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Dis Guy:
cor blimey what planet are you on butt butt butt

I think most tennis players wearing skirt do the same just that their own is not that noticeable with their pancake ass.
I think she should be wearin some tights or maybe its not comfortable for her abi she likes playing commando
wish i can join her
I'd like to know what she'll be wearing for wimbledon well in advance so i can grab me tickets

You mean you like those heavy duty butts?

debosky:
who told you that? thats[i] precisely[/i] why a good chunk of those millions watch tennis

personally I wish it wasn't in the shadow, so we can see whether its bare butt or not

Common, i know of men watching ladies because of beauty, nice legs and bodies i never thought it is because of their butts. Maybe i am just prudish.

She must have either worn a thong or some sort of underwear, why would she want to expose all her backside when it is not a "butt" competion

But seriously, that dress is awful.

viee:
o shit!
thats my girl you're talkn about here

she does battle with her weight though
especially when she is not playn
d pic in my profile is really

Sorry viee. . . . no need to cry

The picture on your profile is nice and that is because it was a shoot. However when playing in tournaments, millions are watching and don't want to see players bare bums but watch wonderful tennis. I like Serena though i think i prefer venus [s]who someone claimed was ugly. I had  to point out that she is not a beuty queen but a tennis star.[/s]

sweetchick:
I am so sick of the tribal bashing in nairaland. Why is it that many topics bordering in culture or tradition end up as wars between the different tribes? the concept of " one Nigeria" is obviously still a very big pipe dream

Please tell them. Maybe they will listen to you.

viee:
Imani, serena is koolllllllllllll
she took that pic in d last FO
her backside is sumptuous

You serious?

[s]Dont you think one of her thighs could have been used to make pounded yam[/s]?

Was this during a proper tournament?

Seriously, the William sisters need to choose between fashion and media careers and Tennis. [s]And someone needs to tell Serena she is too muscular for such a dress and her a*se is quite massive[/s]

lucieo:
I tried with immigration to get him a visitor's visa to come to america, which is what he really wants to do, but their is a clause that states that we have to meet face to face 2 years prior to my filing the petition for him to come here. i am alot older than my fiance, and so we have decided to meet in Turkey. He is a student in a country very near there and then from there are plans are to fly to nigeria to be married their[b] because he wants his family present[/b], and I want that as well. thank you for your response, and i most certainly hope that you will continue to shed some light on my concern, thanks

What about your own family?

lucieo:
I am so confused. I love my fiance with all my heart. But I am worried about meeting him in another country to be married in Nigeria. I was recently scammed by another Nigerian, and although it is not fare that this should have any effect on my relationship with the man I love, it does. My fiance has never lied to me, and I am just worried that if I go to meet him in the other country and then go to Nigeria to be married that something might happen to me. This mistrust is the cause of what happened with the other nigerian who scammed me. please help with any comments that you believe might help me,

thank you

Like someone already suggested earlier, please be careful. You haven't even met him yet and you are talking about loving him with your life. Please be practical and not get too emotional about it. Loving is good but better when applied with common sense and restraint. Is 3 months not too soon to want to get married to someone especially after just being recently scammed by another Nigerian?

While you think he has never lied to you and even spoke to his "mother", all that can be staged.

Like you suggested, why don't you meet up in a "neutral" country that he can get a visa too. At least see him physically, and you can move on from there. Nigeria is not as bad as people make it out to be especially when you are in the right company. Of course every country has it's own share of crime.

Dis Guy:
When applying for your student visa im sure you told them you can sustain yourself esp with sponsors that have fat bank acounts and plenty of properties, so you don't really need to do over 20hrs 

I think you can do more than 20hours during the holidays

That is correct. You are allowed to work in full time employment during the holidays as a student

I just saw this story and thought to share with Nairalanders.

