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Amotolongbo:
If you read my post well, I I started with your points are valid in sane clime.

But many case studies in Nigeria have nullified the points.

If Ambode was given the second term ticket, would he lose the gubernatorial election.
The fact is that the[b] plan of the Godfather prevailed.[/b]

Get your fact correctly, the call for ambode removal emaniated from prominient party members like former governor aregbesola, it all started from the party members, tinubu as a leader had no choice than to flow along, moreover the replacement is just another son.
Tinubu had no plan to replace ambode, politic is all about where interest alligns so its a case of win win for both electorates & Godfather

ChiomaCa:
I'm honest with my story. And I have never for once deny him of sexual intimacy. Infact, most time I make move, almost all the time. I swear to God Almighty. I'm feeling as if I'm ugly and not good looking enough

From ur story i don't see any indication that ur hubby does not love you, maybe he loves you in a religious way, however most men pamper fvck women dey love in bed, i think he has some sexual preference he is probably shy or he does not want to do them with you out of respect he has for you or he might even be scared of how you will feel if he proposes such preferences to you.
Some men prefer to keep their sexual pervasion outside marriage, cos they want a perfect image of a decent/virtuous wife in their head.
way forward as his wife are you ready to become a LovePeddler for your hubby, upgrade your sex life and give him whatever he is looking for out there,

cococandy:
The wedding vows do not include being “sexually available as required”, It’s not a sex slavery contract. Yes consensual sexual relationship is a reasonable expectation of a marriage. It’s not however a justification to ignore [b]when one person doesn’t feel like having sex and expect them to just be available because they are married regardless of what’s going on with them at the time. [/b]They are a person not a chattel sex slave.

There’s no interpretation y’all won’t attribute to wedding vows. Except what they actually mean. Because if you actually thought much about the wedding vows like you’re pretending to, the last sentence you made wouldn’t be that amusing to you.

why is it alway women(wives) who don't "FEEL LIKE", no sane man will go nut just becos his wife is not available once in a yle buh how can you not feel like for straight 3 months or more,except their is an unresolved difference that is self centeredness or wickedness.
Marriage is all about sacrifices, it not a when i feel like i will do my responsibility. i also hope men don't feel like dropping money for home upkeep cos They are a person not ATM.
In as much as most wives still see sex as a tool to exploit men into doing whatever they want, a typical woman feel sex denial is her greatest weapon, which is why men must up there game tew, if you av to cheat to stay safe or sane, bro cheat.

Emaprince:
Your last paragraph is correct but nobody will be stabbing anybody

I think that's just waht a man needs from a woman - sex

you the 1st time a man discover amazon world, it took him few days for the princess to elope with him, who made the 1st move for sex , if you aint gud @ guessing you can go on date with pocohantas to watch wonderwoman.

naa man wey no sabi fvck go talk say men like. sex pass woman. give a woman a gud fvck n you will see what most men don't see

pocohantas:
All that women bring nothing but sex is nothing but emotional blackmail and guilt tripping. Men want to be appreciated for just existing. Even a jobless man would cry out if his wife isn’t respecting him, but everyday they tell women to go work and earn respect.


Yes, the thing in between women’s leg is very important to them. Remove toto and men would be stabbing themselves to death on the streets. They need to fck and suck bobby to maintain 50% sanity.

If sex is only important to men, why are ladies spending much on dildos, aunty why is there alway cucumber in your kitchen

cococandy:
Coming from men who ask women what they bring to the table when they can’t go a few weeks without trying to get between a woman’s leg.

I was reading some comments on that thread where the wife was denying her husband sex. It was really amusing to see how heated some men got from the idea of not having sex for a few weeks. Some likened it to torture. Some said the woman deserves to die for being wicked. I don’t think there was any of kind of I’ll word that wasn’t used to describe that lady.

Ah ah. So our body is worth that much yet they have the nerve to ask what women bring to the table. Smh

yeah a woman's body is worth something, that is why we pay, say 2k, 5k ,10k or more, maybe that is why some of us are fond of asking ladies, how much ??

Ishilove:
So what will you say about people who can go up to a year without sex?? Toh

we are talking about whu don't ishi -with- love making

pocohantas:
Kanye West spotted with new girlfriend. Everywhere is quiet, redpillers are happy.

No one is telling us how it is too soon.

No one is telling us how his prick would soon reduce for fucking another woman.

Just good ol LOGICAL comments and well wishes.

A woman can even drop dead and the man would marry in seconds because despite claiming not to benefit from marriage, they are always quick to replace an ex or late wife.

