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Dear Romancelanders,
Please advice this young lady below...

"I lost my husband last year, finally found a man to marry but wants my children to bare his name instead of my late husband

Am so happy, at last i finally found someone who accepts I and my children, he is richer and provides I and my kids every need and also shows me so much love even more than my late husband did, the truth is, I feel more comfortable with this man. He even open up a supermarket for me..

He asked to marry me in which I have accepted, the problem now is, am disturbed on the fact that he has asked to marry me on the condition that we remove my late husband's name from my children's names and replace it with his own name..

I have tried talking to him to wait so that, I consult my people first because my late husband had fully paid my dowry. But, he insist we shouldn't inform them and that he has people in the government who can quickly switch the names without any delays or complications. Actually, I don't know what else to do because am afraid to loose him. I'm a 33year-old woman with 3kids. Age 4 a girl and 2year-old twin boys. I fear i might not find another man to marry me. I'm still a young woman whom also deserves a sweet love life. I also see that, changing the names is of no big deal since we are getting married to make one big family.

Pls kindly advice me on this.
She wrote..
From ChiChi's Blo....

Why come here to waste our time?
This woman has concluded even before this thread,she clearly stated that she doesn't want to loose this man so she's gonna do all it takes to keep him..women and money, mtchew

Young man do more of exercise and don't come here to convince us not to collect bags from fine girls inside moto

Karen2024:
This retard again.

I know you are Failure2019.

It's you that's a retard,is the husband of the child dead? If he's dead na you kill am if him neva die it's definitely your bad character that chased him away so carry your cross and your pikin.

I thank God for this generation of men, we're chasing the simps away any rubbish girl wey no get sense go suffer

Karen2024:
Any work capable of fetching me cool cash.

You neva even see work,😂😂😂...you dey find who you wan use do ritual

Kobojunkie:
Definitely sounds like tinnitus.... sounds like she keeps hearing crickets chirping/ringing sounds, right?

Yes

Foodqueen:
That's really sad.

With the H2O2, it should av come out by now.

What's the situation of things now.

She's still complaining that she's hearing noise inside the ear and she couldn't sleep at all last night

My mom came to my shop this evening and an insect flew into her ear,we tried pulling it out but it found it's way inside the ear so someone advised we pour fuel to kill the insect first,we did and later on i removed remainings if the insect from her ear the i bought her some pain relief drugs and hydrogen peroxide someone advised me to get that too then I also bought her an ear drop bust she's right beside me now still complaining that she's hearing unpleasant sounds and it's disturbing her,i can't sleep too i really don't know what else to do, please someone should help.

1DigitalBaby:
still writing

Fast na,i dey enjoy this story.

emeraldlife:
I was saving up for mi 11 ultra but I couldn’t find any seller around. So, I went for the iPhone XS Max. I must say it’s cheaper and the moment you bring it out to answer a call or reply messages, all eyes will be on you because of the fruit logo
Iphone is for show not for power users. So enjoy your redmi with its customization and multitasking that I miss daily

I can do four things all on one screen and the second space too cannot be compared

emeraldlife:
I was saving up for mi 11 ultra but I couldn’t find any seller around. So, I went for the iPhone XS Max. I must say it’s cheaper and the moment you bring it out to answer a call or reply messages, all eyes will be on you because of the fruit logo
Iphone is for show not for power users. So enjoy your redmi with its customization and multitasking that I miss daily

You sabi jare

Recently i decided to change my redmi 10c to something better and i had two phones in mind, iPhoneXR and redmi note12, I'm not the iPhone type but due to the fact that all my friends uses it i was almost tempted to get one too but i just didn't like the mentality attached to iPhones especially Nigerian girls,when dey see someone with an iPhone they assume he's rich so i vehemently hated the fact that almost everybody sees it as a number one life achievement...so i had those two phones in mind and finally but i knew deep down that i will not settle for any iPhone not even xr when i know i could get a better redmi phone for lesser that price so finally i went to the slot and i settled for redmi note 12 and I'm not regretting it at all,when i even compared the screen quality to that of my friends XR mine was way better but i want to know if there's anyone here that would have rather preferred the XR to redmi note12 and what's your reason i want someone to make me regret my actions and if there's anyone like me here please make me feel i have sense.😁😁😁

