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Chuks9000:
It is a pity. Read the bible verses in the quote you responded to.
Your pastor? Is he above the bible? Why select the law that favours him? Why not practice all the laws if he is a true teacher?
Listen good, whatever you do to the least of your brothers, that you have done unto God.
If 90/100 in a church tithe, can that 90 come out to say their lives were changed by that act?
Which is more important: to make heaven or to serve your pastor?

Your last question is a rhetorical question i guess. The Bible is for all to read and understand personally.

If paying my tithe has been working for me and I do it out of my own volition without being tracked or monitored, i dont think it should pain anybody. Those that do not believe in paying should not. We shouldn't impose our varying beliefs on each other

lexy2014:
there are 2 parts in d scripture u quoted. One speaks of food being in d house & other speaks of opening d windows of heaven. So which of them is d purpose?

If you cannot read the scripture and understand, I cannot do it for you. It is a personal walk.

lexy2014:
what's d purpose of tithing?

Malachi 3:10

Number 2 is bad advice. Never ever ever advise someone to do that.

A lot of them want a maid disguised as a wife.

Any guy that requests for anal sex is into porn or sleeps with prostitutes.

2 Reasons Why Raising You was a Waste of Time

Go to houses where the wife is made to call the husband my lord and compare with homes where they call each other pet names and tell me the difference.

Do what works for you. If you like, be called Obong, Abasi mmi, Olodumare, just try and stay close to the village

She must be talking about those daughters that were pampered by their parents rather than being brought up to be useful in the house. They think they are doing them good by allowing the maid do everything while their daughters cannot do any chore.

Thank God for mothers like mine. If you like see many helpers or maids around, we still did our own portion of work.

What exactly is this equality?

Equality to be able to do what exactly?

Papyk:
This is problem in Nigeria, when someone is try so hard to correct the wrongs, Nigerian will tell you to go and rest but keep on complaining that nigeria is bad. Daddy freeze is try hard to safe you people from all these Pentecostal demons and thiefs you people are calling Daddy GO. I understand toyin Abraham position, she is fighting for her mum who a church in ibadan. Let me repeat what jesus christ tell the teachers of Judaism religion in Mathew 23 vs 23, if you are paying tithe, your not follower of christ, your are practising Judaism doctrine and you must fulfil all the rest of the 613 judaism laws. But if you claim you are a christian, Read Mathew 25 and do what jesus christ said.

Tithing is in the Bible. People have been tithing since and they believe in it. My pastor still preached about it yesterday despite all the background noise about it.

But he also said it is not by force. It is better not to waste your money if you don't believe in it.

Freeze should quit already. It is not his money. If he starts his church/movement, he will do worse than those corrupt pastors.

shugamummy:
If you are married you will have a different experience. Now take a shot: a friend of mine works and from the proceeds of his efforts takes care of his parents,sisters and husband's and their kids,wife,wife parents,wife younger sister staying with them,pay his kids school fees,maintain the wife,home and kids,trying to build a house at home,fuels the car and pays the rent and other bills.....Now one day the wife refused to give him food nor greet him when he returned late from work. Reason the Man did not know that the GoTv subscription was to expire while the wife was about watching her popular movie on telemundo. What's ur suggestion to the husband if he is your brother and u visited and met this scene. Answer with truth in ur heart what u will do.

He should sell the GoTv decoder plus the Tv. What nonsense?

Your friend needs to drop all the baggage. He is not Jesus Christ. Why should he be responsible for all these people? Does he know that if he loses his job, they will still survive? And they will not be there fo him. He needs to save.

aaronson:
Wait! you haven't ridden on a motorcycle (okada)?

Riding one myself not being ridden

They think people who have just two children are idiots

aaronson:
still plenty more I haven't done or experienced. However, I'm well verse in even things I haven't done or experiences I haven't gained through the help of YouTube and learning from other people.

This is what have done lol.