Men are such strange and selfish creatures. Even when they don’t want you, they still do not want another man to want you. If they have their way, once you break up with them, you’ll be confined to a lifetime of posting crypic messages on WhatsApp . That is why they spend productive time monitoring their EXes, hoping the next man pumps and dump. So they can rush to Nairaland to tell us how their EX is 45, single and frustrated, while they are now happily married to a more beautiful woman, with two kids, a 6 by 6 bed, one Firman generator and a Toyota Corolla.

if kim could decide to flaunt a boy in public pre-divorce what makes it illogical for kanye to move on with a woman,@least kanye tried & made several attempt @ saving the marriage, what did "my gurl"kim do other than going places with a teenage boy.
Men are selfish, just as women are gold diggers, cos the only party whu starts to profit here is kim.
i see you are alway adding weight in the wrong places .. i hereby prescribe brain diet

Elinosweet143:
No, on top say him beat her join, that my dear is bullshit

He slapped her, he was wrong buh maybe she needs the slap for a reset ... bullshit is when a woman does shakara pre marriage and stil continue to do shakara post marriage, bullshiti is when a man have to fast & pray before he can see his wife pant.

Cantonese:
Very myopic assertion friend. How did you get to the conclusion suddenly that his wife was wrong? If the wife decides to pursue the matter legally, then he goes to jail for what is called “marital rape”. The man was wrong in all areas.

OP claimed to be a good husband and father. What stopped him from finding out what was wrong with his “beautiful wife”? In marriages couples pass through certain emotional challenges that make sex the least of issues that bother them. In such moments sex becomes a big issue. It behoves the other partner to help find a solution, otherwise the marriage could be on a path of destruction. Seeing that his wife was pushing him away, he should have given her time to fix her emotional challenges and all would be well again. Now we see that OP is a very inexperienced husband.

“There is simply no submissiveness in that woman”. How? Did OP tell you that he had other issues aside from sex? Submissiveness is not all about sex, friend, otherwise at your command either your wife or husband would jump into bed like a slave.

OP now has done his worst and presently receives the worst of reactions from his wife and total loss of respect. Now also trust is lost. OP exposes himself as a rapist too. He cannot be trusted with women around him.

He needs to keep appealing to his wife, make her begin to respect him again. Find out what the emotional issues are and help her overcome them. That’s the way forward.

In the course of denying him sex for month, what makes you think he did not try to inquiry what was wrong or even begged her shamelessly to put the tip.
Op was wrong buh is it right for a woman to fail in her matrimonial duties, you all shouting jail is this case even admissible in court and if it is how many husband don go jail since 1960.
I personally don't see why he should keep begging the wife, he as shown remorse so why should he stay long on his kneels, that will only empower the woman more to punish him, apologise and look away cos apologising everyday is like keeping a wound wet everyday.
These sex starving of a thing is an issue every naija husband can relate to, women use sex as weapon tew much

Elinosweet143:
Give her some space but keep the communication line open either via WhatsApp or anyother means u knw she wld see and read, send her voicenotes if possible, keep telling her how much u love and miss her and how much she meant the world to u, keep telling her how beautiful she is, just make sure u praise her daily but try as much as possible not bring up the issue untill you have penetrated her mind and soul and she's willing to talk to you, then you apologize and explain why you did what u did and laslas compensate her with a goft

On top say he sleep with in wife why is their so much bullshit in the 21st century.

cococandy:
Your wife needs to divorce you. Unfortunately she’s not here to read the advice. It would be thoroughly disgusting being married to a rapist. Excuse me while I puke

What he did might be wrong buh not out of place, marriage is not about when its convenient for the man or the wife, the man has every right to her body just as she has right to his. as much as i would av liked to preach *understanding*, i won't cos the reason why wives lock up there legs most times is for selfish reasons, they believes that how to get a man to do whatever they want
Imagine your husband decides not to drop money because he is not in the mood or doesnt feel like it for months, if he mistakenly forget money in the wardrobe and you take it ... does that make you a thief

Even tho tinubu might have some portfolio to consider him good for the office of presidency i don't like the idea of one man having all the power, a kingmaker becoming a king is tew much of a power for any man to handle without messing up.
If tinubu becomes president nigerians better brace up for more tax .. you toast woman for road sef dem fit tax you

Ladyhippolyta88:
Which jobs?even military men and those in the marines have time for their kids even at night or during the evening's you can always have time it is nothing but a lame excuse from you ... Because na only Lagos I dey talk about your argument is very weak it still doesn't stop you from spending time with your kids what happened to weekends,night time with the kids and all talk another thing jaare.
Good for you,some of us our parents had time for us and understood that we were the major reason for their working to provide for the family and no matter how busy they were they never failed to have quality time dedicated to us because a child's best friend while growing up should be his/her parents and your argument is just weak stop blaming mothers some fathers are terrible and the children are not dumb to see that for themselves, if you believe mothers are terrible then give your self sense now and plan on how to make time for your kids before you will start blaming your wife as the reason for their distance towards you.

