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internationalman:
Well do you trust the one you are hanging out with enough?

What if he has to hangout for something important or a business deal?

People meet and hangout everytime. I can't expect that my husband will only relate with men at work.

And even if the other person has ulterior motives, I trust him to set her straight.

internationalman:
Trust me he's never OK with it even though he never says..

Would you like your husband hanging out with a very beautiful and attractive woman?

He does and I am ok with it. Trust is what makes it ok for both of us

manny4u:
My problem with women sometimes, they don't think before they talk or write.

Just look at how you concluded so fast. Do you hate women so much that you have to look down on them?

internationalman:
I don't know how guys manage to hang around with married women..

Call me weird, but I'm never comfortable being chatting or joking with them.

If you were friends, it won't be awkward.

Whenever I need to hangout with a male friend(usually business related), I always let my husband know.

OnlineWell

Marry the one who your heart truly wants. I doubt your boss will want to lose a loyal and hardworking staff because you won't marry his daughter.

The daughter might even have someone she loves and wants to marry.

So just let him know, though in a very respectful manner, that you are your own man and you make the decision on who you spend the rest of your life. with

A number of guys on this forum think one way like robots.

Even from the story that says the guy refused to let her work, he beat her...blah blah, guys here will still find a way to blame her... she's an olosho, she's running because there's no money...

Please you guys should think...be objective. Call a spade, a spade. It's really amazing to see guys think in this narrow manner everytime.

Unik3030:
so u call someone a bastard without knowing d root of the matter

But you also assume she is lying about the domestic violence.

Seems you prefer to take the man's side and discredit the woman even if you also do not know the root of the matter.

dominique:
This is what happens when you marry one of those "Island big boys" that doesn't have a definite source of income. "Clients" can't keep paying forever. Once the cash flow dries up, they start taking out their frustrations on their family.

Luckily for her, her dad is British so she can relocate and find her feet there. As for the broke husband, oh well!

For them, it is about packaging. No substance.

phenom666:
Never marry a who.r.e sorry a actress.

When ur money finish dem go insult ur life finish forcing u to beat them, finally leaving with your children.

I hope you didn't study law.

Because you will make a terrible judge.

With everything you read, this is your conclusion.

lefulefu:
i dont need no housewife.most housewives get overweight and out of shape cos of lack of exercise.sitting down in d sittingroom from mornin till night watching african magic or zee world while overeating. ehn as d husband is working u as d wife should have sumptin doin biko.

As if you don't see overweight working class women. It's about discipline.A housewife will even have the time to visit the gym often.

Halezis:
Being a house wife shouldn't be encouraged at all. Even the richest billionaire don't have their wives sit at home all day doing nothing. If by any means anything happens to the husband, housewives most times find it difficult to readjust.

I don't know. But any job that makes a woman not have time for her home isn't worth it.

Harsh reality.

A relative of mine who is a widow was lamenting about how her husband refused to let her work. He died suddenly and now, years later, she has to completely depend on her children for every single thing.

There should be a job or productive business in place.

MrBrownJay1:
your obvious biased hypocrisy is the answer to your question... as we all know you dont call cheated women slutty/wh0res....duh!

You choose to interpret my comment in a way that suits you.

I am only responsible for what I write and not what you understand from it.

phenom666:
Nawa ooo... See this Gaylord giving martial advice. What had I not seen in this life.

Leave your ex wife, to enjoy her Prostitution, while you enjoy your homosexuality in peace.

Have you slept with him?

MrBrownJay1:
Funny how you women are quick to now call men wh0res if they sleep with a slut, BUT, when men are sluts sleeping around and fooling you women into believing that they are your one and only, I don't see you calling these cheated women wh0res, do you?!

You bunch of hypocrites....

After going round and round, you still didn't answer the simple question.

MrBrownJay1:
thats because you automatically wrongly assume that if a woman is a wh0re, the men she sleeps with are also slutty.... HIGHLY LAUGHABLE!!!!

So what are the men?

Didn't she look at the mirror? When she is not blind

Acidosis:
I don't support philandering in any way, but there are some basic truths we must come to embrace. Married men who sleeps around are not on the same level with philandering married women. You can't have two husbands, however, some men can convert their side chicks to second wives, and heaven won't fall.

So this is the justification for married men to cheat. Ok noted

It's funny how men on this forum just completely talk down on women while absorbing themselves of any fault.

Who are these "sluts" sleeping with? Fellow women? Or "slutty men".

You men somehow believe you can exercise your sexual rights but a woman cannot, or else she would be called a slut.

Yawns***

cococandy:
Can these slutty simpletons also be men or do you only get your knickers all tied up in a knot when it’s a woman having sex the way a man does.

I don’t know who takes you people seriously.

I was going to ask the same question. Hope philandering men will be part of it acidosis

Regiomontanus:
Lol. I don't support the op but I am interested in the logic of your argument. There are all sorts of rapists. Some rapists are paedophiles(homosexual or heterosexual), some are homosexuals, some are heterosexual, some are traumatised, some are mentally ill and some are fuelled by pure psychopathy and sadism. Only a few use rapist as a form of revenge. Op didn't address the fact that there are different kinds of rapists.

Could op be talking about the male heterosexual rapists fuelled by lust?


NB : in all cases of rape, the rapist is solely responsible.

I agree with your points.

It appears that people focus on the male heterosexual types that when a woman gets raped, they blame it on her dressing, even though decent at the time.

This alone makes victims keep mute to avoid being blamed for it

LisaAnne:
Guess it's his news we'll be seeing for the next few days

Ned Nwoko will rest

SIRTee15:
Copied from a nairalander....

OP is naïve and ill informed.
If you think mode of dressing triggers rape, then your reasoning is very shallow.
You have not started solving the problem, you are adding to it.

One thing you should understand is that rapists are sick people.
A rapist will rape you whether you are dressed well or not.

If it is true that mode of dressing is what triggers rape, then children should be safe from rape.

But in reality, they are not safe.

Most cases of rape news on nairaland front pages involves children and minors not up to 18.

Should mode of dressing be blamed for that one too

If you think dressing well and covering up your body will protect you from rapists, then you are very stupid and naïve.

Underate rapists at your own peril.

They are just giving the rapists reasons and justifications for their actions.

But they shy away from answering directly when you ask about babies, toddlers that are raped.

A rapist doesn't need a reason to rape. He rapes because that is what he does.

Bestboy11513:
Ignorance is bliss.

Your ignorance i suppose.

Or what do you have to say when a 10 month old child is raped? She dressed provocatively?

That would be crazy

What about the 18 month old that gets raped or the 5 year old girl? Was it their dressing?

A rapist would rape a woman wearing a frock. The dressing doesn't count