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LordNicvuitton:
I want to respectfully keep our intimacy life out of this bro, but just know that I'm her 1st definition of a true love. Most of what you typed, are positive words and i thank you. I've never stopped encouraging her. She has the potential to be a life partner (trust me, I have had experiences to know this) but the financial burden is the negative in all these.

Would u rather like her to depend on someone else?
Just teach her softly and tell her ur mind.

Monaco2:
I watched dis video yesterday n it wasn’t funny to me at all, I was just wishing I could hug d kid,I was feeling for d lil nigga,imagine d kin beat d mama go don beat d pikin for am to begin act like dat, pls who know dem, I would love to meet dis kid

From the video that guy has not even been touched.
The mum knows his weakness.. Reason she brought out the cane.

I remember when I was a kid, my mum would have said.. Who ask u to talk.. Hold ur lips.

The mum really love her son.. She they even follow am talk.

Back then.. That cane go done finish for my body.

LordNicvuitton:
Hi Romancelanders, don't know if it's right to share this topic here, but I'll do for now.

I'm Victory, from the East and currently a resident of Edo state. I came to this state, as an intern and thereafter, still served here and in the course of all these, I thought out and established a laundry business, which is just about 8 months old. This was to keep life going and to better bond well with the lady in my life currently.

While in Edo state, having rounded my internship & kickstarting service sometime around 2017, I met this Kiki Osemudiamen (Name changed), and it was nothing serious at 1st, cos I never really thought I'd date someone here, fact is that I never thought I'd stay beyond my service year. I met her while she was in 200l. We encouraged each other, she saw potentials and had faith in me just like I have so much faith in her. She is simplistic, encourages me to save and I in turn, encouraged her and guided her through some of her studies. She passed her 2nd MB.BS. and is currently awaiting lifting of the lockdown on schools, so she can start her clinicals.

Problem is that she came from a not buoyant family financially, and although both parents are alive, she struggles to survive/feed daily. Her dad supplies about 1000litres/trip water to households, while her mum sells at the local market. I on the other hand, came from a middle class family but my Dad is late since 2012, and I've been a sponsor of my education and that of my younger ones through the lil I inherited (which mum manages for now) plus my various endeavours. She depends on me for daily meals and other basic essentials, in fact I had to place her on salary in my laundry shop during this lockdown, so she plays the role of secretary in my shop too.

The latest challenge came about, yesterday. While she slept in the shop, I was out on errand, someone sneaked into the shop and stole her android phone with all of her e-medics textbooks (she reads mostly e-copies because she can't afford hardcopies), she has been crying all through and I really don't know what to do. Since I knew her, She'd been an appendage and an extra financial burden to me, I can't begin to list what I've done for her, although I kept reminding her never to not have entitlement mentality and she does appreciate. Out of desperation to ease her pain, I promised to sponsor her in getting a new phone. I have burdens, huge ones, I'm yet to acquire a diesel engine for my laundry (I use ponytail industrial iron which has higher voltage/current than normal ones), plus other related merchandise that I need to set up and I feel like she slows down my financial pace.

Honestly, I don't do all these for her, hoping for any personal gains, in the words of my daddy in the Lord, Prophet T.B. Joshua, He said and I quote: "We make a living by what we get and we make a life by what we give" but I am almost fed up and tired, especially when I remember that both her parents are still alive.. I am scared that that for the 1st time, I may fail her in that financial obligation because I honestly need money now, with the whole pandemic issue plus, I feel like she slows me down in life financially and a huge burden to me. Right now, she's so attached to me, more so that when I initially wanted to hault our relationship, it almost nearly affected her academics negatively. Please I need matured minds to help me think this through and garnish me with advice(s) because I almost feel so choked up and a rising urge to relocate from here, so i can breathe again.

NB: Advice from married couples and those in serious relationships, will be highly appreciated.

Cc: Lalasticlala farano rocktation.

I think it's the way u started. U acted like the provider.
I'll ask did u disflower her?
If thats the case, I guess that's why she depends on you so much.. She has no experience.

Now, if u really like her and she's hard working.. Don't waste time, engage her.. Do the needful then start your life with her. in that case, u guy will build together.
In that case, she will understand when to ask and when not to.
Don't worry about her depending on u.. If she's nice.
Just don't stop encouraging her.
And as someone said earlier, tell her ur problems too and request money from her

Righteousness89:
That's Awesome!

Its Good For the Leaders to feel these things...

Hopefully it will put Action into Work!

Someone that will b in AC 247.

buJu234:
Guys una nor dey hear word..

Dont ever allow any lady that's not ur lawful wife to sleep over in ur house..

After all these police wahala, her family will now come after him that he must marry the dead body etc..

Just one simple carelessness..

U can still b lovers but everyone will be coming from his or her house daily..