Goodlady:
Yes I mean it. The battle line has been drawn.
I don't want to talk about the Hakimi issue which men now term the Hakimi Effect.
But the way men are celebrating Hakimi as if he's 100% right is absurd. No be same person wey cheat and is facing rape case?
Relationships are based on love. So I m trying to understand why Hakimi cheated when he loved his wife.
Even men that aren't worth N1 and worthless are in jubilation of the Hakimi decision. Many don't know what really happened btw him and his wife. At least what we heard is even bad news on Hakimi cos he has rape case to answer.
So when females start carrying men on handicaps, no boy here should cry. No one should scream girls are leaches etc.
Lastly, love has been defeated. If Hakimi loved his wife, he ll not make his mom the sole controller of his fortunes.
What goes around ll come around.
Some old stories were dug to justify Hakimi's act. I saw how males on Nairaland and other social media masturbated on the posts.
No wahala. All of you have shown your shallow heads and you v only educated a lot of females to really sign prenuptial agreements. Some ll affect your mothers sef.
Dey play o, dey play.
We ll now be demanding it.
You are all in hot soup!

On a Norms I'm supposed to ignore this post cos i sense stupidity in it but lemme just give you the attention you seek for cos that's the basic reason for this post it's not as if you made an atom of sense.
As long as you're a girl, you're in no position to give orders or make any decisions because you're meant to serve we the men, it's the chance that we give to you that you will take if we no give you chance nothing your papa fit do
And even you that's talking is useless without a man cos you don't have that sense to make it on your own,mtchew... I'm talking too much smelly holes are not supposed to get my attention

Samantha124:
1. He must have a sense of humor because I laugh a lot and I want someone that's gonna constantly make me laugh because I've got a sense of humor too.

2. He must be an extrovert or at least an ambivert because I'm an introvert and I want someone who's gonna constantly take me out of my comfort zone... I will easily get bored being with another introvert like me and when I get bored, I usually lose interest.

3. He must be able to cook because I can't cook all the time.

4. He must have a great support system, I want someone that's gonna be there for me both emotionally, physically, and psychologically.

5. And he must be affectionate, I don't want to feel as if I'm in a platonic relationship, but I want to feel that I'm indeed in a romantic relationship.

If he doesn't have these five things, I don't care whether he's rich or he's not physically abusive, the relationship or marriage won't last.

And in return what do you have to give back?
Lemme guess 🤔
One wide smelly deep hole that hundreds of guys can tell how it looks like

saweide:
Good afternoon dear romancelanders,
My lover girl I met on Facebook just 4 months relationship of knowing each other sent me a shocking message to me on Facebook last night .
She is a single mother of two who lost her husband 3 years ago and when I met her I let her know that won't be a barrier that I will marry her with the 2 children and she agreed. Tho it was a long distance relationship and since we dated have travelled to meet her 9 times while she visited once and when she came she had to drop the children with her elder sister.
Three days ago we had little misunderstanding she cut phone on me I called her back never to try such on me and after that call she never call me for 2 days unlike before she calls regularly and I never call her too and she sent this to me last night what should I do ?

Though have not replied her or call her since that yesterday night.

Please someone with wisdom should advise me what to reply her ..tho I love her and I don't want to loose her ..but she offended me by dropping phone on me and she never say sorry before sending me this screenshot message

I bought easy buy solar for her which we are paying small small and also her phone get screen problems and I collect it to repair for her and I gave her my second phone Samsung to be using and is still with her that was what she meant that I should come and collect all what I did for her in that screenshot mesaage


This is someone that told me she has been going to the mountain to pray for husband that will stay in her life for the past 3 years ooooo

On a norms I'm not supposed to comment because i see you're deeply in love and you're lost but i hope this saves you from eternal bondage.

