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This is a well written piece. I hope the author is not been bankrolled by the opponents of Tinubu. If he's not, then he made sense.

Doraty1:
https://dailytrust.com/fg-gives-licences-to-20-new-privates-universities

Very soon, universities go plenty pass who dey attend am...

spy24:
The real problem with igbos becoming president is igbos themselves , pride and ego has blinded them

What do you mean?

Everester:
Guiding and counseling is not ur thing jare,
After marriage,are u kidding me?

It depends on what you mean. I do not think he can live with the guilt all his life. He has to open up. Yes after marriage even if it is many years after.

PERVENCHE:
*NOTE
With all due respect, I have changed names and some too familiar details about myself out of respect for my wife to be. I know she likes to catch cruise on nairaland.

My name is Friday (of course not my real name) I am from the middle-belt. So please save your tribalism with all those una Igbo, Yoruba and Hausa insults. I met Grace(my wife to be) few years ago. It was love at 1st sight. She was everything and is still everything I had hoped a woman should be. There is this crass about her that makes her effortlessly better than any lady around her. My type in the true sense of the word. Tall, busty, curvy, sassy, elegant, personable and above all, she has a graceful soul. From the 1st date to this day, I still pinch my self like.. What in God's green earth is a beauty like her doing with a shrek like me.

But then, true perfection is always a utopia. Grace in all her graceful demeanour and aura, has a flaw; Indecision! More so, blind trust seems to be her albatross. (I swear she can even take Lai Muhammad's word to the bank) Though, I still love her; flaws and all. Her complete or should I say blind trust for me and Abigail became one of the reasons Abigail(her younger sister) has become an unending chapter in our relationship. Even though the blame of what happened squarely falls on me.

Abigail just shy off 20, is too savvy for her age. Not the outright outstanding beauty like my Grace. What ever little she lacks in beauty, she more than makes up for it in her mentality. For she is truly a smart and an intelligent girl. Just five years younger than Grace. One who expect them at least to be close and be like Asaba and Onisha but then...they are the direct opposite of each other. While Grace is the introverted shy person, Abigail is quite the extrovert and likes to make friends for Africa. It is only fair to believe their formative time in secondary school played a part in their output towards life. Grace likes to conform like most day school students. Abigail on the other hand, is the boarding school nightmare all parents hope not to experience: the deviant.

Through the 1st years we dated, Abigail was in secondary school and was never in the picture. For some odd or strange reason, Grace was not ready to fully commit. Not that I blame her or something. At 23, Most girls her age are like Alice in wonderland; they crush on celebrities and Chase childhood dreams and fantasies. The vile ones, if truth be told...tend to live out their hoė phase. At 28, I was already grounded to know what I wanted and it was Grace and marriage. Sometimes, you do all you can do but then life has a way of throwing in a curveball. More over, "No be say because I wan chop egg I go begin dey worship chicken." Sensing her shakara, I pulled the hand brakes on us and walked out of the relationship.

***2 years later***
Fortunately or unfortunately after letting go, Grace became incensed and started to want me back. I hardly do any social media at this point. Pride won't let her call me, so there was no way to send coded messages on whatsapp status to me. Being the introvert that she is and the all trusting graceful Grace, she started to send Abigil over to my place to bridge the gap. In just over two years, Abigail had changed and developed into a sexy hippie bohemian. Not that I fancy her in any erotic way or something. It's just that in our contemporary naija society where mostly everyone conforms, it is hard not to notice a bohemian.

Knowing I would do no better than Grace even with a million dollars and in a hundred years of searching, I mended fences with Grace and our relationship became stronger than ever. Over time, Abigail became a bridge between us. At first, Grace would send her over to run errands for her. After a while, it became a second nature for her to come over and fidget with my electronics. Courtesy demands you be nice to your in-laws to be and so I was nice to Abigail.

Abigail's posturing over time made it difficult for me to say no to her especially during them Nengi and Laycon days in the house. She was a fan of big brother lockdown. And would always ask for my keys to watch the silly show for she was equally as silly to be gushing over that vanity fair. Grace seems not have any issues with her coming over and I also did not for I was hardly home and God knows the sub was kinda wasting away.

