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Romance / Re: Am I Making A Mistake? Need Some Advice by KateSpade(f): 7:09pm On Dec 16, 2012 |
Your new bf is insensitive. He should know not to ask out any female immediately after a break up if he wants a relationship. As others said, you did not give yourself time to recover, be single and regroup. Tell the guy you still have feelings for your ex and you don't want to treat him like a rebound. Don't ever date a guy because you are afraid to hurt his feelings. That's no way to live life. As for your feelings of irritation towards the new bf, thats normal. You were engaged to the other guy, you wont be able to easily transfer feelings of that level and sometimes each relationship is just different. As you grow and change, so do your relationships. |
Family / Re: Ladies, Who Would You Marry? by KateSpade(f): 7:02pm On Dec 16, 2012 |
All of those professions are demanding of time. In fact, in about 2 years I will have one of those titles. If I get married Ill make time for children if I choose to have them and will expect my spouse to do the same. |
Romance / Re: Am Sleeping With My Boss. by KateSpade(f): 6:58pm On Dec 16, 2012 |
Find a new job or find a replacement for her to sleep with. |
Romance / Re: Have Your Ever Dated A Possessive Partner ? by KateSpade(f): 6:56pm On Dec 16, 2012 |
yup, dated a man for a few months. At first things were good then he started questioning any male friend I had, telling me to change my attire, telling me to drop certain friends, not wanting me to work but just stay and live with him. Or if I was working, he wanted me to be his assistant. I would laugh because I thought he was joking, he was serious. I didn't back down and broke up with him. 1 Like |
Romance / Re: Bridges You Can't Burn by KateSpade(f): 7:43am On Dec 16, 2012 |
Flygerian.: Thanks for the advice. Discuss we will. I do disagree with you tho on your thought that if I "truly" love him distance wont matter. Maybe I'm alone with this thought but love is not enough. |
Romance / Re: Bridges You Can't Burn by KateSpade(f): 7:39am On Dec 16, 2012 |
Mynd_44: So OP, what is the result? Have you had that conversation yet? Update: We spoke (not enough time), conversation will be settled this week. However, I know my stance now. He is now beginning another round of exams, praying he passes. |
Romance / Re: Bridges You Can't Burn by KateSpade(f): 7:37am On Dec 16, 2012 |
luvmijeje: Op since u both love each other,one of the conditn 4 u 2 wait further should be formal introductn of both families. Hmmm not happening. My parents and siblings are in the states, his parents are in Nigeria but his siblings are in the states. There were professional settings where the siblings could've been introduced, it just didn't happen. I also don't see it happening without him present. |
Romance / Re: Should Parents Kiss In Front Of Children? by KateSpade(f): 8:34pm On Dec 15, 2012 |
andyanders: [b]Well it all depends. To me, It is a white man syndrome as they see nothing in it and hence their attitude. not all kissing is sexually based. Kissing is a sign of affection. Whether its a husband kissing his wife or a mother kissing her baby. Also, your notion of kissing will make a young girls hormones develop faster is stupid. Its up to parents to educate their children on what is right and wrong, and then ultimately its up to the child to make their own decision. I wonder what makes many young males so Hot, they must've all witnessed their parents having sex. 1 Like |
Romance / Re: Should Parents Kiss In Front Of Children? by KateSpade(f): 5:12pm On Dec 15, 2012 |
since when was a peck not a kiss? |
Romance / Re: Should Parents Kiss In Front Of Children? by KateSpade(f): 8:01am On Dec 15, 2012 |
Adaeze003: Lol! Like they dont see it on tv(even in cartoons). Peck on the lip is fine but a french kiss will just gross em out like eew.. exactly |
Romance / Re: Should Parents Kiss In Front Of Children? by KateSpade(f): 7:31am On Dec 15, 2012 |
why would that be an issue. Its a kiss, not sex. children should have health attitudes towards what a marriage should be and proper affection. 7 Likes |
Romance / Re: Bridges You Can't Burn by KateSpade(f): 5:34pm On Dec 14, 2012 |
Mynd_44: Aight Aight. Will do. |
Romance / Re: Bridges You Can't Burn by KateSpade(f): 5:26pm On Dec 14, 2012 |
Ritzyjay: if you are on twitter or fb, follow me on @imnukub or add me "ritzyjay44@hotmail.co.uk" so dat we can personally chat Wut?! |
Romance / Re: Bridges You Can't Burn by KateSpade(f): 5:25pm On Dec 14, 2012 |
Mynd_44: Thanks! That's one thing I've always liked about the relationship, we were both able to communicate whether good or bad. I don't know what you mean by using my heart less tho. |
Romance / Re: Your Advice For Women Who Hit A Certain Age And Are Desperate To Get Married by KateSpade(f): 5:14pm On Dec 14, 2012 |
bengreat: I know of about 4 females in the last few months i know whose boyfriends broke up with them after about 6 months because they're already discussing and pushing marriage. All these women are anywhere from late 20's to early 30's,i understand women have biological clocks and everything and there's a stigma to women who are single past a certain age but you're gonna scare guys off by trying to rush things too much Hmm, Ill go on the defensive. I don't see a problem discussing marriage objectively but that can be done with anyone bf, friend, relative. When you start hinting that a person should marry you or asking if you are marriage material things are moving too fast. You have to be aware of your partner and listen to how they react. In my case I've witnessed more males desperate to get married or just desperate for a partner so they try to hold onto love no matter which direction its coming from. There are guys out there that want to get married quick fast and in a hurry, all they have to do is find females with the same mindset. 1 Like |