I don't know how many other guys have her heart but let's pretend it's just you, directly you're number three because she'll place her two kids before any simp...so she's not gonna think of making you happy rather she'll think and do anything that will make her kids happy...so here's the logic.
I'm calming down to explain to your simptuous brain I just hope it doesn't end up a waste of time
😑
So...if a woman offers to give you back your phone without you asking for it, indirectly she's gotten someone somewhere else that's promising to get her a better one or might have even gotten her a better one... she's not so stupid to just ask you to come and collect you phone when she knows her own is bad,nooo women are smarter than that,she also asked for your account number promising to pay you for the solar, definitely someone somewhere has promised to give her money or is already giving her money so she feels she no longer needs you and you've been complaining that you're broke so she's giving you a chance to run and have sense but of course,simps always falls in love like fools.

In conclusion,you were in a death trap but you're so lucky that someone secretly came to rescue you and you're giving the chance to run ...if i were you tho i reject it in Jesus name,i will collect my phone back and everything else and sell them at least I won't loose much...

Lawl:
Read the chat well
Feel free to feed your eyes
We will be both be fine at end

Bro first of all why would login to her insta I'm sure If her too have your login would definitely see the cheat relate issues your saying

From my mind she is pure, she said read the chat well and you we will be both be fine at end she's is aware or not your still checking chats she is now honestly with her self

Bro tell her your not reading anything stop suspecting her and continue to build your love bro

I wish you well bro

If no be say nairaland fit block me I for swear for you, simptuous mugu

When heart broken girl go leave isoko man we no go see am for nairaland o, it's high time we start focusing on something more important in this life...not giving attention to some homosapiens who's got only a smelly hole to offer this generation

Goodlady:
Now for the last time, stop talking to me as if we are mates. Maybe the pic in my dp is deceiving you. That's not me. I don't tolerate shît from men. Stop it or else you see the bad side of me

Who be diswan?

This one know wetin him dey do...you want make front page for nairaland
Las las you ended up loosing your hair and no front page for you.

Please, don't think because you understand English you can come here and write every rubbish that happens between you and you fellow kids

I realized one bitter Truth and I have decided to share with my fellow guys so we accept it now rather than live with the pain of realizing late.

Now,God noticed Adam was lonely and alone he created something different to be his companion and that is the woman...When I mean different this creature is utterly different.
What are this differences?
We can apparently summarize this difference into two.
1.They have different body.
2.They have different Emotion,we can extract the character from that and every other things we think is different.
Now,God has giving us a gift, that's the ability to enjoy this difference in a unique way but not everyone of us seem to see this,in our first stage of life we enjoy the first difference which is the emotional woman that's the (MOTHER) mehn,those creature are the best,my mother is the best and everyday I wake I thinking of plans to make her happy,if that woman is happy...Bleep what the world thinks,I am a happy man😊

Now,the second Difference,we grow up to a certain age to Enjoy it,that's the BODY...This is the stage we enjoy the second Difference a woman has from us and we get emotionally attached and get married,my point is

We so much enjoy the first type of woman we came from that we so much expect the second type of woman we will be meeting(WIFE) to be the same,we fight so much for this difference...we spend so much to get this difference,we labour hard just to see if it can be the same,we fight to get the first type of woman,some even lost their lives trying to get this difference from the second woman,I Am so sorry bruh...you can Never get that because the emotional woman (MOTHER) came into our lives to offer something different, something unique, something you can only understand if experienced😭

The Second Difference we enjoy is the (BODY) that's the (WIFE)... expect anything from a woman when in this stage because the only thing she basically has to offer at this stage is the body,if anything else will come out of her from this stage you have to build her to be it.

The best stage of a man is when he is experiencing the emotional part of a woman (MOTHER)....your success depends on how good she brings you up,our future depends on how she teaches us ...mehn,women are unique...but i really wish I could spend my whole life being happy with the first type of woman I opened my eyes to see...they are the Prize 🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆

Initially

Brother
Two things are certain in a man's life.
Time to cry will come.
Time to smile will come.

