/ Anyone doing well in diaspora should have known by now that the clarion call to come back to Nigeria and invest is a ploy to destroy him financially. From Customs to police to local authorities to area boys to bad roads to no electricity, the bottlenecks and frustrations are enough to bankrupt anyone. The odds are stacked against the business.
Just leave the ever dark-hearted Nigerians to survive on their own . /
/ The main issue is that there are too many idle minds in Nigeria. Nigerians like to be entertained. If in doubt, take out a few dancers to your street today and play some music. The crowd wey go gather, you go think say you don win Presidential election. We saw the mammoth crowd that followed APC in Osun during the gubernatorial campaign, yet they lost the election. If you want to know those with you, arrange an organized meeting.
/ What's tactical about them when there are no armoured protection for the personnel. They are all sitting ducks for the enemies.
They just repackaged Go carts as a tactical vehicle to scam the Nigerian military. Wait until the FG tells you that they procured many and each costs N1 billion.
/ Travel outside Nigeria just once and you will understand why Lagos is a glorified slum. No city is all that bad. There are nice areas and bad areas. My ever first trip to the much-touted Lekki area this year was a huge disappointment. How do you even start to rank a city with no steady light, haphazard good roads, no access to clean water, no central sanitary system? Open defecation, sachet bags, dirt, smelly gutters litter the whole place. There are nice restaurants close to the waterfront but the stench from the water won't let customers enjoy themselves. People who patronize these places are very used to the odour but a visitor may not withstand it. I didn't. Buildings (not that Lagos has many outstanding architectural edifices anyway) alone do not make a modern city. The city has no plan.
Of course, there are some relatively nice estates. But once you exit the gates of the estates, you will be welcomed into the mess called Lagos. It is still in a third world country.
Okealaaye: Some people will not have a wink tonight. They will count the asbestos sheets of their ceilings if in EnuGU and the rafters if in Umunnede till daybreak. They now claim to love what once they called The Zoo more than any other people in Nigeria, and they've promised to "take their country back"! These are early days yet their desperation is already showing. People who only last night called the Yoruba Unity Beggars and Fulani Asslickers, who called the northerners Cows are now all out to seek the votes of these same Animals of The Zoo for their Third Class degree graduate of philosophy now posing as an alumnus of London School of Economics. Their Bingo has returned to its vomit, they who before now were beating the drums of disintegration for our Fatherland. But in vain their drummers beat their drums, when no be say our God de sleep! God wey no de sleep or slumber.
/ I thought they bragged that Tinubu knows how to nurture "leaders". How come one of his cronies Fashiola turned out to be a horrible manager after bragging that power is not rocket science? Tinubu and his basket of mediocre cronies gather to loot into their personal accounts while his BMC crawl out from poverty holes to cheer them to high heavens.
daylay7: I was in love with this guy so much that we do everything together. Aside from the fact that we share the same goals, religion put us far from each other. He was a muslim and I, a christian. I loss my virginity to him (we were both naive in that practice anyway). My parents forbid me and we drifted apart but I loved him still.
I met another guy afterward who shares the same belief with me and we got married three years later. Infact, my ex came for the wedding and celebrated me even during the reception( my husband already know his story and was not surprised when he saw him at the wedding).
A year after the birth of my son, I had an official assignment in another location where my ex's sister resided and because I could not complete the assignment that day, I decided to sleep over at her place. But on getting there, I saw my ex sitting in the living room. It was already late as at that time and I couldn't go back or book for a hotel and I decided to chilled out, telling myself that nothing must happen between us that day. My greatest mistake!
The apartment was just 3 bedroom. A master bedroom for the sister, a room for the children and the other for a visitor. Now we are having two visitors who once shared a thing for each other. My ex invited me into the room but I declined telling him I would rather sleep on the floor in the living room or he should bring a matrass for me. He brought the mattress in the visitors room into the living room and we both slept on it. One thing led to another in the middle of the night.... . And it happened! Coincidentally, my husband called at that time. I had to switched off my phone.
