julie90:
I have been working for this company for two years. In December 2021, there was a change in management, a new manager was assigned to my Department. Before the change in management, I applied for some jobs in November 2021 but I didn't get any response.

Things between my new manager and I developed really quickly (he is not married and he is 10 years older than me). Although we have been working together, when he became the new manager we started dating. it was mutual, it wasn't like he forced me. We liked each other and we started dating in March 2022. We kept things professional in the office. Nobody in the office knows about this even till now.

Those companies I applied to in November 2021 reached out to me for an interview. I got two offers at the same time. Both offers come with great pay (similar to what my boyfriend currently earns) and a significant boost to my career. I spoke to my boyfriend about it and being my boss he told me to reject both offers, he told me he would be able to cater for my needs that the only commitment he has now is paying for his house and once he is done paying for it, he would have more money to take care of me and I didn't need a job where they would pay me what he's currently earning and be in a role similar to his.

I told him it's not the money but it would be about moving up the ladder in my career. These are offers people do not have, now I have two, he is asking me to reject them. He told me even if I have to move the only offer I should take is the one close to the company where we work which has a lower pay compared to the second offer. I told him I would go with the second offer which has more opportunities for me. Both offers are in the same state although my preferred offer is a bit far from where I live but it is still a reasonable location to commute everyday. At one point he told me, I was too ambitious and I took it as a compliment.

I noticed he changed since then, he informed the company management that I was leaving and we began the handover process, I noticed he changed after we had the discussion about me accepting the second offer but I thought it was about him missing me. May 31 was my last day and I noticed few days to my last day he was acting strange so I asked him what the matter was. He said he doesn't feel anything for me and we should stop seeing each other.

This is a man that was really excited when we were dating, all of a sudden doesn't feel anything for me because I got a high paying job? Is it wrong for a woman to be ambitious? When has it become a crime for a woman to aim high in her career? My role will still be to support him. I have never been rude to him and I am not going to be rude to him because we now earn the same salary. I really like him and I feel disappointed that he could act this way.

Is it now a crime for a woman to be ambitious?

Domo1000:
I do not think the school has that influence. I have message my school on several occasion but their respond is that they can not expedite the process.

Did you send a message to your school?

If so can you share their response?

Did you email any other person in the embassy that you think we can also message for assistance?

KazikageSama:


You have to apply online through the TRMS platform then you'd pick your desired bank to collect it (https://www.tradesystem.gov.ng/index.html) but please note that this is subject to the availability of USD or ZAR in the branch you chose else you may have to try another branch. I had to liase with like 5branches in my own case to get some.

AGMAMA:
Help o! Since November 26 2022 no news yet
Not a first timer in SA
Also got a good travel history
Now that itenary has expired will that be an issue?
Also my leave has expired (I attached the letter to my application) hope it won’t affect? I applied for multiple entry though
I called VFS Abuja yesterday they don’t seem to know when it will be ready! This particular one stress me and I have a valid long term Uk visa on passport!
I have track passport tire! How did we offend SA embassy so we can beg

Johncables402:


If you visit the place you will know better . See my friend, I lived there for many years and I know what I'm talking about. You are talking about things you see on tv that are lies,go to the airport first and see Zulu primitive people with no clothes on and you will see how uneducated these people are . I travel everywhere there even to the villages, so I know the place .

oldienavie:
Hi guys, I need experiences from people flying into Nigeria(MMIA) Lagos.
My family is not going to be able to meet me at the airport this time and I am weighing up my options with transit.

I have a friend who said he knows someone that does transportation that he can come pick me up and take me to an hotel, however I am a little skeptical with that option with the high rates of insecurity in the country.

My opinion is that sometimes being annonymous to your service provider is better, but I am a little concerned with the security level of Uber in Lagos.

Are uber drivers known to kidnap their clients particularly people boarding them at MMIA ?
Can uber hold their drivers responsible if something untoward were to happen to their clients, or if they are known to connive with kidnappers etc ?

I just need experienced info and also from uber drivers to make a better decision.

THanks all.

This is a bit quite easy for me. You tell the truth but wrapped in a well garnished unverifiable lies.
If it is 200k I have in mind but I currently earn 70k. You can go either of these routes

1. My gross salary is 840k per month but the company rents a two bedroom flat for me worth 300k per annum; of an average in a year I get a bonus of between 200-500k per annum; the staff bus picks me up everyday and I am entitled to a free lunch that is worth about 300k. I am actually looking at a range of about 2.5million per month if I won't get all these benefits.

