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Idowuogbo: She is use to life in d forest, so location is minor. Madam abeg tell dat Okija pikin na land in Johannesburg me want for her hand in marriage.

Idowu abeg which kain land for Jo'burg? Okija eye don get engaged to coccoa side abeg flex your own ikebe find another bera fella. U no see as Empress Lashon dey flex her own here no send anybody. Better show your swaggy sexiness, see as them dey follow Cocoa like flies sef---all because she show them a little okpa oku (hot leg) for her picture.

Abeg where is Omolola19?Somebody call her for me o-o-o
Babe who get that ikebe wey dey your profile?
That Killer ikebe na you get am?

Gotta run girls, gat stuffs to do.

Not to worry my brothers don even marry two of your sisters them come, so you go get your fellow umuadas here

Eeeeem where is Ogo(In-law) Mmuo Okija make we begin fix the dowry paying date sef.
Freecocoa wait-o-o, as im be mmuo okija im go gree you live for city abi na for Okija shrine una go live. Hahaaa! Abeg tell am first o, you are too juicy to waste, if i m no serious oga konnection go take over.Abeg catch ya later Cocoa.

Cocoanwa and Idowuogbo I know say this Lashontae's fun thread no go pass una eye. See them dey jolly jolly dey catch their fun here, abeg who no like better Tori. God bless Lashontae, na Babe like am fit naija men no be goodly shoe like me sef. Babe Lashontae show them pepper. I for swagga pass you sef, i just don't know how to be a bad girl------abeg laugh o-o-o whoever wan laugh. Life is too short to frown up at, we all need some spices in our food abi. Leave Lashontae make she spice up the NL make things dey sweet biko.

Eeee-em Freecocoa, na so you hot reach wey ten men dey wan come see your papa at the same time? Abeg tell the Mmuo Okija suitor say na him your papa go like see make dem through marriage bring you close to my village make you become our wife sef. Have fun girls!

Idowuogbo, wetin dey do you. You no go shine your eye proper make them follow come see your papa too. Dey there now.

Queensmith abeg no study/no mind my new girlfriend Omolola with that judgement day post, she don modify am okay. No vex, I don talk to her.

mamalola19: omo me just dey play
i dey fcck well
that thing sweet no be small
it remain small make i be nympho
during action i throw my legs ajar
u no go recognize sey na me dey para here
all na denge
i just dey find trouble
catch my fun
na sincerity of the heart go carry us go heaven
sin different from sin
we no kill person
God sey make we recreate and make our pikin
every night before i sleep i dey pray sey if na time,
God carry me go to where you dey
fire and me no dey gree, na by your side i wan dey God
all the nack don wash away be that
ask for forgiveness and sin no more ify

Hahahahahahahahahhahahahahah
Heheheheheehehehehheheheheheheheheheh
Hahahahahahahahaha







You don kill me with laughter Omolala.
Hahahahaa
Don't I like you girl? Abeg make you no dey give God too much work, how God pikin go take dey wash away nack kwanu? Hahahahaheheheheheheheheh abi make i m employ nack washaman I no fit laugh o-o-o my sister. Abeg tomorrow I go carry chair come this thread come hear Lashon gist, the babe sabi gist tori wey dey sweet.
Hugs to you,Angel Omolola, thank you-o-o feri much for not condemning me to lucifer house biko.Good nigggggggggghhhht.

Jeez!

Angel Mamalola is here delivering judgement, let me run fe cover-o-o before they condemn me to hell where I don't belong. Hahaaaaaaaaaaaaa.

Angel Mamalola Ejooooo biko no vex now, allow man and woman pikin catch small fun for nairaland now............abeg make i shut up my mouth before they give me seat for lucifer back. I no wan go hell o-o-o, I dey catch enough jamz and beats for clubs when I need to chill with music, I no need hellish jamz biko. Abeg I no fit laugh-o-o-----make I go sleep biko. Make we no too take life serious sef.

I hope you are chilling Mama the mama lola. Abeg smile jooo.
Abeg abeg wetin? No dey tell person such things, anyway I no get time to feel affected about stuffs being said here, just wanna feel my gooooooooooood,nighhhhhhhht everrrrrrrrrrrryyyyyyyyyyyyybbbbbbbbbbboooooodyyyyyyyy.

