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fnep2smooth:
Maybe they have invest in you, or you have known too much and letting you go will be a big blow to them. Some train their staff and they sign a contract not to leave for some years just to gain what they have invest on you.

Oga you nor understand the issue at stack. Narcissists do not invest in any body. They are always about themselves. They do not care about anyone, even if they happen to ,the bigger picture is always themselves

frozen70:
It's just a pity

She is living in her own world and she us just high for nothing

Just ignore those areas you can't control and move on

If someone doesn't value you, you absence makes no sense to the person

I feel so. I pity the OP

DamnnNiggarr:
I thought baba is in London receiving treatment?

gaby:
My brother, it wasn't easy but I braced it because I had my mind made up.

Do not shut the door to others because they might just be the ones to help you navigate through this difficult time.

and children where not involved

Strange things every where

immortalcrown:
Some time ago, I came across a post that says there is a new electronic bangle that stops snoring.

I can pay anything for this. Please how so I get it

Any link

Iliveforever:
It’ll take mod another 10mins to update

it is called bad belle

Any link please

dopeonlove:
It's for Matured Minds only .
Not everything must be done by vawulence . Besides , don't judge by just the Op's story pls. You need to hear her side of the story and see reasons for her behaviour and actions.

But what about the relationship with other members of the family the OP spoke about

loosingfaith519:
I recently discovered my husband has an addiction and I can't stay married to him.
As soon as money enters his hand, he starts funding some online app and start gambling.
We got married last year Nov.
We have needs and plans we agreed to achieve before the end of March. Which a better accommodation is one of our first goal. Our present accommodation is not ok at all.
On my own part, I'm saving to meet up with our Target, but I discovered, he has nothing. He collected contributions last month, over 200k. All that money wasted. He can't account for it.
January salary has entered, he has started wasting it again.

I'm expecting him to provide 300k at the end of this month. So, that when I sum it with mine, we can have over 600k. Get a decent accommodation and invest the rest.
We need to plan, save for our baby, but his attitude with money is not encouraging me.
The truth is, my husband is stressing me for lack of accountability.

Pls, how do I go about a peaceful divorce? I'm confused, because I'm pregnant.

All the things I'm seeing him do, suffocate me.
What do I do?
Pls, advise me.

I think you are fed up for other reasons. What kind of woman does that ! only 4 months and just one incidence, and your only thought is divorve ? abeg

BluntTheApostle:
A few weeks back, my niece brought a man to me and introduced him as the one she wishes to marry.

Her father died while she was about 15, and I have been the one taking care of her, through school and all. So, she sees me as her father.

Alright, so she brought this young man to me. I have nothing against him. He is finishing up a master's degree, and even though he is not into anything really specific (he is a hustler sort of a person, combining different jobs), I do not have a problem with that. He appears focused, and really hardworking.

However, the problem is that he does not have a place of his own, and does not appear to have any plans in that direction.

So, last week, I asked him a whole lot of questions, and it appears like he would be marrying my baby, and she would live with him in their family house. Other families living there include the man's aged parents, some uncles and aunties, and their children. He was not specific whether aunties or uncles included blood relations and their spouses. I didn't press him on that.

Now, I have also sat my niece down, and had a chat with her. She is only 20+ (would be 21 in June). I tried to be as neutral as possible, but I may have been too blunt sometimes because she has been defensive, including accusing me of not wanting to fund the wedding.

Her mother reasons with me, but the girl has become deaf. She doesn't want to listen.

My point is that the wedding can be put on hold till the young man makes a firm decision on accommodation. All this: "I will consider it; I am considering it; it is a part of my plan" is not conclusive at all, and I don't want her to go and start her married life under the same roof with so many people.

The man is 30 (although he looks older to me), and I am beginning to feel that he is manipulating her.

What do you think?

Which of you has experienced living in your husband's family house? How was the experience?

For me, I think of it just like living in a polygamous family, and it makes me uneasy because this girl is too young, and too fragile.

