₦airaland Forum

Chioma4eva:
I mean they toast you for weeks endlessly and try to get your love and attention and when you finally give them the attention and give them the chance to win your heart and maybe after dates and probably sex, they lose interest and go cold. Why is this so? Is love dead in Nigeria?

If you are not pretty with brain please do not form too hard for a man that you will eventually accept.

This man must have suffered in his life. He talks like a retired Lagos bus conductor

If you are not lucky to have a good paying job in this country of today as an adult you are, it can be a serious reason for HBP

Fear politicians. If Obi wins tomorrow, he will tell you how their relationship dates back to when he was a toddler.

It is obvious that cheating by men is completely different from cheating by women.

You gerrit...?

IamAtikulate:
1. Tinubu Support Group has been planning a solidarity Walk in Kano since February.

2. Governor Ganduje was appointed Chairman of the solidarity Walk committee.

3. Over 120 different Tinubu support groups signed up for the walk and each were asked to mobilize separately to boost the number of participants.

4. The walk was scheduled to hold on 31st July from the Emir palace to the Government house

6. Tinubu inaugurated the committee about 14 days to the date.

7. Tinubu Supporters boasted that Tinubu's solidarity Walk committee has more members than the number of votes Peter Obi will get in Kano.

8. Today is 11 August and we never hear anything about the solidarity Walk.

Please what happened to our two million solidarity Walk?

Politics is a game of interest. It appears the governor is not happy over the choice of BAT's Vice

Tonero5200:
I won't say I'm ugly let's just am an average looking guy, every time I get to see boys who are handsome or finer than me I get moody, angry and jealous about their looks...the way people stare at them and wish they are their friends.

I had an issue with one the other time just a minor misunderstanding I took it to another level... which was very wrong of me.

God is to be blamed, why did he create some people normal and the other better looking..and yet they say he is not a partial God.

Forget! Na money be fine bobo ����

Anuoluwa12345:
Good evening everyone , so I came across a particular status post on my WhatsApp, which made me to explore more thinking and I arrive at this particular question: [/b]girls that date cute guys, how do you cope?[b].

Cuz I understand everyone has sight for something good, and we all desire and always want it to belong to us. Which makes the competition very high etc sha.. even with the high competition, I don't I have seen anyone in their right sense ever desired something that's bad or poor? We all want the best, either in human, finances, career and etc.. Gbogbo wa la Mon ikan to da, gbo gbo wa la de n Fe.

So at the verge of realising this point, I became troubled a little, that what if the guy I later choose to go with is cute and girls are all over him? How do I cope, what are the things I need to understand to make my relationship with him last and many more guidance sha. So I deem it fit to open a thread on it, to learn from relationship gurus .

Cuz I can remember well, I have an elder brother who is dark and very cute, and I know how girls throw themselves over him etc .. infact, girls wey even dey serious relationships o .. wey old pass him self.. like girls that some have even done introduction o, o deep . Pls share your thoughts.

You're likely not a fine girl or maybe you are just an average one whose self confidence is low.
Now, do you think that the reason why ladies go after married men is just fineness? It isn't. That ugly rich man you may know has more ladies around him than any poor fine dude.

But if you don't want ladies around your man, just marry a poor average or ugly man and enjoy him alone.

What if it was a suicide mission?

You will pass the next one. Just be calm when you want to start. I believe it is computer base test.

Don't waste time on any question you don't understand or know the answer at a glance. Move to the next until you get to the last question. Thereafter, you can go back to attempt those questions that you couldn't answer.

How many top government officials from the developed countries visit and roam the streets of Nigeria?
Useless Nigerian politicians.

VeryWickedMan:
How about your Mom?

The meme and the question gave me joy. A lot of things are hidden in them.

I do not mean to make the Op feel bad but if must be objective I would ask him same question and also go further to attempt answering that if he is not willing to do so.

For the fact that he is seeing Yahoo Yahoo as the alternative to studying is enough to reveal to us that he is a lazy and also full of entitlement mentality.

Is there anyone stopping you from joining the Yahoo Yahoo business today if you think it is easy and right?

Your parents are separated; have you told us what led to the separation? What effort have you made to reconcile them? Did you blindly support your mum even when she seemed to be wrong or not? How did you empathize with your dad when he probably was helplessly complaining of the emotional torture he was going through in your mother's hands? Was your father earning big enough as at the time your mother left him or is it because he has struggled and found his footing again and now you know he is your father? If your father is drinking away such amount of money, have you tried to sit down with him to discuss that? I have too many questions to ask but I feel I should just summarize them by asking this one more question; are you sure you are his biological son? This last question could be the reason for the separation and also why he is not interested in you.

