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Why abandon them when you could've stopped her friend from joining you guys?

Hey babe, I planned this date for just the two of us. Please tell your friend to excuse us this time, maybe next time she can join us.

I think the situation could've been handled more maturely.

Upjis:
Before you judge igalo ,you don't know what really happened ;you don't live with them ,you are not even close to their family

When you find out that the wife is at fault what will you say?

Think before you talk ...don't talk because you want people to like what your post

Please

Nothing will ever justify knacking and impregnating women everywhere like a he-goat while one is married, nothing bro.

tunapawizzy:
I fear who no fear women...una think say CRonaldo no get money to rent hall for wedding abi

Lol.

KNBE is really impressing me right now.

A lot did but I didn't accept because they no dey drive Benz.

Ishilove boarded my keke and was trying to chyke me but I was smart enough to know she wanted a free ride.

Las las, I collected my money from her like every other passenger.

...and they had to make the request under the comment section of his post in Instagram?

That's unethical, rude and unprofessional and they could be sued for that. No wonder sokoloan or whatever is messing with Nigerian borrowers, we don't know the powers associated with customer's rights and privacy protection.

Dino is an overgrown fool though.

DAramis:
Okay, now it is well understood by me why some of them use their nurses wives as retirement packages.

As for the finances in marriage, I only asked of your opinion should you be in such situation (I assumed you are married). I didn’t mean your advice or strictly your word on exactly how the finance should be carried out.

Oh I get you.

Until the death of my dad, neither he nor my mum ever used the phrase "my money" all through their marriage and things worked for them.

I have always planned to follow their footstep but again, it will depend on who I'm dealing with.

I say this because I've noticed that some women of this age are used to the word "MY" and not "OUR" as if marriage na war where everyone dey fight to get what he or she can.

DAramis:
This is the second time I am seeing this comment. Does this really happen bro? The other person who made similar comment said something about “cooking the woman up” though he didn’t give further information.

Lastly, what is your view on married woman working in the region of their residence?
Should the husband allow her to keep all her salary while facing the home front by himself?or should he demand certain percentage to be paid into joint custody account monthly?If yes, what percentage is appropriate? 50 or 60 or 70 etc (I am not talking about joint account were the woman donates everything while the husband then spends money for running the house from his salary)

I am asking all these questions because I know money happens to be one of the motivating factor that leads to most problems. No wonder some would not allow their wives to work but rather become a full time housewife

NB: Experienced and married people should also contribute towards answering my questions above.

Yea, it happens. Some of our older brothers never bothered to plan for their retirement while they could so they now resort to bringing Nigerian wives to be their retirement package whereby the girls will be working and be paying the bills.

Most of them were shipping cars and general goods, had businesses that got closed for one reason or the other, and were into fraudulent activities which have been bursted forcing them to close shop and make them unemployable.

So these nurse wives are like their meal ticket.

Nevertheless, in most cases, the wives have greater share of the blames because a good number of them have terrible attitude and often take matters to extreme.

My brother, I'm not in position to give opinion on how finances should be run in marriages. Sorry I'm not experienced in that yet.

I came here to salivate at the sight of a beautifully molded foo-foo and oha or bitter leaf soup but unfortunately, I don't see any.

Why are you guys promoting oyibo food? I know it's good to have variety but bikonu, remember that some of us terrible cooks come here to select meals to chop in our dreams.

Ishilove:
There are terms and conditions attached to the loans. You essentially grant them access to your contact details once you download their apps, and the reserve the right to recover their funds in any way possible. It's what you sign up for when you take loans from them and is legally binding. It happened to someone I work with and I got a message from them after she defaulted in repayment.

Don't enter their trap if you don't know how to dig your way out.

Do the terms and conditions involve all members of one's family?

Babygirl, no one will drag my papa name and know peace. If the courts don't do their job because your own connection pass mine, I will go the force way to deal with such a situation.

If someone with my surname owes them and they decide to drag my papa name in the mud, they are calling for war and I will give it to them in my own little way starting with the mumu secretary that sends the SMS.

