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"...the dark side of the force is the pathway to many abilities some may call... supernatural..."

Chai

blazetitov:
"He asked if I could provide boys for him, so I told Obinna, a photographer, about it because I learnt that he was very stubborn and could fight.”

This really cranked me up

Armed robbery is different from being stubborn and pugnacious you bloody fool!!!

Hmmm...E be like say you know.

What if I tell you that your governors and presidents are just frontmen and stooges for the people actually running the government?

Ladylite:
You married too early
You married misinformed
You married a good man but you are a better wife

Also your parents disappointed you. Anyway you are still in charge. God bless you for being strong.

Here is what to do
Meet an elder or pastor or cleric that can listen to you and let them interfere.

Also pls try to correct your child in his absence

Also for your husband simply note that you have changed and you have become less attractive to him. So simply change how you dress, change how you treat him first.... Dress differently, talk about whatever you know he is interested in.


If he is still in your daughter's business... Then u need to be careful... He may cheat on you with her when she is older.... So take a firm stand o, you are still young.

At the bolded, what the f_ck is that?

ubunja:
it's a discussion. You don't have to be in attack mode.

Most women lose their virginity to broke players. That will show you that money and women is not as straightforward an issue as one would think.

Breaking virginity takes much time, troubles, and patience and is not even enjoyable apart from the kicks of being the first. Only the broke has time for that. Afterwards the same disvirgined starts dishing it out in the hopes of getting money and privileges.

ajl:
Why all these unnecessary conjectures? As if there are no precedents. Even some mothers will keep quiet in order to save their marriage and the family from shame.

There are precedents of which most are linked to mentally disturbed individuals. Incest or child abuse is not a 'normal' behaviour. A normal healthy adult male is not attracted to children and would abhor incest just as a normal human would choke on it if the meat they are eating is suddenly identified as human flesh. It will take some form of mental aberration for human to eat human flesh. The few cannibal cultures identified only eat it as part of rituals or only outsiders, they never have the mind to eat their fellow tribesmen - are they mad?

The same applies to pedophilia, incest, etc. So every case must be scrutinized and all options investigated so as not to hang the innocent. Women having problems with their husbands are also widely known for all kinds of wild accusations to hit back. There jealousy of their husband's affection towards any female be it his own sisters, cousins, or daughters is widely known. Most daughters can attest to their mother's jealousy of their Dad's affection.

CHoccolaTE:
You are a very big fool

You nairaland men use every opportunity to blame women for your animalistic actions.

Nowhere in the story was it written that she "sneaked back" you bloody liar.

I am just tired of reading men justifying rape and molestation online, what is wrong with you people?

The op said she returned back and not sneaked back, do you know if the father threatened to stop providing for her if she doesn't return? Do you know whether she was forced to return because her real mother is no more and no body else to take care of her?
The woman in op story is her step mother not her real mother. You people disgust me with the way you can never take blame for anything, you just have to find a way to blame women even if in this case the woman is a minor of 16 years.

Stupid disgusting creatures.

Don't curse anyone who has not cursed you, but make your points calmly. All are entitled to their opinions. Cursing will not change opinions but well reasoned points may.

Returned back, sneaked back. Is it not just semantics?The bottom line is that the situation she returned to was not too unpleasant or she would not have returned. Kids have been known to run away from home in to the unknown when they are uncomfortable, and for teenage girls, there's no shortage of help for a damsel in distress.