Go back to your "faultless" mum and ask her to tell you the truth. Remember, you are a man and you are not yet sure of what future holds for you in terms of relationship. While you plan to make your "father" suffer you may never know how your own old age will be.

Sue for peace and ask God for wisdom and directions. Some people who don't have parents or rich parents still survive and become successful in life.

Prettylitlady:
Goodday NL members.. I am here for any matured advice I can get as I understand we have matured people here who can talk senses into my head and make me realise one or two things.

I am in my mid 20's, I dated my Ex for few years, we were both students then in one of the West Universities (graduates now) and I really loved him, it was true love I felt for him to be honest, he wasn't working, I don't demand for money from him or anything, I sell clothes, shoes, bags and do other small businesses while schooling, that's how I foot my own Bills and also give him money sometimes when in need. His family knows me, my family knows him like we were so much in each other(or so I thought). I saw no other guy except him, I built my world around him, we were best of friends as I am an introvert and really don't keep friends so he was my all.
Even though it was a tough decision to make, I had to break up with him due to the following reasons;
1. He has beaten me once and promised not to do it again but he still slapped me in every slightest provocation.
2. He wanted to go into yahoo yahoo. That's not the kind of partner I want, I want a legit hustler not a fraudster.
3. He sometimes cheats on me and I will forgive him always. He tells me I am the main while the others is just for cruise that every guy cheats
4. He suddenly started smoking and drinking due to friends influence I guess (Eew, I don't want that)
5. He is Lazy, always wanting big money buh doesn't want to work. I told him to Start from somewhere after our graduation no matter how little buh he won't heed.
6. He always talks dirty with his female friends even in my presence, I wonder what happens behind me.

I ended the relationship after so much talking, pleas and counselling hoping he will change but he didn't. I dated another guy 2 months later, I know nobody is perfect but trust me when I say my current guy is all I ever wanted in a man. But the truth is I really do not love him that deep, He treats me fine and all but I still feel something for my ex maybe because I was already soo used to him. My boyfriend has told me to go back if that's what I want because he doesn't want a divided attention. I know I can't break up with him because it will hurt him so badly and my conscience won't even allow me because he has done literally nothing wrong, yes we normally have our ups and downs but he hasn't done anything worth breaking up over with.

I just need advice on how I can get this my ex off my head for good. We don't communicate, I have deleted all his numbers, We have been separated for few months now but I still think of him every single day even when I have a good guy already. I don't know what is wrong with me pleasee

Someone with all these bad characters listed above still has a woman thinking of him. Some women give men reason to treat them badly.

The woman is already a ghost and should be allowed to be. She has no political relevance.

Onepointfiveodds:
After series of fights, sit downs and admonitions, my wife has finally make some adjustments on the salty food issue.

We had a little argument last week and i demanded she apologise as it was obvious she's in the wrong. She hissed and walked out on me. We haven't spoken to ourselves since then and she seem comfortable with that.

Yes i love her and i want us to move on from it, but how will this not repeat itself in the future if she doesn't own up to her fault and apologise?!

I have not followed your previous stories and I may not have time to go and check that either but I want to let you know that bringing your family issues online is not the best idea.

There are only two conditions for a successful marriage:

2 matured minds = success
1 matured + 1 immatured minds = success
2 immatured minds = failure

Where exactly do you think your marriage belongs here?

6 packs gone just like the standing breasts have gone too.

Life inside marriage!

Why has he not said this since he was in charge?

Henry651:
so I applied brake and wind down trying to purchase one for myself.

How do you explain this to the court?

I'm not discouraging you but I'm afraid you may not have the time and money to pursue the case.

Whenever you are on the road, do not claim to be the king especially when you are not.

Provision stores

Just start doing her and her other partners na.

Below half of my a month package.

lightdream:
No tithe?

No! I never paid tithe. Though, I do charity stuff.
I hope I can start paying tithe one day.

Wilson5183:
Please which side hustle are you into.

I want to start a side hustle but I Dnt know wat business to start.

I opened an outlet where I deal on Solar Energy and CCTV materials. I also have adhoc engineers on standby for installations at cheaper cost and it makes people patronise me

Op

Lucky you!

Your access to the MD aided your victory. What you went through is what most people are going through in their work places. Unfortunately, it is not as easy as anyone may think to "fight" your boss. They have so much privileges that they use to oppress their subordinates but one weapon that has proven effective in dealing with them is to be an expert - a knowledge bank, a solution provider and a target oriented fellow in your work place.