There are some things in life that are not planned. They just happen! My boss at work then tested positive for Covid and we were all asked to quarantine at home. Grace still had to go to work while Abigail was always free because of the ASSU strike. Suddenly, I started to be alone with Abigail. She would come over "for big brother" around 9am and leave around 7pm in time to beat her curfew at home. It was awkward staying all day with Abigail. Grace too predictable, only comes over on Sunday. For some strange reasons, on Sundays, Abigail will never show up.

There were times, and I am sure it could just be my imagination, that she enjoyed teasing me. She would come dressed like a sister Mary Amaka from home but after a while, she would take her bath and transform into a Kardashian. Wearing skimpy cloths and heavy make-up. I tried to give her her space. I was in quarantine and therefore, had practically no where to go. I am basically the type that don't flock with co-workers and I hardly keep any friends except for Grace. I am not one to be neighbourly with my neighbours so I was stuck with Abigail all day. Humans are social animals and we tend to gravitate towards each other especially when we are alone with someone. Gradually, she won me over and I started to watch the big brother show with her. While she was rooting for Nengi after her Erica left, I was simply for Neo for he had my height. And the bond between us grew. God knows I had no vile motives and evil intentions. It is hard not to enjoy Abigail's company for she is a smart, gleeful and witty girl. While I do all the talking with Grace, Abigail on the other hand does all the talking with me and it was a welcome change.

*** D Day ***
It became obvious Abigail was not telling the truth at home. She would pick their calls and tell them she was in her female friend's house. And in the spirit of our new found big brother bond. We kept the secret. On this faithful day, it had rained all day and Nepa had struck and the plug in my generator was no good. The rain had brought with it a cool breeze and some magical thunder. Seemingly, we could not watch our show so I took a blanket because of the cold and buried my attention on my PC (laptop) re-watching season 5 of the game of thrones.

Naively, Abigail joined me and entered the blanket with me. I use the word 'naive' because I honestly do not want to qualify her as a minx. And I know she does not see me as a Justine Bieber of a crystal ball for her to be drooling at. While in that warm blanket watching the movies in such compromising position, One thing led to another and alot of that one thing opened up her Pandora's box and I... I ate the most forbidden fruit there ever was. There is no telling how wonderful making love to her was at the heat of the moment and there's no shame in the world that equates to the shame that immediately dwell and still dwells in my soul shortly after even to this day. There's a lot to blame our mistake and betrayal on. Could it just be the moment? the weather? the chemistry? the devil? (laughs) my opportunistic habit? Her feminine warmth in such close proximity? my placing a hand on her thigh and meeting no resistance? My foggy mind and grown erection? Her racing and panting heart? Her feisty zeal and deviant nature? My libido? Hers? My morals? Buhari? Herdsmen? IPOB? Sunday Igbahor? Dstv and big brother? NEPA? Game of thrones? Was she after all really a minx? In all fairness, she is just a little naive girl that does not deserve to be pilloried for my betrayal. As the adult, I should have known better and acted a lot better.

Climbing down from our lustful climax, we both knew immediately what we had done, the gravity and the implications it could have on not just us, but grace and the whole family. In the most contrite way possible, we apologized to ourselves and vowed never to repeat it again. We felt it would be better not to tell Grace or anyone and we agreed Abigail would stop coming over. I started to avoid Abigail at all cost. I did not just release cum after my despicable act with Abigail, I released every thing good in me and every form of happiness. I felt much less of a man and wished I had died as a child or better still was aborted.

I hardly could face Grace after. The more I try to ghost her, the more she held on tightly. It became awkward visiting their family house for I was not comfortable around them trusting and accepting me. Not for the fear that they would find out...just my conscience eating me up. I stayed away and made peace with my gross mistake. For over six to seven months. I did my penance and nothing happened with Abigail. I know I am in a better place now to make sane decisions about cheating. To give something back to Grace, I have vowed never to sleep with anyone till die. We know how cheating amongst married men is common these days. I no call Adekule Gold name oh!

Me and Grace are set to marry on the 17th of this April. The thing is...Abigail is her chief bridesmaid and preparation demands I see her most times. She still has a look in her eyes...dunno what to make of it. A look of blackmail? Of you could still hit it if you want? We have unfinished business kinda look? You should be paying a bride price for two look? I die inside every time I see Grace happy she again got us back to talking terms because of the wedding. Ignorance is truly bliss.

