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Your BP is indeed high both the diastolic and systolic.

148/86 is is a grade 2 hypertension

Pls,do not do anything hard to avoid sudden fall.

At that age,it is very high.
Avoid any kind of work now and sleep and stop the thinking. Stop the alcohol of any kind,rather exercise more,drink alot of water and fruits if possible and sleep and sleep more.

If u see this aboki people selling Dates another local name for it is Debino,pls buy and start chewing to help your heart.

Good luck.

skywalker240:
Not Tinubu though

Save my message and let us see who will be right then. After their convention,watch out if the so called APC will not disintegrate.
It is just a matter of 6months we shall see the injustice that would be meted on Tinubu and Co.

blamingthedevil:
We want to use this medium to thank our opponents expecially PDP members who has nothing to do with APC, on Tinubu Presidential ambition; for making our candidate the most discussed candidate and front runner.

PDP & Others' Manifestoes : TINUBU, TINUBU, TINUBU, TINUBU, TINUBU, TINUBU, TINUBU, TINUBU


Wailers and Haters: TINUBU, TINUBU, TINUBU, TINUBU, TINUBU, TINUBU, TINUBU, TINUBU

Other Tribe:TINUBU, TINUBU, TINUBU, TINUBU, TINUBU, TINUBU, TINUBU, TINUBU

There is NOTHING LIKE BAD PUBLICITY


He is always the subject of conversations as at the moment, making him gain more popularity. The more you hate him, the more other people come to realize good things about him and question "Why the Hate, Is he the only ONE?"

Keep up the good work.

I would have wished he contest but u need to go back and check what happened between Sir Akintola and pa Awolowo...MKO Abiola and Awolowo and MKO abiola and the ruling Class then,u will know why they call them Fulani or born to rule.
BUT THIS TIME WHETHER THEY LIKE IT OR NOT,A SOUTHERNER MUST BE PRESIDENT.

If u commit suicide what then do u gain?

Someone just thanked God for being alive despites all the trouble he went through,no mama,no papa no brother and in fact,he was born the same day his mother died,yet he was thankful to God.

No one trained him except eating and waking up till he grew to adulthood.

My brother,if u die now u will lose more than those who became sick and died because yours is intentional and abominable to heavens and the earth.

If ur environment is choking u,pls relocate and find a better place,I did same and I am better for it today. I was born in Lagos and it became terrible and boring for my liking,so I had to relocate and i am very grateful I did.

Get rid of that thought and restart your life for the better.

Good luck to u.

See anytime I am travelling to village and if it happens that my dad is not at home i don't visit any uncle nor pick their calls if am heading to the village.

If he wants to call,let him call his brother who is my dad...I dont owe any uncle anything. I started fearing my uncle when he asked me if I had graduated and i said yes,then he said I should not worry that his children too would some day graduate. That was a huge red flag.

My advice
Avoid uncles like this,he wanted to know if u were coming to the village but he didn't want to come out clean
Some uncles are pretty good even far better than some fathers but many of them don't like to see their brother sons or daughters do well in life. Pls,avoid him and avoid troubles.

ositadima1:
You did well, at 62% of capital, u outperformed most companies listed on d NSE. But, I am almost sure you worked ur ass off. It wasn't easy, u had to put in a lot of ur time in some activities you did rather not.

My brother u are absolutely right. But it was not easy at all.

ositadima1:
Inflation and devaluation has made this table outdated. I don't think you can be comfortable with 25M nor even rich.

Assuming I have 25M as capital to pursue any biz of my choice.

- To return half of dat annually, I would be working tirelessly meaning no comfort at d end of d day.

- To return 20 to 30% same as above, maybe a little less work, but still no comfort.

- To return 13% passively, it will amount to 270k per month. U won't be living comfortably on that either.

My pessimistic views...

U may be right but in my own case,I return more than 1million in some months. Like last year,I made 13.8 million using 22million capital.
But if u chose paper investment,at 13% per annum,270k would be returns per month.

In conclusion,the above still remains my reality until further change in the attitude of the people I do business with.

If u don't know the cost, pls enquire and start taking it one after the other.
List it and out and start paying for those items now.

For instance if u have some months left before ur wedding,do this and u be glad u did.

1. Renting of hall.....100k
2. Caterer .............200kk
3. Cake....................70k
4. M.C Oluomo.......50k
5. D.G cuppa..........80k
6. Photgraher........50k
e.t.c when u start paying for all above listed items in advance then,u will have a smooth ride on the day of your wedding. I did it and it worked wonders for me.

