₦airaland Forum

teamman:
thank you nairalanders for your inputs . i still need more of your inputs. However i am a guy but i have a passion for children. Will parents entrust there children to an unmarried guy? Also in Nigeria are there regulations on starting daycare centres? Please let your views flow

it would be tricky, mothers wont hand over their child unless they are absolutely sure its safe.

- go into partnership with a middle aged woman with a lot of experience with children (educational qualification will be a plus)
- she will handle all aspects of the children's care, u can over see finances and office stuff (sorry but its nest that way)
- find a suitable location and decide on what area u want to help children develop in (a creche is the first stage of learning for children outside the home and usually sets the foundation for all they learn - big responsibility).
- provide equipment and materials, learn and play toys, clean beddings and cots for naps, TV with loads of singalong tapes, lots of nappies and baby toiletries. also u have to ensure all surfaces are soft and child protected.
- also a child friendly outside area for running around will be ideal, kids like to go outdoors and its very good for them
- finally u'll need staff, people to chase after the children, ensure they eat, sleep and are clean all the time

my aunt started creche 8 yrs ago and i remember helping her draw up a list of all that had to be done, it has grown into a fully licensed pry sch now.
she managed to get children to say their ABC's and 123s (those that can talk) by the time the yr ran out, parents were so impressed that they insisted she open a nursery and pry sch as well. if u think along those lines, u will succeed

if u are thinkin of the uk
go to the british high commission, their unbiased and not trying to make money off u
they will advise u on the best schools and the best areas to suit ur educational background and financial situation.
when u've decided u can either process ur application urself or go to those firms that specialise inur particular school of choice, a fee will be payable tho

yes oh
becos i'm a very curious person and its just an easy way to find out personal or not so personal things about a person
not very good i know but i'd always give into temptation

bawomolo:
i don't disagree, the question is what the extra-step is.

for starters, quit complaining
becos all u're achieving by doing so is discouraging those who otherwise might be willing to lead the way.
spreading the feeling of hopelessness and dispair isn't doing us much good.
many Nigerians abroad readily believe there is no hope, nothing good in Nigeria but i have seen first hand the strenght and determination waiting to be harnessed. I have seen people despite all the odds make a success of themselves, all becos they refused to believe Nigeria was a lost cause.
so i beg u, dont focus on the bad but on what might and can be.

the special K diet simply is
having a bowl of special k for breakfast and dinner with skimmed or semi skimmed milk (not very filling i know but u get used to it).
u can get d recipe for the cabbage soup diet online

I probably wouldnt have agreed with it
but seeing it happen to someone else made me realise it really depends on the situation.
the cirmustances of the breakup will play a key role and the kind of relationship they had.
if all parties are matured about it, they can come to an understanding

I never travel by BA anyways, never did like them

this is precisely my point, this resignation to hoplessness
Nigerians are quick to throw mud and condemn their country and are happy to continue doing so but no one wants to actually make a move and get anything done

bawomolo:
most people don't have this option. i think nigerians should be realistic. this country is bad and third world. with one of the reasons being too many mouths to feed and poor governance. little progress can be made unless there is an overhaul of the political process. the question, who is willing to challenge the nigerian government.

how about you for starters?
we know an overhaul is needed but who gets to do it if everyone is shouting overhaul.
i work with an NGO in the Niger-Delta and despite all the problems facing the area, I was shocked to fined that there are still people with hope, people who are willing to go that extra mile. I'm sure many more of such people exist around the country.
there will be no change if people (esp those abroad) keep singing about whats wrong, should learn to sing about what can be done.
we all need to go that extra step bacos beleive it or not the state of a counrty is determined by the mindset of the people (corrupt leaders or not)

@ post
i actually dont believe nigeria is as bad as people make out
yes theres the corruption problem and lack of infrastructure but we have something other countries (esp UK) dont have
and that is a proud, harworking and happy people.
All the country needs is reorientation to take away the feeling of hoplessness, to show people that it can get better and things will start to go right again.
cant wait come back home

totally not the same thing

@ lucabrasi
Before u get all defensive, I do see ur point
but u have to understand just because it was relatively easy for some people to migrate doesnt necessarily mean it works the same way for everyone else. My stand is still that u should have a plan (an idea of what kind of jobs u can get as well as ways of seeking it out) and enough to live on for at least 3 months before migrating. this will ease the desperation and allow time to find something that suitable. Most upmarket places are uncomfortable enough hiring immigrants and desperation puts them off totally forcing u to take lower paying jobs that will just about put a roof over ur head and feed u with nothin much left over. (min wage without benefits isnt that much esp in London).

