₦airaland Forum

ubunja:
isn't it the problem though?

Telling men what they should want?

If men want unintelligent ladies how is that a problem?

Let men love whatever they wanna love without shaming them for it.

I am not telling you who to love. But don't commit fallacies by saying "men" prefer unintelligent women

Sterope:
It is all about you. You have made it all about you. What does secularity have to do with individual outwear?

Yes, it defines who I am and it makes holier than you. How about that? Why so damn concerned about what I put on my head? How does that affect your health?

You are the one actually making it about you in case you haven't noticed.

Why are you getting so worked about a simple conversation?

Converse with facts instead of getting emotional. Why would what you decide to put on your head affect my sound health?

If you cannot converse without getting emotional, please don't quote me again.

princfred:
I never asked you to align with my idea. Only telling you to stop misquoting, half quoting, miscontrueing and making deflecting and wrongly skewed deductions from my post.

What intligience does a lady have if she doesnt know how important it is to respect her man? The problem is most of you gals mistake acedmic and carrer intelligince for marital, emotional or romantic intelligence of which respect is a bedrock required to propel a relationship.

I'm academically intelligent enough to be threatened by mere academic inteigice of any lady.
Repaect is the major way a woman can show her love to a man otherwise by what else sex? Money ? Rent.
What that he cant easily afford outside and why many me eventually go outside if respect is not forthcoming from so called educated girlfriend or wife.
No man marries when the woman is bent on questioning his authority or place on every turn. Unless he just doing it for money.
We love our women intelligent and respectful if that is beyond you sorry you are not intelligent atleast emotionally.

A woman's intelligence should not be a problem to a man. You as a man can advance intellectually and keep upgrading yourself and you don't think it would affect your love for your woman.

But a woman has to remain redundant and not get upgraded intellectually in order to make sure that her submission and respect for her husband is not tampered with. Wow! Interesting.

A man who wants a woman that would just nod to his every word and instruction without having any contrary opinion, addition, subtraction is shaky in his own self confidence. He probably needs a slave not a wife

Sterope:
It is not about you. Why do you keep making it about you? How does hijab affect your ability to function or study? Why do you care so much about an apparel that is of no concern to you?

Are you sure you are quoting the right person?

Where and at what point did I make it about me?

Why are you so passionate about the hijab? Does it define who you are or make you holier than those who do not wear it?

Amatarasha:
Goddess indeed

Hello fellow goddess.

The subjects are doing what they do best...RANT.

I would have preferred if they form a choir and sing it instead.

Sterope:
They didn't say they are going to die. They want to uphold one their religious tenets. It is not your head they are going to put it on. You can't be intolerant of something that doesn't affect your head.

If no one will die if they were the hijab, no one will also die of they don't wear it.

We should be able to separate religion from the secular setting and desist from being sentimental.

There are so many Muslim schools...public and private, they can go there if they want to combine religion and education

princfred:
Stop cutting my statements in half and or using it out of contest.
A womans intelligence is almost useless to a man with the stated condition of "if she disrespectful and unsubmissive"

Primarily a man looks for a woman for emotional and psychological companiionship and cohension. The rest attributes are ad-ons(if this were not so, uneducated semi broke women wonthave husbands as noticed with highly educated rich ladies). This basic quest is defeated where/if she is relcaciltrant and disrespectful. Hence making her distasteful to the man but that doesn't mean the man cant just br passing time with such a woman wile deep down he feels no allegiance from (courtesy of the disrespect) or to her.
No one stops you from being intelligent and respectful.

Actually, the glaring point you should learn from that post is importance of respect to a man just like you know the importance of love from a man to a woman whatever warped interpretation you may deduce is of your own making.

So the conclusion of this your lengthy post is that only "dumb" women respect men?

You think I am responding out of context because it doesn't align with your own idea. I don't have to agree with you.

It's a good thing that these set of men that like dumb women are the minority.

Sterope:
Uniform that infringes on someone's fundamental rights

Kids wear uniform to the school in the UK and also includes their hijab for the Muslims and turban for the Sikhs. No one has died yet.