I have doubts going through with this wedding. Folks may laugh and say I chickened out because of the inflation and money, others might blame Grace. It may ruin Grace for ever. How do I do this knowing Abigail will always be family?

It was a lengthy write up. But I must commend your use of English. I feel you should go ahead with the marriage. Ask for other people's opinion. Then after marriage tell your wife what happened and promise never to do such again. Good luck.

Magnoliaa:
[color=magenta]Me?

Here's what I'll rationally do and with prodding from the Holy Spirit as a person naturally surrendered to him and trying to live an holy life only suitable for him. I'm trying to manage the anger issues I got from my previous relationship, yea.

So I'll walk to the fridge... I mean, I tend to be a self-conceited person at times, and always making everything about me. My ex boyfriends were so abused in our relationships that they hardly drag anything with me. I'm used to not being mad at or dating an angry person. They usually cower before me. If you ever get mad at me, I flip it and turn the heat on you sharpaly! Where was I? I said I was going to walk to the fridge, because the distance would help quell *my* indignation. I'd get out so many chilled bottles of water, a bowl and pour out the water all into it. And then I'm going to walk right back to where the hell the MF bf is at, douse the cold water all over him and flip the bowl over his head. Won bi i da ko ma kalm down.

I mean women can learn to do better in pacifying their Men. Not every time words, ... how many time has that changed anything? The scenario described above is something that's worked for me over time and I am being serious. I hope some lady out there picked one or two things from this. . .

#StayQueening
#FutureNeckPlacaters
#Femi9Tips[/color]

What are you saying exactly? And must you use pink to blind our eyesight?

Oga, walk away, I say it again walk away. There's a high probability that she'll cheat even if you marry her. My two cents.

Happy birthday.

This is a serious problem. Scammers are using Sportybet to scam people and launder funds. The government has to do something about this quickly.

McJane:
Holla amigos!

I'm Jane, a 200L pharmacy student. I just finished my 100L second semester exams last month and all our results are out! (yeah, my school's that fast )
Good news is that the list of those who crossed over to pharmacy school is out and guess whose name is there? Yeaaaaa it's ur girl,
Now I'm currently wrapped up in confusion because a colleague of mine just told me that My CGPA is useless I'm like howww? And she told me that it doesn't start counting from 100L, but from 200L
Now I'm in severe pain because my CGPA of 4.905 is about to go down the drain, all my sleepless night?

So out of curiosity I brought it to my elders on Nairaland to confirm the authenticity of this?

Also I want to clarify from med students, what's the criteria for graduating with a distinction in B.pharm?

Your GPA is not useless because it will contribute to your final CGPA. But the only thing is that pharmacy is NOT classified that is nothing like first class, second class etc.

RedChiefPriest:
I'm not sure if there's a section for betting here on nairaland so that's why I chose Romance.
Make una no vex.


I just want to ask if people have been in serious gambling debt and how they were able to cope with the situation.

See I'm not greedy please I was just broke and it's not like have not been trying to do things to get money,let just say life has been flogging me really hard and giving me different shades of disappointments.

Someone told me he has sure 3 odds and I should bet massively on it and someone kept 50k with me (the story is somehow complicated) so I taught if I bet and I get gain of100k I will either go into crypto or forex that's just my main aim and this dude showed me his betting account and I saw this dude was winning by playing 2 odds and 3 odds by staking high on them.
So to cut the long story short, we lost the game by just one small mistake.

Now I'm broke and with 50k debt and the kind of thoughts that have been coming to my mind since morning is getting me scared that's why I decided to speak out and maybe I will be for once lucky enough to get some advice from people that have been in my shoes before.
Like how did you go about it? Did you run away from home? Or did you keep on playing till you're able to see the money you lost? Or did you try to end everything but somebody saw you and stopped you? Or what please?
Local man really needs help


You can bash me and call me names
I agree
But I just pray and hope for you life does not give you half of what I'm going through these past years....

Well it's almost impossible to recover betting losses if you go about chasing them. Just try and explain to the guy in question that his money is gone currently. Ask for time to pay. Meanwhile mind you there's nothing like sure odds in betting. Lastly suicide is not a way out and please don't borrow money or use people's money to gamble.Warm regards.