Has it occurred to you that the Stepmom is lieing and framing up the father and daughter in a false accusation in a bid to frustrate the man from bringing in the daughter from another woman. All these just because of jealousy. If not how can you tell me that a normal woman witnessed the sight of her husband sexing his daughter and instead of shouting and causing a scene, was so calm and composed to meekly go and report, trying to incite gullible neighborhood boys into her cause, perhaps promising them some of her booty.

ikorodureporta:
nothing strange. if a man started in around 21-25, @ 45' u already have ripped adults in yr home...

is all about yr mindset. Some of those men become jealous of giving out the ripe apples without having a taste of it... & d girls too, I don't understand why they can't resist & inform their mother....b4 it becomes habitual

Smh...the way you have put it...hmmm...I dey suspect you o!

ikorodureporta:
nothing strange. if a man started in around 21-25, @ 45' u already have ripped adults in yr home...

is all about yr mindset. Some of those men become jealous of giving out the ripe apples without having a taste of it... & d girls too, I don't understand why they can't resist & inform their mother....b4 it becomes habitual

Smh...the way you have put it...hmmm...I dey suspect you o!

stormborn28:
you must be from planet Pluto.... Cases like this are countless now... I started hearing of such when I was a teenager and I have lived another two decades still hearing.... You have your phone... Google will help you

Hearsay, hearing...How many have you personally witnessed? The most frequent abusers of girl children are their male agemates who were taught this abuse by...you guessed it - adult women.

Google 'sex-abuse hysteria' :

"Children are vulnerable to outside influences that lead to fabrication of testimony.[5] Their testimony can be influenced in a variety of ways. Maggie Bruck in her article published by the American Psychological Association wrote that children incorporate aspects of the interviewer's questions into their answers in an attempt to tell the interviewer what the child believes is being sought.[6] Studies also show that when adults ask children questions that do not make sense (such as "is milk bigger than water?" or "is red heavier than yellow?", most children will offer an answer, believing that there is an answer to be given, rather than understand the absurdity of the question.[7] Furthermore, repeated questioning of children causes them to change their answers. This is because the children perceive the repeated questioning as a sign that they did not give the "correct" answer previously.[8] Children are also especially susceptible to leading and suggestive questions.[9] Some studies have shown that only a small percentage of children produce fictitious reports of sexual abuse on their own.[10][11][12][13] Other studies have shown that children understate occurrences of abuse.[14][15][16]

Interviewer bias also plays a role in shaping child testimony. When an interviewer has a preconceived notion as to the truth of the matter being investigated, the questioning is conducted in a manner to extract statements that support these beliefs.[8] As a result, evidence that could disprove the belief is never sought by the interviewer. Additionally, positive reinforcement by the interviewer can taint child testimony. Often such reinforcement is given to encourage a spirit of cooperation by the child, but the impartial tone can quickly disappear as the interviewer nods, smiles, or offers verbal encouragement to "helpful" statements.[8] Some studies show that when interviewers make reassuring statements to child witnesses, the children are more likely to fabricate stories of past events that never occurred."

mezarddinny:
true but many women won't listen, once they aren't married at 29, they become jittery and settle for less just to bear MRS

If they keep waiting and marry at the end of their biological clock (40yrs) then what have they gained?

All who have swallowed this story publicly display their gullibility and naivety. How do you think it is possible for a full adult penis to be inserted into a six year old without causing the flesh to be torn to pieces? It's just not possible. And you think a father can do this? When he is not a chronic drunkard or stark raving mad? Very young Children are very impressionable and can be influenced to say anything...she has probably been molested by her age mates, or even other older women (these ones are also guilty of some of the child abuse but they are very crafty about it...if you know, you know)

Powersurge:
A single mother is a baggage. Only few worths the investment.


most of the time, the child is always the obstacle between you and her mother. Because by default, women love their children more than to their hubby.

Gbam!

SoNature:
Local content law enables us to develop our local talents.

If we don't implement such laws to the letter, Nigerian engineers won't grow

Rubbish. You don't need quota system in industry. Let the best talent ascend to the top. Others are to learn from the best and improve.

ussv:
Like during my youth days when i was single and was very much in love with my then girlfriend. We used proceeds from her sugar daddy to survive when we were on campus in our days as undergraduate in Unilag. Even though she spent nights with the sugar daddy in question and come back to campus with huge sums of money, i still believed what she always told me that "the man did not touch her" . I believed her because i was in love and it went on for years until she broke up with me to go and become the 2nd wife of the sugar daddy. It really devastated me. I knew there was no way it was true because on each visit to the sugar daddy she was coming home with nothing less than 5k , i'm talking about 5k in the late 80s., but i chose to believe her and be in denial because i wanted to be alright and not feel distraught or bad.