Warning.

Remember, the worst time to "fight" your boss is when you are wrong. It will look as if that is how you have always been if the issue should escalate.

I was saving 50% but increased it to 80% after my pay increase last 2 years. I use 20% for the family and friends. My side hustle is also very helpful.

It is either she is now jealous after finding out it's not only her that fvcks the man or she just wants to shame the other co-olosho.

No.
But you can prematurely liquidate your fixed deposit

ChiomaCa:
Hello everyone, I'm in need of an advice, I got married to a man 5yrs+ ago. He relocated some months after marriage to Canada, I went to meet him 2 years after. And we had a baby 10months after my arrival. Immediately I arrived his place, I noticed he flirt alot onlline, Sex chats, Video sex chats, Visit porn sites, visit Prostitue Sites, and the rest. I caught him red-handed twice and he begged and pleaded not to do such again. I forgive him and I believe maybe because of the distance we had in two years.

We move on and I promise myself not to even go near his Laptop or mobile phone anymore.

I adhered to that for more than a year, which I'm still doing that till December 23 of 2021.

My daughter threw his I-watch inside water. Then I picked it up to drain for some minutes, after I drianed, I realised a message popped up , which Read " Do you enjoy me yesterday Do I book you for tomorrow again"

I was forced to check what's this. I saw hell. In short, he visited two different Prostitues in a hotel to book 30 minutes session with them for $160 and $220, I also saw other messages asking for Anal sex from these Escorts. I realised, he visited them 3rd, 1st 22nd of December. During these period, I was the one begging him for sex. He said he's not interested that he's Fixed with many activities and Shifts at work.

I was in the house hopping my husband as gone to work, not knowing he's doing something else within his short break and free time.

Immediately I saw this, I was devastated,I was mad at my self. We are very religious. Why all these for God sake, this is the 3rd time, what have I done to myself, have made a wrong choice?

I called his brother back in Nigeria and I inform and sent all what I saw to him, he called and talked to him, the next day, my husband came to me, apologize and promised not to do that again. I accept and forgive him.

Few days ago, I have been having this kind of feeling, I feel like I'm not beutiful because why will my husband prefer a Prostitue than me.

I hate myself, I think about it every minutes, whenever I see him, my mind keep breathing fast. I'm sad and I'm not happy, I don't know what to do.

I can't discuss with my parents, because they see my husband as the most religious person.

He doesn't talk much, keep friends nor drink.

I need advice dear mummy and daddy please is this a red light?

I do not want to sound as if the situation is already irreversible but the truth is that it will be difficult to change the man again.
But what you should bear in mind is that you have no fault at all. You should also never blame yourself on this because he moved to Canada for greener pasture and you couldn't have stopped him and maybe there were no enough resources to cater for all of you going at the same time.
You should also never think that you are not beautiful enough. You are! But you must step up your fashion sense and eat well to look fresh and clean. Wear skimpy and sexy dresses even as you are at home. Do not ask for s3x but give it to him if he asks. If you are jobless, just make effort to be employed and start going to work just as he also goes. Build your confidence by furthering your education too while you work and make your own money.

My only fear is your health safety.

InternetAgbero:
Please, how do I go about reporting an international romance scamming syndicate that I was a part of years ago?

The person I was and the things I did in the past, I do them no more for I have seen the light and the result of my "magic". The "magic" I did, I have seen the result of and it is not pretty. It is demonic and basically taking someone else's life-force.

Upon sharing the truth, I became a pariah and labelled "mentally ill" by these so-called members of my family who are still very much involved in that life and refuse to stop the lifestyle.

I am not religious but now that I know better, I have come to understand the difference between right and wrong.

Because I have kept this inside for years, it resulted to me having anger issues that had me stabbed in Nov 2020 and almost losing my life. Luckily, I was spared and a part of me believes it is for this purpose.

Please, good people of Nairaland...I need help because I can no longer let sleeping dogs lie.

The truth weighs heavy inside my heart and is screaming to be let out.

I know my life will be in danger but at this point, death is no longer scary because i have been shown that we are not from Earth.

Lalasticlala
Justwise

Truly, I'm more concerned about your mental health too and that may be the first help you need. The last bolded indicates that you may not be alright because you sound suicidal.

As for the major issue you raised, have you returned all the money to the people you duped and rendered useless? I think you need to also do that.

Somebody must have told this guy that he would never buy car in his life. Now, he has proved that person and his/her juju man wrong.

The person behind that masquerade may reach heaven before most people what are pretending to serve God.