Because seeing a doctor and running tests might take time, I suggest you go to a STANDARD PHARMACY. Note the words in capital letters. They'll tell you what to do. You could send me an email if you like.

NwaNimo1:
Congrats young man...

Did you just call him a young man?

Happy new year people. 2021 Ghosen: my wealthy place.

Seanjay:
Thats what have been wondering about cause i saw the other guy screenshots below also and it a GTbank.. may be their security is shambolic or they have a hand in those theft

This matter should be quickly addressed because a lot of people have fallen victim

Seanjay:
they said they are not opened until tomorrow and customer care lines are not working also


i have more screenshots can they withdraw 300 naira 400 naira and 150naira from atm ?

if you want i can privately send you more screenshots of the alerts

Why is this peculiar to GTbank?

377:
I lost my phone to pick pockets this morning please how do i do a sim welcome back. I heard mtn is suspending any welcome back for now. please what can i do will i remain without phone till when the ban is lifted.
Urgent advice
Thanks

No. You can do a welcome back. Mtn only suspended new registration of Sim cards in line with the directives of the regulatory body.

Kenog4real:
Hi NLders
Please mind my grammars. I have a lot to write but I'm just gonna go straight to the point.
My girlfriend/wife to be happens to be a rape victim. Thou we've been dating for almost 3years and by God's grace, we are working towards our wedding. The thing there is that there are issues with our sex lives. Due to her past experience, it's most times hard to have pleasing, fun and great sex. I met her to be someone not into sex because she told me she uses hot water to calm herself whenever she's in the mood; although she has a way to do things and we both climax almost together without penetration. Her reason for not giving in to sex is that there is always a flashback when it happens. As a man, you know getting inside the V and doing it as one like is the koko. By the time we started the main thing (sex)after months, I found out I don't last again and at the same time I don't satisfy her. Whenever we wanna do anything, the only pre-intimacy allowed most time is from the neck to the tummy region. Every other place is a no go/touch area(her excuse is that she get irritated and also scared of infection) except I wanna get in and also there is this facial expression from her that always makes me feel guilty and at the same loose focus which sometimes turns me off or makes me nut on time when things gets serious. I've always felt maybe it's the tightness, what we've both been doing before we started having normal sex that is affecting me or the issue is from me. I've tried to bring up the issue so we talk about it but it's always ends with 'I don't like talking about sex'. I brought up the idea of her going online to read up somethings about it so we know how to help each other, its still to no avail. During the lock down, we were home together for 5 months plus, there was nothing like sex.
I've not taken all these too serious because we aren't officially married yet and also I feel I might bring back her past, but I don't want all these to affect the both of us when we finally get married.
She's a decent, hard working, helping, and a supportive lady. In fact she worked my way out of Nigeria with her and we have been staying together since then.

My people, please what do I do. How do I tackle this because we are working towards our wedding already.
She doesn't cheat likewise myself.

She should seek the help of a counsellor/therapist and then prayerfully move on. Meanwhile sex before marriage is not ideal. Warm regards.

piper7:
The only reason I'll marry a white woman is to change my generation's race from black to white.
Simple. I'll just tell my bi-racial kids to marry white people and their own kids should do the same. So my generation will be free from this cursed color and continent!!
Thank You.

That'll take centuries because offsprings of bi-racial couples are still referred to as people of color.

Reachable:
Hi all, I noticed I started developing body ordour under armpit in particular.
First time I noticed it was like more than a decade ago, then was in my 20s.
So I started using medicated soaps and deodorants, at first it was a big challenge getting the one that worked for me because once I start sweating I notice that it will overpower most deodorants I used but one worked for me which is (sure for men the long one).
After some years I noticed I always have boils under my armpits as a result of high usage until a nurse adviced to stop using deodorants that it can lead to skin cancer, at first I didn't knew the cause of my constant boils was the deodorant until she told me and I stopped I noticed the boils just died off.
So I started using them again but this time sparingly, until I stopped using them like some years ago.
I was fine especially if I didn't sweat much during the day, the only thing I noticed was that if I don't shave on time I will have armpit odour or after shaving my armpits the odour will come again for some days then stop.
I was managing it like that, but was making sure I bath at least twice a day or as much I can in a day.