5k in the late 80s or was it the late 90s. Man in the late eighties u can buy a 2nd hand car for 10k. Youth service allowee was 250 Naira. Oil company salary was 4.0k. government civil servants earn 1k to 2k. etc

pocohantas:
Not the same. Have a nice day.

Intellectual honesty is a prerequisite for meaningful debate on any forum. Madam, admit your faulty reasoning when it has been proved logically , take corrections and move on. Simple.

Put up more pix

LordReed:
I don't really care to, I just like proper information to be disseminated.

Besides you have corrected nothing.

That's trolling then. Nitpicking at articles pointlessly.

You are a troll.

"Trolling is defined as creating discord on the Internet by starting quarrels or upsetting people by posting inflammatory or off-topic messages in an online community."

LordReed:
But that's not what you wrote or implied. The clear implication of:

In the Society, the Maternal Mortality rate is high in the female folks compared to men. The number of girls birth rate is higher than that of men, and the number of men death rate is higher than that of women.

Is that women out number men in population.

Noted...and it has been clarified/corrected. That being said, 'Leave the single trees and contemplate the forest'.

LordReed:
Were do you people get this statistic from that there are more females than males being given birth to or in the general population?

The ratio is approximately 1, actually. However not every man who wants a woman can afford to keep one. So in effect we have more free women roaming around that cannot be absorbed by the available competent men.

It means she is manipulating the man to be jealous in other to get her way. Women are constantly being approached by men from the age of adolescense and know how to handle such situations. No need to report to your man except you want to agitate him.

A Christian friend sent this stuff to me. E be like say the ground has been prepared long time ago for men to have more than one wife.


POLYGAMY! POLYGAMY!! POLYGAMY!!!
You will all agree with me that one of the most controversial word in Christiandom today is *POLYGAMY*

Are you a religious scholar? a Pastor? a Theologian? or a born again Christian?.......? Please , feel free to constructively contribute, castigate, correct, admonish, advice or preach........in accordance with the provisions of the Holy Bible (the word of God)

Before I go further, I will like you to have the following questions at the back of your minds.

1). Who was the first person to engage in the act of POLYGAMY?

2). Is POLYGAMY a sin?

3). Did God condemn POLYGAMY?

4). Those that engaged in POLYGAMY, are they in Hell?

5). What is the fate of the polygamous Children?

6). Is marriage a traditional act or religious act?

7). Why do Christians condemn POLYGAMY?

. What are the effects of POLYGAMY in Christiandom?

9). Has God changed?

*GEAR 1*
Lamech was the first man to marry more than one wife, Gen 4:19

*GEAR 2*
Godly/Holy persons that engaged in POLYGAMY according to the Bible included
*Abdon*, Judges 12:13-14; *Abijah*, 2 Chronicles 13-21; *Abraham*, Gen 16-1-3, Gen 25:1; *Ahab*, 1 kings 20:1-3; *Ahaseurus*, Esther 1:9, *Ashur*, 1 Chronicles 4:5, *Belshazzar,* Daniel 5:2, *Ben-Hadad* (who married Ahab's wives), *Caleb,* 1 Chronicles 2:18-19, *David* (had 8wives), 1 Samuel 18:27, 25:39, 25:42, 2 Samuel 3:5, 5:13, 12:7-8, 12:24. *Eliphaz*, Gen 36:11-12. *Elkanah*, 1 Samuel 1:1-2
*Esau*, Gen 26:34
Ezra, 4:17-18; *Gideon*, Judges 8:30....and many more.

We had not fewer than 40 Godly and ungodly men that engaged in POLYGAMY from the Bible. Also, we had not less than 43 POLYGAMY cases from the Bible.