Your opinions and experiences are highly welcome.

It may be all that I would need to reach a decision concerning this knotty issue.

20 years should still be building her life naaaaa. You have to be active in this matter, or lese she will blame you in future for not acting more decisive

elasticlala:
Please I need your candid advise on this issue. I have never been this confused on what to do. I have been working for some years as an Assistant lecturer in a Private University with a gross pay of 113k per month. I completed my PhD last year and got 3 other offers in Nigeria, the highest was of 177k per month as L2. I had already filled the agreement form to resume there by March 1st, which is just about 4 days from now. Just as I was about moving out my thing yesterday from my current place of work to the new place, I got an offer from another African country to resume 15th of March for a Government Academic job of a monthly salary of 1000 USD which comes with a monthly accommodation allowance of 100 USD and nothing more.

I am lost in the pool of consideration & don’t even know which would be the best for me in my career.

NB: pls don’t mind my grammar o; my PhD is in Computer Science and not in Linguistics and languages.

Thank you in anticipation

If it is a French speaking , then just go, learn french and run to Canada

engrrichie92:
I'm a tech bro, I currently do 1.5M Monthly in Nigeria and I just got a job offer last month in the UK for 4K pounds monthly(after tax)

My guys there be complaining about bills and how hard it is to save and all over there

So, If you were me, which would you pick and why?

Modified: will also like to hear from those in the UK; what do you think guys?...Now that you know how it is over there, what would you advice?

@lalasticlala...please help push to front page for more engagements

I do not understand this question. New medical graduates do not even earn up to 4k pounds. 2k pounds in the uk after tax is a big money any time any day. What about the opportunity of becoming a UK citizen in 5 years, and you and all the generation after you, will never que for visa to over 160 countries again !

This cameroun keeper is a quota system keeper

Cmanforall:
E don red now

The disgrace at this stage is worse... better they were knocked out

Exactly

Yes cameron has been cheating. in the first match they got 2 penalties against the BURKINABES, and the ref cheated the Comoroos in favour of cameroun

[quote author=Albert0011 post=109962225]Good evening to everyone in the house.

Today my cousin sister schooling at uniben just called me this afternoon and was crying on phone that someone just scammed her on WhatsApp.

According to her,she said that she meet the girl on a WhatsApp group and the girl convinced her that there is an investment scheme that she will invest 5000 to get 10000 within 30 minutes.

Because of her naivety,she sent the money to the girl, the girl later told her that the one of 5k is no longer available that the remaining slot available to invest is 10k, so she told her to send extra 5k to balance it. She still sent the money to her.

After everything has been done, she said that my sister must send extra 7k to claim her 45k.
She still sent the money to the girl hoping that she will get the money.

Immediately she sent sent her the money, she started giving my sister excuses and later blocked her on WhatsApp.

Is there any hope that if i report the account to the bank for fraudulent activity.
Can the money be recovered or should i just tell her to forget It and move on?
she has sent me all their chats and evidences.

Moderators should help me and push it front to page.[/quote Easy solution. Print the whatsapp chat together with the account number and send it to the bank of the fraud star. This is a very easy case to treat

Omihanifa:
Congrats, the only advice I have for you now is that you should avoid bad friends and stay away from distraction ( women)

I hope you left for good purposes. I can not say avoid women, but I can say avoid bad friends. Please stay focused

Togobroz:
Happy new month to everyone and I wish to thank God for his grace so far.

I have been a hustler for long trying to make ends meet and at a point I was able to save about 1.5million naira to travel to China but unfortunately I was duped and my hard earned money went to voicemail. I kept struggling and saving money to go to Europe but I was denied visa twice to two different countries and then I gave up.

I decided not to travel again but the stress and insecurity in Nigeria has been worrisome especially in my region so I decided to travel to any french speaking African country and just experience a whole new different life outside Nigeria. My initial plan was to go to Burkina Faso or Equitorial Guinea and I did some research that would guide me as I didn't know anyone in both countries and I was just determined to go on this adventure myself.