Nice. Try to explore more

engrelvis:
dnt mind dis people.dey r looking for people daughter to use n dump.all these guys forming tough or macho attitude r mostly insecure people because of bad past relationships or upbringing.listen when I was in Uniben in early nineties I camp a girl in d quarters for almost 3yrs.she did my laundry cook for me.infact very wifey.i did nt marry dat girl after graduation.wifey duties my foot .i went out with another one for 7yrs.i did nt court my current of 13yrs marriage more dan 2yrs.am a man .I v pass through this phases .most of our current youth think with their dicks.remove sex n c whether d same man will nt turn to an entirely different being .so because yr girlfriend did nt arrange yr bed or yr kitchen is nt a wife material.grow up . marriage geos beyond dat . like I always tell people dat i counsel there is big difference between WIFE n GIRLFRIEND

I feel you. I didn't court for up to a year and i never did his chores.

People are just trying to be smart. Doing chores doesn't determine anything

Single mother..baby mama loading...

I cannot even think of something i have never done...

Ok...here goes

I have never smoked

I have never ridden a motorcycle

I guess that's it

aaronson:
I also have never been to any shoprite in the country.

Never been to the cinema.

Never attended any wedding and burial.

Never gotten admitted in the hospital

Never fainted.

Never flown on a plane.

Never used an elevator and escalator.

Never ridden on a horse and boat.

Never ever had my picture on WhatsApp and until lately I deactivated my fb I only had one pic as dp for many years.

Never been to a hotel.


Funny but true, I have never seen any celebrity or super star in reality, Be it A -list down to C- list. Never seen any of them. oh only 2 face when he came to Uniben for a show other than that no one.

So what exactly have you done?

princfred:
Yeah. Then there is one last one,* come close make i tell you for ear * so another person no go hear. If you call your man his favorite names, blowing his head enough, he will be more "agile" as he will have a better tool to do his "manly duty" i.e perform well. Conversely, if he feels his place as Captain of Jupiter is being slighted upon, it will affect something, yes that thing, that will affect you. Then he has to defend his manhood literally. Believe me

Naaah those names don't work for everyone. Some prefer endearing and more romantic names. Not every man is old school and traditional. Some are liberal but it doesn't reduce the respect.

Besides, never a time has any man had to defend his manhood or Lordship to me.

princfred:
What ever that gets his mind blown. "Headmaster", "Chief of chiefs", "Lord of the forest", "Captain Dickson". Even if its playfully, just be humble and nice enough to call him that. Its his mind being blown that matters not if whatever is archaic or futuristic. What if you call him my king and that doesn't freak him? Same goes with a lady. Whatever turns her on. "My queen of the seven seas", "my angel from second to last heaven", "My Chocolate from the milky way", "My pumpkin from the garden of Eden". Whatever, just blow minds. Cuz you are doing it for them not for your self - thats selfless-love. For me its "my lord of the rings" . After all, they dey call judges lord, who complain?.

Thats last part is a good one- the summary.

Whatever gives you joy

princfred:
A man does not necessarily go about calling himself lord but usually resorts to that when the wife gives him attitude to suggest the opposite or starts pushing the equality mantra probably because of what she earns not knowing that the man also reserves the right to push her off the equality footing when/if she ever encounters financial problems if respect is based solely on who earns what.

There is nothing awkward about it just like i don't believe its awkward or backward for me to call you "my queen". Make your man feel like your lord as much as you would love him to make you feel like his queen. And if calling him that will help, why hold back? This is why there werent much baby mamas during our forefathers days. The mans place as captain and lord wasn't under much threat or questioning as the women didn't hold back on eulogizing men by calling them elevating names. There is nothing bad and everything to gain by giving your man that extra blown head by calling your man big names. Try it. As e go sweet make or if i call you my queen of queens na so e good sweet the man too. Instead the concentration now is on blowjobs. All blow*job should not be directed down there but up there. Try mental blow*job, it works. ��

Then my king is better and less archaic.