*GEAR 3*
Had God condemned POLYGAMY?
*No! God NEVER did* In all the POLYGAMY cases mentioned in the Bible, God did not condemn any axcept David who snatched Uriah's wife. God said to David ' in 2 Samuel 12:8; *I gave your master's house to you, and your master's wives into your arms. I gave you the house of Israel and Judah. And if all this had been too little, I would have given you even more."*
Why did God himself say so to David?

*GEAR 4*
Is POLYGAMY a sin?
Those that engaged in POLYGAMY are they in hell?
Is Abraham in hell? (Luke 16:19-31)
Is Jacob in hell?
Are David, Solomon, Elkanah, Ezra.....@all, in hell?

*GEAR 5*
Does God permit POLYGAMY? *The answer of course is YES!* In Genesis 21:10, God said *If he (man) marries another woman, he must not deprive the first one of her food, clothing and marital rights*. In 2 Samuel 12:8. God Himself said to David ,"...I gave your master Wives,........if you need more, I would have given you"

*GEAR 6*
What is the fate of the polygamous children? Condemned or
Favoured?
Why was Joseph, Samuel, Solomon.... Highly favoured?

*GEAR 7*.
Before religion there was marriage.
Gen 1:26-28, Gen 2:18-25

The issue of Monogamy was purely *the tradition of the western world who were our religious colonial masters. In the land of the White, traditionally, rivalry is a taboo*. But the Jews (Israelites) and the Edomites (the blacks) share the same or similar traditions. A widow is not allowed to be seen in the Street, but be remarried to their husbands relatives or friends, Gen 38.

*GEAR 8*
Why do Christians condemn POLYGAMY?
The new testament completely responded seamlessly on POLYGAMY matters. The new testament talks about every aspect of Christian living except POLYGAMY. Mathew 19:3-9, Jesus spoke about God’s initial plan for man. *He condemned divorce but did not condemn POLYGAMY.* Paul’s admonishment to Timothy on how to elect Church leadership, just like the case of levites of old (Moses...), 1 Timothy 3. The point of contention here is, If there were no men with more than a wife in the Church, Paul Won't have mentioned it. Also in 1 Corinthians 7:39.

*GEAR 9*
Effects of POLYGAMY:
POLYGAMY has it merits and demerits in the society and Christiandom at large.
1). In the Society, the Maternal Mortality rate is high in the female folks compared to men. The number of girls birth rate is higher than that of men, and the number of men death rate is higher than that of women. The number of widows keep increasing geometrically adding up to the number of single women in the society.
This leads to increase of infidelity, adultery, and formication in the society compared to the days of our forefathers. So pathetic nowadays to see our single girls fighting with widows for the ownerships of a guy.

2). Religiously, the so-called MONOGAMY has caused more harm than good in Christian-dom. God says in Gen 1:28 'God blessed them and said to them, "Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it. Rule over the fish of the sea and the birds of the air and over every living creature that moves on the ground'. But what do we have today? Christians going into family planning. The Israelites lived 430yrs only in Egypt, but Pharaoh became scared because of their rapid growth in population. I can't imaging if they were practicing Family planning and Monogamy.

IBB introduced family planning to Nigeria with a maximum of 3 children to a couple and, was widely embraced mostly by Christians, that is 3 children to a couple but, Muslim being naturally a polygamy has an average 2 to 5 wives to a man, meaning 20 children to a family. This have invariably led to increase in population of Muslims far above their Christian counterparts in Nigeria (60% / 40%).
Looking critically, Nigeria is trailing the path of Turkey and North Sudan.....

Turkey(the biblical Antioch) was a Christian nation overtaken by Muslims because of falsehood of Christian priests.
b.) Very soon Our children, particularly daughters (that we are trying to protect today) will be used as sex slaves because monogamy denied them an opportunity to marry.
C.) There are millions of stranded women in the South and, may not likely get a husband forever because of the arguments against polygamy; whereas hardly can a women be stranded in the North; thanks to polygamy there.