And no one will die if they don't wear the hijab

Bsmartt:
This is disheartening. I hope they will also stop all female students wearing hijab in the University of Ibadan .

Universities do not wear school uniforms.

Iogobenz:
because you all don't be with struggling guys if everything is equal na.
It's not rocket science

Your assumption is wrong and an insult to women that struggle and build lives and businesses with their husbands from scratch.

Iogobenz:
Did they want to or have to?
That has been my point since

How do you know they don't want to?

Iogobenz:
I don't have bias for women neither do I hate them.
Also,if you go through my posts,I hardly put mouth in things I don't know about.
You won't see me on BBN threads,football or tribalists threads,but this my friend,I do know what I am talking about.
Women don't WANT to build any empire with men,they do so only if they HAVE to.
I am not misinforming anyone,I am simply telling them the truth since as I've been out there for way too long.
Been with all classes of them,from different places and countries too before I was able to draw that conclusion

So you are saying that no woman in history till date has ever built a business with their husbands? Or that there are no women presently building businesses with their husbands?

This is a fallacy of hasty generalization.

Get your facts right and don't make false conclusions.

Iogobenz:
take this to the bank.
Women don't build with men!they only do so when they have to,not that they want to.
You can continue denying it but it's a fact.

The bank of Nairaland??

Please don't misinform people.

Put your hatred or bias for women aside and expand your knowledge about something before making a conclusion

princfred:
Because the intelligence of a lady that is almost unsubmissive to the husband is useless to him nothing about insecurity or low self anything.

Power is nothing without control.

It's useless to a man? How so?

Are you saying Nigerian men prefer unintelligent women?

On this same forum, guys complained about ladies not being intelligent enough to have a good conversation. And now, a woman's intelligence is useless to a man...

A man that is threatened by an intelligent woman is not a real man.

Dudeweedlmao:
You'll only make ignorant post like this because you haven't been to other section apart from Romance. Who cares about women in pet, politics, or business section?

And you only make ignorant comments like this because you don't know better.

Jayslicky:
Is it our fault that naija women are gold diggers, ask other women from another country and hear how they cherish naija men, most naija women have the brain of a fish

The same way men from other countries value Nigerian women.

Aren't you guys tired of this bashing everyday? Is it that productive? Does Seun pay you guys for it that we are unaware of? It's becoming an epidemic.

The question is pointless.

A wise man will know how to balance both.

Woman, the god on Nairaland

Guys just can't stop creating threads about women on this forum.


It's flattering.

zolapower:
Sorry dear , I have just parted ways with a lady friend. Due to an irreconcilably diff. The original poster of this thread must have been reading my mind bf putting this up. I'm the type who hates to use my position as a guy to make u feel uncomfortable in a relationship . I give all the time to express ur self but do not take it for a liberty . RESPECT me as much as I do to u.
So she find out that I'm the type who usually do not beat a lady and as such she does things that will warrant me beating her . But I chose the right part whwhic is calling off the relationship indirectly,so I won't have the feminism- ish on my hand no more or going to get a sniper for that reason ,so I called d relationship off because of that .

But have you dated or met a lady that is respectful?

ubunja:
Nigerian women may be the most disrespectful women in Africa. Which is funny because they're also the ugliest women in Africa. And the most educated. Such an extreme cocktail.

Is that what you and your fellow South African men are saying...that Nigerian women are the most disrespectful and the ugliest?

Coming from you, I will take it with a pinch of salt.

zolapower:
The end truly justify the means , now I can truly deduce why the op put up this post . Women truly are disrespectful.

If we are using Nairaland as a basis for judgement, looking at the threads opened daily...the comments and attacks, you would know which gender is more disrespectful.

But you are a guy on Nairaland, so I don't expect you to judge fairly

ubunja:
that they don't care about intelligence

Why force upon men something they don't find attractive?