No one should should go into marriage with the mind of fighting for supremacy

If a guy likes, let him be 35 and marry a girl of 19, if she is prone to rudeness, she will exhibit the trait and it is more painful then. Because, afterall she is far younger and is meant to be submissive to her "baba"

Be a genuine person

princfred:
That last part na lie. If a goat does not respect the tiger........ Not an insult until she translates it to her attitude which is often the case. Also will you faint if you call your man "my lord"? But you love him to call you "my queen" abi?- That woman selfishness i talk about.

If a man has to keep emphasizing that he is a man...saying "i am the man...i am the head..." then he needs to check himself.

I cannot faint but calling him lord has never crossed my mind neither has it captured what i feel for him. And we don't even roll like that. Calling him lord will just be awkward and backward

She will do all the chores and he will still go and marry someone else.

I don't advise any lady to do chores in a guy's house. Just wash the plates you use. He cannot leave dirty kitchen, dirty clothes for you to come and do to prove that you are wife material.

If it is that one, abeg it is better to remain girlfriend material.

princfred:
Of course i agree but a woman has to know that the man is his lord not to start dragging position with the man based on earning this or that. Now woman call their men my baby instead of my lord. Overtime and intermittently, the man has to reinstate his "manhood" and lordship as the case may be.

Calling a man "baby" is not an insult. And who calls her husband "my lord". Is it Lord and personal Saviour?

There is nothing like reinstating manhood or Lordship. A tiger does not proclaim its tigritude

princfred:
I asked before how many percentage of women pay groom price, house, feed and cloth the man that makes cases you used not to be remote?. I dont not subscribe to men bullying their wives. Am only saying two captains cant run a ship and captains dont get swapped in marriage. If you doubt, tell a man or even give him attitude that you are now equal as head with him and see how that goes.

In a lot of cases,both husband and wife contribute to the wedding. They split the expenses.

A man's place as the head is not negotiable; even the Bible states it.

A marriage where the husband always wants to lord over his wife and shut her up or down everytime is not a healthy one

princfred:
Its also about living by the book even as the bible wrote it. Here we are telling the exact reasons why many men abandon their wifes and so much baby mama and instead of learning whats the men are sayin is or will likely drive them to this thing you are more inclined to running around it. Even with imaginary scenarios which are more of remote exceptions than the norm. No man is interested in right dragging or equalization with wife. That's not what he married for. The neck is below the head and anyday it tries to be equal with it, there will be problem.

I do not use imaginary or remote scenarios. Just plain real life. And my issue is with men using submission as an excuse to bully their wives.
While demanding respect, she needs to be loved and treated right.

Besides, how do i learn from guys here...guys who always label "Nigerian girls" trash and can't see past a lady's boobs or backside.

laudate:
Go back and read what you wrote in your previous post, and you would see that chauvinism is the word that best describes the traits you mentioned, in men. I was just trying to help you out.

If that is the word that captures it, ok

princfred:
It depends on your definition of equal rights. A man did not spend his money, time and energy to marry a lady to come and drag right up and down with him while taking responsibility of her upkeep. Those white ladies who invented feminism etc take responsibilities of expenses right from the dating process, even can house and polish even Africans just to be their wife. Also a ship cant have two captains.

What about a case where they both spent equal amount for the marriage ceremony or that the lady even brought most of the money...can she drag rights with him then?

Marriage is not actually about following set principles or living by the book. Both parties need to love and respect each other and find a model that works for them. Upbringing also affects marriage. A man that was brought up in a home where his mum had no say will shut down his wife when she tries to speak.

People need to shine their eye and look at the person they are marrying...if they can work together.

Women should not marry a guy they cannot respect. Men and women are joint heirs and equal in God's eyes but one still has to submit to the other. One is the head and one is the neck. The neck and head never fight for control.