If u can do this gradually,u will never borrow to wed nor be indebted to anyone honestly.

Good luck to u.

Does this classification reflects the current class of people in Nigeria.

Pls,stay where u are.

That country has one of the stringent tax system in the world. It may be good for your wife but I doubt if it will for u because u didn't open up on your profession.

However,I must tell that u are among the rich class in term of classification in Nigeria,with that salary,I will tell u the truth,UK is not easy. Many guys graduated in the UK yet no job, is it now that Covid has ravaged their economy that u want to leave a job that pays u a whooping 7,200,000 per annum.

Just be careful...do not let the abroad mentality make u fall for this trap. It is not always green at the other side.
Check out this classification below.

You are simply not supposed to be living in Nigeria.

I think u have a problem as a person not your mother in law.

You so much love yourself,your business mother but u don't love your mother in law at all.

Pls,rethink your ways of handling things.

Family is like a team,if u don't tell yourselves the truth then why are both of you married.

I feel this is too extreme a betrayal from the side of the man. He allowed such a thing to become a secret until it was no longer a secret by the action of the woman. However the man should be blamed for this after all,the woman felt betrayed hence her decision.

To be candid,I feel more pity for the woman because of the kind of society we all come from, the shame,the side talks,the insult and family pressure just on one woman must have aided her decision after knowing the kind of husband she got married to.

For me,I think this woman needs to be consoled further after all,that is her own way of adopting a child.
Any anger leading to their divorce will surely benefit the woman,so the man should rather be careful how he goes about escalating the matter as it is a sensitive issue that might be used against him.

domnwan:
God bless you bro or sis, the woman caused her problem and if I were the man, upon pleading with her, I'll let her be and arrange for a second wife or a mistress.

Hahahha. U are sooo funny honestly.

crixlight2:
May God bless you and your wisdom , I can see many people blaming the husband alone , without addressing what really caused the issue. I think the woman is already tired of the marriage , or what’s the meaning of starving your legally married husband sex and she no Dey even dress up in front of her husband again. Many immature people running to wedding anyhow

Thank u for a well balanced contribution....cheers!

Cantonese:
Very myopic assertion friend. How did you get to the conclusion suddenly that his wife was wrong? If the wife decides to pursue the matter legally, then he goes to jail for what is called “marital rape”. The man was wrong in all areas.

OP claimed to be a good husband and father. What stopped him from finding out what was wrong with his “beautiful wife”? In marriages couples pass through certain emotional challenges that make sex the least of issues that bother them. In such moments sex becomes a big issue. It behoves the other partner to help find a solution, otherwise the marriage could be on a path of destruction. Seeing that his wife was pushing him away, he should have given her time to fix her emotional challenges and all would be well again. Now we see that OP is a very inexperienced husband.

“There is simply no submissiveness in that woman”. How? Did OP tell you that he had other issues aside from sex? Submissiveness is not all about sex, friend, otherwise at your command either your wife or husband would jump into bed like a slave.

OP now has done his worst and presently receives the worst of reactions from his wife and total loss of respect. Now also trust is lost. OP exposes himself as a rapist too. He cannot be trusted with women around him.

He needs to keep appealing to his wife, make her begin to respect him again. Find out what the emotional issues are and help her overcome them. That’s the way forward.

U can as well visit their house to make peace.

I only commented based on what I read and gave my point,but if u think u are the best adviser,nothing stops u from doing the needful.
Since u are stupid not to mind the kind of words to use.

Joydan95:
You think being a wife is just about having sex?

U think being a husband is all about making money and keeping the family together.

See Mr man, face your front if u have nothing meaningful to contribute.

This is the time to prioritised your loan seriously and as a married man, inform your wife about it. Marriage is like a football team,if the team does not play well,the coach being the Head of the team will bear the brunt. Now,u are the Head of the family and u are facing the consequences now.

Remember a closed mouth is a close destiny therefore,leave ego or fake life now it will rather aggravate your problem. The more you borrow from one app to pay another app, it will end up elongating your loan from one week to another another to even months thereby compounding your interest at your peril.
What it means is that you are simply not getting money from your source to pay off those liabilities but loans.

Draw out a plan and start paying off these loans starting with the smallest amount.

GOOD LUCK TO U.

