₦airaland Forum

revolt:
you didnt get the ooint... it was sarcasm directed at her.. you feminists always use generalizations to buttress your theories but when its applied on women you all go haywire. For all we care you can put men down it doesbt affect us. There will always be women that disassociate themselves from these mundane feminist ideologies

Which feminist? Please stop throwing around that word anyhow. Because I have an opposing view, I am now a feminist.

Please try another defence and not this lame "feminist defence" guys on this forum hide behind.

Instead of them to play well and secure a spot, they will be depending on the outcome of another game.

Hmmm...NYSC comes to mind... boyfriend in military training in Jaji...wealthy and influential T...i. comes along

Seems like you are not observant or both of you are not close. How won't you know she was planning an introduction? Or know that she had divided attention?

Anyway, it doesn't look good, whichever angle you look at it from. She's cannot be trusted.

Magnifico2000:
What if you can't get an AA girl that will love you?

He will keep searching till he finds, rather than bring children into the world to suffer and see them die.

Inighe...it means honey.

I love when I am called that. She might like it also

revolt:
why are you ppl so quick to put down a man....what if hes actually doing those chores but his luck hasn't come thru....lol.....see how your stereotypes sound.

It is not a put down. Did you even read the comment i responded to? I bet you saw nothing wrong there because he was putting down women and not men.

How many men will take up chores at home when they are out of work and their wives are working? A housewife won't let her husband worry about house issues while he works and brings in money.

That's my point...not intended to put down any sex

revolt:
most men are dragged into marriage because the girl starts bothering him. To mke her happy he just ties the nuts. Isnt it glaring tht wedding day is usually her happiest day. Abeg face reality .

Oh! But you can put down women and stereotype them.

A very wrong assumption that you will clarify by yourself when the time comes.

revolt:
the irony is I'm pretty sure this woman dragged this man into marriage..... probably begged him and he finally sucumbed... I'm almost crrtain.

Why are some of you guys so quick to look for something to blame a woman for. She forced him to marry her. Next you will say she made him lazy... she made him lose or quit his job.

Men are now puppets that women control with sticks.

donziggyman:
Well to those saying men are bound to be the bread winners of the family. Hope you have seen how it feels to be a bread winner of the family. All those feminist running their bloody fvcking mouth wawawaa should learn to appreciate what ever a man chooses to offer or better still be the bread winner let the man be a househusband. No be only una sabi be housewife.

Hehehe I'm glad it's the other way round so let them deal with it lwkmd...

It's not the same thing o bros. A housewife is more useful than a househusband in Nigeria. The HH will still expect the working wife to come from work and go to the market, cook, clean, etc.

Silence

EVILFOREST:
GUYS BEWARE.
Never Marry out of pity.

When a LADY is JOBLESS in marriage, it’s no News..
The MOMENT the same MAN that MARRIED that Lady with his hard earned wealth goes JOBLESS while his Wife is still employed, all Hell is let loose immediately.

Just 3MONTHS into supporting her FAMILY she starts NAGGING...!!
She starts seeing FAULTS in everything her HUSBAND does

When a lady is jobless, at least she will cook, clean, take care of the house and kids.

But when a man is jobless, the woman will work and still come home to cook and clean, etc. Because the man will still be proving head of house and any little thing will bruise his ego. He won't try to help with chores

So, it's not the same thing.

asalimpo:
per capita or per pound or per cent (100), socio economic factors being equal, the number of smart, decent people swing towards men rather than women. This isnt female bashing. They r many factors which make intellectual developmnt unappealing to women. Go to book sellers on the street and ask them who buys their books, they'll tell u it's not women. I do ask.
The average woman has this things in her mind: how do i look?
How can i look more beautiful?
Sexx sexx sexx (just like men),
money, how can i get it (just like men),
attention (how to get more or fight off what is keeping it from coming in-tht's where d girl fights come in).
When a woman sees another woman, she notices her beauty nd critiques it-quickly in her mind- notices her hand bag, hair etc.
It is this thought patterns that make d average woman junk upstairs.
Now, imagine a mind that operates like this having to dwell on something higher than this? Logic,mathematics, politics, etc! It wont work! Women arent inferior to men- their minds r full of sh*t.
So whatabout women who are successful etc. First,these women associate more with men,who groom them. 2) they had encouraging family: father mother siblings.
3) while they r intellectually /technically sound,they may b emotionally weak . E.g there's a female foodseller where i stay, she is high strung nd anger prone. Dyu notice this trait among women? It's rampant- emotions rather than logic sways their thinking. I've noticed this in preachers,professors, etc.

Women hav no incentive to develop their minds- everymn wants pvssy and with such a powerful battering tool, why develop ur mind? Think of it? Most womn r so deluged with attention frm men, who just want a tumble in d hay, tht they can get almost anything they want in life thru-pvssy!
So womn spend more time being attractive -physcally- than mentally. Which brings up the issue of fake eyelashes,handbag, fake hair,etc.
This phenomenom of most women being dumber than their male counterparts is global!

You may have made some valid points though I would not be quick to say that Nigerian men are more intelligent compared to their female counterparts.