In a recent edition of Genevieve Magazine, Betty Irabor, the acclaimed editor, in her editor's note referred to an incident that occurred when shooting the cover of the March 2007 Edition of the magazine which featured HIV-Positive mother and activist, Yinka Jegede-Ekpe. Please read the following link i got from a blog

http://bp2.blogger.com/_IfL2RoqAOoQ/RnAjQ1qxydI/AAAAAAAAAvE/XZiHJL3sIf0/s1600-h/Betty_Irabor__Morning_Dew_June_07.JPG

The article caused a stir and forced Betty Irabor to issue and apology. Please see following link

http://www.genevievemag.com/morning.htm


Now, the question is,  why did such a respected journalist display the attitude she did, considering the fact that she had invited the lady in question for a shoot.?

While she did not mean any harm, the article in itself was insensitive and thus highlights the plight and social stigma faced by PLWHA (People living with HIV/AIDS).  There is also need for more education about HIV/AIDS and about the effects of discrimination against these people. They are not second class citizens.

With educated and knowledgeable people like Betty exhibiting such ignorant attitudes, what do we expect from the lay man? Of course, this kind of articles makes it even harder for people especially women(who are the target group for the Mag) to go for testing or even reveal their HIV status.

However, the article also highlights the need to be careful with issues such as the use of shared objects such as blades, clippers in places like salons, barbers etc in public places.

The lady in question was said to have been infected through the unhygienic practices of her dentist in 1997. She was a nursing student and had to fight for her right to continue her education when she revealed her status. She was 19. she is currently married to a man that is also HIV positive.

What are your thoughts on this article? Was Betty just reacting normally or was she out of line?

VOR:
Wife? ssshhhhhh.

Re: Funky,

If I were her I would ensure that any leave to remain I obtain in the UK is
in my own right and not dependent on anyone else. I know she says she is
very much in love with her boyfriend but if the relationship sours and she is
his dependant then she will be in a very vulnerable position.

Nothing she does has any guarantees but I think her best way forward
is to do her one year masters followed by the Scottish talent scheme. Even
whilst she is on the scheme she can attempt to switch to WP employment/HSMP before
the two years is up. She then has to string things out for five years till she obtains her
ILR.

Marrying her boyfriend at this point will give her no advantage in immigration terms
as he only has limited leave to remain.

What do you think?

I never looked at it from the angle you pointed out, that is  if anything should happen to the relationship with her as his dependent.

Please funkybaby, if you have a chance to come and study in the UK, pls take it. From there you can work part-time and get yourself into the sysytem and get the benefits of a student as stated by VOR and still get to see your boyfriend. Another option mentioned earlier is working holiday maker. . . i don't know how many nigerians apply for this though, you can look it on on the home office website.

docokwy:
When the Yoruba stop ogboni and its fetish practices (to which at least 70 % of Yorubas belong), stealing Nigeria's money by their elites and burying Obas with human heads; and the hausa stop sharia and religious riots, almajirism and marabouting, they (eg Laudate) can advise the Igbo who practise Osu to end it. Balderdash

The Yorubas are not the only ones known for fetish practices, other groups such as Edo/Delta, Igbo are also know for such. Each culture has it's share of cults and secret societies. Money Laudering is a national problem not confined to any tribe, so all parties are guilty.

@Topic,

The Osu issue may have been blown out of proportion. It may be a dying custom hence some people claim not to have heard of it. Also as we have been told on this site that the Igbo group is diverse, it is very possible the custom is only application to parts of Igboland. Let's be careful not to generalise when there is not enough evidence.

Bassey231:
Have you ever thought of paradise in Africa? A place where you can relax without thinking of the problems life offers- especially to we Nigerians? A place where you can really appreciate nature and all the good things it has to offer? A place that has one of the largest virgin forests in the world. A place where one special specie of gorillas still exist. A place where some of the best Nigerian and indeed African cuisines find its home. A real tourist heaven,with beautiful and very warm people. A place where you find Africa's premier business resort. A place judged to have the neatest city in Nigeria. A place where everybody- both residents and visitors call home. Have you ever thought of CROSS RIVER STATE. A state with over 72 dialects; ranging from the Efiks of the southern axis,the ejaghams of the central axis and the bekwarras of the northern region. A state where peace and I mean real peace exists. That place is Cross River State - OUr Faith, Our pride.

