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60s and above - really nice! cheerful and relaxed. content. carefree. good mentor for folks in 20s (grandparent like)

50s - arrogant. older. but not old enough. condescending towards people in 20s.  feel they deserve respect accorded to grandparents (you are not old enough to be my grandparent!! srry)

40s - internal conflict. old dreams for accomplishment do not match their reality. even if it does, they still feel they could have done better. they no longer feel youthful and virile (and the optimism that goes along). scared of old age creeping up. good mentor for folks in 20s (parent like) for advice and such.

30s - worst age group i've ever interacted with. think they're grown. and look down on ppl in 20s. I don't get it. pride and hubris. feel they deserve respect accorded to parents (you are not old enough to be my parent. srry). stable.

20- my age group. very accomplishment driven. very optimistic. lots of opportunity lay ahead. finally developing sense of self and personality. some look forward to adulthood while others  try to avoid it.

teens - carefree, very influenced by family, friends and environment (nurture). haven't developed their own sense of self/personality yet.

it sha grows back. esp on a brazillian girl's head.

she's telling you to act more mature. were you behaving like an 18 yr old boy?

@OP, aren't they d ones selling their hair? what's wrong with buying and selling? 
besides, hair grows back faster when u cut it off.

samyng:
[size=13pt]Yes they should becos these guys would want to look for faults [/size]

then that guy should go and marry himself or his mom.

my philosophy is that the best years are yet to come.

charlie boy gets everyone talking about him. as usual.

he looks disgusting nonetheless.

these nigerian politicians are just looking for cheap attention.

yes I am happy

although most weaves are synthetic.

In my first year of marriage, I got pregnant, but lost the pregnancy at 5 months, two weeks after a severe beating from my husband (he has not beaten me since then). Since then, we have been trying to get pregnant for almost 14 months,  but no luck.

Since this happened, i was so shocked that I have not been able to talk to him. What hurts me the most is that he does not care, and will not even bother to try a conversation with me. Despite the fact that I am still bleeding heavily, he insists on sex and wants BehindBased (which for me is incredibly painful) and I have no choice but to comply. I feel so degraded.

very sad story
OP, you need to learn to love and respect yourself and your body. that is the first and foremost step you should take.
why will u allow this guy to destroy your womb and your health. what kind of "love" is that? why degrade yourself so? all because you are seeking affection from a guy who clearly  (at least from your comment) is an  [i]ass[/i]hole
at the end of the day, if you can't give birth, he will impregnate someone else to have a child for him.

learn to take care of yourself. better still, learn to love and respect yourself.
I wish u all d best.

damn. I just looked @ the pic again. didn't realize the baby has blond hair. are they sure it's not albino?

Georgialuv:
I feel my time is running out and at this age, i should have someone propose to me. Is this weird?

what's your ideal age for marriage?
if you have it in your mind that you want to be married by 24, then yes at this point (over 21) you are running out of time if you haven't found a potential mate.
if your idea age for marriage is 26 let's say, then you have some time.
if it's 30, then you have a lot of time  no worries at all

that's good.

less money goes to the bin.

the baby lacks melanin? maybe genetic deficiency.

let's wait for the child to grow up first.
i've seen some babies who look like complete oyinbo when they're born but by age 3, they look like mulatto and by age 11, they look like real african.

Of course I won't cook very often for him. but it's not because i'm scared to. it's because I think he's better off doing the cooking. he does it better afterall. although I will try to learn his tricks.

if he can stick around for 10 yrs. I'm sure he can stick around for 35 more years. then after that, he is free to drop dead.

Somehow I don't buy the story that a girl will stay with a guy for 10yrs with no marriage proposal. she must be a member of dundee united club. wasting her years like that. For the guy, I mean come on. even in marriage, after 6yrs the "romantic love" is mostly gone. duh. What made you date for 10yrs and u expect yourself to still be in love?
And I certainly don't buy the "pity" thing on the guy's part. He seems comfortable enough to remain in the r/s for that long. There are many ways for a guy to leave a r/s but he choose not to. he just wants all the frills and benefits of marriage without the responsibilities. ie trying to eat his cake and have it.
definitely not pity. more like guilty conscience is now worrying him.
even if he goes on to marry a new girl he "loves" after 6 or so yrs. the love will fade. then what?

abeg, if he can do 10yrs, he can do 35 more jare.

the freud in me says that you want average height kids. you're not a fan of tall children running around ur house.
and of course the 4 feet ladies want taller babies.

aww our new bride-to-be is blushing. It's alright, alhaji [/i]will like that. he says he can't wait for d wedding night. . . the [i]iyale will be jea-lousss.

