₦airaland Forum

Acidosis:
I'm aware sis. That woman got married over 15 years ago (before Facebook and other social media) yet she failed.

With social media, we should expect more disastrous and devastating events in the coming years.

The man FAILED. not the wife

the kind of job you get/apply for depends on your new location ( i am assuming you are unwilling to relocate as you just moved recently?)

You can apply for customer service jobs in the banking/telecom sectors
You could also apply for Business dev & project officer based roles in all sectors
You could equally work as a freelance for SME's (using your IT Skills) and write contents for blogs on Social media full time or on the side till you get something you consider worth while.

God bless your hustle

So I want to buy a house in Abuja. What documents do I need to see to determine if the property is authentic/ how can I verify the authenticity of the docs.

My mum has viewed the house and I understand the original owner is now in the abroad. He sold the house to another family during the height of the BH crisis.
When BH started bombing Abuja, the new owners rented the house out and then moved to KD.

Obviously I don't want my money to waste as I would most likely be borrowing to buy this house.

So any property lawyers conversant wt abj land laws and are able to provide me with advise will be greatly appreciated.

Anyone who equally has a cheap completed property for sale should contact me as well.

Anyone who has equally being through this process /transaction previously and has relevant advise is equally welcome to contribute.

Lalasticlala , Seun et Al , I ll appreciate if I can get front page for input please......I know this isn't a tonto dike and/or snake post but na beg i de beg.

i didnt realise having children is a sin

he is only doing this because he realises Nigerians are tired of his change mantra, Nigerians have woken up to the fact they have been misled and lied to.

The drunk dullard of daura dictator loves to be and remain popular: however he realises he has now become so unpopular with criticisms from Home, Wife, Party supporters and diasporans hence his pretence of change/review

You are insecure and do not provide for ur wife hence she resorts to borrowing without payback. You also are not shagggingg her properly....or ur cucumber is small


Your wife is equally a greedy woman. Looking for attention and financial boost in every nook and crony.

You both deserve each other abeg.

so he is cheating on his wife but doesnt want the side babe to be collecting cassava from another person? I dont like stingy men abeg!!

By the way, is that how someone who has actually being beaten by 9ja police looks? He is even wearing jeans and socks? Haba? I trust our 9ja police to have beaten even thread of clothing out of his body

Loveprotocol:
Why does she call me when I don't call her for a while? Why does she respect me and behave like a wife whenever I'm around her? Why does she keep asking about me and trying to know about my past? Why did she say "there's something about me I want you to know, I always take my time before making a decision, I like to consider all the pros and the cons before I choose so that whenever anything goes wrong, I'd accept responsibility"? Why is she asking her colleagues around to dig up my past which is rough but I never hid anything from her? Can you help provide answers to these questions?

I cannot give you the answers that you seek but i can tell you these.... Someone is respectful to everyone around her, you claim she is behaving like a wife? Is she supposed to behave like a wh.ore or be rude?

I will do exactly the same (ask people to tell me about your vices) if you stalked me to my house, show up at my home unannounced/uninvited. You are a bloody stranger for God sake.

She is a single, working class female (living alone, i assume) and has to take necessary steps to protect herself from harm without alerting you to the fact.

Finally, (most ladies would confirm these) we often tend to have/want someone who checks up on us via BBM/Whatsapp/texts etc.....we do not consider the person a boyfriend/husband material nor even worthy of the friendzone....its just a "boost your ego" type of ish and when that attention stops; we check to see if the person is still alive then move on afterwards.

A lady doesnt have to be heartbroken or have suffered heartbreak to reject a dude. Why dont you get that she is probably not into you?
Just like you look for qualities in a lady so also does she. She has her own standards and criteria and its likely you dont measure up.

I wonder the kind of pastor you are yet you are visiting prophets; You think its only you and your prophets that can hear from God abi? If you are her own, God will speak to her also because the BIBLE tells us GOD isnt an author of confusion.

He cannot speak with you and your candle burning/broom flogging woli's and not speak with her.
If i was her, i would flee from you sef.
You stalked her (trailing her from work)
She told you not to visit yet you came anyway and texted to inform you (you dont listen to her)
She doesnt like you visiting but you carry your hungry self anyway
All i see is a gold digging dude who has seen a working class babe, approaching her 30's and is flinging the word marriage/prophet/pastor all in a bid to lord over someone's pikin....abeg

you better start saving up if you like yasef.

No maternity leave for non married? Even better that you know now. Take your annual leave + 2 months unpaid leave and return to work afterwards.
Start applying for jobs elsewhere, preferably govt jobs and hopefully something might click after giving birth.
Start saving towards a business/trade to ease the financial restraints as this dude is clearly not going to support you financially.