Miss Lady Lashontae now we know that one of the reasons you were getting pissed off by that your roommate in the other thread was that you were tripping over her boyfriend and now you gat him where you want him. Hippee!
Below is your comment denying it, then I commented on that thread that the way you were getting on J this ,J that-----that you were taken with that your roomie's boyfriend.

lashontae: @rhymz-
J's a nice guy but nope, FALLING I would find myself cast into WW3 with roomie! He's not even my type! I would want to have a bear or a tiger kind of man, not a gentle teddy. I like aggressive men(not to me, o). Nywayz, I think u get wot am trying to say, I probably just mentioned him because of his relevance to the events that have happened

I like the fact that you are keeping it real and being honest to yourself, we heard you----he is not with her now, whatever you do be very careful girl. We don't want another thread describing your feud with your roomie. Hahaha!

I bet you can't wait to tell him about the missing lingerie your roommate harrassed you about and how it was finally brought back from the laundry from her other boyfriend's place for her and how he was getting played all along. Gosh! be a bit merciful on that your roomie while telling on her.

ofefegirl: ----I reported same case to his family members and they came for a meeting. All i can vividly remember was his eldest sibling asking me to pls allow him have some peace [/b]and that she is sure his condition will change one day. They obviously said i am overflogging the issue. My concern is that he is already past employment age as he is in his midforties.

Allow him have some peace so that he can waste his life watching movies? Which sibling sees no wrong in his brother not standing up as a man to go fend for his family? They must have spoilt him and you are spoiling him the more from the look of things.

ofefegirl: What do i keep him occupied with?
He hates to do anything but watch films (with long seasons), sleep,and he is busy getting heavy and increasing in size by the day.------
His entire mentality is focused on the fact that he cant imagine why his spouse earns a salary and it cant be managed by the entire family. He hammers on this all the time. I have sat him down severally the discussion is going on, he will always have excuses for one action or the other and will always have a reason why one or another suggestion cant be tried.

I guess that in his head he owns you and the money that you make which is why he sees no wrong in you making money for him while he chills. There is a need for some men to shed that mentality of "I own you", your paychecks and your achievements" (that is if you are even lucky and he allows you soar to your dreams), marriage will be sweeter if wives are allowed to be themselves, and achieve what they wish while the husband is striving too and the two persons in a marriage can realize their potentials. This mentality along with his pride and the comfort zone you have provided for him for 8 years are his problems right now.

If he feels that he has a moneymaker, I hope he agrees to be doing wifely duties at home while you are hustling. What excuse is a man giving that is preventing him from taking on jobs to take care of his family. He needs a knock on that bloated pride of his so that he can go to work, I am not asking you to insult him but let him know that pride has never prevented a real man of integrity from taking on menial/good jobs to take care of his family. Stop providing luxuries, you have done that for eight years----now he needs help to get off his "movie-watching-a*s" and you will be doing him a favour motivating him in ways you can before he becomes obese and look ridiculous. What kind of attitude is that? Doesn't he know that his job searching time is over, he should be hustling now. Who stays home for 8 years looking for job? Were people not farming,trading and eating in the olden days when there were no companies to provide jobs? I hope that you are seriously making moves and networking here in nairaland to help get him something to do fast.

steph7: I get the poster's husband now eh!, so since wife's income is coming in, there is no need for him to stress himself and look for a job.def, this man will still cheat whether or not he has a job.@Op take your annual leave at the office and lie to your husband that you have lost your job, claim you don't have enuf money saved up, start crying abt how u'll pay-------

Tgirl4real: Since he relies so much on your salary, simply tell him you have been sacked. Shikena!

I suggested that too, while she is home vacationing---she can act up like she is job hunting and when the vacation ends she can go back to her job making it seem like she got another job. He may become ashamed and think twice about staying home like that when a woman is up and about, going after jobs and working hard. The new job you made him think you got can be described to him as "not paying much" and that can help you cut out the luxuries. You are not maltreating your husband by so doing, you are motivating him. If he is told that the new peanut salary is not enough for feeding the family the whole month, he will up and work.

ofefegirl: ---I've been married for 8years. Before the marriage, my hubby and I had a very cordial and beautiful relationship. He was a banker and lost his job 3months before the wedding

You had a beautiful relationship until he lost his job 8 years ago.

