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MrBrownJay1:
you make no damn sense....1st you said you knew this issue all along and had no problem with it, 2nd you now say you want a break up because of that exact same issue and 3rd you now say you actually love the babe?!?!?!!

Don't look for my flaws... If u have an advice just give!! No one is perfect

2papa:
Please I need your advise
My Girl friend had a Child, I love her so much and I want to marry her, as a matter of fact, have gone to see her parents to take list for her Bride Price

We are Both from Delta State and the same LGA. I was transferred to Lagos State March of this Year, Have been in Lagos State since March while she has been in Delta State with her 4 Years old Daughter.

She came to visit me in Lagos on Monday Last week 10th of December 2019 and it is just 1 week and she is telling me she can't wait to go back she is Missing her Daughter.

I wasn't happy with that Statement she Made and have told her when she return to Delta state she shouldn't bother visiting me anymore.

Now my Question and the Help I want from you guys is this.

1. Can her baby bring conflict in our relationship/Marriage.

2. Will she love my Children if we start having babies

3. Should I quit the relationship.

Note: My mum love her so much

This questions should have been asked.. If the reverse were to be the case.
If she had agreed to stay for more than one week without her four years old child then this question would have made more sense.

Even staying for a week is an excellent score for her.

Be a man and next time invite both of them and she will stay for as long as you want.

Billsmith:
I fell in love with a Yoruba and my plans was to get mrried to her. The first day her dad saw her with me, she was beaten up and was forbidden from seeing me. Her elder sister saw her again with me and she was beaten up again mercilessly. Their reason was that, I am not from their tribe and they say nothing whenever they see her with a Yoruba boy.
I really love her and feels jealous whenever I see her with other Yoruba boys talking. I have tried to put her off my mind but no way. She still love me as she said and I realy need to settle down soon. I love her but her people are now our obstacle. What do I do? I can't even put her off my mind. I need your advice .

How did this end.. Am curious
Because am in same shoe.

cococandy:
I just read the first paragraph and couldn’t go on.

You actually read this and posted it?

No hard feelings dear.
If u had continue, which I know you did.. You would notice.. My comment was not to shame any gender.
Life's not hard..you a woman for a purpose..fulfil that purpose and make your man smile.

Ginaz:
Special adviser to God? All cos of woman matter chaiii. May God have mercy on you with this your blasphemy, kindly pray to God to forgive you.

Let's join hands in prayer for him.. Smile.. Joking I guess.

stupidity:
Whoever made this comment, I’ll find you and appoint you chairman of occasion(high table), VVIP and best man at my wedding, coming up soon!!


After the wedding I’ll appoint you as God father, adviser and counselor of my home.


When you get old, I’ll erect a monument for you with the inscription “best comment in romance section 2019”

When you die I’ll write a letter to the Nigerian government to fix a special day in honor of your service to nairaland.



When you get to heaven I’ll pray to God to make you His special adviser. If Na hell you Dey go I’ll tell Devil to make you his PA.

I wish I can hug this guy right now. I lur you bro!!!

Peace!!!

*wipes tears*

JERRY1925

Ha.
It's well with you o.
Lol

Sometimes when a man genuinely love you.. He wants you just to himself. Your body becomes his pride.. Because in most cases that's the only thing a man values in a woman.. It's priceless knowing you have a girl or a wife no other man can touch.
It's priceless knowing u have a girl u can leave for weeks and she's intact.
But for women it's different, u don't really value our body that much.. U value our possessions, our future.. Our strength and if we fall short, u change course.

Well, to my answer.. If u truly love your man.. Stay away from your friend...stay so far away.
Give your man some month..prove to him you've stayed far. Prove to him it won't happen again..you can do this, by giving yourself time to heal and also giving him some space to miss u. He will come around. But give him time to think. And don't give him room for second thought.

stevups:
If you need sex go for school girl, but if you need a wife, go for a graduate who has completed NYSC.

Were they not once school girls?
Wo, woman na woman Jor.
Let's just enjoy our life and stop attaching feelings to everything.
I prefer students o.
Their demands are so predictable.
Have gen, have food, have TV..have ac..boom it have finish..but don't spoil her with money..make her know u Okay financially ...but don't give her much.