2. I have currently work in this recent capacity for 2years at 840k per annum. I am currently due for promotion any moment from now and because of my impressive appraisal scores, I should be looking at between 1.5-2.0million as my salary range. I am looking at 2.5million range for this role in your organization

adespecial:
Thanks for sharing your opinion. I might just register now and wait till march before traveling ( that is if there's no lockdown). May God continue to protect us from this deadly pandemic.

boyboy2020:


Going as a visitor but have plans of getting a resident permit, Yes I booked a hotel already

Anacye:
Wanting to go to Guyana but was told to use an agent who is in South Africa and who said I need to get South African visa and be in South Africa for a week or so to granted permit to travel to Guyana from South Africa. That it’s easier from South Africa to Guyana as it’s one of their visa free countries. Please how true is that?
(2) the agent charged me 600k for South Africa visa,please can I get the visa without an agent?what permit would enable one go to another country from South Africa if I’m not a South African citizen ?
(3) has anyone travel to Guyana or any other country this way with the SA visa and permit ?
Please advice me.

Potorico043:

If the PPA don't want to do anything aboutabout it, your friend should report the situation to her LGI or ZI, then she will follow their instructions because safety of every corp member is paramount.

Yustash001:
She can simply ask them to reject her and look for another PPA

lexy2014:


So did d FG hold marathon meetings with state department officials like it is doing right now?

Brandstudio01:
Please Election violence is a crime. Let the states maintain her position. Enough of breakdown of rule of law.

I'm only ashame USA is doing what those in a position to do so cannot do for us here in Nigeria

Abeg jare , I will Design a Professional Logo for your product or Business for 2k Only.

jlinkd78:
US please stand your ground cos it appears this ban threat is already yielding results

roszilman:

US becareful ooo! FG is are freaks ooo, give them a chance and they'll fill u up with lies (liar muhammed). Just hold on to ur decisions.

Femiolunloyo:


As a Nigerian that you are, have you ever heard any of our leaders in Nigeria calling out South Africans as lazy people Never.

Now, how many times have you heard South African leaders calling Nigerians in South Africa drug lords and prostitute ring leaders Of course, countless number of times. That is why their people continue to echo it instead of the system fighting crime in its totality.

For your information, our leaders form the narratives; they mould and influence our beliefs. The local leaders in South Africa gave meaning to the general perception of an average Nigerian in South Africa - for political gains.

Geenosko:


Let me attempt to explain the bolded part and maybe address the other issues you.

The categories of visas that lead to permanent residency in South Africa are very limited, and I will list them from the top of my head,, Spousal visa that's five years, Critical skills maybe two to three years.

You can be working for a company here on a work visa which you can renew at intervals and even after ten years on such visas, the immigration law doesn't give you any pathway to permanent residency, compare this with countries that are more welcoming

student like wise can start from undergraduate to Phd or masters to Phd and all the total time spent in the country doesn't count towards any thing with respect to settling down in the country after studies.

I somewhat agree with you that people in STEM and those with critical skills have an easier pathway to permanent residency, but let's be honest those people are a very tiny minority and I believe that you are in SA, most job adverts are for SA Citizens and permanent residents and not like these jobs are readily available, SA economy was already messed up before covid19.

Quite a significant number of companies in the hospitality industry have strong preference for foreigners for quite a number of reasons, I have on quite a number of occasions have to recruit staff for different hospitality groups I can't mention here and this supports my claim.

Are South Africans hard working , yes they are but you are more likely to come across the entitled ones than those who really want to put their heads down and do the work

Geenosko:
Summary of our epistles here is that SA is very "immigrant unfriendly"

You can be here for 8 years legally and still not have a pathway to Permanent Residency. The way their immigration system is designed, it's very unwelcoming.

Secondly SA is not a place to come and hustle and even if you have critical skills, it takes "luck" for you to get any job.


Thirdly The average South African has this resentment against foreigners especially Nigeria. It becomes worse when you are doing well. I once sat my colleagues down and told them, I have the immigrant mindset which means I have to work hard and you guys have the entitlement mindset and are mostly lazy. That's why some companies prefer foreign workers because they are committed and hard working. You employ South Africans, the next thing na unionism and strikes and they cripple your business.

Ebus12:
My fellow nairalanders
Good afternoon

I have been a member for close to a year now.... Even though I have been a guest for about 2 years before joining.

I have sought advice here twice and your advice has really helped a lot. Please help me once more my people

I just got admitted into a school in the south East while my parents live in the North.

My parents (my mum especially) pleaded with me to stay with her eldest sister and her children for a while, at least for my first year in school

I didn't want it at first ... But I had to agree just cuz of the way my mom was now on my neck.
She worried I knew nothing about the east.... She wanted me to get a bit used to the East

With the help of my dad..... She succeeded in convincing me to stay in her sister's house.

My first weeks in the house was quiet peaceful and fun not untill my cousin brother started looking for his biscuits

Funny right

It seemed funny that a 23 years old dude would turn out to be a devil just cuz of an ordinary 100 naira biscuits.
Mind you ... He is the only son
He asked everyone and everyone denied taking it. He asked me and I too denied it.... Cuz I didn't take it.