You will make a good marketer. 

Hope to visit Cross Rivers and especially Calabar very soon and see things for myself

VOR:
Imani,

I didn't go .

Saturday I was too busy working so I had hoped to go on the Sunday when I got info it was cancelled.
Later I was told it actually went ahead on Sunday anyway though it ended early.
Anyway, there is always next year. Hope to see you there then, no excuses this time. .

Yes O immigration is my home, though I can often also be found in the romance/sexuality threads[b][/b]
giving my little pearls of wisdom and benefit of my many and varied experiences. Know what I mean?

Lets hope your wifey doesn't get to read of your escapades


Back to topic,

What do you suggest as the best possible option for funkybaby ?

davidylan:
No be prove matter. I've been making akara since i was 12 or so. Shame on those women who can't cook.

Stop looking for trouble .

@ Donzman,

I give up. Unlike you i do not have the energy to sustain all the anger, bitterness and whatever else eats you up inside.

Looks like you are more interested in making enemies on this forum with your insults. I am not suprised none of your usual "backers" calls you to order when you insult non-igbo people but they do rally round you when the shoe is on the other foot. what are friends for?

Have a great life.

davidylan:
no formular but from experience when you blend the beans try and do so with as little water as possible. The thicker the paste the better. It should be as thick as paste, i.e it should not drip.

Are you trying to prove to the ladies you actually cook?

In addition to what oga david has said, make sure you use a consistent size of spoon to scoop the paste. [s]some people use their hands but only if you are an expert at it.[/s]

Ensure that both sides are "cooked" and golden in colour.

BTW, i dont really like akara, i think it drinks too much oil.

funkybaby:
@imani

ok dear. thanks. but i can't help but to worry. if not for him, i would have had plans to either stay put in naija or go to canada for my masters. vor and akolawole have already explained that my status on the dependant thing still ties to whatever status he has. assuming i get the dependant visa now and he can't renew his own visa by april next year?what now happens to me? the dependant/marriage thing is the least of my options.

If you have the financially means to go to Canada to study, why not explore that option? At least for your studies in case he isn't planning anything on the marriage front. It just seems a bit too much to place your hopes on him as you don't know what the future will bring. Developing yourself in terms of education and building a career will add to your CV as well.  Or better still, if you can get a good job in Nigeria with links to the UK, then try that.

On the other hand, if you get a dependent visa, whenever he applys or changes status, you switch with him accordingly.

@VOR,

since you now reside on this thread at least temporarily, did you manage to go to the festival at least for a day before it was cancelled?

funkybaby:
na wa o! thats 1year masters + 2years work permit+ another 5years work permit = ILR
THAT'S IS EIGHT YEARS IN SCOTLAND just for ILR?
please, i need more confirmation on this. if this is true, then why are nigerians rushing to scotland. or is there something that no one has told me

please i need a plan B.

based on the advice given by VOR and mrpataki some months back on this my issue, my boyfriend and i had earlier agreed that he enrols for ACCA. now my aunt told me that the ACCA option is a risky one. she said the chances that he will  be given the visa via ACCA are high but that he MUST pass the exams. she said that ACCA is difficult bearing in mind that he will have to be working and at the same  time studying. she said that home office will always ask for his results and assumming he fails, his visa will not be renewed so she told me to tell him not to use ACCA as a basis for his visa renewal.

i am confused oooooooo !

You need to take it easy! People are probably rushing to Scotland in the hope that they will get a 2 year permit only to discover otherwise. Like VOR stated, the fresh talent scheme is NOT a work permit, and some employers may not even employ you even with that scheme even though they can legally, that is why it is always better to switch into the proper work permit or HSMP scheme.