You took someone else's man and you are now upset he doesnt love you? Dude NEVER loved you to start with so you cant start making him love you when he sees that you trapped him and deprived him of his love.

If you decide to marry this guy. You will live a very sad, lonely unhappy life because he will forever cheat on you with that girl as well as other girls.
Infact, do yourself, your unborn child and the dude a favour by taking a walk now.
People will talk about your for 2 months until the next gossip brews and they ll forget. Then they will talk some more when you give birth and then move on to the next gist afterwards.
Atleast he is being honest with you from DAY I, he doesnt love you, he no get money yet you carry belle, he is only marrying you because of your parents not even because of you. What other honesty do you want?

Marriage is difficult as it is being married to a man you love how much more to someone you dont love

Can someone help me with traditional Bekwarra names for male/female please.

Bekwarra tribe of the Ogoja LGA (Cross River State). Bekwarra Oooohhhh please

Note this whilst making your decisions

You will NEVER be his legal wife (either in 9ja or in the abroad)
You will live your marital life as a married woman but single because hubby visits x1 a yr or x1 in 2yrs.
You will hv step kids who will probably be older than yours.
His legal wife will visit with him to 9ja and you will be relegated to maid position by him and ur in laws because them no want spoil their son chances of gaining papers.
There is no guarantee he will divorce that lady except she chooses to file......he will work to pay alimony and child support = less income to look after u and and children u birth.
Your income will be used to run the home in 9ja.
You can't visit and live with him.
He will only visit to get married 2 u. Then subsequent visits will be to get u knocked up
You will never live under the same roof as husband and wife for more than 1 month. So pray tell, what type of marriage, relationship do u envisage 4 yaself?
Oga will be banging his whitey daily yr in yr out whilst you can't even kiss a man without bn termed a cheat and adultere

but he isnt trekking naa?

THERE are children in Nigeria behaving like she does and perhaps worse than she is so the issue of sending her to Nigeria isnt necessarily going to curb her excesses.
All i see is a teenager, displaying teenage tendencies....and whilst Nigerian cultures may frown at it, i feel, a child who is doing well academically and the parents are doing averagely okay; should consider therapy/counselling for their child.

Also consider grounding the child/take away certain privileges/instill curfew etc....it works

she does not need to be pampered in my view. She wants people to work and support her lazy self entitled lifestyle.

IMO

1 - she needs to terminate that pregnancy, she is still under 4 months - reasons are she is unemployable in her state. Even if one decides to be merciful and consider her pregnancy sx, she still wont turn up to work because she feels entitled to a "nanny".

2 - What quality of life is the unborn child going to have? The father of the unborn child has had 4 ex wives with several children; the mother is a babymama turned prostitute turned ex fiancee who has no interest in working. She has the mentality of a "full time housewife". Before someone will come and tell me that Obama's mother did not abort him, please remember idi amin/anini and co were also not aborted.
If she gives birth to a son, its likely that child will become a menace to the society and if its a girl, God helps the girlchild that she isnt raped by her mother's numerous boyfriends.

3. She clearly has skills but doesnt want to work. Its evident she doesnt need money....what she needs is a close mentorship and monitoring. For her own biological mother to be tired of her - right there is the clue that we need. All these talk on suicide is her silly games shes playing to pass the responsibility to faceless users on nairaland like we owe her a duty of care.

I know shes genuine and needs help, but i am sorry, there are more people deserving of our help.

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I remember the story. Was she asking for help then? Didn't follow it to the end.

She was asking for advice on how to cope with her mum's behaviour. And people kind of advised her to endure and understand....though I think at the time, her 1st baby daddy was sending money 2 her irregularly sha. But she also mentioned he was an illegal in SA

I remember this lady posted whilst in SA regarding her baby daddy and how he had deceived her 2 come bk 2 9ja. Her mum was very disappointed in her for coming bk home wt an extra mouth 2 feed/ no source of income etc and she had being having challenges with her mum. ....this was on a thread about 2 yrs bk.

For the life of me I cannot understand how you can get pregnant again for another man who hasn't married you. You can barely feed urself not to talk of the 1st child .

I do not think you need antenatal. You need to terminate this pregnancy , get urself busy making hair. I am sure there are areas in igando where ladies go 2 make hair. Go there daily with ur child and you ll get customers and be able 2 feed.

After a few months when you hv established ur customer Base, redirect them to ur house and continue frome there.

Raising a child is not beans and NOBODY owes you nada!!. Your mum has done all she can for u and whatever else she chooses to do is a bonus not an entitlement.

Finally, learn to have protected sezz. A condom/contraceptive is cheaper than a pack of pampers.

Nairn landers who want to help pls help this lady bit encourage her to utilize her time . I know she is genuine. I know these because I recall her earlier thread ...with a similar moji type of username

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tron23:
I weep for my generation, there is something fundamentally wrong with people these days. Recently, I heard that Gov. Serike of Bayelsa was blessed with 3 kids after years of delay. Yet he didnt throw away his wife. He stood by her side all the time.