GEAR 10
Has God Changed?
God of Adam, Abraham, Isaac, Jacob, .....the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, is the beginning and the end, the Alfa and Omega, He is the same yesterday, today and for ever; has not changed

CONCLUSION
What is the way out?
Christians don't be "Paul when he was Saul'
Pastors, be careful what you preach on the pulpit about POLYGAMY as what you preach, instead of becoming light, rather, it is destroying Christianity
Hosea 4:6, 4:6 my people are destroyed from lack of knowledge. "Because you have rejected knowledge, I also reject you as my priests; because you have ignored the laws of your God, I also will ignore your children.

*HE WHO HAS EARS, LET HIM HEAR*
Forwarded as received, *I need not be crucified as a religious bigot*.

Note: Forwarded as received.

tiredoflife:
Oga our stable foods were never rice
Rice was introduced by the British into our menu
We had cassava as our stable food
Rice started coming into our food in the early 50s

Cassava too was introduced by the British from the west Indies. It is not indigenous.

The staple food was the king of crops - Yam.

Worst comes to worst, we can return to it. All na carbohydrates.

tomakint:
The madness in the land is unparallel at least this i can confirm almost every time. What is the point of closing border to a neater, stone-free and better parboiled foreign rice when your have not perfected the art of producing quality rice and in larger volume only for a useless and lying government to just rush and close up the borders in their usual mumu way of saying "we want to encourage local patronage of our local rice production" when our annual consumption rates of over 7 million metric tonnes far supercedes our annual production rates of about 4.7 million metric tonnes. The question is, who still practise "protectionism policy in this modern age"?

Then What is USA vs CHina trade war all about?

VillageHead:
Let me reiterate:


"Nigeria as a country NOW is not worth dying for."

How much are these military men paid to risk their lives?

The sleeping SINators and LegisLOOTERS keep sprawling obese with huge salaries while these galant men and women receive peanuts for their sacrifices.


FG won't provide the necessary ammunition to combat these terrorist group.

And for you the sender of this post and video, you better resign and look for another means of livelihood before your life is wasted for this evil and corrupt country.


Apart from your family and little circle of friends, nobody cares about you.

Please retract your statement. It is very inappropriate to cajole the soldiers for doing a job that must be done. Without these soldiers, YOU yourself will have to pick up the gun to defend yourself against the forces of lawlessness and disorder, and failure to do so you will be slaughtered in your sleep.

Before you mouth Nigeria is not worth dieing for remember that the worst peace is better than the best war. Let's honour our soldiers and appreciate their sacrifices.

OKorowanta:
Even though na area him be,the guy no try.
He has not even acknowledged his son with Linda..
At least say one cool thing about the son not Linda.
Too bad!

The guy man obviously has not accepted the child Linda is imposing on him. As a bad guy Alpha male, do you expect him to accept a woman's pregnancy just on the worthless value of her words? Linda's baby could have been fathered by anybody, who knows? She was shameless to have imposed the man's surname on her baby without proof (DNA test). As enlightened as she claims, if she can prove her baby's father then she can legally compel the father to live up to the responsibilities of a father. It's as simple as ABC.

babasolution:
i am so dissapointed in the comments on this thread,gosh many people here have terrible low self esteem and inferiority complex,they are also evil,making dooming pronouncement and curses on nigeria and the black race,all i know is that Nigeria will be great and the black race will be great

Oga, face reality. First step in solving a problem is acknowledgement of the problem.

vezycash:
LMAO China 70 years? Try 2000

Wetin be 2000 years? Talk of 6000 years of uninterrupted continuous civilization from its inception at the yellow River valley around 4000bc. China is the oldest continuous country in the whole world!

Switruth:
Arrogant and Pride? That’s a bad English.

Tautology, to be precise. Illiterates posting jargon.

Sandra8:
Yes for guys miseducation dear. This is for ladies, clear difference between the two

Ladies don't need 'miseducation', woman! That shit is in their blood and also fed them with their mother's milk.

You are not talking anything useful to the womenfolk or the menfolk. Even a 5 year old girl is versed in whatever miseducation you think you are spouting.