Every man must go through this stages,if you're crying now have that believe deep down in you that as long as time doesn't stop moving a time to smile will come and those friends that you say you're jealous of,they once cried too but didn't give up that's why you're jealous of them now,so stand up on your fuckin feet and get moving bruh,you ain't gonna stop in this crying stage it's fuckin meant for the weak,I need you to wipe your tears and spend more time thinking of way out, there's surely a way out of every problem, depends on the finder...see you in your smile stage bruh

Women...as the alphas generally know,would rather appreciate to be treated like dog than a God.

It's so painful that a woman will rather marry a man that beats her up than her man that treats her like a queen... that's how dey all are😐
In a woman's everyday life she need to be controlled just like a Shepard controls his sheep if you're not holding that remote in your hand you're at the verge of loosing her to someone else that is man enough to tell her where to sit,how to sit and when to Stand...buh in your case my bro,you were blinded by love to the extent that you handed her the remote with a smiling face😁 and be like "baby I can do anything for you"😁...

Lemme borrow you this knowledge I learnt In a hard way.
YOU DON'T MAKE A WOMAN FEEL COMFORTABLE,YOU TELL HER HOW TO MAKE YOU FELL COMFORTABLE...YOU KNOW WHY? YOU'RE THE PRICE TO BE WON NOT THE OTHER WAY ROUND. Say NO to SIMPING

Foolish girls everywhere

Make I no talk anything before me sef go dey dream bad dream..

@op enjoy your naighmare

Boss don't worry,we even want them to forget us
Useless girls everywhere,the only thing I will do it so s*x a bithch and send her away

gfelo:
after the slap what did d person that slap her gain, u shud know ladies will always be ladies, chicken head, why take them seriously, if na man now, una no go fit slap him, because u know say una go rub una sef for ground

Look at this simp,😑
So they ought to have clapped for her when she turned off the TV bcus she's a girl...You go dey wash pant as I dey see you

Jennyclay:
Mind your business, but you people will not hear word.

Assuming he was minding his business while the 2 broke fools was arguing because of common #700, he would still be alive by now.

How we'll have you been minding yours?

I use to call her the best,and she really acted like the best...she really was the best.

I still miss her😐

SSpeter:
Some one asked me this question at the office and sincerely wanted to know my first reaction or thought?

Question: If you receive an information from your teen's school that your 16 year old son has been sleeping with his female teacher how will you react/your first thought 🤔?

Answer: My first thought was how hot 🔥 is the teacher......then I was a bit perplexed.

I know, I will definitely be rushing to the school with a double barrel if it were my 16 year old daughter.

The point is there is a clear difference between both genders not necessarily because we love one gender more than the other.

Now let me hear yours...

No doubts, first of all I'll be proud of my son for being a good replicate of his father,idan mi☺️☺️☺️

Gift96:
I used to read how brothers or sisters assisted their siblings to pay school fees. Some assisted their siblings to start a business, receive encouragement or counseling when needed.

I used to read how brothers took their family members abroad. And help them to rise to become self-sufficient and then capable of raising the others behind them. Well that is what family is for.

Sometimes I used to think these stories are fictional. Maybe because I have no one to look up to Abroad or here in Nigeria.
When you don't have someone to call onto, the world feels so lonely and frustrating. The journey becomes extremely hard too.

Sometimes I really wish I could just say,
"God deey for me" in full confidence. But naa still person God go still send even if e dey for me true true. God no go come down from heaven.

Omo I really wish I had people I could look up to

God sends people you don't know to help... families sometimes will turn you down.i am the only boy in a family of 7...my father is old and sick,my mom is old too,I won't let her stress herself at that age so I am in a bigger mess than you because I am not only alone av got choking responsibilities,I won't go in the streets and start crying neither will I go to the bank and Rob,I just have that believe that there's a reason I am the only boy,if I wasn't up to the task I wouldn't be the only son.Find your purpose and part,in no time you'll be happy you did it ALONE!