After all, statistically, most children prove to be a disappointment to their parents. You shouldn't lose your head just because of one.

Realists:
Christian terrorists just murdered an innocent Islamic imaam.

What of 'Nigerian army soldiers murdered an innocent Islamic imaam'?

kabasa24:
imagine a Christian killing a muslim brother who offered him a ride to help him. no one is saying anything about it, not even the so called Bishop as comes out to condemn the act. we are watching.

Who told you the soldier is a Christian and not an atheist, or traditional worshiper?

Even if the soldier is a Christian, did he say that he committed his act in the name or in furtherance of Christianity? The answer is No.

He committed his crime in his own personal and private capacity so his religion cannot be dragged into it, just as the Nigerian military he belongs to cannot be held responsible because they didn't send him to do it, and he never said he did it as part of his Army assignment.

Mindlog:
That a relationship/marriage ended and the child is with the mother, does not absolve the father of the child from providing for their child as they both work out on how to go about co-parenting , unless you can cite any law within Nigeria that backs your position on abandonment

Remarrying to have children with another woman in order to "name the new ones the same name as the lost one(s)" is a clear indication of mental health issues without the need for mental status examination.

The OP is the one who has been ABANDONED by madam Wife and Child. If you step into the shade, do you expect the sun to follow you there to give you warmth. OP should provide upkeep if he can afford it. The onus to collect it should be the runaway wife, while providing access to the child at the instance of collection.

On the mental health issue, that's a matter of opinion. It can be a good coping mechanism to handle the trauma.

You have been advised not to go anywhere by those who have passed through it but it's unlikely you will heed it until you put your hand in the fire and gain experience first hand that it burns.

You won't listen but still: The best thing for you is to totally forget them and forge on with your life. Concentrate fully on your business or your career or whatever your life's mission is. If you have money to spare you can be sending her child upkeep. If you don't have just forget it and don't even stress yourself. Feel very free. The minute she walked out on you without your permission has absolved you of the child upkeep responsibility. It's up to her to upkeep the child. You can't be upkeeping a child and be labouring to have a say. They will use that child as a weapon to torture and ruin you. Find another woman, younger and more beautiful and have another child or children. Name the new ones the same name as the lost one(s). Rest assured that if you succeed and become successful in life, come what may, the lost ones will surely come back to claim the dividends of their paternity. But if you are a failure, everyone will deny you. OYO will be your lot. You won't accept this advice, but later you will regret not using it.