You + your husband=Beautiful Relationship

Beautiful relationship minus (His job)= Unhappiness

The only problem in your marriage is the loss of job which has incapacitated him from doing his part in the marriage.

Pride + Too much luxuries + Wrong notions= Reasons he is not working

He needs some iota of humility + motivations (lack of luxuries, sensible encouragement) to go make a living and your relationship is back to beautiful.

It was a huge relief to know that you are still keeping strong and did not harm yourself.
We are also relieved that you are still there for your wife and family. You seem moody dear and musing through much negative thoughts, I don't blame you for that. Most of us will feel like that on getting such news.You only have to be careful when the bad thoughts start coming so that the devil will not use that opportunity to pull you down and make you harm yourself or something. This is why it is good that you make a decision to go through it all happily.

Please please refuse to feel too depressed, replace bad thoughts with sweet, good positive thoughts. Count your blessings, now you appreciate your marriage, your life and God more. Don't allow unhappiness to defeat you,we are your friends and we are hear to talk to when you want to share okay. We all have our different challenges you know, don't feel that yours is the worst because it isn't. Magic Johnson, a famous basketballer is still enjoying his life 21 years after announcing that he is HIV positive----don't go thinking that you will die tomorrow or next please.

montana007: good day all, yeah im on ARV drugs now ut sometimes i just wish killing myself but i look at my wife ,dont know what to do,where did dis come to me,well it has hapened,should i tell my aged parents or shls my wife tell her ppl,im really confused, wish like dying,if i die before my wife,okay but i try to be strong cos if im moody she starts crying,its true we all will die but dying at prime age is fun,in all situations we shld praise GOD,i pray for God to give us children to answer our names so dat our names will live on,
I hate the word sucide but looks like the easiest way out,naira landers bye bye as this might be the last post i will be posting,as i go to prepare for my grave,im taking the easy way out.
bye bye evry bodi,naira land was of tremendous gelp to me all my days,seun and all bye till we meet to part no more.

Montana how can you say that s*icide (I don't even want to mention that word right now)is the easiest way out? Easiest way out of what? Easiest way out of your beautiful life that you were living happily before you took the HIV Test? Yes the same way you were happy before that test, you can still be that happy. It is the things you fill into your mind that it muses on so free your mind from fear and unhappiness. Nobody will feel happy on getting such news but you can handle this well if you try so stop worrying too much.

Don't dwell on the bad thoughts, you were bearing it well in your first post and being strong. It was nice of you encouraging and advising everybody. Stay strong Sweetie, okay Baby.

Mr Montana cool down and take things easy.
You sound like the reality hit you hard and made you moody. Don't think depressive thoughts of death etc and get overwhelmed by it all. There are people living with HIV surviving and being happy. I wanted to give you the link to a thread in this section where a woman came with this problem years ago and returned to make positive comments but I can't find the thread. The woman was unhappy then and now she is blossoming with her family and made a healthy baby.

Remember that every human will pass away, remove that fear of death from your mind and you will have no fear. In death nobody feels anything so WT*, why stress over it? Just live your beautiful life while you have it. Think good and positive thoughts, when you start getting bad thoughts----refuse to feel bad or depressed and fill your mind with positive thoughts, that way you will overcome it all and stay healthy. Be strong for yourself and your wife okay. Don't harm yourself okay Baby, we all care for you and don't want you to harm yourself okay Sweetie. If you are reading, let us know that you are alright. We are your friends and are here to comfort you and listen to you. Lots of hugs to you and your wife.

It's amazing how you took care of your family front for that 8 years. It's more amazing how a man can stay jobless for a sizzling 8 years & watch a woman toiling to put food on his table. He is proud without knowing that his pride cup is empty. The fact that he worked bank job does not mean that he will wait for eternity for a white collar job to do in Lagos where children return from school & go make some conductor runs to get money. A woman cannot even stay 8 years jobless like that & a man is feeling cool at it, sleeping with his househelps at that and having the audacity to tell a woman that it's no big deal that she is taking care of him. Does it mean that if no white collar/bank/executive job does not come that he will be jobless forever?

All in all he is your husband & I can't tell you to throw him away. He hasn't been motivated to an extent where he can throw his big pride aside & do any job, this is because of the way you have been providing for him & paying his bills. If you are not doing these, hunger & motivation will have driven him to hustle. I know that you can't find it in you to watch him go hungry but you need to think out a way of motivating and knocking him out of himself. You have to be very very careful at that because there have been cases of jealousy, mad rage, wounded (fr*aking pride) of men in such position over-reacting and taking out their frustrations on their spouse.