I saved up some money which got to almost 3 million naira and then I crossed my heart and made my trip. From Nigeria I crossed into Benin Republic and then to Togo where I was supposed to cross to Burkina Faso. On getting to Togo it was quite late so I had to pass the night in a cheap hotel of 2000cfa franc. In the hotel I met some Nigerians going to Ghana with some friends based in Togo. I was hearing their conversations as they drank at the bar while I sat alone with a bottle of their local beer Castle.

Being that in Togo I discovered they hardly speak English, I decided to introduce myself to those Nigerians so that I can make some enquiry from them and that was how we all got talking and gisting till late night. The guys based in Togo told me alot about Togo and how life is cheap if one has some capital to get accommodation and start a small business. I was made to understand there is steady light, water and security in the small country. The next day I was suppose to leave for Burkina Faso I decided to pay for the hotel room for a week and explore Togo a bit. The guys I met that were based in Togo already were really helpful and they took out time to show me around, know the prices of stuffs and where to buy cheap stuffs as well. I began to fall in love with the country except for the fact that most people don't understand English, though some try to understand and speak a little so you have to scatter the English for them to understand.

I decided to find a house and few days was enough for that. I got a room and parlor self contained house for 30,000cfa a month and paid a year which is 360,000cfa. They hold 6 months as deposit and after six months I start paying 30,000cfa monthly or anyhow I wish to stretch it based on my pocket. I just furnished it a little and I am just chilling with steady light on a brief. The house has a prepaid meter so I recharge and use according to my power.

After making some deep enquiry about what business to start at least for now, I bought a tricycle they call Apsonic here in Togo. It cost 1.4million cfa brand new plus the plate number registration and all. Then I found a driver who took it on hire purchase to balance 2.5million cfa at 25,000cfa per week.

My good people, I know I have not reached where I am going but I bless God for where I am coming from. Right now I just relax myself planning my next move while every Saturday I wait to receive my weekly salary. With life here if you are someone that knows how to manage, even 1000cfa can feed you a whole day so I am really doing my best to see how much I can save by the end of this year over here and know my next move.

Please you all pray for me as I also pray for you all. The journey of a thousand miles always start with a footstep.

You write very well, obviously you have a degree. Just learn better French and in ashort while, french speaking canadian provinces will all be after you. Use the time. well. LEARN FRENCH, I RPEAT, LEARB FRENCH

CriticMaestro:
how am I a simple man?

For even asking the question .

nnennachiji:
I did this to my son’s hair
It’s my third time at it.I hope am improving
I can’t be spending $10 every two weeks
He is a toddler so not easy cutting his hair.

God bless dear ! very nice . just continue, I am sure that after 3 or 4 tries you will become perfect. Madam, please everytime you cut his hair, keep saving the money you could have spent, and you will be shocked how much money and time you would have saved.

Wale112:
Hello, I work with a few people from Nigeria. Their accent sounds like they have diarrhea coming from their mouths every time they speak. Why is the Nigeria accent so bad and nasty?


Pursue = Porshoe


DISCUSS

See this Ghana must go man

NGpatriot:
No to ipob terrorists...

for your mind, I am not IPOB, IPOB are not terrorist

NGpatriot:
The VP is a great fit

Asiwaju Tinubu is a wonderful fit..

Either way, we are are with both men.

No to old man, no to errand boy

Massiveglory:
You are a CAPITAL DISGRACE to this nation

Exactly

Emmerlee:
But that is a Siberian Husky naa

Mennnnn, I have been thinking like also. I have been looking at this canine. I want to agree with you

Beautiful Canine

TechSpecialist:
23 years now after your father's death and you've never still moved on.
Keep seeking for attention or should i say use your dad's death/fame to tactically seek for political appointment

. This is not just fair