Yorubas will say, ènu dun ro éfor i.e with mouth everyone can make a sweet vegetable soup . you are a woman and i don't expect you to ever understand, only the married ones can relate.
Also know you are saying the right thing which should be the norm, buh there is something called "uncontrollable factor" .regardless men still creat time buh the fact remains fathers don't stand a chance with mothers when it comes to "TIME". its one game we can't win

Ladyhippolyta88:
The so called 60% of the finances you to provide is no excuse to not make out time for your children some women also finance up to 60% and if not more but never fail to make out time for their children.

Something is already wrong with your approach when you think it is only idleness that will make you see it worthwhile to spend quality time with your children.Better rethink how you reason on this money is made outside blah blah blah what a weak excuse because in your mind in 2022 na only men dey work dey provide because you don't have wives who assist you in the financial department thereby reducing any so called busyness your job may take from you in having time to spend with your kids.

My talk is not cheap because that is the reality of some people and it is working out fine for them.You are just a selfish person who will find it hard to relate with your children and already coming out with an excuse by blaming your wife for it not all women are like that so talk another thing abeg

Call it excuses or whatever you like, but the truth remains some jobs don't really leave much time for men to spend with there kids ... even some career women are caught up in this tew, e.g you live in lagos you wake as early as 5am set out by 6am to beat traffic and cos of that same traffic you return home very late tired & useless, how you wan get quality time, that is the reality of some working dad n mom.
My parent did not have much time for us then, buh we understood that was how they could afford us things our peers dream of ... maybe children would have understood better if mothers don't bad mouth fathers in front of their kid's, i think mothers are majorly the culprit here, cococandy don't do it

Ladyhippolyta88:
Preach abeg,spending quality time with your kids,being open a vulnerable to them by making them your friends will definitely help any child to bond with their father.

What those men seem to suffer in old age is the fact that they never made out time for their children while they were growing up and the kids could also see how badly such terrible fathers treated their wives.

Talk is cheap, it takes idleness to spend quality time with kids, in most cases the man is saddle with the responsibility of providing @least 60% of finances if not 100% .... except for the freelancers money is made outside, a man as to be out, whu wants to be a dead beat father, it not as if men have choice to be full house husband
The truth is most women don't speak good of there husband to the kids, they alway wana give impression if not for me(ur mom) your father won't have paid your school fee or buy cloth for xmas, most mothers even ring it into there kids ears , your father is stingy if not for me we won't have fed this week.
The way mothers sire the kids is a reflection of what we see in our society today, women want all attention

MsFaith:
We want you to start now, we are ready for you.

Coward!

i said when the mature ladies are ready, you must have missed that.

MsFaith:
It is really not enough to hate Nigerian women or other women on a faceless forum. That reeks of cowardice!

Don't hide behind the four walls of a room and be typing rubbish, especially on a faceless forum like small children playing hide and seek.

Come out nigga, and fight for what you stand for.

Get placards! Write your bitterness towards women on it, like a protest and display it.

Grow some balls nigga, not only when you cannot be identified, you coward!

I challenge you.

Or another solution, get your guns, come out of your houses and start killing women or Nigerian women! Let the world feel your anger towards the female gender. It's that simple!

Have you seen 21st century vent pipes expose, it was concealed for a reason ... nairaland is a window you don't have to see the pipes and if you must see are you ready to get messed up cos we can start wen you want.

Truth is bitter, whatever redpill accuse women of that is not true ... let the matures ladies should outline it let objectives mind judge

anonymous1759:



Abegi make una stop this nonsense “psychological effect“ It’s better to be fatherless than to have a useless father it’s vice versa .

Kids with both mum and sad still end up useless. Kids from a single parent still do well.
The most important is to have either a good father or mother the kids will be good.

My advice to the lady . Don’t remarry for now. If you don’t want your children to suffer.
You can remarry when they’re grown and can fend themselves.
[b]There’s a reason God gave us 2 kidneys but only one is functioning. [/b]Madam OP you can do it alone .

Oga kindly speak for yourself, if naa one kidney you get but for the norm humans have two kidney n both works interchangeably, due to circumstance that people live on one kidney does not negate the fact. be guided

Vinnie2000:
I have a Feeling that this Reno Omokri is an Hypocrite!

This kind of men, if they mistakenly meet those Destiny Etiko or Daniella Okeke kind of Big Yanch, classy Chics, they would spend Money Like mumu!

Doing Sh*ts secretly but deceiving Pple online, just like Feminists!

how hard do you think its to meet naija celeb oloshos, for a man that can afford to dash out $20k. if Reno was a baller than those olosho you mention go dey even find him not the other way

not impress with the view i see, the building could pass for a church

omenkaLives:
Groundbreaking was done in 2013 he said, but it was long abandoned.