Degunners:
I have been repaying. Most these loans are current running loans. So it's not as if I'm not paying. The challenge is when I pay I reapply because I need to pay another app. So the money keeps swelling

Just like crossing oshodi express and cross back severally without making any head way.

KillIgbohoN0W:
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Your total debt is N527k.
Cheers.

It will soon compound.
This is true when they say compound interest can work for u or against u.

How I wish Nigerian politicians can play like this honestly,Nigerians would be admired all over the world.

I am from Abia state,I just wish that failure of a governor in my state would not claim it to be his project.

A governor that can't start and finish anything is that one a governor?

ImaIma1:
High paying job that those people complain about is 1m and above, not 400k. I know many people from a particular bank that were earning big that relocated to Canada. One has even set up a law practice for his wife there.

Quora hasn't got that information yet. Even people earning 800k move. 400k has not arrived yet with the turmoil in Nigeria.

I am not saying Canada is not good Mr man,but u can't have a good job with good working atmosphere and keep telling every dick and Harry to move as if there are no probability of failures in Canada.

I keep saying it,if u have a good job here in Nigeria, stay back and u will never regret it,I don't have a good job but I have a fantastic side hustle that pays well,hence my decision and u will also agree that many are also making it in this country.

As if they will vote for him...thus hyping was the same way they hyped Abiola and Awolowo.

Both of are u wrong and you messed up the whole situation but in fact,u didn't marry a good wife but a pretender if I may say.

Submissiveness is the hall mark of a descent woman.

There is simply no submissiveness in that woman. How do u justify her hoarding sex in marriage, in a weddedhome?. Her action could have made u to commit adultery which is still possible if the situation doesn't change.

Both of you need to talk extensively and if it worths involving her family,u had better do it fast before it goes out of hand.

Wishing u the best as u put situation under control.

There is hunger in the land.

They are calling for revolution in this country...I pray it does not happen.

I and my wife read this book and behold it never worked.
We recommended it to our family friend who was equally in the same condition as ours,it still never worked not until we visited a gyno who made it possible

I am not condemning it totally, may be we failed in its applications but i still believe that it may work for others just as it worked for u.

Keep it up.

okine4real:
Please share your experience.

I can't share my experience here,I have told u little of it and take action if u really want to. Pls,it is all your responsibility to work it out.

okine4real:
Fathers and Mothers. Pls ohh. Myself and my wife, we trying to have a child this year, and we want a Male child. Male Child or nothing else. In fact i just Pray this time it works because trouble FIT dey.

Now my question is, as anybody in the house every tried the method of making love to you wife on the day of her Ovulation and the sex happens to be a Male child?

I have read to much article and the one that got my attention the most was, IF YOU WANT A MALE CHILD, MAKE LOVE TO YOUR WIFE A DAY TO HER OVULATION DAY OR ON HER EXACT OVULATION DAY. Please whom have tired this method and what is the success rate? I nor get money for IVF, so dont tell me say make i go do am ohh, because i heard its not cheap.

Regards

Abeg help save this marriage.

U have to meet a gynecologist to help you out on this,it's not expensive at all.
I had my two children expecting at least a boy but it never came before we proceeded for the third child which the gyno really helped seriously,after the drug and injection and he gave us a date and the third pregnancy brought our only son.
Though the experience was hilarious and positive.

Pls,no matter the situation,do not sell your house,what u are doing now is worth the stress and heaven would reward u and that demon of a woman would live to regret it.

Not every woman would behave like this honestly. U had 10million naira and ur husband and children were going through all this. God forbid evil! where is her conscience ?

PeaceJoyLove:
Exactly what we are saying. This kind of person is the one who still leave home 4am in the morning and return 8pm at night hustling and bustling his ass to earn N80k per month.

Just imagine the statement that he hopes I am in canada. Does it make sense? When you can get info and do everything online....even do you have to be in Canada to start working for a company in Canada? Na waooo! This is exactly what we are saying. And he will be the first to insult Buhari.

Again, I ask you...can you buy any brand new car with N300k salary? Can you? Dem curse you to not use a brand new car? Na tokunbi dem curse you to always buy?

And this one thinks N300k is a good salary. I pity you. May heaven wash away poverty mentality from your body. If you continue seeing N500k as good pay, then Nigeria cannot get better. Never. No wonder the standard of living is low. Dem don peg your brains to poverty that to even reason well don kon be abnormal. You see the person who thinks right as abnormal. No wonder the mad man in the street always thinks he is the only one normal.

