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bigpriik:
vomit what! never never ,this is the kind of man I have chosen to be only God can change me ,for the records I always drop whatever does not pay me asap my life style,you women want too much but contribute very little.

as a guy ask your babe about her plans for the future especially if she is young in her 20s you will discover most of them have nothing upstairs ,I have asked my babe and most girls I have dated this question but I got no good answer infact it can lead to breakdown in the relationship sometimes because she will see it as disturbance, because as a relationship grows old sex,company and attention will longer be strong enough to keep it going unless you are as dumb as the girl in question.am not such girls don't exist but but they are just 1%.

Stop dating dumb girls. It says a lot about you and your choices. Birds of a feather...

Nairaland has become a place where frustrated guys come to lament and vent their frustrations.

Women are gradually becoming idols that guys here worship with so many threads daily.

Keep it up!

NB

If you are a happy person, you won't feel the need to create hate threads

Fountainofyouth:
A woman (forgotten her name but I know she is Yoruba) first led high ranking men to go and plead for our independence in the U.K, be a misogynist red pill swallower with sense.

There's no need to talk too much. He will vomit the red pill when the time comes. He is at that stage of resistance. Time will tell.

landmark86:
Major problem is not about the men of God but our evil ladies of nowadays.
Evil has full the world of today, must ladies/woman now walk in nude/naked along the street.
Is not a matter of pastor here abeg, let check on our ladies before they fall victims of rape.

It's so funny how quite a number of guys on this forum always spin things around to make everything the lady's fault.

Soon, a mad woman will be a victim since she is walking around nude.

Ighoga898:
Otherwise what will happen..

Can't pastors sin too, are they not humans..

First three comments girls,,, All I see is three sinners condemning another sinner for sinning differently..

They probably have committed abortions twice each this year alone..

Nonsense

Pastors can sin because they are human. However, they should not perpetually live in sin for over a decade...no repentance. So what is he preaching to people? What he himself has not practised!

N.B

Off course, my comm is subject to if he is indeed guilty of the charges and the several allegations leveled against him.

kingxsamz:
Try not to be ignorant sister.
He said indecent dressing are one of the causes.
He's not trying to justify rape here.

Try to calm down and read instead of jumping

If you weren't ignorant, you would have seen that my comment was based on his post

paix:
I totally agree with your first submission, but the second. Are you suggesting that if you get married or perhaps working elsewhere, far from your parents means you have no bond or affection for them; simply because you don't see them?

It was in comparison with having the child in front.

And off course you know the answer to your question.

Although, people are likely to bond more with people they see more often than someone they see occasionally

Congrats. Way to go!

I just see people everywhere rationalizing rape.

It is easy to do that from a safe distance. Maybe when your underaged family member is manipulated and abused by a man that is supposed to be a pastor, big brother, mentor, your questions will be answered and you will fully understand.

They fit each other.

paix:
When a mother backs her baby, there's this BOND between them. The mother's warmth and affection mean a lot to the baby.

But not better than the bond they share when the baby is in a carrier in front of you, resting his/her head on your chest and looking into your eyes occasionally...you are able to kiss the chubby cheeks and face.

What bond is there to share when the baby is behind where you cannot even see? No affection there

TonyeBarcanista:
Written by TonyeBarcanista

I have been following the alleged rape incident between Mrs Bisola Dakolo, the wife of musician Timi Dakolo, and Pastor Biodun, the Senior Pastor at COZA, where Mrs Dakolo alleged that Pastor Biodun had multiple canal knowledge of her without her consent as a then 17 years old teenager, an incident that allegedly happened some 20 years ago.

I have watched the pronouncements of some social media jurists and popular figures, including some politicians, musicians, influencers and actors, with most pronouncing judgement against the accused (Pastor Biodun) and a few others "standing with the accused".

May I add my voice to this subject...

1. Does Being A Philanderer Makes One A Rapist?

A couple of people, including Mr Timi Dakolo, the husband of Bisola, have accused Pastor Biodun to be a man that engage in inappropriate relationship with several female members of his COZA church, while that remains an unproven allegation, some commentators pronounced the pastor as "guilty" of rape because of his too many "womanising scandals", while some others narrated his philandering days in Ilorin, Kwara state, where he allegedly had multiple romps with several ladies of loosed virtues. While the allegations/testimony may be true, half truth or completely untrue, it still does not help the allegation of Mrs Bisola.