Unfortunately, there is no short cut in the UK to this thing using legal means except you want to go around with a fake passport which is dangerous as you could be found out anytime and deported. Some may not get caught, but is that a risk anyone is willing to take?

funkybaby:
@ VOR

thanks. so how can this fresh talent scheme help in getting permanent residency? the last thing i want for my boo is for him to go around with expired visa. apparently, his student visa expires april and not january as i previously thought, i presently have a valid visiting visa, so i need all the advice i can get, so that we can decide on the next thing to do.

Do you think he is not thinking about options and alternatives as well? Seems like you are doing more of the worrying. That is why i mentioned in my earlier post you need to be cautious. Please don't set yourself up for disappointment. While the marriage option seems the shortest, are you sure he is willing and ready to settle down? If he is, there is nothing stoping him applying for you as his dependent but he has to show proof that he can support you financially.

funkybaby:
@imani

thanks dear. the whole thing don tire me sef. i am a graduate of estate management from a federal university in nigeria. its either he gets the ILR through me or he does it himself. i am trying to get the best advice possible because this will determine whether i study for my masters in england or scotland and what course i choose to specialize in.

since he is already here and in the system, it may be easier through him.

I really understand you as i am also in a similar situation to an extent. I have been in the UK for a while now so i have some idea how it comes based on my experiences. Anyway before exploring the marriage option be cautious. Except there is mutual love and trust, i will implore you to thread carefully with this immigration issue so you are not disappointed.

@funkybaby,

Just realised that your boyfriend is the one in the UK. My previous posts still stands except that you look at it from his angle.

From your angle, have you now graduated? What did you study? i am asking all this to see if you can apply for a visa category in your right before exploring the marriage option.

funkybaby:
@ VOR and akolawole

assumming you were in my shoes, given the background of my present circumstances and that of my boyfriend, what route would you have employed as the easiest (contract marriage exclusive)to get the ILR/permanent residency in the UK

What VOR and Akolawole have stated so far are correct.

The fresh talent scheme, being operated in Scotland, if you are successfull in your application, is for two years. But it is only applicable in Scotland where you are. After this period, you will be exppected to return to your home country or "switch" into other categories such as work permit or HSMP or working holiday maker(this is a bit out of sync with previous two options, but allows you to be in the UK legally).

In order to get the ILR that you want, it is not as straight forward for a student. You have to have lived and held a work permit, HSMP, or any other qualifying category for 5 years. Anything less. . . .no deal, with the exception of marriage to someone who is a citizen. And the worst part is the student years don't count, unless you are applying on the basis of long residence (which is 10 years by the way). So your assumption that 2 years Talent scheme plus 3 years work permit will give you ILR is false. It sucks i know. You will have to get a work permit/HSMP and have that for 5 years before being eligible for ILR.

With the marriage option, i really don't know much about it. But like someone stated earlier, marrying in the Anglican church might make it easier. I honestly don't know.

please let the experienced people in the house like Akolawole, Londoncool, VOR, pls comment on my post so i dont mislead the young lady.

@ Poster,


Since you claim your training and skill is on the shortage occupation, you shouldn't have much trouble getting a work permit. The work permit route though can be stressful is propably the one that allows you to bring in your wife without much trouble. One of my aunts got a work permit last year and all she had to do was manage her accounts and her husband's back in naija with a certain amount of money for a few months and ensure steady flow of transactions, got the required tenancy agreement, letter from her sponsor, pay slips, bills in her name etc to strengten her application. Her husband and kids got their visas. This process may take a while.


The other route you mentioned is also ok in case the work permit option is taking too long. You can apply for IGS, this will give you a year to sort yourself out and if you find a job, you can then either switch into the work permit or HSMP route. With all these options, your fiancee/wife will switch with you accordingly.

However, to get ILR, you need to have lived in the UK and held a work permit or HSMP for 5 years. Sorry, your student years don't count unless you are applying on the basis on Long Residence.