MALIGNANTGuest:
I suffered same FATE too.
It appears there's a headstrong spirit that accompanies Nigerian Ladies to the USA.
INDIANS & Chinese move with their culture.
Their women respect their men a lot despite residing in the United States.

I keep warning Nigerian MEN residing in the US...
In Fact, I stood up and called men out in our last Sunday meeting to stop traveling to Nigeria to get married. After all what will these LADIES do 4u?
Between you and the Lady residing in Nigeria who is doing each other a great Favour?

What you need, are KIDS, nothing else.
MILLIONS of Ladies are willing to give in to that.
Travel to Nigeria, get them pregnant.
Place them on reasonable salary or pay them off if they demand. Takeover ur child's custody.

Please cancel every suggestion that will to lead to Nuptial knot-tying. It's not worth it.
The MADNESS is too much.

If you will be kind enough to share your story a little bit, that will go a long way in driving home your point.

I ask this because in some of the cases I've witnessed, both the husbands and the wives had a good share of the blames.

However, I will say that in most of them, the wives proved to be the greater evil.

Firstly, if you don't know her so well and never dated her while in Nigeria, think it well.

Secondly, avoid village girls, they turn out to be worse than city girls when they tear eye. City girls can only be golddiggers but village girls mostly turn out to be worse than that. They want to show we have arrived.

Thirdly and most importantly, get yourself a good job or business. Don't turn somebody's daughter to slave and relax to eat as master.

Some of our brothers bring village girls, encourage them to be nurses and sit idly to eat their paychecks. One day, slaves will want to revolt naa, it's normal.

You brother could've helped by applying for family based visa for you. It takes time but green card is sure.

Talk to him about that and still try your luck with vacation or study route.

Good luck.

If you trust and love that girl, it's better you commit with her before traveling.

If you don't, you will one day wish you did, trust me.

One important requirement is patience, she will need a lot of it because the journey will be a long one.

I'm not talking from experience, I am experience.

Quite ripe for marriage.
Congratulations bro.

As I forget you, why you no come remember me?

I hate that phrase you don forget me naa.

Because of it, I've stopped calling some people on phone. As soon as I hear the phrase when I call, that will be my last call to you.

Doberman it is.

Love that dog to the moon and back.
Don't have it yet because I neither have time nor stay home to give in the time it will need.

All the points are very solid.

This thread needs to make frontpage for many people to learn.

Overdressed and overconfident people usually have problem at visa interviews especially US Visa interviews.

Good job.

The girl's family can be richer than 250k if they know their rights and can get a good attorney.

The text message is defamatory to the entire family especially her father who was not part of the loan.

This is pure madness and hell be let lose if any idiot disrespect my family's name like this just because someone with my surname took a loan from them.

ChiefSosa:
Weed vs Cocaine vs Alcohol

Chai, I haven't laughed this hard for sometime now.

CryptoRepublic1:
San Francisco is a terrible place atm the rate of homelessness in San Francisco now will blow you away.i think that homelessness is now a global crisis and I think that it's going to be worse as the global population continues to grow.

The rate at which homelessness grow in San Francisco and Oakland is alarming.

Newsome needs to do something about rent in those cities before they conclude his recall. People who earn 50k and less are either in section 8 homes or homeless.

I will just enter one beach and look for mammywater to marry and have my peace jare.

No brideprice, no marriage list, no spending on wedding ring, wedding gown, reception or asoebi.

Not bad.
We will get there someday.

Hell yeah, I wanna be like him.

I even pray to be half like him sef, that's a little way to show the kind of man he was.

JeffreySenior was the man, he really was.

These look like the shoes they sell at Walmart stores and you will not see Made in Nigeria on them.

Oyibos are criminals.

The dead man is too gentle for these folks to religionize his death.

They should allow him to RIP.

Scammers have really messed this place up that one finds it hard to know what and what not to believe these days.

If you really did what you said you did, may heavens reward you.

Picture of debit and not credit alert could've killed all doubts though.

I hope he didn't die of covid because it will be foolishness since the vaccine is out and accessible.

I admired his humility and big heart.

RIP to him but I can't see any prediction in your video.

Chai, RIP to him.
I really admired his humility.