Rape is non-consented sexual relations and it is a criminal offence. Having multiple sexual partners is not a crime under the law irrespective of moral or spiritual opinion.

2. Bisola Dakolo Herself Was Accused of Having Sexual Relations With COZA Clerics

On May 30, a certain female with Instagram handle @elenapipper informed Mr Timi Dakolo that his own wife, Bisola, who incidentally is the accused of Pastor Biodun, was involved in illicit sexual relationship with Pastors of COZA church and some of her choir colleagues. While the claim of Elena remains an allegation, I believe that "2+2" should be put together by social media jurists if their intent is to give social media justice. I am yet to see the response of Timi and Bisola to that allegation and in all honesty, I expect the Dakolos to sue Elena for defamation/libel so as to prove their innocence- just like several social media jurists have challenged Pastor Biodun to do.

3. The Media Is Not The Appropriate Place To Lodge Criminal Complaint

I have said it umpteenth time that the media, be it traditional media or social media, is not a police station to lodge criminal complaints. The traditional media is interested in selling papers while the social media is highly interested in cashing out on trending issues. Popular faces and celebrities are interested in jumping on trending issues so as to stay relevant while influencers are interested in swaying perception. Majority of these commentators and social media jurists aren't interested in vindicating the innocent and to bring the real guilty party to JUSTICE. I heard of a planned protest at COZA Church by some so-called CSOs, but that again is just to sway public opinion and not necessarily see to that JUSTICE is done.

However, the appropriate thing for Bisola Dakolo to do is to first go to the Police station nearest to her, report the case, get her witnesses and other evidence, assist the Police in their investigation and ensure that the accused is charged appropriately to establish his innocence or guilt and get justice, which can only be dispensed by the court.

4. My Position On The Rape Allegation By Bisola Against Pastor Biodun

Rape is a crime against humanity and a robbery of ones dignity, it is a serious crime that should be treated as an offence worse than armed robbery- because the victim is robbed mentally, emotionally and psychologically.

However, rape accusation is one that should be properly lodged at the Police station and investigated by the appropriate police officer, and if found to be true, the perpetrator be punished. But if otherwise, the accuser be punished. As such, I neither agree with the accuser (Bisola) nor the accused (Pastor Biodun) just yet, but proper investigation be done.


Convulsively, we should allow wisdom be our guide in making judgement! May justice be done!


TonyeBarcanista can be reached via gmail at TonyeBarcanista@gmail.com

https://www.thebreakingtimes.com/rape-allegation-between-bisola-pastor-biodun-and-social-media-jurists-tonyebarcanista/

The fact that he slept with her at 17 as a minor already makes him a rapist...statutory rape

MobilityExpress:
Women react differently even in the same situation, there is no formula for it. Just like pregnancy, just like periods, just like wooing etc, same thing with rape. Some women fight back and resist successfully, some fight back then yield, some don't fight back at all because they are terrified, some yield immediately out of fear or shock that gives them partial paralysis and they just stay there like wood and don't move while their rapist has his way. But whichever way it goes, it doesn't change the fact that rape is evil. No matter what, any man that rapes a woman is no different from a beast in the field, an animal driven by his sexual urge, instead of his brain.

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Victorian this should give you more insight .

Cc femi4

victorian:
I was emotionally distraugted even though my pussy wasn't tampered with.


I don't feel. Any empathy for Busola. She didn't behave like a rape victim with the pastor

Take it or leave it

I'm Less concerned . She is not a rape victim.. Simply put.

How was she supposed to behave with the pastor?

You are using your own experiences to qualify hers

victorian:
I was almost raped three times!

On different occasions by different men.

And trust me I didn't seat still while they tried.

First rape attempt I was 6years old, I screamed , jumped down and ran off

Second rape attempt I was 26years old right in my office, I struggled furiously , bite his palm, and screamed. My security guard downstairs ran up, knocked and rushed in.