When I got back home the next day, I apologized to my husband that I had a flat battery and he didn't say anything but my husband never looked at me the same again. He never quarreled or said anything even after couple of years later. But the way he talks sometimes as if he kws I am hiding a secret from him and he wants me to open up to him. My fear is that if I should open up, I might lose my marriage and my family. What happened between my ex and I was a one time thing. I never went back or saw him again. It has been 10 years now and I am still feeling bad about it especially when he talked about cheating couple.
This feeling is eating me up. I don't know if I should still open up to him or I should forever remain silent about it....
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/ You have no business maintaining such a close relationship with your ex's family members to the point of sleeping in their house.
Your husband needs to throw you out immediately and move on.
It is funny that most Nigerians see politics like Chelsea vs Man. Utd.
They fail to realize that their future is at stake
That's why you will see a loser shouting "APC for life!", "PDP for life!".
In EPL, the players smile home with millions of euros while their supporters are in different bars breaking their heads with bottles. And just like in EPL, Nigerian politicians smile home with billions, while their supporters are online dragging one another like Tiger generators.
Nigerians!
If you are having a bad day, just sit back and watch Nigerians self-sabotage. It is an entertainment that should have series on Netflix.
Soulflai: I shouldn't have brought this here but the emotional bargage is too heavy for me to move on in. My marriage of 2 years is about to crumble.
I met my wife in Kaduna Southern part in 2017. Our relationship had been a long distance one as I base in Lagos while she also work in Kaduna, but we eventually married in 2020. The bone of contention is the issue of her ex. That point we are dating, I always caution her to cut communication with the guy, she will do it by deleting the number, but later I will find out they're still relating.
Last month, I purchased a new phone and I had to give her my own. So on the process of reinstalling Whatsapp on her phone, I retrieved all the backup Whatsapp messages 7 which left me devastated. The chat history with her ex really left me broken.
On multiple occasions after I paid her dowry, she met with the guy and they had sex. Multiple times pals! Even after marriage, when she is 5 months pregnant, the guy still had her with my baby inside her!
I am really broken pals, I confronted her on this, she started crying that she will cut communication with him. The guy even send some money to her account on difference time this year.
This is the height of emotional damage. I am just leaving each day just to find my leg financially. I am trying my best, but it is not enough.
Lastly, I called the so-called ex on phone to cut communication with her, the guy is in Kaduna I think while we are in Lagos. She also blocked him all avenues likewise. My decision now is that any time I discovered any form of communication between her and the guy, it is over with the marriage. I think she is not really in to me like that, which beg the question while she married me in first instance.
If am your brother, what advice would you recommend? I only choose to be lenient because the kids are just too small to have their parents separated early. If not, I would have sent her parking!.
Right now I am just not happy with life afterall.
/ The first step should be to do a DNA test on your child.
planetx: The outgoing president Uhuru is not contesting, so who are you talking about not relinquishing power.
/ The new President elect has been the VP for 10 years. He fell out of favour with President Uhuru who is backing Odinga to succeed him. He ended up beating the President's anointed candidate. Do I need to spoon-feed you to connect the dots?
I guess Segalink has not heard that desperate time calls for desperate measures. Poverty has been weaponized and the people who bear the brunt of the rot in the system are told to be cordial. They are expected to swallow lies and propaganda with gentlemanly mien and let the status quo remain. Can Segalink prove that those harassing people online were paid by Mr Obi to do so? The internet is a leveler. Everyone has access to social media and can air their opinion as they choose.
What Segalink is saying is akin to holding Seun responsible for all the opinions expressed here in Nairaland. How possible is that? I dare say that Segalink is a certified mo.ron for holding such a ludicrous opinion of the mess in Nigeria. As I noted, it is better that the masses are allowed to air their opinions nonviolently this way because the alternative is dangerous considering what they have been subjected to all these years.
They didn't receive any vehicles. It was mere allocation and looting.