Romance / Re: Should A Married Woman Wear A Short & Revealing Dress? by KateSpade(f): 5:04pm On Dec 14, 2012 |
Let's be very clear. As an adult, man or woman you can dress however you would like. One does have to take into consideration how they will be perceived with their clothing as well. And of course if married you should try not to "test" your partner by wearing things they might see as disrespectful (whether its too short too tight or either sex wearing clothing with explicit and suggestive wording). It depends on the relationship you have with your partner. Some ppl don't care what their partner wears and that's fine as well. |
Food / Re: Foods You Absolutely Cannot Stand by KateSpade(f): 6:22am On Dec 14, 2012 |
lobster sourdough bread grape leaves cottage cheese sapodilla gari |
Romance / Re: Bridges You Can't Burn by KateSpade(f): 6:01am On Dec 14, 2012 |
Mynd_44: I know I can't do agree to resume a relationship unless he and I are in the same area. It would mess me up . Like u said I just cant get involved if he is not ready to stay. |
Romance / Re: Bridges You Can't Burn by KateSpade(f): 5:58am On Dec 14, 2012 |
k2039: Everything in life is a risk. He left to take an exam, he passed every part but one and now has to retake it but it waiting for it to be administered. All four of the assumptions you described make me nervous. Initially when I thought he was returning in the fall it was easier to me to plan accordingly (events, trips) what to accept and what to turn down. He could return with me not even being in the same city due to internships I'm currently interviewing for. But as u said, every decision has a consequence but time is not a friend of mine, at least not in this case. I do agree with "The condition for another chance will be him telling you in explicit and certain terms when he will be returning, any deviation from the set time will mean a break up." Thanks |
Romance / Re: Bridges You Can't Burn by KateSpade(f): 5:46am On Dec 14, 2012 |
Mynd_44: I will advice that you take time to think about this personally. Do you still want him in your life? This is not about the two of you having a talk as that will happen later. I do still want him in my life but if he is in it I want him. Not as a friend, not as an ex. I want that now but I was starting to resent him being gone for so long. |
Romance / Re: Bridges You Can't Burn by KateSpade(f): 3:42am On Dec 14, 2012 |
Ritzyjay: You guys should sit down and discuss about your personal plans for the future and see if you can sync it together. If you can't, then gather all your strength and have a clean amicable break-up and if you can then coming back together may be worth it, because you both love yourselves we know each others personal career plans. we did have an amicable breakup, he said he understood but he didnt really listen to what I was saying. It took it to mean I have zero feelings for him and suspected another guy or that friends or family have been putting thoughts in my head. |
Romance / Re: Bridges You Can't Burn by KateSpade(f): 2:28am On Dec 14, 2012 |
luvmijeje: Op do u still luv him? He told u 2 come down to his parent house,did he come back to d country? I do, his parents are in Nigeria, I am in the States |
Romance / Bridges You Can't Burn by KateSpade(f): 1:53am On Dec 14, 2012 |
After being in a distance relationship for about 9 months I ended things. We were together for abt 2 years. He initially was supposed to be gone for 4 months but its been 9 and he gave me dates of his possible return and those dates just flew by. He asked me to visit him at his parents home for Christmas but I declined due to exams and me spending time with my grandmother I haven't seen in years. He calls every couple of days and I answer, try to call back when I can but there is a 6 hour time difference. I'm about to tell him to stop calling because there is no way to move on if we continue to communicate regularly. When he calls he says he misses me. He says that when he returns he wants to prove his feelings for me. Is it worth it? Worth giving it another try or just move on now? Who even knows when he will return. Its just hard to believe given the previous disappointments. Also, I'm going to run into his family in a few weeks at my sister's swearing in ceremony. She is a political figure in the area they live and have a business in. As of now, I am unaware if they know of the breakup but I know its going to be awkward. |
Romance / Re: ... by KateSpade(f): 8:50pm On Dec 07, 2012 |
Delivar: I am a 28 yr old guy. I have an average height and I look very younger than my age cos I have a tender innocent face and slim appearance characteristic of the 18 yr olds. have you thought about your attire? do you also dress like an 18 year old? |
Romance / Re: My Story: Pls Advise by KateSpade(f): 3:30pm On Dec 04, 2012 |
Why do you want to marry him? |
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