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YinkaOlusesi16:
God of Akindayomi, God of Adeboye never change he`s still the same yesterday, today, and forever. any redeemer in the house Who still remember Lekki98`

An unforgettable experience. Amen�

Sharp President. He has sent a powerful message across. No court pursuits on this election, INEC has declared the WINNER.

Baba B wanna retire with a legacy to recon with�.

Inter Rel... You won't regret it

Mine is a family of four and seems we share similar story in just dad paying school fees. See my beloved, you need to keep working on yourself. Let's start from there.

From what I read, you ain't helping your situation, not even your dad is the problem. Your words are hurting your future. You need a change of mindset. It worked for me. Say positive words to yourself, sweet things in difficult situations. The more negative, the worse things will become. The family you are born has effect on you, and needs to break out from there.

After real work on that, then focus on relocation. What I did was to find a small apartment outside school and plan real life with myself and God. Going back home was no option, so dad hitch is no more my concern. Lazy or not, I grind myself harder where I was. I learnt video editing, trained in Project Management Professional, got certified globally, learnt baking, coding, graphics, working on fiverr, bulk messaging, etc. Those days are never funny as I learnt the art of saving and investing. I kept my mouth shut while grinding, I've got the plan.

I'm not there yet, but I can tell you poverty is out of my way, blessed with 2 babies, and can keep telling the goodness of God all round. It all started in my Part 2 days in the University.

Sit down, ask yourself what skill can you learn. Shift your mindset from working to training or business. Speak positively today for a brighter future; "I am unique", "my background has no hold over me", "I am a blessing to my family", "I am great", "I move in the wisdom of the Almighty", "I pay my dues and do the needful", "Heaven favors me, men favor me",...
There are free online courses you can take with google, learn, earn and repeat. Always keep learning, forever learning...

Peace!!!

I like your swag. Please ensure you get nothing less than the 2017 model. Few things I know about cars in the US is that they are very cheap, and like you said, they are rich! Cool dude.

Pls don't forget to tell your stupidity that money runs on the street of US. Your brother may or maynot be paying Mortgage but still paying taxes, yet a wicked brother is waiting for a 2021 model.

Have you informed your generation of your folly to assume his wife is responsible? You have no idea how they are scaling through working their asses out, yet you are there vomiting about people in your area.

Chai, omo, you don forget to wake your conscience say na STREET things dey run for America, make you self carry body come join the hustle, but you are there with your fake level for your lowmental onlookers.

If you get anything, appreciate am, work on earning your money to buy yourself the dream year you want. Remove your entitlement thinking, and talk graciously. Refuse to be a FOOL!

Well Observed!!!

Overall, I keep praying for the youths.

This world is indeed cruel. Harboring hatred and little by little wickedness will start. The OP is at fault here big time. You really lack genuine love and you absolutely need help. You are toxic on the inside, and it won't help your generation.

The mode of invite makes no absolute sense. It's not about the generation, it's about you because you are the generation. People should run away from you, you will reciprocate worse if one does not return a "favor" you may have done for one. Chai! I can't entertain you around me.

Be good to yourself and your family. Whether you are there or not, the home will stay forever. You are wholly replaceable and you need to work on yourself.

GOD BLESS THE NEW HOME, AMEN!!!

Problems everywhere. We can't attribute to just one industry source. It cuts across.

Solution is living on principles and laws for everybody in the nation. Nothing stands in Nigeria; lawmakers are the most lawless, no point at all expecting any change, until they stand by it.

Well said #Jide Kosoko.

Inside Life...

Love is in the Corner #Feb14... We must Love this season

Action speaks louder than voice. You have tried using your traditional means but failed. Say No to threats. Release him if you can, and move on.

I do not see productivity in suspending BBNaija. 2023 election is a direction on its own and has no interference with other activities. Other activities such as religion, sports, and others would need to be suspended then, and everybody focuses on 2023 election.

It's a choice for the youths and those interested in the election are already participating in it. Everybody is addressing what interest them, not just 2023 election. OP must have a personal beef with BBNaija. Take it easy

This is not funny at all. These are some of the fools painting Africans bad. He does not think about the effect of what's he's doing. Hustle real, and hard, make good living for yourself. Lie does not pay. Hopefully they'll get sense one day.

Parenting nowadays is not easy with the digital evolution, but we have to take control of our children' interest to avoid addictions. Notwithstanding as parents, we have to keep re-channeling our babies' interests.

You just have to be very firm, NO is NO! My babies here had the same thing, and we have to take that firm stand eventually. At first, it was crying. My boy can cry for hours non-stop, and we allowed him to express it. When he's done, we give him baby paracetamol to cool him off. Gradually the addiction died down, but it was not an easy process...

At first, we were not paying much attention to it, because we felt it was to broaden their mind, but when it got to the stage of no phone, no other work, then NO NO NO to phone, we've got other things to do honey. Play with others, play with traditional toys, do coloring etc

You can start tonight, prepare the baby paracetamol, babies won't die, and be disciplined as parent to discipline him. NO is NO and YES is YES. You are the Best...

God will continue to help us all.

Run for your dear life. Don't carry another man's wahala.

It'll backfire on your future, no matter how long. Please don't fall for the trap of the uncontrollable wife.

It's your temptation and you have been given the power to overcome it. RUN!!!

He can go get his babies from baby factories. If you love yourself and your future, it's better you RUN for your life. You are completely on your own. He loves his space, which yeye space? You should have learnt better from your own background. Many people never survived it. If you mean the world to him, then he'll do everything to bring you to his space.