Can you please ask him, under normal circumstances how long should it take i.e ideal duration

omenkaLives:
A very close friend worked on this project and shared very interesting pictures with me over a year ago.

It's a massive project indeed and these images sure don't do justice to its magnitude.

God bless Nigeria.

Watch how those who HATE to hear anything good in their lives still find a way to wail over this.

Pls do you know when the project construction started .... just want to know the time frame it takes

mrvitalis:
And some people think north plans to hand over to south west LMAO

did Gen. abukabar not handover to obasanjo even during a military regime
Did north not handover to jonathan when he won, Its not to the north to plan handover, the major determinant is who wins.
laugh all you want buh remember ur rent go soon due

spy24:
Ogbeni Keep your adage to yourself!

If you like preach from today till tomorrow the reaction and outcry generated by the incident is already enough proof

Naa today una don dey cry & react like chemical reaction, keeping proofing without any achievement to show for it ... olofo

JosephJP:
You seem naive, i understand.
https://dailypost.ng/2022/01/03/there-was-no-attempt-to-kidnap-me-teni-clarifies/

Naa you bring up kidnap issue, i was talking of the main news, her show was disrupted @least according her due to violence/chaos that remains my point, how many shows were disrupted in lagos detty december

cococandy:
That’s the Nigerian way. The most important thing to them about a woman is who is in her vagina. Thoroughly disgusting

Before making that assertion have you considered, If funke akindele, kemi adetigba, nancy isime, funmi iyanda, toolz to mention a few, post cars or mansion will it be the same outburst "olosho" is it the same
I don't have issues with women fucking around to gather wealth, what is more disgusting is posting online "Hard work pays" when ur hand work is not even clean.

which one will call olosho buh turns out she is not, anybody can mention just one

spy24:
You people claim he wasn't undermined yet SW Governors are fuming

You people should continue fooling yourself

Anybody can fume, buh the video is out there for every objective mind to watch ...

yoruba adage says, eni rani'se lan'beru a'kin beru eni tii a je fun, (interpretation naa person wey send you errand you suppose fear not the person you deliver the message to)

In a democratic dispensation, things are done via process & diagolue, not violence cos i still don't know what you people sanwo olu to do in that situation buy cane n beat them or drag them

airsaylongcome:
Would he have said the same thing if he had arrived the estate to fierce looking soldiers resisting him and his team? Would he have asked Private Aliyu Abubakar (made up name) to call the IG and AGF if said Private told him he could not cross the gate? Or would he have called his immediate superior to report the resistance from the army? The CSP did his job especially in refusing to divulge the strength of his men for security of the operation. But the barest minimum he could have done is to contact his immediate superior who have him the marching orders. Surely he did not get his orders directly from the AGF and IG. He got a signal from his immediate superior and needed to have contacted that superior for further directions given that a more superior government official was requesting that from him. There is a chain of command and he could have reported to the chain for further instructions and directives

Instead, he was just bowing up and down like a Japanese mannequin saying "With all due respect sir..." without according the due respect

what you need to ask yourself is who control the army & police, an order coming from the AGF & IG is coming from aso rock, just as the army can only act upon orders from aso rock ... so can aso rock give two contradicting orders.
Via constitution the police are only answerable to the IG while the IG is only answerable to FG, any state governor that has issue with police should go thru FG, why talk to errand boyz when you have the connection to the main boss

Vinnie2000:
Read both sides of the Arguments on this issue..
BUT
Truly, there are Governors Malami and his Evil Northern Cabal would not Try this Bullshit with!...
[b]I Know for one [/b]that Ex Gov James Ibori or Alamieyessigha would NEVER take such disrespect from a CSP.. Or it is Seriake Dickson or Timipre Silva?

Even with Yahaya Bello or Godwin Obaseki, the CSP would Tremble and find a means to get to the IGP!

Sanwo-Olu is SOFT, just like Jonathan! Let's Stop Lying to ourselves!

You know base on say you be wikipedia or you be oracle, your point would have hold water of you backed it up with a reference, 1999 - 2022 is enough time.

spy24:
Shut up! with your due process English

Can a Yoruba man go to sokoto or yobe to stop the governor from attending to an issue in his state

Sanwo Olu was undermined make ona stop all this grammar

Its necessary i shut up after dropping my opinion, or what next bringing tribalism into a matter likes this depict you must be some low life, hunger don give you brain ulcer

JosephJP:
Mumu, you jumped the part Teni told you it was "fake news" and nothing as such ever happened.

ignorance is not an excuse tho, perhaps you are less privileged, consider this a support.


she gave the fake news herself, abi
https://www.nairaland.com/6922059/don-japa-teni-leaves-rivers