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freemanbubble:
But in this period of insecurity ehnnn
Person need to dey careful on who you dey chat with sha
Nor be chioma fault but she nor supposed block am
Na that one she take mumu
She for wait for hours before blocking

Even me self, sometimes when person call me with number not stored on my contact especially in a busy area i nor dey pick
Untill the person call me again after like one four seven hours
Infact my phone is either on silent or vibration

So he will kidnap her or hypnotize her through the phone? That one is an excuse.

bammy00:


By asking questions and waiting for a reasonable reply? she spent minutes waiting for him to say what he wanted.

Mod: It took Benson about 44minutes to state where's he is from and his objectives. why wait that long?

She should have waited. Not everyone has courtesy and it's sad.

What's the worst that could happen? He will toast her and she will say No. He cannot kidnap her through the phone. Really... what is the worst that could happen.

Ladies need to stop this "where did you get my number" as if it's a diamond the person stole.

What is this obsession with how someone got your number? Is the number a priced possession?

Ladies should focus on the message than way the number was obtained. If after listening, it's not worth it, then she can decide to do whatever.

Her reason for marrying him?

ornicus:
A lot of naija mothers even with crib etal still insist on sleeping with the baby in the bed.

The best you can do is go for it and hope he/she doesn't wake up.

He probably thinks you're fighting

It's very common. I made up my mind that I wanted my bed to myself and my husband. And I succeeded. She sleeps in her crib 95% because there's allowance for those times when she needs extra attention.

blakhenry:
Thanks guys for the feedbacks. The apartment is a 4 bedroom flat. Just d 3 of us. He has a room and 2 beds(one is in our room) but kid will always want to join us on the bigger bed esp when he is awake to play or watch cartoons. Am sure young parents understand better. For the bashings, thanks plenty. I welcome them. Una gudu morning

I guess he started off sleeping in the same bed with you both. That's something i didn't encourage from the first day. We have our bed to ourselves because i made her get used to sleeping in her crib from day one.

At least wait for your baby to sleep first before locking bodies. How can you be comfortable straffing while he watches?

His smile. I took that from him

TANID:
I Agree With You

But I Don't Really See Anything Wrong In Tfare

If a lady is going to see her man, she should be able to transport herself there. And he could assist if she is low on cash. But it shouldn't be like it's written in the constitution that he must fund her tfare.

It's the guys that encourage it. When they want her to come and scratch their itch and she says she doesn't have tfare, they give her. Now it has become her right

If she doesn't have money, she should sit down at home till she has.

QueenSekxy:
-Talking too much.

There are people who do not even know when to end a conversion, I will just get pissed.

-People that over stay their welcome.

So many people are on this table, please, know when you've over stayed your welcome. Most of us like our privacy Morethan anything.

Lol...i had a printed copy on my wall in my room in the hostel. It said "The good thing about being a guest is knowing when to leave".

So when someone has overstayed, i just ask ", have you read this before?".....it works.

dominique:
I don't think anybody can take a glance at those photos without their skins crawling. I suppose 99.9% of the world is trypophobic

It's so irritating... making my skin crawl...have goosebumps.

favor100:
I took the exam recently . Let me share about my exam experience.
so i got to the exam centre and for some weird reason , i was just feeling nervous . I went through the whole procedures , got to my spot still feeling nervous. I was able to coast through the AWA sections . To be honest i ddnt really prepare much for this section.
Then the verbal came and guys, it was like i was seeing double.The questions were really weird infact i almsot marked all the questions because i wasnt too sure of my answers . This was the beginning of the issues because that just made me more nervous . The 1st quant section was fine, all though i ddnt do well with time management, i allow some questions to hold me down instead of leaving it and coming back. The next verbal was easier, but by this time i was already feeling the heat from the 1st verbal. The 2nd quant was something else, i really flopped that part. By the last verbal i was already tired, so i just had to force myself to concentrate on those long winded RCs. At the end of the exam i kinda knew i had flopped, i sha clicked send scores and they came out 157V 152Q. AWA later came out as 4. I wasnt ready for the dissapointment. After all my efforts in quant, what pained me was the fact that in my prep i focused on the quant section cus i knew verbal was ok and i was already getting better in quant. However i allowed test day anxiety to get the better of me. in hindsight that weird verbal section at the beginning was probably experimental cus i thought i had failed but alas verbal was kinda okay. so my advice is even if you feel one section ddnt go well just ignore it and focus on the current section and give it your best. if i had maintained my composure i could have improved my chances in the harder quant. overall in your prep try to not only focus on doing practice test, but beyond that have strategies to keep your calm and composure on test day cus anxiety can make the difference betweeen your high mock scores and your real scores. Pls learn from this guys.

Below are my test prep timelines and tips

I INTIAILLY STARTED WITH BARRONS - FINISHED BOTH QUANT AND VERBAL . DDNT REALLY SPEND SO MUCH TIME ON AWA. I USED KAPLAN FOR AWS.