WRONG

These set of guys you mentioned would rather date an unintelligent lady who they can control rather than be threatened by one who will question their authority.

Reeks of insecurity and low self esteem

[quote author=Iogobenz [b]post=79949647]First mistake I think your dad made is trying to build a dream with a woman.
It rarely succeeds.you don't build with women,[/b]you build and bring her in to enjoy,else na yawa.
Secondly,I think you are judging her too much.
Not every woman or person can succeed in business and it is natural to have your mom favour her people over your dad's.
Just try and love her the way she is and try as much as possible to avoid confrontations!if she is making a mistake and you find out,you either let her make it so she learns from it or look for a way to help her out without any sort of confrontations.
Also,everyone is valuable.na when you go lose her weh you go know the things she did for y'all.
Be wise,you don't wish bad upon blood.
Peace[/quote]@ the bolded, in a lot of cases, otherwise is the case. That's why it's important to marry someone who shares the same thinking process and ideas with you. Not just to marry to have a woman in the house.

That is the mistake men make and probably the mistake his dad made

Herbephe1:
no matter what, she still remains your mother!

It takes more than birthing a child to be a mother.

ubunja:
the greatest number of single women are intelligent women. Tells you a lot about how undateable smart girls are

What does that say about men?

matrix199:
I quite understand your ignorance. So, let me enlighten you fellas on albinism with just one simple line.....
...It takes two to birth an albino. Albinism is controlled by a recessive gene, meaning it will less likely manifest when it pairs with a normal skin gene.


The summary is, two dark persons(male and female) with the recessive gene will most likely birth an albino. Two very fair persons(male and female) without the recessive gene, or with one recessive gene carrier will less likely give birth to an albino. One recessive gene alone is not enough to birth an albino.

So long you(the male) do not carry the recessive albinism gene, so to speak, then it's less likely your progenies will be albino. To know if you carry the recessive gene or not, run a check on your family history.

People are unaware of this info especially the bolded. An inlaw of mine rejected an albino child from his girlfriend. He said it's not his child. He's not albino and she isn't either.

Years later, he got married and his wife gave birth to twins... both albinos . He had to go back and apologize and accept the other child.

Op check your family history and ask because if you have an albino, it might even be from you.

Mayor08:
Yes, that is applicable

So that actually means he raped her since she was a minor and he was already a full blown adult.

Antoeni:
THE BIGGEST TRUTH OF IT IS THAT THE DAKOLOS ARE PAINED THAT BIODUN MOVED AHEAD TO BECOME SUCCESSFUL. IF HE WAS A POOR FARMER OR TRUCK PUSHER MRS DAKOLO WOULD HAVE HEALED YEARS AGO. THIS BEHAVIOUR OF BITTERNESS HAS REPEATED ITSELF SO MANY TIMES IN HISTORY. I AM NOT SAYING BIODUN IS CLEAN..NO HE IS SOILED TOO. BUT BUSOLA IS PAINTING HIM FAR DARKER THAN HE IS.

This kind of mindset is a ticking bomb.

femi4:
You spoke my mind....if only people here can read in between lines

Obviously, most guys here are either not smart, rigid, or narrow minded.

talkeverytime:
This just admits he truly did it, but I still think it wasn't rape anyway

Uncle Thomas

Mayor08:
He might have done this or any other one, but i still stand by my point that he didn't rape busola, They had sex and she is trying to cover up...We all know the pastor cannot explain what truly transpired(he is handicapped) cause of his congregation, he can only accept or deny the allegation.
Timi met his wife a virgin(he said that himself), someone accused her of infidelity and sleeping with a coza pastor sometime ago, Timi and his wife were choristers in the church and somerhing transpired for them to leave.. The allegations of her infidelity and past sexual encounters would have triggered Timi to question her seriously, seeing her marriage is online and there are people threatening her with it she then came out to play the rape and victim card.. May all rapist rot in hell, same as manipulators and liars

Have you heard of statutory rape?

Bossjakande:
I try to put u on my blogs but am ban go thru it pls

How do I go through it?