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Valoromega:
We are currently expecting our first child , she should give birth within a this month.

She has requested money for baby things and I have given her over 400k but she hasn’t both the basic things she needs. She usually go with her mom to the market to get the things but they haven’t even both the things the baby will need in the hospital.
They went and bought baby wardrobe even though we already had baby wardrobe that was given to us on our wedding , she also both baby duvet without buying bed , the clothes she bought was for a month old baby , she didn’t even buy the first wear the baby would use , so far I haven’t even seen anything tangible she has bought with 400k plus I’ve given her, she hasn’t even bought the things she needs after delivery .

I don’t know if it’s her mom that’s telling her to buy those things, the mom doesn’t even care where the money comes from , she just demands that we buy this and that .

I was thinking the money I gave her would be enough to buy the most basic things she and the baby needs , now she’s demanding more

U have money oh
Na me and my wife go buy all the baby thing she need.

Fact is, I stricked out what was not necessary.

Be a man.

DrTee1:
So should we fry beans?

N.B: Some DSTV would channels would show it but SuperSport wouldn't. CANAL, for example is on DSTV (French Bouquet) and would air the AFCON.

Which number

YES. NO ALLOW PERSON DECEIVE YOU.
money they make people talk anyhow.
Sometimes when we talk to our wife's in some weird manner they usually don't get angry, majorly because we are the providers.

But when a woman starts providing u better don't get lazy as a man.

No matter how much ur wife end..do ur manly duty.

oluyemi123:
Some of us don't know what is 13month.

I swear. What is 13 months

Bulaba

ashafson:
Meaning no wage award.

No wage award

CapodeCapouti:
We won't fall for this gimmick. We all know that this has to do with the recent budget 2024 exposure. Where they were allocating millions and billions to themselves.

They want to buy the workers and avoid the scandal from turning from its present whispers to cacophony of noise.

Just they play. Even if they do not give workers anything..heaven no go fall guy. Let's applaud good things.

ashafson:
No be una talk say una go give 35k from Sep. for 6 months?
Abi na audio 6 months we hear? Or una 6 is equal to 1?

We done share am election na.

Nadingo:
Mtcheww

Lol..we self they wait for am. I bin wan just frustrate u. I even disbursed my salary thinking the palliative go enter. Na by grace I they survive.

ashafson:
Hello everyone.
Pls any update on wage award?

Which one?
Who owe u?
Shey u never collect salary?
Which exam you write wey u they find award for excellence.

Rinoxy:
NBTI alerted, Gtbank.

Was palliative added?

Teeyoo:
Thanks for your input. However, both of us are best of friends. We are age mate and few days older than each other. Let me talk in that level now, she's very close to 40 and likewise myself. There's sense of maturity between the two parties. If it's between two young opposite gender, it can be a different ball game. Before both of us depart, we do as if we've been friends from heaven. You won't know who's older than each other. Our spirit is far away from sex. We advise each other, give moral and financial support and even ask for each other's husband and wife. So, having sex is the last thing on our mind. Thank you.

They play. If u so sure of yourselves tell her to inform her husband before leaving.

Medianna:
Ideally Payslip comes out before payments sir.

U are very correct. But corruption no allow people do the right thing.

adem30:
It's just because the Cotonou Tomato journalist Babajide hates Yahaya Bello till heavens, so he can never support anything Yahaya Bello support. He even denounce his kogi citizenship because of Yahaya Bello and adopted Ekiti

How can somebody normal support bello?

ahnie:
The church I ran away from with my full chest.



Happy anniversary to them

As u run..the church close?

Abeg rest, nobody ask u.

sarkinbauchi:
I hereby call on all Muslims faithfuls nationwide to as a matter of urgency boycott and stop using Infinix Phones as long as Davido is their brand Ambassador

We have also banned all Davido and Wizkid songs from our communitiee. Any youth or DJs caught playing their songs at any occasion will be flogged and charged to Sharia court for prosecution.
If you don't like our decision, go to court

Which one them fit buy?
Iphone?
Goan sleep

Jazmine10:
Why is infidelity among both sexes on the rise in Nigeria and what can be done to mitigate it?

Lol. have u seen the price of fuel lately?
Everybody they hustle.

Jovialjune1:
At your age this is your thinking, so marriage is all about food and sex, Truly age is not maturity, no wonder we have many married women cheating these days, because you brag as if it's your right that's why they do same

Was Banky blind that he didn't know he want to marry a popular actress? Why didn't he go for a random normal person?

Marriage na food and sex o. Its part of what makes Marriage.

Wait make ur husband no gree sleep with u or provide for the house.

Babysuccess02:
I don't understand.... What you're trying to say is that all men that cheat is as a result of what their wife did?

Not really. But in most cases women are funny.

That kind adesewa..when she go get time give her husband better sex?
Or cook his favourite dish. Wow..leave banky to cheat abeg

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randymirrors:
"You go just laugh"🤣🤣

My question is, why didn't he just marry Niyola, afterall, she's beautiful and he met her first. What do you think might be the reason he didn't marry her?

I felt from the beginning, the said niyola was more ambitious than is wife.

His wife was much a wife material. Things changed.

Banky wife, was calm and homely . But now..she's way more ambitious than niyola

randymirrors:
I don't know the kind of self esteem some women have. Very weak. How can you lower yourself to side chick level? A fine girl like that. This person dated you and left you for another woman and you're still fuckiing him. Na WA.