Then I went to ets to solve quant problems

Spent majority of my time on manhattan solving problems in each quant section


Practice for the following

Strategy = after your diagnostic test, allot more time to areas of weakness . I used kaptest and got 146 Q 158V

Weekly review - at least one mock test each week . more is advisable depending on your set goals for the week. use the result to strategize each week to know how much to allot per section and trouble areas. No point spending too much time on your strengths , your performance would be much affected by the not so great atreas. I used powerprep 1 for 1st mock review got 149Q 156V
2nd week I used power prep 2

Subsequent weeks I used manhattan test
Test 1 - 155Q 157V
Test 2 - 156Q 159V
Test 3 - 159Q 156V
Test 4 - 156Q 158V
Test 5 - 155Q 154V
Test 6 - 156Q 158V
Actual score - 152Q 157 V

I would really advise getting the Manhattan 6 practice test if you can. However also note that this results are a measure of your potential but your real sfore is a factor of how calm you can be on test day. if you can be calm then these score are a pretty good estimate but as you can see my Quant flopped based on anxiety .



Mistake logs - keep a note of the mistakes you make eg quant calculation errors or for verbal, vocabulary you find difficult and review with each practice test

Make flash card for all formulas in quant and use magoosh app for the vocab section

Stamina - train yourself to be able to solve problems for likr 1 - 2hrs straight even when not doing exam like just normal solving

Speed - practice to being able to solve questions in under a minute

Skipping questions- When you are practicing for the mock . Try to practice solving questions within 1 minute so when you see a question that will take too much time skip immediately. basically practice looking at a question and estimating how long it will take . so if you can't solve it immediately skip it and move on. focus on solving all the questions you can immediately attack 1st round so that you are not necessarily glancing at the clock because that adds extra pressure. Because with gre it's not necessarily about whether you know how to solve it or not it's how quickly can you solve the questions. The limiting variable here is time factor so you want to maximize time. hence when a question requires too much analysis leave it immediately. that's why for me I leave the qcs and di ,mark it to review later. then I move to the other easy questions and for verbal I do SE and T. first not RC because I know those ones require extra analysis , i dont want to be doing all that analysis feeling tensioned. I would rather do them relaxed that I have attacked all the easy questions. but then this is how it works for me if you can solve those questionss quickly then go for it. just basically practice looking at a question and attempting on the 1st round if you know you can solve it immediately so that you dont waste time on 1 question when there are easier questions you can solve and besides all questions are worth equal points so you want to obtain all points you can. then after you have attacked those easy questions in second round you might look at the clock and then attempt thise other ones. I also advice that you solve with speed and accuracy even with the 1st round odnt rush just pace yourself. this comes with practice though so try this method with many mocks and it will boost your confidence knowing that you already have a time saving mechanism under your belt�

AWA resources

Exam tips
Practice breathing exercises to keep you calm . This is absolutely key.

Stay focused. Like be in the zone from the moment you enter to when you leave. dont allow any distractions get to you.

Dont drink too much water so you avoid going to the toilet often

Go with a light snack

Eat well before the exam

Last tip. pls dont be like me guys. I used a little over 1month to prepare. give at least 2 months minimum to prepare for this exam. if possible 3months plus . wish everyone sucess

Disclaimer - These are just my tips . Use them only uf you find them useful. �

Did you register for computer delivered or paper delivered? Which one is better or advisable?

It's not about the class or level, it's the character of the woman. A woman with the same character, below her husband in education and status will still belittle her husband.

Men that cannot control themselves. Sleeping with the sales girl. No class, no control, no spec... anything goes.

Bossjakande:
why not wear ur ring.its wrong

It depends on my reason. When I was pregnant, my ring couldn't fit... what happens? Infact that was how I lost the rings because I wanted to wear it by all means and i wore it on my little finger. It fell out and I wasn't aware.

When i want to wash my child's bum, i just always feel like particles of her droppings could get stuck in between my ring, so i remove it. And i might go out and realize i don't have it on.

So it's not a matter of being wrong. It's not intentional.

Let him explain the reason for not wearing it to avoid issues.

It happens. I don't have my ring on everytime

Deepfeel:
Hmm stop been difficult lady you know what am saying is not far from the truth

Can't continue dragging matter from yesterday till today.

Have a nice day

crackhaus:
You typed 'a lot'. Then I asked you how many you know personally, then you start penning some incoherent stuff and ended up NOT giving any number you knew personally.

So yea, when anyone uses the term 'a lot', 'many', or 'plenty', it signifies a large number which encompasses the majority - this can also be likened to a 70% statistical figure.


You can't suddenly change the meaning of 'a lot' on this topic just to suit your narrative. The other day when you were typing about 'a lot' of single mothers/divorced women, you were referring to the majority. So what changed?

Forget about whatever you think my bias is and stop deflecting, the topic isn't even something to be dragged back and forth when the person you're chatting with is absolutely right. Yes, the majority of Nigerian women grew up and have been indoctrinated with that mentality. He knows it, I know it, even you and any other woman trying to argue against it knows it. It is cultural.

He even said 70%, me I would confidently tell you it's 90% because culture and society is what shapes beliefs.

By the way, I'm still interested in understanding why your definition of 'a lot' changed here.