Third attempt rape : I was 30 years old at my home, I pretended I want him too when I realised he was very strong with his fist. I calmed down, smiled and told him lemme go pull off and wear something sexy Na. I even kissed him for him to believe, he released his grip, as I stood up, I pushed him so hard and ran out of my apartment with great speed! Then shouted from outside, leave my apartment now!


Those three incidents I never got once kept in touch with anyone of them and I warned the last two never in their life should they contact me again orelse I will get them arrested. And they didn't. They kept off!


That's attempted rape! I hate them with every cell in my body!

So dear I know what it means and how it feels when one is about to be raped, it's very ugly experience. How much more been raped.


Yes I remember the last one, thieves came to my ex house , stole stuffs and about to rape. Thank God it was only two who came into the building. The one who wanted to rape he held a gun, while the second one held a short cutlass facing my ex.
As he came close tome, I grabbed his hand with gun with my two hands, we were struggling, there and then I was determined to die! Than to be raped. He was shocked. We were struggling with the gun. He then punched my eyes, I saw stars but I didn't let go. My ex saw me struggling WIth the rapist, he stood up and fought the second guy. The rapist was boxing my face I still held on to the gun. Until he screamed to the third thief outside, that one came in threw another short cutlass to him and he cut off my fingers holding the gun, I screamed I let go of the gun. They all ran way, with my cut fingers oozing out blood, then I passed out ,saw myself been rushed to the theater for immediate surgery.

That night was bloody!

So my sister I have been to hell and back!

No be today.

I can take a pic of my fingers for u to see how it looked now. It's not straight but at least I have fingers.

I will rather die, and fight to death! Than to be raped!

Because you left unscathed does not mean that those that were eventually raped had a fault in it.

One would expect that being an "almost" victim would have made you more empathetic.

victorian:
My dear, I won't seat back while gullible dumb women ladies and guys insult me. Hell no!

I won't!

Neither will I accept anything a lady just spew out that she's raped without any evidence to back it up. I hate injustice!

If she's raped like she claimed why still go back to the rapist! Who on earth does that!

Abeg! I'm not that gullible. I can think with my brain.

Ok, If that is how you see it.

I pray you never get raped.

victorian:
See this ugly old hungry looking hag!

She's claiming rape too!

Chai! Pastor Fatoyinbo don suffer

Is he so easy to have access to? Does he have the phone number of all the women in his church?

Where did Timi and his wife got these women from?

None is coming with evidence, Na just talk talk! No evidence! Oh Lord!

Chai! Caricatures coming out claiming rape!

You are beginning to think like the men on this forum.

Nairaland is really telling on you. Abeg lemme scarce myself before I am bitten by the same bug

I don't know why someone who a child is meant to be looking up, to defiles him. It's so heartbreaking.

Bizmagnet:
Lolz...I just pray this is not the motive behind this noise. She alone is capable of hiring lawers not to talk of her husband. Now another "offering basket" has been opened for gullible Nigerians to donate for a course they're not sure off. Before you know it, someone has migrated from a Millionaire to a Billionaire overnight. In Nigeria every person is a potential "Yahoo boy" until proven otherwise. I can't just imagin this.

A cause they are not sure of? A lot of this people know people directly or indirectly who have been victims.

This his misdemeanor did not just start. It's something he has been doing for over a decade. Enough is enough

Johnkay01:
Hmmm...

I want to ask questions too
Why did it take her so long to reveal this crime against humanity?

I heard she was even a chorister at the same church before, why was she comfortable serving God in the Church of raper?

Why now that she's having issue with COZA that she decided to spill the beans (that's if there's beans in her mouth at all)?

Something she claimed happen over 15 years ago, why now? Why not when you still worship with the Church? Why did you harbour such thing and still remain a chorister there?

I'm not just getting it at all.

As much as I hate rape I also hate false accusation.

I stand with the truth, let facts decide it in court not sentiment.

It could be because he is still hurting young girls and getting away with it. Speaking up is for people who have in the past or presently being manipulated by him.

A lot of rape victims go to their graves without speaking up. So of someone comes up 20 years after to say it, it doesn't mean it didn't happen.

