Man up bro. You are too old for a girl of her age to be flinging you up and down like this.
You better take a stand. From your explanation, I can boldly say that she is not your type. You guys are not compatible. And if you go ahead with her, you will regret it. Call it off! Move ahead and don't look back. It doesn't matter if you marry this new one or not.
Stories like this makes me appreciate my girl.

Innobee99:
I met this lady in 2015 though she was very young and still young. She's 21 while am 28. I love and cherish her so much and despite her flaws she's the one I find comfortable to spend my days with. We have been having a lot of relationship issues which we do settle.

There are many issues she puts on which I won't want to mention here cuz I overlook her flaws and focus on her good side.

The problem is it seems she's not ready for marriage at all or maybe because she's still young and want to fulfill her youthful desires. Always want to be a slay Queen, contesting for beauty pageants even without my knowledge.

I have talked to her severally about my desire to marry her but only nod her head in affirmation but I think she's really not ready.

OK, last year we had a serious issue which we broke up cuz it was a real family war. But we later came back to together again despite I was not at fault and cuz of the love I have for her, I went to her mum to apologize over the issue so we can be one again. I told this lady to also visit my mum and apologize too but she has been procrastinating for a year now. She has not visited my family house over the year. Whenever I confront her on why she don't want to reconcile with my family, she will give flimsy excuses of been busy. How can one be busy for a whole one year to say sorry even if it's on phone.

Now, I met a lady few months ago, and I love her so much and she's ready to settle down with me next year December. And I knw this my stubborn babe is a very jealous type and I don't knw how to handle the issue and let her go since I have seen someone who's ready to settle down with me.

My babe is only interested in u flexing with her like taking her out to eateries, lodging her in a hotel for fun, buying her gifts without spending her own kobo on u (I can swear to that). Last year, I spent alot on her birthday but wen it was my birthday, the total of what she got for me was N700. N200 perfume and N500 Nivea Roll on. But that's not my business sha.

For example, this new babe requested me to give her 2k to make her hair for an event in Church which I bluntly ignored her just to test her, not that I don't have the money. Can u believe that this babe have even forgotten she asked me the money? And she talks to me perfectly on phone. She was like babe, if u don't have money don't stress urself ooooo, I'll repackage my hair and still look good to Church. If u don't send my babe money before the due time, she'll stop calling u.

The new babe is not after money or material things. Though I'll send her a reasonable amount today. Unlike my babe, who will bring down hell if u don't send her money before the deadline. Can u believe that in August, she had already brought her christmas list to me to check?

To cut all these short, I need mature mind on what to do on this cuz am confused. U can pour ur insults cuz I don't even bother abt that as far as I get the advise I want.

Stay blessed my beautiful NL family.

No testimony is ordinary. Neither is there any that is weird. Just listen to them and thank God for it. If they are lieing, it's their own sin, not yours. Just focus on growing your spiritual life and be continually grateful for God's grace upon your life.
God's mercy I enjoy everyday is a testimony for me. But personally, I have had some notable and countless testimonies. For example God changed my professional status from local to international. I got an international job all the way from Nigeria. And now I am working across various countries. It is not because I am too brilliant, neither is it because I am special. I just received God's favour at His own timing. So its a big testimony for me.
You can't enjoy a kind of testimony you don't believe in. It is a spiritual law!

Lastly, I will tell you that, testimonies (both from the Bible and in the present) are the easiest ways to win souls. Without testimonies, the Christian journey would be frustrating. It is normal that after challenges, one should overcome and testify.

Thanks...

ursullalinda:
What exactly does Bubu think he is doing.....this is wrong in all ramfication......and doesn't portray us well to the world......Ahhh

My boss here in Europe told me that we elected a stupid guy. I was just smiling with a pained heart...smh

Do you have link for that please?

post=84679843:
Then We go streaming........

No Carry Over with this match.

May God keep us safe and sound till then.

AJ For the win!!

Btw, Lordjb, how are you doing today?!

pamelaayomide:
He will know I only said that because of the threat.
I will involve the security or the dreaded students in the campus.