[quote author=aloy/emeka link=topic=806046.msg9674749#msg9674749 date=1322787240]Why are you still running around in the muslim singles thread?. So no muslim man finds you attractive enough to marry?. You have 4x the chances  Christian women have since muslim men can have 4 wives yet you are still single. Is it that you are not desirable or your character is bad?.


You need to quit that bad character:
listen


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-av7F1JBmj4[/quote]bla bla bla.
when are we going to celebrate with you at ile kewu?

stale news.
this pic has been on NL since ojo ti pe.

hmmm it's ok. just invite me to d wedding. I just might enter mosque to congratulate you.

[quote author=omo_to_dun link=topic=815510.msg9674701#msg9674701 date=1322786237]I nominate ekt_bear.[/quote]cool

aloy emeka and her fascination with islam continues.
why not go and convert or marry one since you are so damn obsessed.

achukwunet:
Naija Women Are NOT UGLY! We have the prettiest girls in the whole of Africa

nice profile pic

you mean donating functioning organs to the sick etc?

Kobojunkie:
Quit that . . . like you can get Nigerian refined and cut stones for cheaper. Ordinary food grown, and sold directly to you there in Nigeria, you no fit buy cheap. ***hisss********

that's the point.
said ain't it?

kelz88:
Nothing wrong with dating for fun, as long as you both know where you stand.
Sometimes it's good to experiment. It is an eye opener.


Virginity is over-rated. I dunno what you guys/girls want from it. An award? Losing it to your husband on that special night doesn't guarantee he will never leave you. MOST of the guys who decide to wait for you get it elsewhere.

yea. even drug users will say it's good to experiment. eye opener. 
it's all about difference in values and morals. really.
and I agree that both partners shld be on d same page.

any virgin looking for material reward must be silly. might as well sell her virginity to highest bidder to make some money out of it.
I think it's really more about values and comfort.

nene1:
Of course just b/c you sleep with him doesn't mean he won't take you serious as many married couples were intimate before marriage, but this is just how I prefer to do it.

yup.

^lol

na today?



[quote author=Kilode?! link=topic=815063.msg9667646#msg9667646 date=1322710994]It's called Owambe on a bling bling level [/quote]at least they're using nigerian stones. although it is all refined/cut abroad. and then resold at exuberant prices back to us.
just like our oil.

na wa o.

[quote author=Tobi_dad link=topic=813803.msg9666813#msg9666813 date=1322690778]@OP: charity does begin at home, but love is all about giving. The more you are willing to give the more you expect to receive. Your post puts you in my opinion as an individual who sees things from the perspective as half-empty- a pessimists. If we don't have love in this world, then what is left of us as humans? I love my 2 babies naturally and without condition as their mother. I loved someone before them equally without any natural relation. She took what I gave her for granted and till today she has not only brought pain to me but also to herself. I am not sad but full of regret, my pain is for loving her despite all odds. My family, friends and close associates used to warn me of her and the worst thing is, she was the ugliest girl i ever dated. She appeared to me at first as a good girl. I never dated so-called good girls and had had bad girls wanting to be good on my behalf. I gave her confidence and made her see herself as beautiful, which led to her believing in every other man's advances.  I tried letting her know that guys will be guys but she just grew worse by the day, until she told me that she doesn't have to answer to me even though I had formally met and introduced myself and her to both our family, paid her bills and generally improved her life. shiite wasn't enuff, she thot she could do better. Fast forward 11mths after our breakup: 4 guys(and only God knows how many one nite stand from her fork facebook hookups, she is still desperately looking for what only her understand as a man. I believe she has serious daddy issues and a farked up childhood
Like everything in life, a little fate goes a long way. No, chemistry or physics. Just fate, pure motherphuckin  luck[/quote]yup.

true love is selfless. akin to the love a mother has for her child. the love God has for us and the love he demands that we have for our neighbors.
in marriage and relationships however, many people mistake or confuse obligation and duty for love.
marriage is a contract with rules and duty that each partner must obey. This is not selfless love but a[b] contract[/b]. basically like a job contract.
The job is easier when you love your partner selflessly though.

so yes you should be willing to give more than you will receive. if it is love.

@bolded part,
maybe she found you condescending. ie she is looking for a guy who genuinely finds her beautiful. She definitely needs to learn to love herself.
sorry for your heartbreak

Dating for the fun of dating is crap.

I agree. I find it [i]stu[/i]pid.

and I co-sign with dating someone with similar mindset. there are many guys out there looking for a life partner although they are not common.
by 6-mths you shld definitely know if marriage is on his mind for both of you.

u got that right.

but try my recipe. it comes close.