The big work you need to do is to think out how to cut down on providing for him without generating much animosity that may kill your marriage? If I were you when I go on vacation from my job, I will cunningly tell him that I lost my job or something, I will not stop feeding him but I will not be providing luxuries within that period not that you don't love him but just to move him into dusting up his proud pants to go hustle for his family. A woman once courageously stopped helping his armless son in doing anything just to make him learn to do things himself, the son cried and thought his mother hated him but that one act made him learn to do things for himself and he is now a great man known across the world as an eloquent motivational speaker. There are hundreds of menial jobs he can work in Lagos. He can make money at construction sites, at Idumota,Alaba,Aspamda Autoparts hustling for customers for traders, he can earn money as a bus conductor, as a cleaner, he can work with refuse collector trucks, as a security man, as a bouncer/bartender/mixologist in a club, as a cook in a restaurant he can work at Tasty Fried chicken/MrBiggs etc. If he must stay home, he can do stuffs from home like open a car wash, advertize to paint houses for people or even mow lawns, find something online to do, open a blog and work hard at it, write books, write for web sites [/b]that need content writers.

[b]You can also have a good chat with him and tell him that you want the two of you to do a one month earnest/serious search for job. Pray with him and get that session started, if you open threads here in nairaland seeking job for him, I am very very sure that you will succeed. You can open a thread in the Auto section asking for anybody that may need a car sales person, you can get talking with someone selling cars and that may get him a job. In the Computer/Programming section you can also open a thread asking for job for a male relative of yours, most people in such section work in IT Industry where they normally have job openings. The crazy part of it is when you make all that effort and gets something and he dares to look down on such job. He needs to get off his banker horse & go check out how Nigerians are hustling outside Nigeria, I'm sure when he does that he will not bat an eyelid to go get his hands dirty for a living. We know how to hang shoulder up in that our naija.

Nne biko I am still amazed, how did you take care of that family for 8 years----- dragging pregnancy to work,cooking,rearing children & still keeping strong? You are a superwoman. I am also baffled that you had to leave a maid/(maids you said) home alone with a man that regularly. Girl you are the one that served & garnished girls for him to be sleeping with. The way you were changing the maids for him, I am not sure you made him understand that you ain't tolerating fr*aking that. If he gives you a killer disease, how will you take care of your children dear? He can get a job next week, this month. The problem is whether he is humble enough to take on such jobs. If he keeps hanging up shoulder Banker style there and waiting to sit down in an oily executive office,things will be heaving down on you. Make him get up & hustle good.

What are all these insults/name-calling/fear-inducing/negative/ruined talks on a young girl that made a mistake that many have made/passed through/survived/succeeded/overcome?
Clap for yourselves all you clean/holy/perfect/whole/untainted persons that have never erred in their lives.

Yetunde you got a very nice comment from Janiebravo in this post-----

janiebravo: Yetunde, i feel you, i was only 21 n in my final yr at school when i found my self pregnant for my boyfriend of 3yrs who was 27 at the time, i kept my baby and now she is a pretty 6yrs old cutie, i am glad i did, her dad whom am not married to is glad i did, she is the apple of my parents' eye (the same parents who were so angry with me i thought they would never forgive me). It wasn't easy and its not going to be easy for you either, either way you look at it - keeping it or aborting it. But sit and think carefully, and then pray for strength cos u r gonna need it. Whichever you choose to do, you gonna face the consequences. With all these silly comments i see here on NL, i should tell you now that you gotta get used to hearing a lotta bullshit, but remember its just bullshit! so ignore, move on and do what you have to do. Cheers darling.

It is a difficult position for a young lady to be in, as you are already in that position think of how to overcome it all and still stand. I am not mentioning abortion at all because you shouldn't kill. [size=16pt]If you are the one in your mother's womb and she is 23, in school and your father is not ready for a family, will you like to be killed by them?[/size]. Please go ahead and have that child, mouths will talk, parents will talk, insults will be rained on you but some day that child will be precious to you. Tell your parents, tell your boyfriend's parents so that if he is not capable of caring for the child his parents may help out. Tell that your boyfriend that you are having the child whether married or not and that he should be ready to provide for his child and be very very careful with him because some men drug women or deceive them and abort the child themselves only for the women to realize what happened after the deed is done.