Bros what of distance relationship.
I just read this weak.
Nd my girl is coming soon for a week

Yemisi87:
You have to start somewhere.

I used Keke for my first date. I married the same girl and bought Rav4 for her this year.

In my personal house today, I have 3 rides.

It baffles me a lot the way nowadays girls reason.

But come to think of it. She's right.
Nigeria just not a good country. If not weytin b car.

Lol.

decoderdgenius:
She is spending precious time arranging the books, which signifies her job. But this job isn't convenient as she finds it difficult even to breathe.

She is so fixated on doing that stuff, which is irrelevant right now, that she doesn't even look around.

She could just walk up to the door and open it thus relieving herself.

Most of us are killing ourselves trying to fix things. When we could just walk out and save ourselves the trouble. Nothing is worth killing yourself over

Close to what I was thinking.
In the picture she was arranging and not even reading.
So I guess, despite her struggles in life.. She still trying to make things right... Without giving up. Opening that door u never can tell what come from it

Kylekent59:
Never give up no matter how hard you struggle in life.


Since it is not about her high heels where it started, then it should be her lungs where it stops....

Beware of lungs diseases.

Close to what I was thinking.
In the picture she was arranging and not even reading.
So I guess, despite her struggles in life.. She still trying to make things right.

Ginaz:
A guy that would lay his hands on me has never been born. That’s one thing I will never condone in my life . She’s an empty piece of trash with no dignity.

A man who has not paid your brideprice beating you with belt !!! Tuel!!! Even a husband can’t raise his hands on me .

Low life bitchsss with a deformed brain .

Allow us hear word.
Just pray for the best.

Mynd44:
Most men are control freaks and so they tend to look for women they can control

Not true o.
It's for their fresh body o.
Even older men wants younger women.

It is well.

Michelle55:
What if he never gets to find out something like that at the first place if only he didn't snoop?
I'm not sure the young lady will appreciate her boss encroaching on her privacy like that..
So he should assume he didn't know anything and let her be

Everything in life happens for a reason. Probably God wanted it to happen so he could save the girl.
I use to date one church girl like that . We talk about marriage everytime we hang out and she was ready to be with me. But I kept praying for God's will in whatever I do. Then one day she forgot to log out her Facebook from my phone.
Can u believe out of the whole friends she chat with, my attention was drawn to just one. And that was how I got to know alot about her. I never told her anything till she came to me talking about christ and how not serious I am in things of the Lord. I just sent her all the screen shot of the chat between her and the other guy.

ednut1:
These guys are like African leader they would not quit or resign.

In the work of God, u don't quit.

bluefilm:
It will change nothing.

Officer Chauvin might even be acquitted at the end of the day.

It has happened before.

But even if he gets some punishment,

The truth is that Racism is deep.

Deeper than you think.

In some parts of the world, it is called racism.

But in this part of our world, it is called tribalism.

Now ask yourself this: Will tribalism ever end in Nigeria?

Yes, maybe not in our generation.. But yes. Las Las old people holding trabalisim so dearly will die. There will b a new world. Na corruption and racism no go die.

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Swtbabyvee:
There is one thing I know for a fact ,, men who like slim ladies r never good in bed , like never , no offense, there ar some men who can do both. But the ones who insist on slim girls can rarely give good strokes , or their dick is small , it’s always between this two. A slim girl fucking a man used to fat women , can hardly handle it.

Are u aware that slim girls have wider p***sy than fat ladies.
Their pussy is so deep and has no end.
U can never satisfy a slim woman in bed.

Average girl is best.

Not fat and not slim.
Chubby is fine.

Durentt:
Why would i want To choose To be stagnant in growing. Rubbish joke

Just a question for fun.

Even life itself is not serious...why are u?

Norphiee:
The ones you've met abh?

Be deceiving yourself.
He's right.

So recently guys has been on the notion that if you want Peace or someone to truly love you genuinely for the rest of your life you should marry a virgin.
Truly speaking there are lot of benefits attached when u meet a good woman.
So my question is for probably those that married their wife's a virgin or truly loved or believed their virgin girlfriend would be faithful.
I just want to know how the relationship ended with a girl you disvirgined.

ipobarethieves:
Some women! Tufia! Reason why some husband give excuse for marrying 2 wives/carry okrika girls around.

Guy forget women they will never agree. Do u think any would have said they enjoying sex this period?
African woman like secret sex.

One secret ladies don't know is that they can develop feelings for any guy who truly desires them and treats them like a queen even if that guy is totally opposite of what they want in terms of physical looks...it is a mystery so put your feelings on hold and observe keenly then give your feelings to a guy that is deserving of it.

