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[quote author=BABE! link=topic=824650.msg9775165#msg9775165 date=1323997099]What are you talking about?  

You said "you might even be the 'child' in question sef."

I replied "Let's always try to apply common sense in every situation. lol. I don't look 28. I don't look 6. I'm not 28. I'm not 6."[/quote]you can see I put child in quotation marks for a reason.
i get you though. i'm just pulling your leg.

It takes a lot of work to become an intellectual. and even more work to maintain that intellectualism.
I'll say the same for mathematicians, computer programmers, experts in fields of study etc
these kind of people have little time for romance. they'd rather be working/studying etc. since they gain more satisfaction from it.


you can pretty much say the same for any extremely work driven person. people who will rather work than play tend to be less romantic.

then do so.

michelin89:
Uncle + his first name will do perfectly!

she doesn't feel comfortable calling him "uncle"

what is "pant reasons"? are you on your period?
speak plain english. abeg

[quote author=190_@ link=topic=825828.msg9775111#msg9775111 date=1323995819]^Jenifa can i stalk u for your pant  [/quote]what do you mean by "stalk you for your pant"  
try writing it in yoruba or pidgin english. maybe i'll understand better.

^ calm down freecocoa.

i'm kinda just messing with her. I hope she's not too pissed at me 

@ OP I agree with you.

male gossipers are the worst

[quote author=BABE! link=topic=824650.msg9774683#msg9774683 date=1323989397]Let's always try to apply common sense in every situation. lol. I don't look 28. I don't look 6. I'm not 28. I'm not 6.  [/quote]the common sense is missing on your end, miss.
of course i'm not referring to a 6 yr old girl. I'm referring to you. are you having a hard time deciding what to call your mom's bf?

[quote author=BABE! link=topic=824650.msg9767752#msg9767752 date=1323908860]^^ Aunty Jenifa, do you actually believe that I have a child? [/quote]what do I know. I don'tknow you irl lol
you might even be the 'child' in question sef.

I pity those that will collect degree from that university anyway. imagine one look at the certificate na ojukwu name dey for front. better no go school to that type of school.

hahahahah
too funny.

"I graduated from Ojukwu University."

Does someone has to be your uncle before u can be calling UNCLE?

Errrrmm-- YES!

in the yoruba culture,it's also disrespectful to be living with a man you are not married to.

We stay in England. That settles it.

so why are you bringing yoruba culture into it if it doesn't matter?
let the girl call the guy whatever british children call their step-dad. abi?
staying in england settles it afterall.
besides isn't the natural thing to ask the guy what he'll prefer her to call him? let the man and girl mutually decide for themselves.

y r you r just trying to confuse all of us here.

[quote author=BABE! link=topic=824650.msg9760127#msg9760127 date=1323830549]Hm. Thanks for your input.

The thing is, I'm Nigerian (Yoruba), and in my culture, it's sort of disrespectful of my daughter to address someone that old, by his "first name".

Isn't that a bit too formal? Remember we are gonna be living together.[/quote]bah humbug.
in the yoruba culture,it's also disrespectful to be living with a man you are not married to.

if you can live with your current boyfriend and have a child with a previous bf (who also you probably were not married to), then let the girl call your bf whatever you wish her to call him. first name, uncle, mr, daddy, whatever you/she wish. lol
by now, she should have developed a relationship with him enough to be calling him something. what does she regularly call him? let her keep calling him by that name and over time, she will feel comfortable enough to call him dad (if he assumes that role in her life).

uncle seems like the more sensible term to use though.

He's not her uncle though. So why should she call him "Uncle"?

In yoruba culture, uncle refers to anyone older than you but not older than your father.
uncle is the most appropriate term in this case.

lefulefu:
Imagine say u fall in love with two babes and the first one get lady gaga personality(craze craze) but at the same time na s3x machine for bedroom and she like s3x die while on the other hand the second babe na virgin and na the mother theresa type of babe and na very good christian while she spend time for church 24/7.And also this virgin christian babe hate s3x.So between these two babes wey u love na wich one u go present to your papa and mama as your wife to be?

lefulefu why not answer d question yourself?

[quote author=tpia@ link=topic=820245.msg9759721#msg9759721 date=1323818762]the fact remains its a very incorrect statement to say you have no family in nigeria- either extended or otherwise.
you may not know them, but they're there.[/quote]true.
I would suggest trying to get contacts of "long lost" family members in naija. most will welcome you with open arms even though they've never seen you before.

thanks guys!