Just keep your head up and muster strength and courage. All of us came to existence through sex, the persons abusing you here are having se-x too. What will prevent you from telling your parents or make you abort it if not the fear that they will come to know that you are having se-x? What is the truth? You Yetunde is sexually-active (you are having s-ex) so square up your shoulder if anybody looks at you accusingly and in judgement, go your way without minding them. It is the people you give the power to bring you down that can bring you down.

Single mothers work hard and succeed like single women. Brandy the musician has a child out of wedlock and is successful too.Don't listen to anybody that is telling you that you are no good, that your life is ruined or that you will never get a husband (my cousin lost her boyfriend to a single mother because the fiance's family prefered a woman they are sure can give them children). I am not clapping for you for getting pregnant unplanned and when you are not ready for it. I am only saying that the milk is spilt already just clean it up neatly without messing/complicating/injuring or even killing yourself aborting.

Career Improvement: Let me start by saying that a lot of people have itemised things you could have done to avoid this situation. I cannot lay my hands on such thread but please permit me to re-introduce them. [b]When you want to a firm to buy your idea or pay you for your idea you must have protected the idea under the law, patent, trademark, industrial design, copyright [/b]etc after which you will now sign an NDA with the firm. If you did not do the above, your case will be tough. Please develop a new Idea and follow the steps above.

This is exactly what I thought the first time I read the thread yesterday. I actually visited the thread again in wonder to know whether we don't have the patenting/copyright stuff in Nigeria and I am glad this poster made good comment about that.

To poster.
If you can develop that, you can develop more fantastic ones or take the advice of some programmers here and make it more sophisticated/better version. More grease to your creative elbows dear.Next time patent your stuffs before you go marketing yourself along with your idea. How on earth did you sell your idea verbatim to another like that, you shouldn't have given out all info about it.

Loling at the Krazy sense of humour that abounds in this thread.
Make una no let Tuface nwunye catch una where una dey insult her man/abi na their man sef. Hehehe be merry people!

I get a non-Nigerian girlfriend wey dey trip for flavour dey post him all over her facebook place and tripping on and on. Stardom has countless friends. Go figure.

chinwe11: Thanks for your advices/insults sha. I have read them through, and i have decided to help out. I guess the reason why i had to bring this to NL is because most of my frieds kept warning me before wedding that 'DO NOT PAY FOR ANYTHING DURING THE WEDDING. IT IS THE HUSBANDS RESPONSIBILITY'. Even my relatives said the same thing, that in Ibo land its the man's duty. You get lots of advise from other women, this morning, a friend was telling me that after marriage, you keep your money and spend his, and they say that is what happens in thier homes. When the issue of bringing the 80% came up, i got worried,, cos i felt it would be like i was marrying my self. I have enough money to foot our wedding and even double of that. But was just worried it would be like i was marrying myself, or the man might take me for granted. Also i forgot to add that when i said he should borrow, [b]i planned that we would pay back from my money, so it wont just look like i GAVE him the wedding money. [/b]Anyway sha i would bring my 80%.

Thanks for all your advises oh! I would post the wedding pictures here maybe! Thanks

You should have helped him with the accommodation earlier girl so that he will have his money for the wedding. If you don't want to have any negative feeling as you said like feeling like "you are marrying yourself" or having fear of "him taking you for granted" which I don't think he will. You can still sit down with him and do the mathematics again. You already said that you have double the money for the wedding so you can equally refund him some part or greater part of the rent money he spent that way you will have empowered him to have his money with which to handle his part of the wedding well---you can later throw in your supporting percentage in the wedding expense and feel happy that your man is marrying you and he will feel happy too and there won't be negative feelings lingering afterwards.
Understand that I am not saying that you don't do what you finally decided to do, I only suggested a mathematical way of doing it with no bad feelings on both sides. Wishing you a happy married Life girl.

The child needs more care than she is getting, the grandmother seems to care more about her cassava than she cares for that child but can one blame a poor old woman saddled with such responsibility? It is not right for adults to have children and leave the responsibility of their children's care to their aging parents that need care themselves-----and they (the mother and father of that poor girl) are out there fr*aking f*cking away and even making more babies.