If you know what is good for you, don't involve a cult guy. The case will have a twist. After dealing with your boyfriend, he will want to get down with you since you can't pay and if you refuse, prepare for the part 2 of the black mail. Tell your brother if you have any.

HigherEd:


If they like let them be harmed with hell fire I really don't care. Nigerians are naive people and they better know it.
The point of my post is not to brag about anyone's wealth but to let people know that no matter how horrible a nation turns out the rich will most likely be fine.

I had friends who when we were all more or less not economically in the right place, we would spend time analysing the disaster called Nigeria. The poor policy, the loopholes. However, the more we grow the more they changed. It's as though when people get richer they forget the plight of their own parents, villages and communities. This is why a child of a pensioner who saw his own parents suffer from non payment of pension can become governor and deny other people's parent of their pensions. He simply forgot the pains and cruelty.

This is why Oyedepo has repeatedly earned my respect following the recent elections. As a top 5 pastor in Nigeria you enjoy a whole lot of things. Including unrestricted access to Aso Rock. Oyedepo by fighting what he knew was bad for the country despite being one of the least touched turned himself into a target for govt.

Oyedepo, Adeboye, Kumuyi, Oyakhilome, Olukoya are folks which enjoy privileges the likes of Dangote, Alakija enjoy. If you notice many of them express discontent, they rarely strongly condemn govt. And as long as that mutual respect exist EVEN A MUSLIM PRESIDENT WOULD DEFEND THE INTEREST OF PASTORS.

Example: Buhari was quick to fire the person who dared to tell GOs to step down. But was unwillingly to fight for Christians being slaughtered.

I can tell you that if not for Adeboye that many in the ruling party don't want to offend they would have shown Oyedepo pepper in this admin. Yet we had Nigerians talking crap against the man. I since concluded that Nigerians deserve what they get.

I agree with you brother. But one thing I am sure of is that, no joint conspiracy, government or powers that be, can successfully pull down any one truly called by the Almighty God. They have tried countless times, but without success.
Another thing you should know is that the government only respect and fear any clergy individual who is not their puppet and does not feed from them. If not, they would have silenced him.

midnighter:
33-37 is perfect marriageable age for a man

Give me your reasons ma

True love withstand the test time.
True love gives you an unexplanable joy in within (in and out of season).
True love gives you an unfathomable peace of mind.

The above points are scriptural Folks....

sodiqapril:
Woah..God bless him..I was still telling someone that with the exception of Ahmed Musa and a handful others, most Nigerian celebrities are useless.. they don't give back to their fans and I'm not even talking about the financial giving. All they do is oppress the fans on social media with their wealth and rush to insult the parent of anyone that goes against them..God bless you Ahmed Musa..the pocket of to a giver never dries

Bro forget that level. Who is a giver is a giver. Na who want make dem oppress am na im go let social media stunts opress am. In the 1st place, why should you obsessively covet what you did not own, to the extent of being depressed.
I think we should all do what we can to others in need according to our capacity and how God has blessed us per time.

Thanks...

Factfinder1:
Nigga really chop bog money

If I hold 280million the kind of club, restaurant,hotel, lounge, bakery and water factory wey I go get for Abuja go mad

The cash won't be enough for you to do all that bro.

EMEKUSBOY9:
If you think is charm, then is not charm.

Wisest reply. You get sense.

To safe guard this system, all citizens should be using their NIN, BVN, finger prints and password to vote

You have spoken well my brother. Flee from folks that only post for the gram without doing genuine business there.

EXLOVER:
Peruzzi should try and build is carrier before going to a gaddam relationship with Cee c that her main occupation is posting for the gram, she will use all the little money Peruzzi is making from weekend campus shows to buy costumes for her photoshoot. I pity Peruzzi vibes, someone who can not even afford a good graphics to design his album art and he's also owing his landlord 3months/electricity bill.

He wants to copy Davido, he doesn't know Cee c is the Kenya version of Chioma.

degamemaster:



Oh that was nice. Hope you enjoyed your weekend ....?

Yeah. Though was on transit to Denmark.

