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Sagamite: What will make you be worth pursuing?

Please educate me.

No education necessary. Its not difficult. People see things about other people and whether its based on physical features, education, wealth, personality, spirit, career, passion, shared morals or hobbies. People like to surround themselves with people who attract them and who can complement their life. This isn't just about romance, something attracts people to other people for friendship as well. For example, I like people who make me laugh, if a man is interested in me and I don't find him funny nothing is going to pull me towards him.

I feel like you are trying to start an argument with me.

Don't. Say thanks, how much you appreciate it and him in general. Wear it once (soon) and then never again.

meh. Ive talked about it like why the relationship ended and asked why their last relationship ended. I want to know if they have learned anything since then.

Been asked about my number of partners.
Also, if I still keep pictures of them or gifts given to me.

ChopUrMoni: True and false. Yes they do pursue those worth pursuing but they are not giving in their best. Even at church i hear the guys give up so easily. Regardless of whether she is virgin and a supermodel its seems like after a few attempts they give up. NOT ALL but a lot more than before! For example it is less likely that a man would pursue a woman for more than 1 year when during our parents and their parents time they pursued and waited for many years and didn't even get the chance to be intimate until they got married. Im not saying they don't but im saying it is difficult to find guys nowadays who do.

Then those men aren't worth having.

Virgins and supermodels doesn't equate to good companion or good wife.

If you want a man to chase after a woman for years on end, then wait and they just might. You shouldnt compare things to our parents time, or when I was growing up, the world was messed up then and it still is now, things are just different but you adapt as all humans do.

Both matter in a marriage and both matter in life. Its not about a preference over the other, sometimes money affects attention and vice versa.

If you are worth pursuing a man (or men) will come after you. People know the difference between playing hard to get and actually hard to get.

Not everyone is exposed to Christianity in a Christian way.

Also, I believe that some people may convert back to Christianity or convert to Christianity from other religions during certain periods of their life. Sometimes it just takes a journey.

dmcdad: Yeah I get it.. It's still within your power to decide not to. Right?

Anywayz, don't listen to me... Just kidding here. Do what you deem necessary at any point in time. It's your life and your world. No one knows how to take care of it better than you.

Yeah, I'm just messing with u.

u are right tho, there's always a choice.

dmcdad: Being single is good for the body.. Maybe you should try it for a longer period of time. Lol

Hey! lol. It's not that I try to get into relationships, a connection just develops.

No. In fact I haven't been single for a year since I started dating, perhaps like 8 months then a new relationship. Maybe I need to be.

yes

vivian chinaza: whenever I'm this close to getting married I'd suddenly develop this huge phobia and run away. It feels I'm giving up a lot of things; my dreams, my identity, my independence, etc.

What am I gonna do? I have got to figure this out, soon.

Does this even make sense?

Girl, I feel you. You just have to remember that marriage is just a shared existence between you and your love. Dreams, identity might change a bit but change is the only constant in life.

I agree with sapphire86
I do agree with some others tho that checking on your spouse tends to be bad news.
The damage is done. Even if you confront him you most likely won't be able to get over the fact that he denied your existence. End things.

ha my first love used to write me love letters/poems

I remember I asked them if they were song lyrics

not gonna lie. Some of these work on me. I like a man with manners.

A lot of the things talked about just go into being a good person in general.

Even if things between me and the guy don't work out and he has those qualities I will still recall him in a good light or perhaps introduce to single women I know.

emilyone: that's unfair!

Yup.

vivian chinaza: You don't wanna get married?

I do, but I tell them not to hold their breath. If it happens it happens, if it doesn't I'll be alright. I'm not going to rush into something that lasts forever.

My mother is not like that. I have two older sisters, one of them is married with 2 kids, the other who is 35 is unmarried so I think they are concerned abt her [my mom calls her an old maid]. I just tell them I'm not getting married and to let my older sister give them all the grandchildren she will ever need.

Unaware - Allen Stone

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z4Hy6kp5kIs

not enough

MR OVERACHIEVER

Not necessarily because of the cash, but I dont like cling-ons and Ive gotten complaints that I'm too busy so at least I wouldnt have to worry abt not having enough time for him. I like a man with a passion in life.

2. Gave the wrong number before. It was my best guy friends number. The guy called it my stupid friend answered then the guy came back and found me. I appreciated his persistence so I gave him the correct number. Glad I did.

meh.

Women fitting those negative criteria are married as well.

And real feminists see no problem with marriage.

Also, are you a male or female? The article indicates female but your profile says male.

I've done it, I don't think he knew tho. Our germs were bound to get mixed up one way or another.

he is not your dream man. Your dream man will make an effort.

It goes both ways.
Some ppl get into a relationship and they are happy and assume that happiness can only be achieved when in a relationship unaware, that it is also possible to be happy and single or forgetting that they were single once and happy.

Some also pester ppl to break up with their bf/gf because they are single.

You can't help. Just pray. Leave it in God's hands.