Is it her fault that she is differently-abled that they had to be treating her like that? What shame was the grannie talking about that made her relocate to the village from Lagos because of the child's condition. Our people are doing terrible things for fear of what people will say, what people says about her grandchild became more important than her comfort abi?

Plenty thanks to R231, Oam4j TEHN team for their interest in this child's welfare.
Aunty Queen may God reward you, girl.

What kind of "Shebi you have money/little kids" couple is this?
How can a world that has "a man is the one that marries a woman" written on the tablet of time turn around and tell a woman to pay for a man to marry her?
There is nothing wrong with the woman contributing and SUPPORTING the man in the wedding but it is not right for the girl to bear almost all the financial weight of the wedding on her shoulder. Haba! Women have dignity too just like men and wants to feel married by a man.

The lack of communication and planning between the couple is amazing. How can the man take the bulk of the money meant for the wedding and divert it to the accommodation without first sitting down to map out a better plan with the fiancee. He knew she has money and should have talked her into supporting him with the accommodation/rent----that way he will still have some money left to marry his woman. If they realize that they don't have enough money after paying for the accommodation together, they can equally shift things [b]IN ONE ACCORD [/b]by 3 or 4 months or have a low key wedding. How can he spend the money with which he wanted to marry his woman first without planning well and was blindly hoping on the fiancee's money and like two kids bickering telling her "shebi you have money". Na so im papa play child's play marry im mama.

There is nothing wrong with
30% of his money + 10% of her money or(even 30% of her money if she can afford to pay that)= rent for the new place

Man still has money left to do

30% of his money + 10% of her money= wedding

They don't even have to use all that they have to wed and find a cutie cutie apartment only to starve later. They should plan together in a manner that will be comfortable for them. The girl is no doubt unhappy with the arrangement which is why she spoke out.

It is not every woman that will be comfortable to bear the near full financial weight of her wedding. If they have planned better together, the accommodation problem would have been solved by both with the man having money left to marry his wife. Couples share, in marriage too there are times a woman take on things when a man is financially down but when it comes to the man marrying the woman, the thin line that has it that a man marries a woman should not be crossed.

The near wrinkle/frown lines on the face of that child is haunting. I wish from my heart she gets a home and love and care.

Miss Queen do update us on your findings when next you get there, something seems wrong somewhere.I feel so helpless and at the same time wishing that good people of our country will arise and put a smile on the face of that child who had to experience this level of unhappiness and worry at such a tender age when her mates have no worry.

amdman: Wifey is 33 and am 30. We live in Lagos, Nigeria. We have been TTC since December 2010. We lived apart for most of 2011 (though met at arranged breaks) because I had to work in a different location from her.

It doesn’t really bug me that we are still TTC, but I think sometimes the pressure gets to her and I need to know how I can help her deal with it. The pressure is not from our parents or siblings (both sides), but more from the unvoiced expectations, the fact that two of my siblings that got married last year are expecting already… stuff like that. I have done seminal fluid analysis with a count of 89m and motility of about 80%. She has also done a pelvic scan that came out as normal.

Last Tuesday, she called that she was in a lab doing HSG. I was shocked because we never talked about it and we usually discuss such things before taking action. She felt I would not agree to more tests and all that, so went to do it solo. I called her couple of hours later and she was in so much pain. I quickly closed at the office, abandoned my car on the island and took a bike from Victoria island all the way to Sango Ota.
Got home close to 8pm and had to sit by her side and comfort her while Chelsea were doing Barcelona in. Missed the match and all that, but I know it was all worth it cos she would have done more if our positions were reversed.

So I need to know what I can do to help her deal with the pressure[size=14pt] because I know that it won’t be long before I start buying huggies.
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Yes Baby, it won't be long for sure. You are already doing a good work comforting her and standing by her, the ttc thread Agiboma recommended for you is a wonderful support group for sure.

Now you have to note that it's high time we Naijas started ignoring what people think and have in mind for us because that steals away happiness and can wreck things like a beautiful marriage. Get creative with things to do with her to ensure that she is happy. The happiness of both of you transcends everything including the expectations of the people around you.

I don't need to mention you guys having intercourse at the right timing which is her ovulation period because you already know that for sure. She should also be fortifying herself with foods that are sources of folic acid while she is at it because soon and very soon (don't mind bubbly me), on a serious note I hope it happens for you and your wife dear.