God forbid bad salaries..ok to start with...but we moveeee. I will lead guys to prosper. They will buy tear rubber cars and SUVs. They will live in good places. They will buy apartmentss in good locations. They will make it big.

And when you hear about Davido or Wizkid...you shout yeyeye. Dem curse you not to buy better things also? So, na N300k per month Don Jazy uses to get things done? Dem talk say make you too no enjoy life?

May you be delivered from poverty. Na this kin person go buy toks and dey oppress ppl. One eye Sunday is a king in the midst of the blind.

Keep your advice to yourself. If he can learn coding, he should move..He is paying for schools fees and then... straight to job. He cannot and will never do menial job. Never. For your info, I dont have my education in this nation. So, when wisdom is out, tap from it. If you dey vex with wisdom, na you go suffer. Poverty will continue big time in your life.

Goodluck!

U write so much that u don't make a singular sense.
Too many talks like this would readily tell us where u stay and how u reason.
U think is every body that trips for Canada. Just park well make we see road.

Poverty is till disturbing u for u to think that Canada does not have poor people and homeless people. To explain further,in 2021 alone,there are more than 235,000 homeless people in Canada and with Covid 19 crisis still looming,expect more people to be homeless yet u people would be talking as if Canada does not have its snags or problem as a country.

PeaceJoyLove:
Those you mentioned on quora are from places where they make $3,000 per month (EU, rich Asuan and ME) in their countries before relocating to Canada. Is it Indians or Nigerians who make less in their homes that will complain of cold and leave? Lol. I read a complain on Twitter, but the fellow hasn't returned. Lol. One was even over quoting rent there and bla bla bla-ing how expensive Canada is one year like that. His friends who even know him there in Canada bursted him that he is a prodigal son who spend too high. Ok...make oga return home, e no gree....yet discouraging others. I guess he made the posts to tell off people at home asking him money. Lol . But that was a wrong call cos his friends bursted him and even said they prefer the cold than the heat without electricity In Naija. Another was one woman and man like that who are in APC or so. Those unserious people. Or is it Fayose's bro who became a driver in the UK? Lol. It shows he has no brain to learn future needed skills. With all the billions in naira he looted during his brother's reign. Lol. Meanwhile boys are making $3k to $6k and above as soon as they land there with good jobs. What you dont know, you dont. Ok?

Oga, it is like you havent breath in good air. Lol. If you think air is what you breath in here, you dont know anything. Just leave the shore of this nation and go breath there, you will understand. Let me not talk too much.

Fine, Canada is cold, but it's ok. Go and check figures and facts well, more Nigerians relocate to Canada than to anywhere in the world. Canada has more programs to integrate migrants into their system. In the US, it is mainly marriage cos most cannot afford to cough out $1million via investment route.

All those doing menial jobs do not have skills for the future. How can you learn digital marketing and become Sule at Walmart's entrance? No way. E no possible. If he gets masters, and learns one of the skills needed, and you say he will do a menial job.....hmmm. How possible? No way. Let the cold hammer him well, with just $1,200 entry level monthly salary, he will be far better off....which I know can be even $35,000 to $65,000 per annum with benefits.

Do not discourage him. His salary is just $526 now monthly. And he hopes to have it increased to $700. How much is that? If he aspires to go higher, let him be. If he decides to pick up those career above, leave him alone. Let him go after his passion. Stop discouraging him. And stop saying what you do not know.

If he has the opportunity of earning $3,000 here which is around N1.7million monthly, then, one may start telling him to think twice. But it's just only N300k. Haba! No so you think it is such a huge salary?

Give him pros and cons, and do not just tell him not to. If you choose to stay here, goodluck. It's your choice. But dont discourage these young guys.

He has a very good brother. He will be happy he has such guy in 5 years. He thinks he is making money and successful now, but he has not stepped out of Naija. Lol.

Anyway, let's end it like this. Just stop discouraging him. If you care, let us know the number of Naijas who has relocated to Canada and returned cos of cold. I guess you said they are all on quora. Right? So, let us know the number of Naijas there.

N300K job is what you call good. Lol. Ok ooo. God will show us the way in this nation. Hmmmm. What a pity? Ordinary $500!!!

I just hope u are in Canada.
U people talk as if it is pure eldorado. There is no country without flaws not even Canada.

If u have a fantastic job in Naija pls stay back,do not mind write ups like this.