Ok.

Check the dictionary for the definitions you seek

crackhaus:
But are you not the same person who was throwing statistics around the other day about how lots of single mothers/divorced women are getting remarried, and your only examples were celebrities?

Most of you are just too funny on this NL.

And i gave a percentage or number? Please don't just talk for talking sake. Follow that conversation and see the reason for that comment and stop being bias here just because you want to take sides with your fellow guy.

Deepfeel:
These figures we hear about, the number of poor people in Nigeria, the number of out of school kids in Nigeria, even the 190 million Nigerian population do you think these figures are true? Cause the last census was done in 2006 the figures counted was about 140 million, these figures keep increasing every yr on assumption Calculation, we don't even have records of how many kids are born in Nigeria each day each month each yr, and even during the census in 2006 not everyone was counted

So you want to add to the false records and mislead people?

Deepfeel:
Can I ask you a question, do you have to meet every single person in the North to know how majority of people in the North behave , and are predominantly Muslims ? Do you have to meet everyone in the South East to know how majority of people there behave, and are predominantly Christians ? Do I have to meet 19 million nigerian women to know how majority of them behave? Do I have to meet every single Yoruba person or Igbo person to know how majority of the people in these tribes behave, you are not sounding logical here lady,

You don't have to meet them. But you cannot also outrightly put a figure or percentage to it since it's based on assumption or your own calculation

Deepfeel:
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Well I don't have to consult the federal Bureau of statistics to know how many typical traditional and religious people we have in Nigeria I have lived here and traveled around Nigeria enough to know some of these things, and you know what I don't even trust the national bureau of statistics in Nigeria those guys are too lazy they give false statistics themselves

Apparently you are one of the lazy Nigerians giving false and misleading statistics.

You can only know who you have met. We are over 190 million in Nigeria. If 1/10 of that figure are ladies between the ages of 20-30, tht would be 19million.

Have you met up to 19 million ladies for you to come to your conclusion of 30%...70%?

Deepfeel:
imaima1 this is one of them

The man in this case is the bigger fool. He pushed his vows to one side, put his marriage and wife at risk because of a money hungry low life.

Deepfeel:
Yes you said a lot of Nigerian men, that's a high percentage

No i didn't give a percentage. Don't lie.

"A lot" is not the majority in case you didn't know. But you are saying 70%...30% as if you consulted Federal Bureau of Statistics.

2kurupt:
How come "not being submissive" is what comes to your mind when asking the OP what he meant by feminist?

Just so you know that's what comes into the mind of "most" Nigerian men. Not that we can't stand assertive ladies, but you'll agree with me it's not the same as not being submissive.

OP Have you made your reservations known to the lady in question? If it took you 2 years to find out this side of her then you need to work more on communication in your relationships.

Some men cannot differentiate between both. And some men see an opposition to their opinions from a lady as not being submissive. She has to also submit her brains to be seen as submissive and not considered a feminist.

deltateam:
It depends on what having a mind of your own means.

You females are manipulative walai. You claim feminism only when it suits you.

How many girls will agree to split bills with you at an eatery? Opportunists and blood suckers everywhere.

Having a mind of your own as per not being a pushover and being able to disagree on issues and have a different opinion.

Some of you men are afraid to have a woman that won't completely submit everything, including her brain to you. When you see a woman like that, you scream FEMINIST!

If you are a real man and sure of yourself, no woman can threaten your "manhood".

Profkenny1:
Well, only pussified, emasculated, and effeminated men deal with such fugly women!

Try not to sound so bitter and ugly inside. Their choice is not your problem

LordsApostle:
Better subject yourself totally to what your man wants, else u remain single for life(the greatest fear of every woman)

Fortunately, i didn't ask for your advice. So keep it.

Deepfeel:
The one you did is it verifiable?

Did i give you any percentage?

Deepfeel:
Just like I said typical Nigerian women enslaved by African culture and religion, not even talking about those prostitutes called slay queens, those real ambitious ladies you met are women who know their self worth, they don't believe a man is superior like religion and tradition make believe, they see themselves equal with men and strive hand in hand with men on an equal level to succeed in life, they don't see marriage as a life time achievement they are not even bothered about marriage, those type of women are just 30% in Nigeria

This your statistics is by you and for you. It is not verifiable anywhere.

Deepfeel:
70% of typical Nigerian girls grew up with an entitlement mentality, that it's a duty of a man to provide for her, religion and tradition preaches same, they can't even date guys they call broke guys talk less of marrying them, but guys date broke girls and marry them with no complains at all, so it's a 70/30% thing comparing who benefits from marriage more between men and women in Nigeria

Who gave you this statistics? Your neighborhood? People around you? Almost all the organizations i have worked in, i meet women who have a different mindset from what you describe.

We are not talking about all those girls that their future starts on Snapchat, Instagram and ends with meeting rich men to fund their fantasies. I am talking of real ambitious women.

Deepfeel:
Is Regina part of the women you described? No and there are many like her looking for already made men

And many also marrying unmade men and growing with them. Nothing wrong with either.