MiVida:
Dating students are a total waste of time and they are easy to yansh... They get wet so easily and can sleep over anytime... Total waste of time!

I don't understand they get wet part..is it because they in school they get wet? Lol

cRobo:
Now she is forming love and support while I'm here

If Joshua was a nobody she won't even answer his greeting

Where she de when Joshua de struggle

Lol.. Bros, she is a somebody too.. You don't expect her to go below her level to prove she's human.
Everybody get him level for life.

Truth is.. You can't handle this issue being calm.
U a man.. Show her you know how to flirt better.
And if u know u will feel sad about flirting too... Get some female friends to help you..
Some girls feels they are always right..with their decisions. If she actually have not fallen for anyone now.. She will soon, she just not met her kind of man online. So it's best you tackle it now.
And the only way is putting your marriage in line too by doing what she does.
And if she values the marriage she will come begging.
Infact when she's ready for sex, don't be ready, be on facebook or whatsapp laughing For no reason...she will be sad..but she will come back to her senses.
U a military man... But too emotional.
Once you don't like something in someone and you can't walk away.. You have to do everything you can to make that person see reasons why it must stop. If not u go just die early.
She have no justification for doing what she does, not even bordom.

hotwax:
I met this cutie at a corporate get together party. I really went through a lot before she could agree to date me.

She presented herself as a very reserved lady. She doesn't even like to talk about sex. She told she had sex once in her life..i.e the day she was disvirgined. And I believed her.

What made me believe her was the way she always claims to be inexperience in sexual issues. She told me I will have to manage her and take it easy with her on the day we would have sex.

Just last month, reluctantly, she agreed to open her leg. Before I penetrated her, I noticed few things.

When I was kissing her all over her body, she was shaking as if she. Was demon possessed and she was grabbing my dick rushin it inside her pssy.

I sensed something was wrong, I quickly put on my condom...

I was expecting the whole area to be tight afterall she did it once 2 years ago. I entered the area smooth and wide...no friction.

I could remember my ex whom I sex all the time even give my dick some frictions once in a while.

It was an unforgettable experience of betrayal.

I didn't say anything to her..cuz I didn't want to talk about those dirty stuff. How do I say it? "Why is ur pussy wide?"

I just maintained distance from her starting from that day..

She has been accusing me on whatsapp that I just wanted to chop and go. Which is not true. I thought I had the woman of my dream...someone I could take home. But I can't just trust her.

Did I do anything wrong?

Dear op, just as someone said above.. The dick comes in different sizes so does the female organ.
Do u know the size of a girls mouth actually determine her vagina size.. Not a proven fact, but it's been proven by local men.. Smiles.
I use to have a friend, she have done crazy stuff relating to sex and a whole lot.. But do u know this girl is so tight still?
To my point, I dated a virgin after her, Yea she was. But this said virgin gets easily aroused and wide most time, I had doubts but I was convinced she was a virgin..because she bleed.
If she's slim... And the previous was chubby then that's another reason maybe. I discover slim girls have wider pussys and deep.

Now concerning her grabbing your dick.. It happens, she probably might have missed sex much. She probably masturbate.
If she's a good woman, keep her.. No one is without sin.

Even if she must have lied, it proves she's not proud of her past.

It doesn't take much time to catch a cheating partner if u smart.. So give her time.

It's actually really sad.
Mine is based on tribal stuff.
Her parent wants her tribal man.
It's so tough for us.
We are still holding on sha.. Holding things change.
But within me.. I have doubts.
The parents really dislike my tribe.

Lol.

Worry less.
Use a condom.
She was not created for you alone.

But, virgins hardly cheat on their first.
So it's a 50 50 something.

Truth is.
You were not created to love.
The Fact you feel sad is because probably your so called boyfriend is well to do than is friend.
If the reverse were to be the case.. The topic will be, I am in love with my ex boyfriend friend. What should I do.
Live your life knowing you were not created to love.