He beat hell out of me... Insisting I was the thief.
We became almost enemies and didn't talk to each other for about 2 months.
Aways from that ... We reconciled tho

But he still remained a trouble to my life
Always beating me as if am an animal.... He beats his sister too.

But it seems mine is worst
He has stopped me from sitting on a particular chair in the parlour.
He bullies me ... Telling me there is nothing I, my parents, or anyone can do to him.

I received the beating of my life today because the Tv remote got spoilted and he is insisting it's me. He accuses me of virtually everything that goes wrong in the house.

I'm getting sick, depressed and it's affecting me alot.

I don't want to disturb my mum about it ... It might cause problem between she and her sister
I don't want to be the cause of anyone's quarrel with another person.

I wish to go home. And I can't go back home now ... Cuz of the Corona virus and the inter state lockdown.

Please what do I do ?
Help me out
He gets worst by the day.

Caringfather:
Good evening all

I took all kids out for clothes shopping just before this pandemic and I bought clothes including under wears for all kids but my wife wasn’t happy because I bought bras and under wears for her niece. She said the clothes are fine but I have no right to buy under wears for her.

osinawanta:
Happy Sunday family pls I need help on how to bring my south Africa friend to Nigeria for the first time any link or contact will be appreciated...
She is military

Nonkala:
SO I applied wt my son for SA visa and was refused on the ground of previously deported when have never been to SA or deported from another country so it’s a false accusation.
I sent an email asking for a proof dat I ve been deported and was asked to reapply wt d mail I sent.
I replied telling them I can never reapply and if dey don’t look into my first application, dey wld hear from my lawyer if dey don’t do the right thing.

Pls What’s ur opinion on this

WordFamous:
Hey Nonkala,

There's no point threatening them. I mean, they hold all the cards and power here.

I'll suggest you bury the hatchet and reapply as advised. And don't make any reference to the earlier reason you were denied.

Just do a fresh application and hope for the best this time.

Best wishes

Vick6666:
Hi guy I have been studying in South Africa for 4 years now I came back home December 2019 to apply for extension of my study visa when I reapplied this year January my visa was denied due to forged medical aid the person I gave money to do momentum medical aid for me in South Africa did fake for me i Decided to do another medical aid momentum when I wanted to submit I was told it was 11months again I decided to even do medical aid up till 2021 June and they also removed the letter of appeals which I included to explain the issue of forged medical aid at vfs hence I submitted a fresh application and my visa was still denied again saying forged medical aid/cover also on the rejection letter adverse record was ticked...please what can I do I need help!!!

saintobi009:
Hi guys , please I want to certify documents here in SA for my cousin who his about to apply with me as his sponsor , where do I get it done please

hadassahnadra:

Yes,that was what he said

akpoguma1989:
I travelled to imo state where I stayed at any hotel, I asked the receptionist to get a girl for me to spend the night, during the night we engaged in sex and used condom throughout after sex I discovered that I had a small boil that has burst on my abdomen.

My issue is that vagina fluid came in contact with my boil that has burst on my abdomen, is there any risk of having hiv, I am presently taking truvada but the side effects are much, note that the condom did not burst, am I at risk or just unnecessary worried

hadassahnadra:
He said he's going to attach letters with court affidavit and send it through courier. Should I tell him not to bother? And while reapplying,where they asked if I've been denied Visa once,should I write yes?because i heard writing yes is an automatic denial

Hillybankz:
After waiting patiently for my application that I submitted sinc june. Finally no visa was issued on my passport.. So my brother in south African ask me to look for any African country that I cn start life wit a sum of one million.. Pls NL which African country can I go without visa nd start life afresh..
PS.. Am a graduate of education chemistry nd also a computer engineer

marviessss:
There is one Ghanaian lecturer in fuoye
Dat does this sex for Mark stuff
Amazoma ,abi wetin Dem call him name

Yupng:


I lived in SA for close to 3 years, both capetown and Johannesburg and I will state this clearly, South africans hates Nigerians with extreme passion across all levels of society. On a first glance, you might not see this, but just live among them for a while, you will begin to notice the deep hatred they have towards black africans, especially Nigerians.

Yupng:


This uprising will not stop, as their government also wants low income foreigners to leave. Stop encouraging Nigerians to go south africa where at all levels they are discriminated against. Besides, 80 percent of Nigerian's living in south Africa are extremely poor, as people over there would rather trust a snake than a Nigerian.

Yupng:


For once, Nigerians in SA please speak the truth. It is this falsified information you spread that makes many Nigerians rush to SA and end up jobless and go into illegal businesss.

Do you know how many Nigerians have been killed by south africans and their policemen? Because it has not happened to you doesn't mean it is not happening. If you have any respect for your life or you believe you have any sought of future, do not go to south Africa.