You see, young ladies need to understand that being loyal is a virtue. Personally, I believe that marriage is for better or for worse. My late Grand father (Maternal Side) lost everything (houses, 5 cars in Kano) during the civil war. But I can tell you that by 1990, he has 5 cars and 2 houses. His wife stood by him for years, once he came back online he sent her on foreign trips -first to Jerusalem, then to the US. Now, that's what I call manning up...and repaying your woman for her loyalty.

I still dont know why people cant be sincere. Believe me, when you stand by your spouse when they are down, once they come back online things will be totally different. Recently a lady left her husband after he lost his job, just here -mid 2015. Now he just got a new job and relocated to the US, NOW SHE CANT BEG, SHE CANT TALK. SHE IS JUST MOPPING.....

Why is it so difficult for people to endure...just for a little while till things get better. Believe me no negative or bad situation is permanent.

Anyway, a word is enough for the wise. I

What makes you think that the fertility issue wasnt with Gov Seriaki? Has it occured to you that perhaps its the wife who stood by him; putting her body through series of trauma and Hormonal changes whilst undergoing fertility so they could become parents?

Do you know the dynamics of their relationship? And take it from a Nigerian in Diaspora that not everyone living in the abroad is doing ok. Some middle class nigerians (and i mean those who are even renting homes etc) are still waaayyyyy better off than Nigerians in the disapora so dont assume that because someone went to the abroad, automatically the person is doing great. You dont even know if the woman is mopping because she is unhappy with other aspects of her life and not the unsuccessful marriage.

You dont trust your wife to share a major life changing event such as loosing your job/finances rather you share it with your mother and you expect your wife's support??

Who do you expect to pick up the bills and support the household in your state of joblessness? Your mother abi?

I dont know the calibre of boys that are raised these days with some very silly self entitled spirit. Why complain when wifey refuses to stay back, after all you didnt think her worthy enough to share that info.

Its like a child who fails a class and rather than go home and tell his parents, i have failed and have to repeat; you instead tell your friends. When school resumes, is it your friends that will pay those fees ? Do your parents not deserve to be prewarned of the additional responsibilities about to befall them?

Then ofcourse there is also the question of how you have being treating your wife in your days of "rolling in the dosh".

abeg i de go chop choco milo this morning

the best way is to wear red pyant and singlet, preferably lacey ones. also remember to pray and fast. Shave your armpit and anuuss. Be clean, come home from work early, dont confront her. Pray for her and fight for your marriage

You cant allow a strange exboyfriend to come and dabaru your marriage. Shower your wife with love so that she can see who loves her most between you and the ex

Remember God hates divorce?? and marriage is for better for worse.

ifyalways:
You're a clown sha

@Emboldened, I like you jare. Your terms and conditions are second to none.

Michael Ubong, AKA godzlove8 isnt this you again? Why are you like this? I am disappointed in you

Shameless theives.....corruption supporters....NEVER AGAIN.

Nigerians, bookmark this page, look at the faces of these thieves and ensure you do NOT vote for them in the next election. They are not fit to represent you.

The real change starts from disassociation from these bunch of thieving self entitled lords.

a man doing what HE IS supposed to do.......husband material 300yards

It takes more than semen to be a father. It takes more than blood to be family. Are you swayed simply because your biological father's family are well off? If they were rural farmers/herbalists/drug dealers/touts would the decision still have being difficult?

Where was your uncle who stood with your dad/mum when your mum was going through the trauma? No where!!!

If your dad's biological family all had kids/grandkids would they have come looking for you?

Its only when Nigerian families (the men especially) learn that you CANNOT abandon a child with their mother UNDER ANY circumstance and assume that "well she will suffer with the child and when the child grows, he/she will come looking for me".

If your stepdad hadnt trained you and shown you love as though you were his biological child, would you have thrived healthily, academically and mentally to the point of graduating and qualifying to work in an oil coy?

I find it insulting that your biological family think money answers all. Its even more insulting to your stepdad that they are saying they would train his children. Why didnt they train you? Why didnt they come looking for you all these years? At least they knew your mother and her family.

It would be very disappointing after all the heartache your mother went through, after all the sacrifices your DAD (the person you call step -dad had earned the right in every aspect to be called and respected as your dad) for you to throw all that away because of money.

When you were sick, who stood up all night supporting your mum emotionally whilst footing your bills - the man you call step dad

I suggest you go back to work. Tell your biological family that you need time and would appreciate they give you space/

Your dad has already given you the perfect answer, you are now a man. Choose wisely

The video quality is decent and acceptable for a mobile phone quality. Good angles and lighting however the actual song names apology