Like Lady, I'm kind of a slave to the UK government i do have o/s loans but thankfully being born here and having d good sense to do my 1st degree in Nigeria, i dont have much to pay back. You made a point that u dont have to start paying back student loans until u start working but its even worse (or better depending in which way you look at it) u dont start paying back until u start earning over £18000 (keeping in mid that the average salary for a fresh graduate is £12000 - £14500 pa). thats fine for people who dont have plans to move out of the country, but it ties u down and keeps u prisoner for many years.

Yes their system is near perfect but thats d illusion, its designed to keep people in debt,,,, that is what the uk economy is built on. for u to fully appreciate how miserable people are, u have to work within the system. i work with a 27yr old who owes over £30000 in student loans credit card bills and all sorts. i know for a fact a 25yr old just bought a flat next to my Gran's back in nigeria. it is a shitty system in Nigeria but there are possibilities. why would anyone want to come make themselves slaves to the UK government?

i really didnt want to get into this discussion but I've seen unnecessary misery in the past week that could have been avoided if Nigerians realised that the streets here aren't really paved in gold.

You shld never say never,
some situations are like the stuff soap operas are made of but they do happen and u'll be suprised to know how often they do (until they happen to u)
Life is very unpredictable and u have to learn to me more open minded

princesa:
no woman wants to live her life forever without a man or marriage ^{xcept for nuns} on basis of pursuing education,

so dress to kill baby and behave like a sophisticated lady
thats all

Speak for yourself honey,,,,
some women dont need a man to feel complete, some women will rather do without the hassle (quit generalising)
It takes a whole lot more than dressing up to attain sophistication

sugabelly:
Goodness me, I hope you don't wear those awful "African shirts"!! They're absolutely horrendous and reduce even the most refined man into a classless mess. They should all be burned.

I totally agree
some people seem to relate lack of taste with expressing their nigerianess

Seun:
Why does what is best for you as a woman have to depend on what men want?
Do you see a man saying I want to be dumb because women like dumb men?

I agree
Its really sad, because girls get themselves twisted into all sorts of knots trying to please the men and what do they get in return? abuse and disrespect

@ post
I think it reflects the state of the Nigerian society
with all the focus on material rather than intellectual and moral superiority success

Why r u so crude?

what kind of people are these with no iota of decency
u guys just roam around ruining perfectly good threads
^{*** storms out in disgust***}

Sholeyb:
The point is that it is actually the lack of understanding of the people wearing these costumes not the designers. In shows, a designer is supposed to create something unique and different, that is worthy to be remembered. When you purchase such clothes, u ask 4 it to be altered so that it is comfortable and wearable.

The reason designers create this outrageous clothes, is just to show that they have talent and are imaginative. If a designer creates an everyday attire, this is nothing out of the ordinary and may not catch anyones imagination. The designers trick is to make the buyer think, if this designer can create this complicated outfit, then surely they can create something simpler.

I hope I made sense.

that is correct
even cloths made by foreign designers for the runway are entirely different from the ones that are sold
run way cloths are supposed to highlight a specific feature in the designers creations
these features a then introduced on simpler designs that are made to be worn

streak:
this HR dey make me vex , abi she don run .
e be like say she dey find bobo, HR i dey available but i no fit kneel ooo,

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Dude! in ur dreams
u dont even know d meaning of the word respect

@ chinda3
Thank u jo

its typical male reaction, they feel threatened!
used to bug me a long time ago, but i'm used to it now.