Sad truth is, you will still run to his arms if situations turn.
It's just normal to feel the way u feeling now.

farady:
Don't misconstrue or misunderstand me please. The bottomline like someone up there wrote is - cut your coat according your material. Mind you, if the wife is not supportive either in contributing to running and building the home or showing great understanding in ensuring that unnecessary expenses are cut down to the barest minimum, in order to have some savings for future investment or project that will enhance the quality of the family, if you like earn N500k, that man will still experience challenges.

Financial wisdom/knowledge in a man's life is one subject that we do not pay attention to but which is very important for us to succeed in building a family.

I talk am, this time I no even come understand your language.

zeenaman:
I will go straight to the point. In the past, I have had a few unpleasant experiences with girls, ranging from cheating to gold digging habit, for that reason, my heart got hardened and I barely treat girls with any seriousness.

Lately I met this lady, she reignited the love in me. I fell in love with her as if she's the first lady I will be meeting in life. I desire to settle down with her. But the challenge I'm having with her is that, she was previously married with two little kids. She lost her husband two years ago.

Please good people, I will like to know the dangers, if any, that come with marrying such ladies. I so love her. I will like to hear from experienced people. Thanks.

With age, you'll understand that marriage should bring peace of mind. If she brings that, you need nothing more.
Those saying, why should you marry sure person.. They are people you should not take advice from..because most of them don't even know what marriage entails. Most of them will tell their girlfriend to get an abortion if she gets pregnant.
They not even ready for marriage.

Would have love to be in your shoes.
Reasons is.
That widowed woman deserves a smile, deserve love.
If u are above 35, give her that.
But if u confused, which I guess seem to be the case, then just do what makes you happy bro.
I love the white.
They don't care mostly about what the black care about.

farady:
OP do you realise there are Nigerians earning just that amount whether N60k or N160k married with one or two kids or children. Some even with children in the universities and even still in the process of developing their small plot of land to erect a 2/3 room structure. Don't ask me why, go and have a chat with them and glean some wisdom on how to live life. A life of contentment.

Which one is one or two or children.
See as you confuse an entire generation.
From your write up.. I don't need to know you facially before knowing your character.
You a man that pays attention to details and love to explain things critically.

Factfinder1:
Besides money... Many Nigerian Men have absolutely nothing to offer in a relationship!


You can argue that money is important, yes it is no doubt but what will I use your money to do when I have mine too? (actually alot, even it means dashing it out) but the point is I can make my own money too.

Many men lack home training, no character. Cannot save, invest, socialize, take care of the home front. Are domestic aliens.

Poor sexual givers. Very selfish in bed.

The list is long. Society conditioned our men to think that the best gift they can offer their wives is money...

In 18th century, Probably yes but not today. Women work and earn even much more than men . Many homes today have women as breadwinners.

Some of you men are dream killers. Don't know how to build a woman. You will see a single girl doing so well but will go zero after getting married because the man's ego is too fragile to accommodate his wife's success.

Money is good, but if that is all you have to offer in a marital union then I am afraid, you are not qualified to be married!

Stop commodifying our women! We are too expensive to be bought with money!

You can be handsome, rich, educated, domesticated, intelligent, sociable and still be a good husband! You can be all. Stop giving excuses.

I forgot to add, some of these men don't even have money, yet they don't have character as well!

And again... Any woman that will opt for money alone... Don't cry wolf when your life becomes miserable.

But wait o, is money not something?

truthsayer009:


Lmao, some girls just want to knack you but so scared too say it because you guys would paint them hoes.

Not all ladies actually want to end up with you.

True talk.
But u have to pretend to be serious at a point in life.
Why continue knacking when you already pass 30

truthsayer009:
Well me I ask women out with the Intention of knacking & If the feeling is mutual, we'll knack.
I don't know why you are speaking for all of us oh

If I now like her enough to marry, then I can proceed.

90% no b all na.
U among the bad 10

pocohantas:
Oga, this is a VERY BIG LIE!!

Just stop it. You are not talking to a toddler.