[quote author=Ileke-IdI link=topic=822865.msg9753005#msg9753005 date=1323751193]I dont like how she talks, like talk gently and calm down jare. She's too hyped.
I dont fancy her Yoruba dialect (which I'm thinking is the Ibadan dialect?)
Overall, I really dont care.[/quote]what?
she's the best.

why do u need to understand it? it's not a rant anyway. neither was it addressed to u.

from NEPA to PHCN to what next?

kudos to him.

ahamdiheme:
This is just one out of so many Nigerians making waves out there. Search in the American universities renowned Nigerian scholars especially in the field of engineering. He should not burn his bridges though, congrats to him

good point

Orikinla:
Of course, we are having four beautiful children
Then we will adopt three orphans soon.

You can see her here http://africanbeauty..com/2011/08/rosalina-from-nigeria-with-love.html

Satisfied.

so is that your wife or your daughter?

and your comments on this thread are extremely hypocritical considering your lifestyle. Who are you to judge a poor man with 5 kids. when you yourself a rich man is busy sleeping about with the poor men's young daughters on college campuses?
you are contributing to the ruin of families you talk about.
in fact, your moral crime is greater.

your comments remind me of "A Modest Proposal" by Jon Swift.
read it here:
http://art-bin.com/art/omodest.html
it's satire (in case you didn't catch on).

y3mz1:
I didn't intend to share such personal information on this forum but to make things clearer,

I haven't been raised by my Nigerian parents, my trip to Nigeria is to learn about Nigerian culture - just embracing the country.
As I haven't been raised by my Nigerian family (who are from Lagos) and I am not in touch with them, I intend to travel alone.
I have a brother in London who visits Nigeria once or twice a year, if people insist I shouldn't travel alone I will consider asking him to come along.
However I want to be in Nigeria for a number of months and my brother is a working professional and cannot get that length of time off work.
My ex boyfriend, from Kano, is studying here in the UK, he said I may be able to stay at him family's house which if I remember correctly is in Lagos.

Yes I would recommend going with somebody at least. go with your brother and then stay with brother's friends families (he should have connections there at least) Try to make friends and go with someone to other places. NEVER find yourself alone anywhere in naija. esp if you've never been there before. people are generally receptive so that shouldn't be a problem
I hope you enjoy your trip!!
I checked the links in your signature. you are stunning btw!!

na wa o.
why are we now discussing skinny vs fat.

Call me an old man or old school

yes you are very old school.
let me update you on d year 2011 dear. there no longer exist the need for fattening rooms. there is an abundance of food (even for the poor) nowadays that being fat is no longer a sign of opulence or good health. srry.
there is a plethora of fat women (and men) everywhere and enough fat women in naija to go around. . . 2ce. orobo girls are not going extinct. in naija and abroad there is fat fat fat everywhere. you are so covered on your marriage plans. no need to fret.
shikena

to have someone to grow and share your life with.
for stability and comfort.
to expand your social and familial circle.
for bearing and raising children.

ultimately, the family is the foundation of society. so it really is a blessed institution.

I wish I could embed this video in this post.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qTJw8reQaXQ

@orikinla,
you're simply a hater. You better change your aristo ways and find a wife. If you have one already, learn to respect your marriage.
marriage has ups and downs and takes a lot of work and effort.
90% of marriages I know are successful. I think we exaggerate the quantity of miserable ones.
and life is not all about money. there are a ton of people who are poor materially but very rich spiritually and vice versa. It's all how you look at it. You are not God to ban the poor from procreating.

michelin89:
I am 100% percent Nigerian. Whether or not BABE! looks 100% Nigerian, she has finnish blood in her and that'll defintely show up in her future generations.

who dash her Finnish blood.

u need to go to bed if that's really the time over there.
and of course we got to watch out for d haters.

cool. and I know michelin is european (italy) as well.

right.
so why are you always rude to nigerian women? your mother must have wronged you horribly. not so?

coogar:
she's from helsinki.
scandinavians don't disappoint . . .jenifa, are you danish too?

i'm not danish. i'm latvian.
what about you? what european country are you from?

ok. I see lol she seems nigerian to me.
babe! are you nigerian or an impostor? 


[quote author=BABE! link=topic=821939.msg9744997#msg9744997 date=1323648800]I'm not the Noun. I do the verb.

I'm 5'3. Pretty short.
[/quote]you do modelling but you're not a model? abeg u r a model jor.
I thought so but it's hard to tell 'cause your slimness makes u look elongated.