Chopsydoo:
She's already thinking of wedding?

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I need your service.

degamemaster:



I live in Berlin, Germany.

OK. Was in Hamburg and Rostock during the weekend.

degamemaster:


Thanks for your advise, I appreciate but the issue is that where I live is a different environment and not the Nigerian kind. To see a black and responsible woman is difficult and some guys actually messed things up so girls are somehow sceptical about guys anytime it comes to marriage and relationship issues. Bear in mind, I live in Europe and marriages here sometimes are for papers issues but when one comes out for real and not for the papers, you will find out that some of this girls have been messed up emotionally hence, the difficulty in finding a serious one.
Just confused...

I can relate to what you are saying bro. What's your location? Maybe we are in the same place?

I share the same thoughts with you brother. I don't see anything like stereotype pattern in all his roles.

chronique:
Those of you who agree with that girl called sugabelly, have brain tumor. It's obvious you guys haven't seen enough of his body of works. He has acted several movie roles ranging from being a successful business man in a movie, to being a king in a movie, to being a poor man in a movie, to being a ritualist in a movie, to being a soldier in a movie, to being a responsible family man in a movie, etc. How you guys tend to believe he is a stereotyped actor who only acts one particular role, surprises me.

Does the fact that Wesley snipes, Jean Claude van damme, Sylvester Stallone, Arnold Schwarzenegger and co are always acting movies where they are always the hero of the day, mean they are bad actors? Jackie Chan was always the hero of the day in every movie he has acted in; does that make him a bad actor? I don't know why but I feel most of you young chaps of this generation actually have low IQ and brain processing capabilities of a 1981 16 bit MS dos operating system capable of reading floppy disk size of 2.88mb in 2019. Such a sad thing.

Nice and well thought out investment. Bayelsans like hotel wella.
If you need the full electrical building services design, contact me on hamzajatto@yahoo.com
I will give you standard and affordability.

AleAirHub:
GOOD MORNING EVERYONE,


Please i need the total cost to build a nice & pocket friendly budgeted 8/12 suite hotel rooms in Yenagoa , Bayelsa State.

The land is dry land and the measurement is 100 x 50.


Thanks for your advice & recommendations.

sexiestharam:

Processors affect the whole phone as it is the brain of the phone. The speed, camera quality, everything. I have a Xiaomi Poco F1 which has a Snapdragon 845 chipset. If you use my phone, you would curse infinix everyday for the rest of your life.

I think it's a good phone. They use Xiaomi here in Europe alot. Tell me the features of yours and how much do it cost.

I share the same thoughts as you bro. I have seen cases as worst as some not finishing the house and die like that. And at the end their children grow up to sell it off.
In my own opinion, I am an advocate of creating streams of income before personal building.
1. Get a job. And save as much as you can and live (you and your family) by budjet strictly.
2. Start a business or invest. Either on Tbills as you said or Mutual funds.
3. You can start another business or investment again if possible. Logistics business is there, uber is there, others are there. Just pray and think deeply. The Holy Spirit will guide you.
4. Then you can begin to think about your own personal building.
The whole idea about this is for people not to embark on building with pressure and frustration that will take more years to complete.

But for their case, they have already started. So I think the lady and her husband should get a job or one get a job and the other starts a business.
Tell him to forget about all those imaginary appointments and work it out. Even plus the appointment, he will still be a salary earner (except he wants to do other money making means, which is illegal and not advisable).
Note: You can't be building while you and your family lack the basic needs and are starving.

Just my humble opinion...

Acidosis:


It is NOT going to pay off on the short or long run. Not having a job and not being able to pay rent is more than enough reason to avoid spending all resources on a building project. Many of our aged parents made this mistake. A lot of them died poor with nothing. Only the children benefited at the end of the day by selling off the property.

Landlord harassment is not enough to provoke one into building a personal apartment. That anger should make you work harder to pay your rent, not spend what you don't have raising a shanty house.

The desire to raise one's income should supercede the desire to "lower" expenditure/expenses.

How can you even lower expenses by spending so much on a personal house?