Well na true o

KiidaACE:
Really hope your reason for cooking rice without meat isn't lack of money to buy meat because if it is, then you shouldn't be keeping a girlfriend. Clean runs gurls are there for a reason if it's konji u wanna calm.
We really need to set our priorities straight in this country. Broke girlfriends tend to pull a hustling guy down because you gotta admit it, our society doesn't smile on broke guys. A broke girl would most likely get away with being broke because of successful guys that gives em a false sense of entitlement....
No matter how hard you try to deny it, guys will still be guys and most of us will still keep stupidly licking ass and worshipping the ground most of these broke ass ladies walk on. Our reward is obviously 2 perky or fallen tits and 10-20 minutes in a moist hole...
You're my namesake, Jerry's know better.. You should put all focus on being successful and when you do, try and date people in your class or at least girls with serious ambitions which doesn't involve using their pussies as source of income..
Everyone still struggling (male and female) have no business dating and should shut the entire fvck up about opposite sexes looking down on em and get to work, Pronto.. And whoever makes it should stick to partners in their league. Like should attract like.. The world is more balanced that way.
My bloody 2 cents.

Yes, I get.. It was not about money.
I actually finished meat for stew.. Addicted to meat.
Could not throw the stew away.. Had to just cook rice with it.

pocohantas:
Why do guys always add this when a girl breaks up with them or starts misbehaving?

Is it to make it look like she is the one losing

Audio intentions.

Do whatever you wish.

Well.. 90% of us ask ladies out with such intentions.
It's just that after some time we see reasons why we can't continue with such adventurous thinking.

Eg. Today I cook rice, without meat.. My girlfriend say she no they chop food without meat.. I just nod my head.. That's a negative strike for me.

She surprised you with a new boyfriend.
Surprise her with your new wedding card with your new girlfriend.

You can't trust her anymore.. Move ahead..move on.

She's not willing to introduce you to her family.
.meaning she's not sure of u.. Once a woman is not sure of her relationship, she can only give 10% of herself.
The other 90% will be filled with confusion.

Because the sun rise in the east and set in the west.

Geminita1:
They have a point but personally i can't wait to drop my surname and adopt my partner's.

Every time i tell people my surname, they just laugh at me.

They have no point.
They only forgot someday.. They will give birth to a male child.. And they will watch his wife take everything they laboured for.

ZombieTERROR:
I knew that Gucci pastor will bribe the court

There was no way he would lose ..

Judiciary is dead under the dullard

No she probably lied to her husband she lost her virginity through rape.
So the husband kept encouraging her to speak up.. Till she did and made a fool of herself.

Shezkid:
Noted!! I Just hate when people try to dirty someone name in order to praise another person...

Well.. It's like a law case.
The lawer just make their point even when the opponent says something strange.
Every body Fights Still they win..not insult.

Shezkid:
You're very stupid for this post... Wizkid and sarz still chill together..even Wizkid selected skales to be in his Dubai fest show coming up soon...samklef and Wizkid still talk regularly..if you're on Twitter you'll know better...mumu

The word stupid shouldn't be in your post.
Not cool.
We learn everyday... Learn to educate not humiliate.

seanwilliam:
what I'm saying is that most of us dont utilise the tech of these phones( phones with high technologies) to the fullest... using myself as an example, I only use for for browsing, (247 online ) music and making calls... also I'm not a phone frick , if u see iPhone 11 for my hand, and just for big boy nothing much... now,if you're into digital marketing, photography and other tasking-internet-related stuffs u can go for those high end devices with mad processors like iphone 11, x,xmas, note 10 plus,s10 +... and if you want to get phone bro, get known brand ok, cos of resales value, Xiaomi, Huawei, realme,, Vivo etc are good phones but they are not that popular outside nairaland...I've only seen Xiaomi once in my life..this is me being sincere... think of iphone or samsung bro, why would iphone 6 with 128g storage, of 6years ago still sells reach 100k and people still dey buy am..but if you not buying to resells later then go for Huawei.... next year, I dey plan for s10+ or iphone 11 if my transaction loud..lol.. what am i saying self

Thanks.
Heard Samsung part are expensive.
Me I am thinking of techno or infinix o.
I cannot kill myself.
Me that my phone must fall ones in a week.