Goodluck.

People should be able to marry who they want. As the world becomes more global and people are exposed to different cultures and people, therefore intercultural, interace marriage are bound to increase. Even the law can't dictate who you should marry.

While people have their own preferences, but i do understand the female frustration with the number of eligible black men marrying outside the black race. Some single women are not single by choice. But like someone suggested, maybe it is time for the black woman to explore other races too. That way the marriage squeeze issue problem can be "minimised".

laudate:
Wa'sere my girl! I agree with you whole-heartedly. Thought I was the only one who saw life in the same way. The way people go on and on about ethnicity on this site, you would think it was the Nobel Prize or something!

Trying to reason with some people is like "hitting your head against a brick wall". Some people don't understand " it is ok to disagree without being disagreeable".  They just want to force their opinions on other people and don't even stop to consider the other party's position. Yet they resort to engaging in "intellectual" ramblings and insults while they people at the top that make the decisions that inevitably affects us all just do what they like without consultation with any groups. Most of the top dogs that run Nigeria are probably not as educated or intellectual as some people on this forum (at least those that brag about how "smart" they are) but that hasn't stopped them from running for elections and of course displaying their incompetence in their elected posts.   

I am not against people being proud of their ethnicity but when it becomes all they live for, then it is worrying. But then, it is up to people to make their personal choices.

debosky:
oya come Imani, lets go make our love outside this thread

Knowing you and your intolerable and insatiable sexual desires/lusts for anything in skirt (quoting from a nollywood scene ), it's not going to happen

Player of the season for Arsenal - Gilberto Silva

Player of the season premiership - Didier Drogba/ Christiana Ronaldo . . . . can't decide

Esoterik:
i guess because i grew up in the UK, maybe that is why i havent experience any OVERT discrimination because of my surname.  However, my family were quite well to do in Nigeria, we were considered middle class in my village.  We certainly werent considered outcasts according to my siblings who grew up there, if anything people looked up to us. 

[b]Having said that, on the grounds of what i have heard on these boards, i and what I have generally learned about this custom, i have decided that i will never insist that my children have ANY kind of allegiance to Nigeria, or the igbos.  Why consider yourself igbo, when the igbos themselves do not accept you?  My children are black and Nigerian and thats it.

But i do think you contradict yourself when you say that osus are human beings, yet you will have nothing to do with them ,   why bother adding that they are human.  You should just be true to yourself and say that you believe they are subhuman.  After all, that is how you are treating them.  [/b] [/font][font=Lucida Sans Unicode][color=#770077][/color]

I understand your sentiments and anger but please do not deny your children the opportunity to learn about their true heritage and culture. Or at least let them decide for themselves when they are old enough.

@topic

Of what benefit is an old custom that does nothing but ostracize some members of the society. There is no greater isolation than being rejected by one of your own. Since it is a custom that has no legal backing, why can't prominent people in the community come together to put a stop to it.

Customs were invented by people,  for people and can also be disregarded when no longer feasible. Except there is some kind of "advantage" to having the caste system, it should be scrapped. If the older generation won't do it, what about the younger and supposedly more enlightened ones?

achike:
what about the idos in yorubaland ?ogun whoshiping,babalawo, Aladura,voodoos,ogbomo-ogbomo,ogboni and many other negative things, like the seven heads for the obas. all this things still goes on the yorubaland.

The thread is not about Yorubaland practices but about the osu caste system and implications of marrying an "osu".

Idol worshipping, kidnappings and the use of human sacrifices occur both in Igbo and Yoruba cultures.  To state otherwise is to live in denial. you can also watch traditional nollywood movies, afterall they portray the societies in which we live.[s][/s]

^Singing



Love is in the air and everywhere even in "war zone" nairaland. Let's make love not war

Akin007:
u lose a lot of money chasing women but u never lose women chasing money!!!!!!!!!!

Meaning?

Probably Houston!