Why can't she cook for herself if she is on a special diet?
You have to juggle family life, motherhood, child care, cooking etc and still have to prepare additional meal for some (handless??) sister in-law. What is going on with some sister-in-laws and wives. Your sister-in-law and brothers' wives are additional bonus sisters that one should enjoy not keep malice with. It gives me such wonderful feelings to welcome new wives (when any of my sweet brothers marry) to my family and add them up to my list of wives.
I can't forget the last time I spent time with my sister-in-law and my brother, nothing anybody said prevented me from making an unforgettable Ora Soup for her and my brother even when in my mind[i] (Ivynwa whispers)[/i] I was using style to teach her (indirectly and without telling her in words)to be making the sweetest Ora soup on earth for my brother, the only way my mother and I know how to. Hahaha!

Get her involved with things, get friendly with her and have her help around too. She is better off a friend than an enemy so know what you are doing.

Jesus Christ!

Guess she is trying to kill off the daughter -in-law and make her son marry whichever freaking good girl she has back home for him. What wickedness is that? High time somebody taught mothers to quit intruding in their children's life. What the heck is that?

Biggups to that sharp wife, you can't go wrong with a detective mind. Wheeeww! God and her sharp mind saved her.

My heart went out to that poor child, whatever the situation is----abandoned or not abandoned, that child is very unhappy. Whatever made a little child like that have such creases and frowns on her face? What lonesome/frustrated and wretched body language from a child? Whoever birthed her is too cruel to have her looking and feeling like that. She looks like the weight of the world is on her shoulder, how on earth did somebody have that child frowning at life like that? The way she is hanging out unchaperoned like that, the next thing some wicked man with no control over his manhood may want to abuse her.

Miss QueenAfric, i understand your using the picture to pass across your message but it isn't good to leave her picture online too so try and remove it. May God bless you as you seek help for her, I hope that God will through you take off worries off the face of that child.

And this

Wow!

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Hey guys, I just feel like sharing this video that I like. Hey! it's not about the sexy dance and stuffs. I was just impressed with the way these ladies made great exercise and physical fitness moves out of the song and dance. I love the song too, my favorite club song right now.
Hey I know that some guys will watch it all day when they get their hands on it. Those ladies killed that song with those sexy moves though some are outrageous and not too modest but Koshen's song? I like it! Enjoy Pips.

Fast forward to the 2.24min part of the song which is where the real song started and have these dancers blow your mind, hey don't allow your imagination run away with you while you are at it. Hahaha.



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HOW DARE THAT YOUNG MAN COMPARE GOD TO AN ARMED ROBBER?
Sickening!
Don't bring down stuffs you don't know about on yourself dear.
NOBODY MOCKS GOD. NOBODY!

Oh dear!
My heart goes out to the bereaved, the dead and hopefully the survivors too for all they went through and are going through now. May God heal the brokenhearted and the injured. Amen, Alleluiah!

Avicenna: ^i went thru this phase.
But a God should be able to show himself to people he allegedly created. We have absolutely NO evidence that he exist. Air,oxygen and things like that CAN be tested for. He cannot.

Dear poster, you sound like an intelligent person to me because it takes intelligence to think and think and wonder and decide like you did. In my own opinion some of us go through that phase, growing up out of that religion you were bred into-----while reaching university level----suddenly emerging your head from water, shaking off water and wondering on and on about religion----and finally choosing the one you deemed fit for yourself. I was born in a catholic home and later chose the Pentecostal way of worship but my choice is basically based on the fact that I simply love the Pentecostal way of connecting to God in sweet praise and worship and relating to him closely through his words/bible.

I admire your standing up for yourself but believe me when I say that THERE IS GOD sweetheart. I once wondered like you but many personal experiences I have had assured me of the the fact that there's God which is why I didn't end up being an atheist. There's truly God my brother, you are a doctor----look at the human body and the many processes/intelligence that went into protecting our precious lives and you just can't help but believe that there is a higher intelligence than us behind it all. Try God, don't let anybody closet you out with too much religious talk about it just start with having a personal relationship with him and you can blossom out to wanting to fellowship with others etc. God is sweet Ojare, have you tried chilling with him under the anointing of a very inspiring song. You will simply be elevated to another level of oneness with him. Don't miss out on that brother. Take care.