When my ex cheated, that was the end of the relationship. God is my witness, it's going to 3 years now, he's still begging.

My dear

Be happy life favoured u.
There is a level a man will carry u to, recovering becomes really hard.

For instance, u dated a minister for several years. Then u guys broke up.
Seriously, u will find it really hard to date another man less than him.

Maybe that your ex...u met who is more gamed that him.

randymirrors:
This is another perspective. The celebrities I mentioned married non celebrity wives. Though RMD's wife was a very popular TV host with lots of admirers in her time, both young and old. As soon as RMD wifed her, he took her off the spotlight.

Any marriage that works..cut cap give the wife. Not every woman can achieve that.
Men wants loyalty.
When a woman is wealthy..they can't give that.
Mehn..the day my wife start to drag power with me...I go wear my cheating boots.
The day..I travel on business trip and my wife calls to say she's in UK too for a business trip.
I go start to cheat.
If I come home.. I no see my wife for days.
I go cheat.

Well, for me..I no fit marry celebrity or any woman that intend to be.

I can take care of my home and my wife needs.

No be say my wife no go work o. My wife is even a nurse. But all this running up and down she no go do am.
The day she starts..I go just laugh.


Don't be surprised the said Adesewa, do not want kids anymore for fame.

randymirrors:
But if a man as handsome as Ramsey Noah the hottest celebrity actor in his time can be faithful to his wife, if RMD the hottest celebrity actor in his time can be faithful to Jumobi his wife, then what's the big deal in being faithful?

Banky has no excuse.

Those wife played a great role.
Personally, I really do not know those celebrity wife's u mentioned except I Google.
If u are married u will know what give most men joy is coming back to see his wife, children all happy. Food served and more.
Adeswwa could not give that.

Baba need to cheat.
I am married.. and I know why.

poshestmina:
You're pathetic and silly.

I really do not think he is silly.

A woman must try to keep her marriage.

However, in the case of Adesewa.. it's really difficult combining such fame with marriage.

Marriage is hard work.

It's simple..Ill advise, if as a woman, u want to be so popular.
U want to be on every movie set...and more.
You really do not have business getting married.

If a woman want to hustle hard like a man..I really do no feel she should get married.

I have been married for 2years now... But believe me, if in a month I see my wife like 10 days out of 30..ill cheat..infact ill cheat very well.

Marriage no be play. When u fight in marriage, what makes it go easily, is seeing ur husband or wife everyday. However, if u have an issue with ur wife and the next day..u both are in London..I wonder when u guy will settle.
Banky should cheat..if is wife is not aways available.

Pls, who can explain this.

Clear copy

Who can explain this to me please. Does it mean reduction in salary?

Jossyfine:
All the comments above have not actually hit the nail in the right place. The major issue is that African marriages are not laced with romance and affection.
How do I mean?
* Most couple stop showing affection to each other once they start bearing kids and over see finish has crawled into their marriage.
* African couples rarely make out for themselves alone in terms of going on dates ( at least once in a while)
* Marriage is what you put in it ,that’s what you get, you should learn to do things together ie weekends both man and wife can create time to put the huz in order( not by force) but with love cuz it creates bond between couples.
*You can create low budget vacation for just you both without the kids.
*Once in a while try having sex outside the huz, look for an affordable hotel around ur area and maybe do just one night.
* Marriage shouldn’t be about the kids, cuz have noticed what most couple talk about the kids, bills and family issues.Spice it up a little and gist about ur selves, probably the sex you had the previous night😜
* Let there be stewardship ( you guys should always review ur attitude towards each other by asking if each is meeting up expectations etc)*

*Most African couple rarely send romantic messages unlike when they were dating when most times you wake up to see sweet soul piercing messages from ur lover. But in marriage all the messages are for purchases of huz hold items.

Marriage is sweet but not in Africa. Africa marriages are very boring😭

Am just wondering how I survived 10 freaking years 😳😳😳and it’s still counting 😔

The white do all this..but most of them are still unhappy. Infact..there's high rate of divorce.
Marriage no get Manual.

Kingsley123456:
I will go straight to the point.....
I've not dated a faithful lady since I started dating and I've dated up to 6 different ladies aside from Shop and clean mouth).

My girlfriend which I thought I will at least manage to settle down with was cooking for me 2days ago and I took her phone went straight to WhatsApp and telegram to see chats. One was wooing her and she's responding normally, no iota of restrain in the chats and another was inviting her over and she said, sure, she will come.

I dropped the phone immediately , I was still thinking of where to start with her when I received a call from work and I had to leave, I message her while I was at work and asked her while she's doing all these to me, as usual she claimed they are platonic friends and nothing more.

I blocked her immediately she mention there is nothing wrong in visiting Platonic friends in open places and even at home....

This is isn't the type of woman i want.

That wasn't her first time but she always accuse me of not wanting her to have good male friends.

I'm tired of things like these, I will be 35 by September.

Initially I thought I'm getting older and I should settle down, but, will I ever meet a Woman of my choice?? Someone I can at least trust?? someone who won't be going round visiting Platonic friends, ano wan loseguard, I need a woman in my life but I think I'm giving up......

I don't want to die young...
Lastly Nairalanders

Do I have to look for another relationship again or
Take her back and give her last chance?? Or, concentrate on money making for another 5yr? And forget about getting married,
Pls advice.

Oga..go marry o. Na 50/50.
No time woman go change..since Adam.
No disturb urself.
Girls tend to be a little faithful when married sha.
Marry enjoy ur wahala. No time