Just the way we have guys who are preoccupied with quick riches and malicious devices regardless of the ripple effects of others, we also have ladies who live for fake lashes, hair, handbags, etc.

Unfortunately, your distorted mumbo jumbo doesn't do much to validate your last line. Well except you are excluded from the intelligent Nigerian or "global" men.

Mrjo:
it's would have been to hear from the Man because I am not sure if it's the woman that brought him to Lagos, or if the woman married herself on behalf of the man because it still a minstry to me how a married man become lazy all of a sudden

It happens. I know of one. His wife is a nanny and pregnant with their 4th child. He just sits at home. When the kids are home and hungry, he will send the children to meet the mother at her place of work to collect money for food.

He said he wants to go back to a country he was deported from years ago to go and hustle.

Begging like an idiot. He will leave his wife indeed.

There's always a story...my wife was forced on me by my family...I don't love my wife anymore all for sex. Some men are really shameless. They can sell their birthright for sex

Two bedroom is fine for a start. What do you guys need all the space for? It will encourage people to come and be tenants in your house.

lilmax:
women

you don't know what your husband is going through, you just concluded he's lazy

maybe he's depressed and feel like like isn't worth it, maybe environment is not his thing that's why he talked about leaving the country, but no, his words doesn't matter, you only think about yourself

you just raised a change of how much again? and your ego is up

I urge the government should check on that man, he really needs to stay away from toxic people labelling him lazy

If both of them become depressed because of the country's situation and environment, who will pay the bills and fend for their child?

It is easy for him to sit at home and pass time knowing that there's income from his wife.

I was like " Am I really doing this? "Is this really happening?"

After you read a chat where she denied you and said she is single, you still carried on and you are coming to ask us.

You are in a relationship with yourself in case you don't know

lefulefu:
there are ppl who are naturally glutinous oo.even if they eat from home b4 going to a ceremony they still cant control themselves around food.u will see them fighting or trying to strangle each other over ordinary jollof rice or fufu with egusi soup and goat meat.well dressed ppl looking well fed.agh i don see a lot for birthdays and wedding ceremonies wey i don attend.there one my friend about this very fat lady who was packing all the takeaways in one big bacco bag in one wedding ceremony.her husband was sitting at one corner looking helplessly while ppl were snicking and laghing at her.

It was for her dog

Halezis:
This is one thing I'm getting used to. Eat very well before going for events. The last two wedding ceremonies I've attended, just drank and I'm okay.

Some ladies will get to same events, eat well and pack the ones that'd last for the next 3 days. Maybe it's an inborne ladies trait that some managed to escape coming with

I do this at family events...packing food. My favourite is always moimoi...lol

One family event i went for, they even packed disposable cups for me...like what da!!!

She is insulting and beating you with things while you are still doing boyfriend and girlfriend. What will happen after you get married and over familiarity sets in?

These are signs you shouldn't overlook if you want to have a peaceful married life

lefulefu:
some ladies dont get freaked out over food.i have come across a number of such..though on nairaland following some other guy's experience u might be thinking most nigerian gehls are gluttons wen it comes to food but this not always d case.

Abeg I eat before going for weddings, dates, outings to avoid eating out of hunger. I got used to it that even if I am hungry, I would still maintain or I buy my food.

Some people go out on an empty tummy and everything will just be entering their eyes and they end up acting gluttonous.

If it's a date, I allow the guy order first and I order the same thing or less. Ladies need to learn etiquette. And guys too.

Calapar:
She tried. I'd one stupid instance. We arranged to meet. Immediately she came, she went straight on the counter to buy all sorts including cake. When it was time to pay she sat down. I checked her takeaway and saw cake. I asked if the day was her birthday she said no. I removed all unnecessary stuffs and paid for the rest. Then told her she should take her leave.

Cake!!! Ahn ahn. Some girls are hungry opportunists. She should have paid for her extravagance.

GoodBoi1:
Just something moderate

Cool... make her understand. I knew 95% of the people at my white wedding personally. It was that small.

But then, the disrespectful part from her is something to consider before getting proceeding. Because it will get worse in marriage except she changes which is a very slim possibility.

You and your lady have to be on the same page. A small wedding is easier to manage. It depends on what exactly you want to do.

But when you say low budget, is it the lowest of the low like court and bye bye everybody?

kennygee:
Hmmn. One man's food is another man's poison.

Me that want low budget wedding and I'm prepared to offend a lot of people in the process self.

Do it coded, go for honeymoon, buy a land and start building it small small.

If you do big wedding, there are still people that will have something negative to say so use the money for more productive things.

Someone will still complain that the food was too sweet..lol. People will always complain, so there's no point trying to impress.

Number 2 sees you as her personal money bag.

Number 1 seems ok except that she is not virgin as you would have preferred

You don't need a soothsayer or a witch with a magic ball to tell you to flee.

She is not looking for love, she is looking for a helper

My problem is this country. Bad roads, bad health care, terrible education system, epileptic electricity. I have run out of patience waiting for the country to get better

davillian:
We know how hungry lions make their orders and behave.

It's easy to see through such ladies. But the guys seem to shut down their senses and ignore the signs.