If he's shying away, he has his heart somewhere else. Ensure to do the right thing.

God help you!!!

Please forgive yourself and move on... Walk more with God. Don't let your past hold you... It's your part of being human

There is no way you settle spiritual matters physically and with the opinions of people. Settle it spiritually unless you are not the man meant for her. Fast and pray with her since she understands that path well... I trust God to settle things for you both.

Just reading and relating with all experiences... I love my country...

So sorry to read concerning your story. My simple advise from experience is THE BEST REVENGE IS SUCCESS. Plan inexplicable success for your life and generation. I've experienced people determining on evil revenge, and it ended up destructively. Avoid such and move on . Let the drive of revenge propel you to succeed no matter what.
God sees all your effort, and he'll bless your good heart.
Forgive yourself, forgive her, and forgive your generation!
Shalom!!!

There must be some unresolved issues becoming a major problem here. Reactions from what happened clearly showed some other things have been cooking somewhere somewhere someone is not explaining.

As a man of the house, calm words all the time, I mean ALL THE TIME always turn away strife. Anger, threatening doesn't solve issues. You have buuilt the foundation for Divorce already and I won't be surprised when it eventually happen.

Do you pray together, whatever religion you guys are. Keeping your home is not your strength, it's only God. Seek more and clearer understanding before talking. You need to understand she might be going through alot, while you are going through much more "alot"... You are still the head and must e "ALWAYS CALM".

Please give your wife a nice dinner, wash her, dry her, clean her up, and maintain your sweetness in home. We deal with "shits" in marriage not giving room for the devil at all.

Watch and Pray

Please can you add biblical passages as to why one must abstain from sex?

Don't just tell me, on what basis are these "Stops"...

I love this Op cos you're still single. You can update me when you get married, and tell me how market... Planning is extremely good, I can assure you most don't go that way when you're in...

Answer your "How" by then...

See you

Silence is golden at this time. You've learned your lesson in a hard way. Lying does not pay at all. Go to God in prayers if you know him. Keep working on yourself. Give her time to rechoose...

It's all storms for God's glory to be proclaimed. Please, go back to God in prayers and expose the devil through marriage counselors. Please don't hide, there is no shame in being open. Please meet with Godly marriage counselors and committees. God grant you victories on all sides, amen...

There is no two way to it, than to man up and initiate more conversation. You are focusing more on financial hitches than building togetherness in your home. Your focus on money will not help as some point as expenses will keep increasing. I will suggest you get more sources of income, work alongside the existing and get more and more. Keep improving, and shift focus on your salary. If more skills need to be learnt, please opt for it. If it's more support to your wife, please go for it. The focus should not be on who is bringing in more. She is still your all as far as marriage is concern and issues as this nature are normal in marriage. Give things time sire...

You have tried a lot. Please face your life, make it meaningful, and ignore her. Turn your failures to successes without noise. If you are asked about her, be straightforward and extremely calm about things. Enough of your stress over her. Let Life teach her some lessons as you are learning yours.

I wish you take your eyes off CGPA and focus. Grades are highly subjective. I kept a profile of 4.1/5.0 in my UG and that's distinction 3.5/4.0 in the U.S. that I had my M.Sc., and Ph.d. You are already qualified for other stuff in life, but focusing on anybody ahead of you in terms of CGPA is a complete waste of time to me.
A quick story during my M.Sc., the guy next me thought I was a grade freak person, but he was shocked that I read not to fail and just to keep the qualified standard for exploits ahead. The real test lies after school... Keep putting your best as what got you there, don't drop it and take your eyes off someone else CGPA to enjoy your own grades. If you will graduate being the best academically, fine and if not, focus more on the needful...

Keep the good work going bro...

The lies being believed that worked mighty things before your very eyes are regarded as truth. These stand. Just FYI, you can never be a righteous judge, just pen your opinion and move on...

Goshen360:
Sound doctrine doesn't depend on YOUR OR MY OPINION....and I have not by any means judged yet but if I do, I judge righteously. You people are too difficult to correct....you have believed lies for too long thinking those lies are truth

I respect your honesty but I think you have not taken a full researched decision. I'm putting forth my opinion and I stand not to judge you because you have acted based on what you knew best. There are several ways to go about earning and studying... The N-POWER scheme has several loopholes, and if it's a way the same God you profess has designed to solve something for you, you've just used your hands to block it (To know this, ask yourself some truthful questions on how you got into the scheme if right or wrong?). I will wish you understand more the way God himself work when he chooses to bless someone (Reasons we have different levels of Christians). You can read your bible more from his works with blessing Abraham, Isaac, Jacob, gave lands to the children of Israel, etc... God still boasts about their imperfections if not you won't read their imperfections in the Bible.
Like I'd said earlier, you've acted based on the limit of your knowledge, and which is honesty to you, but doesn't give a moral to learn from a bit. You're completely ignorant. You need to learn possibly a mistake you made. In furtherance of your education, you can simply change your PPA, this is normal transfer to where your school is, and you continue your work (Unless you are lazy to work. Classroom activities are not qualifications to being hardworking). I'm sure you will not expect contributions because you stopped being paid from the N-POWER scheme and the scheme continues, it was your "ignorance" that cost you your "moral gain". You've been your only limit to adding N-POWER to your source of income. I won't compare you to anyone or situations but I will wish you go back to your bible and study more the acts of the Living God in Old and New Testaments you claim you've stood for in your decision. For next time, don't act ignorantly, it might cost you more... I hope you have other sources of income aside the N-POWER... Good luck in your future endeavors.