The same way they tell you that the dilapidated road passing through your city has been constructed with N1 billion and you keep wondering if you are dreaming or what. Allocation is one. Disbursement is another. Then the destination account of the disburse fund trumps all. The N1.15 billion was probably shared among the co-looters with the hope that nobody would raise an eyebrow. Then Hundeyin happened.
Some people have stvpidity tattooed in their DNA. Deji is one of them.
Peter Obi is vying to be the President of Nigeria which means he has to liaise with the Coalition of the Willing.
What does Deji expect Obi to do? To start a percentage campaign like Buhari--such division is part of the reasons why we are where we are today. At this point, Nigeria needs more unity than before because this hard time is hitting everyone equally irrespective of affiliation.
Is Deji expecting Peter Obi to go on solitary confinement?
SteveDGreat: I am emotionally down honestly. If not that I am hearing this from her, I won't believe that a Man could be this cold towards his wife.
This lady is my one and only best friend. As a matter of fact, I was nursing plans to marry her but man never make it. We never had sex.
Well, she got married and our conversation slow down. I deliberately slow it down so as to respect her marriage.
One day I decided to call, the husband picked and warned me never to call her again. Omoh I was shocked.
Days after she called and apologized and explained how the man has completely changed and is maltreating her to the extend of beating her and emotional abuse. We spoke consistently and unfortunately, she left the marriage.
She came to my city was staying with her elder brother. We spoke for some time and I went off cos I didn't want to get too close so as not to attract emotional feelings.
Well, after some months, she blocked me from reaching her. For 9 months we haven't been in touch.
Yesterday she sent me a chat with a strange phone Facebook that I should give her my number. Since Yesterday, she has been pouring her emotional trauma on me. Her marriage is hell. Emotional abuse, insults, beating.
As I am typing, she is still talking on phone. She is done with the marriage and wants to leave but she is scared of her son that's 1 year and 2 months old.
I really feel bad for her and don't even know how to help her. It is painful. She is my best friend.
/ Of what use are the police and military checkpoints when armed robbers and Boko Haram bandits are always attacking people few meters away without any help? It is better they don't exist so that everyone will know that it is OYO in Nigeria.
A Nigerian man identified as mayorkunstudio on TikTok has shared a video of an oyinbo lady who visited him. According to him, the lady came all the way from abroad to the 'trenches' just to see him.
In the video which he shared via his account, the lady was spotted walking down a narrow stick alongside some of his friends who came along them.
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/ Not when we haven't finished mourning the one stabbed to death by Onlyfan hustler.
Please I need you to help me have a third eye into a personal matter. Although, I have taken a position, I just wanted to be sure I never overreacted.
I am a guy based in Europe and my wife is in Nigeria. I have only been away for a year.
There was a day I was calling my wife on phone and her other phone was ringing which I asked her to pick up but she never did only to say that it was my friend calling her. I was surprised and asked her immediately how did my friend get know her other number. She gave some not-so-convincing explanation but I let it slide.
Curiously, when I returned to Nigeria, I discovered that this friend sent money to her and she never told me about it. The so called friend also didn't tell me anything. In fact, he has always acted as if he wasn't having any contact with my wife.
When I saw the transaction, my wife wanted to manipulate the situation to make it look like I was invading her privacy. I stood my ground to know what purpose the money was meant for but no reasonable explanation.
I called the friend too to know what the money was meant for but only retorted if he couldn't give my wife money as a friend. He couldn't offer any reasonable explanation. With high sense of modesty, this is a guy that would wish to be in my position economic wise and I have always been very generous to my wife when it comes to money. Therefore, financial lack could not be an excuse.
After this experience, I severe my friendship with the guy and rein in on my wife too. I felt that was not the kind of friendship any reasonable person should keep because I felt betrayed by his actions and inactions in relating with my wife behind me. I also see both of them (friend and wife) to be dangerous to my well-being.
Please I will like to know if I overreacted.
Thank you.
MOD please take it to front page for wider views and opinions
/ Why not be honest to yourself and admit that you are a part-time husband. If you dig deeper, you may be shocked that your friend is one of many. It is very rare to practice love thousands of kilometers apart. It ain't got nothing to do with love.