Recently, I was more of staying at home these days unless I have job to do outside.
Only for me to start noticing the armpit odour again, shaved and bath as much as I can yet it won't stop.

My armpits always smell like a per boiled onions some moments after bathing, I have been managing it with explorer sometimes it works depending on my activities for the day.
But it's peeling the skin under my armpits and it's hurting besides it give me boils.
Please help, what can I do?

Bathe as much as you can in a day. Wash and change your clothes often. don't wear your dirty clothes (repeating clothes) Use a deodorant yes sparingly. Avoid intake of spicy foods like onions, ginger garlic, avoid alcohol. Use sponge and a good medicated soap to bathe. Change your towel and wash it with hot water from time to time. Avoid oil based Body sprays. Try using "Babe" spray. Add dettol to your bath water. Wear your inner wears only once then you wash it. Ensure you don't repeat singlets boxers etc. Then pray these things work. You'll be fine �

dyera:
hmm, let's see.

Back in secondary school we would hold 1 hour Christian fellowship right before closing every Friday, and the three year classes will combine in a big hall.

There was this particular day I and my friends were sitting in at the back of the hall and we thought it was OK to quietly discuss while preaching was going on.

A senior who was sitting at our back kept telling us that we were disturbing. At one point I just got angry and told him to move to a different place if he does not want us to disturb him.

The next thing I heard was a heavy slap on my face, the sound was so loud that people in the hall exclaimed 'haaaay' and the preacher stopped preaching.

I held my face, stood up, saw that the preacher has stopped preaching and was looking at me. Then I sat down on my seat and did nothing else while having a feeling of remorse for disrupting the fellowship.

Till this very day I'm still supprised at my instinctive reaction that day. Before that incident I never knew I had such love and reverence for God. That to me fighting in the middle of preaching of the word of God was something unthinkable.

lol. waow just waow.

DrKlever:
added some spices for what reason exactly?

I don't know oh

Kingscee:
https://leadership.ng/2023-jonathan-free-to-seek-pdp-ticket-secondus/?amp=1

O.P please change the caption. I think it should be"Goodluck Jonathan is free to contest" Thank you

DrKlever:
Yes. I had a senior who was my bunk mate but he stayed on the lower bunk. He bullied me so much i felt uncomfortable staying in the hostel. If by chance i stepped on his bed while climbing up, he beats me up. I was wandering why he hated me so much then one night i was fast asleep and felt some movements around me. Only for me to wake up to see my boxers pulled down and dude trying to stick his penis in my butthole. It was disgusting, i pushed him down and threatened to report him the following morning. He begged till i gave him some conditions after paying with his provisions and money. Since that day i became his senior, cause he washed my clothes dressed my bed. Fear of being reported to the principal

I like your comment. But seems you added some spices

ghettokid1:
https://www.goal.com/en-us/news/arsenal-off-to-worst-league-start-in-39-years-after-north-london-/b2rtfqsh9eqg1uf2u4cqwzbo4

I don't know if you could edit this post. A lot of typographical errors and spaces aren't properly placed.

agwom:
https://dailytrust.com/strike-varsity-crisis-deepens-as-naat-warns-fg-against-accepting-asuus-utas

While fighting for their selfish ends, they always claim "in the interest of the student" I've never seen a subsector with inconsiderate staff as this one.

ZaRuleOfLaw:
you wanted #30,000 bonus. true or false? accept my sympathy sir. this is another number the animals use 09013749418

If this is being done by their staff, then its pitiable and they need to be apprehended

is this the youths that want to take over power from the "old people"

CastedAyo:
Rita Daniels mother of Nollywood actress Regina Daniels has began to harvest her yam, Igbere TV reports.

The 45-year-old shared videos of herself at the farm.

She added that she is now a proud farmer.

she wrote on Monday.

https://www.instagram.com/p/CIOHF_xnF1R/?igshid=1fb3oa040vmvz

Regina commented on the post saying, “Oh my mama!”


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pHCbFNYgVJs

That thing na yam abi na cassava? 45years? that's probably her football age.

Truvel:
I'm Not.

Ok. if you say so

uruba23:
I hoped it is not a Forced marriage.. Pastor's son not smiling.


Anyway Congratulations sha if you can't smile in public Biko smile to her in private.. You have a beautiful wife not to smile.

He'll smile in private lol.