@ the bolded is not true cos ive tried severally to develop feelings for one or two good guys I felt would make a perfect spouse but it just didn't click. And it took me years trying to see if there's a way I can build the love for these guys, or feel something for them but same same.
You can't really force this feelings or develop it yourself, it won't work. This things happen naturally and if it not there, it not there. That is why most marriages are having problems today because you have people advising you saying, " you can build love, love grows in marriage, just marry the man first and love will come later" jaggons. If it actually works like that, then it would have happened for me when I tried forcing it for those guys I talked about earlier.

Feeling is something you can't control. That is why when you feel something for someone, you can't control how fast it grows until it reaches a peak where it becomes a threat. Likewise you dont have the power to control your feelings and make it grow for someone it doesn't click with. It's a natural phenomenon beyond every living being.

Please let not be misguided.
I believe in true love with genuine feelings and that is what covers all sins. As in no matter what the person does to you, you still want to be with them.

It took me 4 years after my ex to fall in love again. And this new guy is a Nairalander. Yes! And this happened within a few weeks. But we had a little misunderstanding and I was heartbroken to which I confided in a guy here about how I felt. So he asked me, how long have I dated this new guy that the love hurts so badly. I told him just a few weeks and he went wow! Like is it not too early to love so deeply?
Now I didn't realized that my feelings had grown so fast and so deep for this guy until he mentioned it and I paused to think but realized its not my fault! Its how nature works and we can't control these things.

Fact is, i think the bible says, Marriage is honourable and The bed undefiled ...something like that.
The at bolded u picked is very true.
But would never work for a Girl thats no longer a virgin.
There are importance attached to being a virgin.

Lol.. U try

IzuDestiny:
Who else has been paid? So this people are actually locking down everywhere without salary?

Lol.. U they fear

,

No name comes to mind except my girlfriend.
She's my favourite celebrity.
Really wish i could be with her.

Hu

Freelane33:
90 percent of you won’t believe this but try it pls , treat them like a piece of shits . They will still come back to you . Eat their food without any compliment ( no so sweet ) , ( no you’re beautiful nothing nothing ) , just try to be a crazy asshole , they ( 90 percent of ladies or gf(s)) will keep finding a way to make sure you love them and show it . Even if you do and you know down in your heart that you love them . Don’t show it . Let’s them work on how to make you love them till eternity . Men ain’t cheap . Let’s make them know ahahahah a . Let’s be an assholes together

U a young man i suppose.. When u understand a woman.. U will know how to balance things. This ur idea will just make u lose ur woman to another man.
Learn to treat ur woman good.
And if she misbehave let ur conscience tell u.. My friend u did well.

Every girl want love desperately.
But as a man.. Know how to balance ur love for a woman.

MadeINchenzen2:
I see no reason why a man of substance with desirable mettle will condescend to asking a lady out twice. what I mean is... let ur identity give reasons as to why a lady should always have a YES to give.

A pauper will most likely get a NO

A local champion will certain get a NO At first...

But a Deontay Wilder or A Tyson Fury or Anthony Joshua or Fireboy or a burnaboy or a joeboy or a wizkid or an Alex iwobi will most certainly get a very big YES



u grab?!!!

Go and hustle bro !

Do u know some girls with self esteem still give celebrate though time?

Well the sad truth is, when you meet whom u intend spending the rest of your life with and u so convinced she's the one.. U have no option than to continue chasing.
For me, it took me almost six month to get a yes from my fiance. But the good thing was the bond was there so it kept me going.
Within that six month..she rejected my advance twice but i kept on going. She was single i was sure. But was not really interested in me.
But along the line things changed.. Guess she discovered i was real.

Truth is, i don't care if she picked me because i was the best option.. I am just happy she did.
And now, she love me even better than i do.

After some period of dating.. I discovered she rejected my advance because her parents wanted her to marry her tribal person. Well, about that, we surviving each day as it comes.

I have no regrets waiting for six month.
I am actually the first guy she has ever said yes to.

Before this period i don't get rejected twice.
Some persons meet who they love without stress
Others have to fight for it.. And am happy i nevr gave up fighting.
She is to good.

Easybela:
shits happens in life. I was in a distant relationship for 5years,I remember there was a time we broke up and anytime I hang out with another guy,while the guy is sitting, drinking and trying to engage me in a discussion, my mind will be somewhere imagining that's its my ex that sat before me,so we just had to adjust and come together.
You mistook money for love,you can also choose to 4get your ex and move on,everything is in your hands. Tell that little mind of yours that your are married already, just move on.

Pls enlighten me.. I have same issue with my fiance, and it really makes me sad when she say she wish a guy she went out with was me all through their outing.. I told her she has feelings for the guy reasons she thought that way.
Now i really want to get ur perspective, is it a good thing to feel that way as a lady? Or she's actually having some form of feelings for the guy but holding back.

It's well