Do a quick calculation;

Annual rent = N100k

Personal apartment/land = N2-3m (in a small town)

What's the sense in the above? 3m is rent for 30 years (assumed 0 inflation). Add 30 to your current age and tell me what you have.

That 3m in mutual funds, or a risk-free investment like TBills will yield at least 350k annually with 0 work. From that, you pay your rent easily, and increase your networth in a sporadic manner over a very short timeframe.

Bro calm down. If not anybody at least he has to take care of his mom at his own capacity per time.

Smile4mee01:
Brother...

Listen... You are a good man with a good heart.
I am the only male child as well... Many unsuccessful men today are what they are because they assumed responsibilities that is not thiers. Why do u feel prompted to settle your sisters and mum.

Bro... Survive.first, grow and flourish. Then seek out what you can do to help your family not at your detriment.

Be careful with women bro. Dont be in a hurry.... regardless of how good it looks man. It's still a risk. You could either turn out better or worse.

Just go MGTOW.

Not bad sha. But I know that in 90% of the cases, the properties of both couples still belongs to the children. So they are still on the same page.

Lamanii22:



Even if I love and trust you... I cannot put my properties in your name.... Y'all should reason this well... Not like I'm wicked or don't love my husband... I'm doing this for the sake of our children...

Lamanii22:
Before nko... All my properties would remain in my name.... It's hard to truss men these days...

I will advice you not to marry who you don't truly love and trust. Discuss issues like this extensively before getting into marriage.

I love your approach towards this matter.

Florblu:
Well... It depends on the agreement between us. If he buys a property first and choose to put his name only, when I buy mine, it will definitely have my name ONLY.
But if I'm included as a co-owner, of course we can co-own mine too.

In a situation where I get a property before him, i will add his name to all papers and if he can't do the same when he buys his, then I might not wait for the next hour to remove his name from documents of my property. Since we both wants to be petty.


But really, regardless of whose money is/was used in buying a property, once we are married all funds/properties belongs to US.

And i won't understand why most ladies(both married and single) do lie to their spouse to collect money. I mean if your spouse go bankruptcy you will suffer the loss together and if there is boom you will enjoy it together. So why do you have to lie?

I love her gown. Decency is honorable. It speaks volume and open doors. Your sexiness is for your spouse alone.

generationz:
This piece of information just opened the border.

You are smart! Not everything ought to be said on SM.

Those scriptures explains it all, whether you like him or not.
Truth is constant!
Truth is timeless!
Truth is ageless!
Truth don't expire!
Truth can't be improved upon. You can only improve your knowledge on it.
...buy the truth and sell it not!

Good news. I hope others would learn.

I hope the lady was not burnt in the car as well?

Emily22:
I hacked her WhatsApp back den with( I won't tell u the app )

She was dating her lecturer then ,an old married man around 60-65yrs with 2 grown up beautiful girls...

Whenever she is online, I ll be reading her messages especially whenever she ask d man dat (did u release in me)...

So I switched to condom cuz I got scared of infections....we fought over the use of condom and I told her Its for our own good.

Too be candid, I played along till her final year cuz I just needed something to bang hard since am not a fan of masturbation and also not a fan of "sister,can I have a minute with u ".

So last year, she told me how she can die for me,how she can bla bla bla ,all those thrash talks........I told her "alaye am done with you".

She think say she don keep one mumu good husband for one place so if she sell her Puna finish,she can come back to uncle mumu.

That day was hell on earth cuz u need to see her rage , insults, abuses....I just dey smile for where I dey say if u finish,carry Ur pangolo and leave.....that was the end of the whole relationship shit.

Advice of the day : If u want to die young,hack your girlfriend's WhatsApp, Facebook,Instagram and co... Chech Ur blood pressure first before doing that shit cuz u ll never believe what u ll see..

Goodnight,by the way,am looking for job.

I would love to have the app. If you will help.

melinga:
Dat innoson Dia shouldn't be Dia. Just d logo alone is superb

I share the same thoughts also. But I think when it gains more acceptance, there wouldn't be any need for that.