TANID:
But Ma'am None Of Them Has Really Come Out With Evidence Even If He Really Raped Them, That's Why He Might Get Out Of This One Easily.

She doesn't need to have his dna on her clothes as an evidence to prove her case. Sometimes all you need is eyewitness reports especially when people corroborate the story.

If you follow these real life crimes they re-enact on tv, you would see that all they take to make a case sometimes, is digging up other victims that would testify. In this case, people that were clearly part of the church that people know.

When 20 ladies are saying the same thing, they will have to investigate and the investigation will lead into opening other cans of worms.

Even if he doesn't go to jail for rape, his true nature will be unmasked.

I don't think Pastor Fatoyinbo is going to get out of this one easily especially as he has many victims that could testify against him.

People on this forum saying nothing can happen because it's over a decade ago are really primitive and ignorant.

To think that most guys on this forum are trivializing rape and dissing someone for speaking up is so disappointing and pathetic.

foolbuster:
Oga shut up. I will never have something against someone for over 20 years especially if its something as trivial as rape. I'll forgive whomever it is, free myself and move on.

It is your type that will carry a grudge to your grave.

Rape is not trivial. It is a criminal offence and perpetrators of it face court judgement.

Besides, it usually affects the mental health of the victim and may affect the sex life in the future.

Please don't see it as trivial so that ladies around you who are being assaulted can speak up and free themselves.

Richdad50:


There is a wave of awareness and reflection going on the social sphere at the moment. People are reawakened from the normal to a new chapter of accountability and solidarity for rape victims, hearing their voices, except on Nairaland.

Nairaland is full of 'Codeine Nates' and social retards. The stubbornness of opinions and comments on this matter is baffling, among all, uninformed, unhinged.

Very few Nairalanders will survive on Twitter (they will be toast on day one) less the intelligent conversations trending on twittersphere where influencers drive conversations and coordinate discourse. Here is one place where lowlifes write and get likes from same. No consequences for dullness, no rebuke for stupidity.

Richdad

You couldn't have said it any better. Many low lives parading as stars on Nairaland. Their twisted ways of thinking and their narrow minded comments towards women and life generally, won't make them survive on twitter.

Too much "childish men" on this forum who don't know anything about respect and consideration for a fellow human.

tosindami:
I'm very confused right now.

I'm presently undergoing training as a graduate trainee in one of the first-generation banks in Nigeria. I resumed not too long ago, and it's gonna span for three months, after which I'd be fully absorbed into the bank as a core staff. The training school is in Lagos, and you dare not seek permission, as it will not be granted. You even risk getting sent off if you arrive the training school 10 minutes late.

Just yesterday, I received an email from NNPC stating that I've been shortlisted for an interview (Graduate Trainee) slated to hold in Abuja next week.

I really don't know what to do, as I risk losing both if I attend the interview with NNPC without an express permission from the bank.

N.B: Both are graduate trainee roles.

I'm mystified right now. I hope to get plausible answers from my ogas here..

If they throw you into marketing or a branch, you will wish you opted for NNPC. From experience, a lot of bankers will leave the bank in a twinkle of an eye if they see another option.

You earn well in a bank but you will work with every last drop of sweat for that money. And when the job security is not as good as it used to be.

YorubaWarrior:
Be ready to face the consequence.

Well...to be honest, my two sisters have had the same maids for about 3yrs and 5yrs without incidence. My brother's wife's maid even relocated with the family from a south eastern state to a western state.

So what consequences?

There are still disciplined guys regardless of the loose ones

IamD18:
A hardworking, domestic and agile couple don't need a maid to run their home.

I don't have a maid but I tell you it is not an easy task especially when we are both working. I don't blame people who have maids.

I am looking forward to getting one

internationalman:
Hanging out with work mate probably for work purposes isn't the same as with a friend..

How do you think cheating starts? It's probably through a prolong friendship with the opposite sex..

Hell why are we even arguing this. Haven't you seen the way some people especially guys relate with a married woman with obscene languages..

It's ok for us to disagree on this issue.

While you are thinking of how it leads to cheating, that is not how it applies for everyone.

There are long standing friendships with the opposite sex that hasn't led to cheating. I choose to focus on those situations rather than have"cheating" in my head.