Sweet T:
It's just important to do it right when you finally find that one that sings to your heart. Guys kill the moments with that "Toxic" called pride or ego. Acting like it's a favor.

my sentiments xctly

streak:
@hr hotnss
for your mind , if truely u deserve tobe treated like a queen ,,the get your mind straight and forget all these kneeling
ohh na we men be the slaves abi, nonsense

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u really should read my posts properly

i said it would be nice to kneel[b] but not compulsry[/b]

streak:
com oo HR coldness abi wetin be your name sef, make u take your time oooo,
if your temper dey rise too much,make e no rise for me oo.
guys say them no kneel,me i feel am say we no suppose kneel,,u come dey tassi me,
na gals like u dey always like to dey clinch men, for your mind now u don hard, shuuu
na people like u dey even kneel make them marry u, thank your stars say i be nice guy.

lol,
i just strongly disagree with your statement,
see i'm one of those breed of women who would never kneel for anything, i deserve to be treated like a queen and i wont settle for anything less.
no hard feelings?

Sweet T:
What's the difference Kneel or no kneel? just grab her hand and say to her " Baby, I know i have a future, but i can't imagine my future without you. You make me whole. Will you be my wife? " Ones she say yes, draw her close to you and get you some sugar It doesn't matter how you do it. just do it properly!!

Let your words do the whole kneeling and prostrate thing !

You sir, are my kind of man
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@ bawomolo

go fix me a sandwich, now that's chivalry for your ass. geez, that lady has been reading way too many fiction novels.

On the contrary sir, I'm as realistic as they come.
Virtues like honour, respect and love hold no importance any more yet people wonder whats wrong with the world today.

before i get attacked i know women do have their own faults.
but Nigerian men have killed idea of romance (they probably never had it, but thats a discussion for another day thread)
Nigerian women have historically been treated appallingly and have hardened them to the monsters they've become.
And yet there are the precious few who still hold  these virtues, yet they get punished by the cynicism of the Nigerian man.

the poor girl (whom this thread is about, incase y'all havent noticed) probably grew up reading and watching fairy tales. she gets the idea of virtue and honour, but the poor misguided thing didnt understand how it works. and a society where it is virtually non-existant, how was she to know?


^{boy i really am bored!}

streak:
@ibkaye
see, u don't understand that we gat nothing to loose not marrying  while u gals have gat a whole lot to,
by simply asking 4 your hand in marriage, the guy has done the greatest thing on earth, FAVOUR, afterall, whats the mind set of all gals??
no be to end am up for man house?? shuuuu

I didnt know they still made men like you,,,, i thot u were an expired model!
Dude get real, in this day and age women dont need men for ANYTHING!

SPIFF:
i think one of the best way to propose is this. girl! marry me and you be in perpetual pleasure for the rest of your life, otherwise you are doomed.

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meen, i feel sorry for the girl on the receiving end of that threat proposal,

Its not worth doing if u dont mean it guys, so no pressure ok?

PEOPLE, ITS CALLED ROMANCE
ITS NICE BUT NOT COMPULSORY
U EITHER DO IT OR U DON'T, THE FOCUS IS ON THE PROPOSAL,,,,, nuff said

4 Play:
I'm sure OJ Simpson knelt down to propose to his wife before bumping her off.Most women love empty gestures!

Chivalry is dead,,, need i say more?

@ Seun

thats why i said she needs to get back from La-La land!
she's clearly been mislead or just bonkers

Seun:
The idea of kneeling to propose is insultive. Does the lady think she's doing him a favor by marrying him?

na wa o, u dey vex sha

actually that was d idea,
the phrase from historical time is "to request her hand in marriage"
ofcourse nigerian mentality is to sell their daughters like meat  

now-a-days its nothing more than a gesture of appreciation

TCUBE:
do people still buy CD'S? The world as moved to Ipod, mp3 downloads and free online music downloads, limewire and the rest, who cares if the cd is fake or original, people are downloading mehn!

plus its cheaper, u have no problems with scratched or broken cds. and if properly backed up, u never ever loose ur fav albums

I suppose tho, it depends on the kind of relationship u had and the reason for break up
u definately wont miss someone u were miserable with or who broke ur heart will u?

Its not compulsory
thats why its a huge gesture when guys actually do.
Also it largely depends on the staging of the proposal. if he's all for a public proposal and showing off, fine.
I personally would prefere something more intimate.

the chic needs a reality check, especially when dealing with Nigerian men who don't even propose, they kind of tell u or just take it for granted.
she should needs to come back from la-la land.