₦airaland Forum

raumdeuter:
Why didnt he just say it was his button

He doesn't know how to lie

Ioannes:
I just want you to know that it's possible to give without loving, but it never possible to love without giving.

there is no way a man won't want to take care of and nurture the person or people he loves.

simply put, he doesn't love you. he's just staying because the sex is good.

unless you want to live with that kind of attitude for the rest of your life, I'd advice you to run away from this guy.

This caught my attention...and I quite agree but do you also realise people give in different ways??

Eg some men are good at giving their time to their families/partners(follow their girlfriends/wives everwhere - market, salon, etc) but score very low in giving monetarily while some give all the money in the world but they are hardly ever available.

It's difficult concluding on who truly loves who by picking solely on how a person gives. Reaching a conclusion is not as simple as you've put it.

damiso:
Stingy koko you and Ewuro are just taking me back home this early momo with all the slangs and phrases

I miss Naija meen

Spot on and balanced post .

Nothing brings on some naija guys venom like 3 of the words mentioned in the OP. (some of them are stingy kokos though make we no lie)

Hahaha
All those boarding school slangs...

Wife = help-meet

Crackhaus, you are a case mehnn

OP, the decision to stay or leave depends on you.

Stay with him if you belong to the same NFA club with him. It increases your compatibility level.

However, if you have goals in life and would not want to be distracted nor derailed, pls run as fast as your legs can carry you from that guy man.

enoqueen:
Leave him to his cross.

His he a Yoruba guy

His not a Yoruba guy ma
Onegai, see your twin sister

Hahahhahaha the comments on this thread sef...

OP, it's probably true like Mbj said that your guy might not be as rich as you think. Sometimes, it's not about where you work but about who you are where you work. Also, remember this are not the best of times for oil workers, I hear some oil companies are far behind in salaries...

Then you could also have probed further to trace the root of his rants. He could be heavily indebted without telling you so he truly may not be able to afford any luxury right now. The fact that he is even borrowing money from you to fuel his car and complaining when his own blood relatives need money from him shows he is not really what you think he is, at least right now.

As per he saying you should carry your hair for 3 months and not giving you tfare; that's really low of him but again, it's possible he just doesn't know how to manage his present 'brokenness' with you.

These are possible scenarios and it might not necessarily be correct but if your mind is not made up about him yet, you might try to get to the root of his problem. If he is truly in a bad state now and you leave him, he would also believe you left him for a richer guy which would technically correct.

His friends say you should consider his good sides; unfortunately, you didn't highlight any of this good side, doesn't he have any? maybe that would have helped in accessing him more objectively but your account of him was really skewed, hence the popular comments on this thread. Recall you mentioned in your opening sentence that you just started observing these traits in him, so what changed?

Ultimately, if his issues are of great concern to you and you are not able to cope, it's better you take a walk now and find someone more compatible but I would advise that you satisfy yourself you left him because it's he is a truly a "stingy koko" and he's not just passing through a temporary phase.

RIP Tope Moradeyo aka MC Morad, Tropez...

We love you but God loves you more

damiso:
Yes they can. He did use to have a lot of crises when he was much younger (mostly by wanting to do omo boy and not taking care of himself especially when he was in Uni) but as he grew older and was much more conscious of His health the crises are now far and in between.

I am AS and also had to have counselling when pregnant as well. [b]They insisted on testing hubby again o [/b]even when I kept telling them that he was AA. They said they needed to be sure as they had a lot of cases of couples lying about their genotype.

They must test again ooo

I even made the mistake of telling them the initial tests were done in Naija...choi!! Big error

She started telling me the history of how many wrong results that people have brought from Naija and was recounting the experiences one after the other...Hahahaha I had to shut her down by asking her to tell me how many wrong results they have also seen from Jamaica.

It was later I realized after reading so many experiences of others that a lot of Naija hospitals truly make errors in telling people their correct genotype. Can't explain why.

EfemenaXY:
I read somewhere or was told long ago (can't remember which), that we - most West African ladies - tend to be anemic anyway, but pregnancy exacerbates the condition. Also, having really heavy flows during your monthly cycle sort of "worsens" it. Don't worry, I've been there too. Infact my Iron levels were so low at one point I was put on an intense 4 month course of Ferrous Sulphates. You'll know when it gets bad 'cos you suddenly get this craving for really dry, dusty stuff - a condition called "PICA".

I don't know about BC (Mirena or nexplanon) as I've never been put on them, but what I do know is that increasing your intake of dark green vegetables should help, plus Iron rich foods like red meat, plantains, etc.

With the side effects you've just mentioned, I'd be worried too if I were in your shoes. Why not seek a second opinion? You never know what the result could be. In the meantime, keep eating clean, exercising and getting as much rest as you can.

[size=4pt]Lol...let me look for trouble small
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Efe, how come the emboldened is the first point you mentioned? Just asking ooo lol

Army, oya bianeba

**open your eyes let me look deeply
**open your palms, I need to observe something very important

Hmnnnnn...babes, what have you been up to recently

damiso:
I have an uncle who is SC. Has similar traits to SS but if they take care of themselves could lead fairly healthy lives.

He is now in his late forties.

Exactly what they say, that it's very possible in a lot of cases for SCs' to have little or no crises in their lifetime.

EfemenaXY:
You've just made me do a quick search on AC genotypes.

AC? Didn't even know they existed. So does that mean when choosing spouses, those with AS genotypes should be off limits for AC's? I suppose so...

Yeah, off limits. The blood cells are 'C" in shape and not "S" otherwise they have the same characteristics though doctors say the "C" is somewhat stronger than the "S".

Again, the "C" trait is found much more in the Caribbean, so you can guess where I truly come from but in the African continent, it's found more in Ghana.

There are other funny shapes/alphabets actually. I didn't realize this too until I retook the test in UK and had to go for for counselling. I thought the Jamaican woman attending to me was counting A, B, C...when she was listing the other alphabets that existed. lol

jaybee3:
Where do i even start with you?

...the guy is from France biko

Hilarious poster!!

EfemenaXY:
Lol! He should "manage" her internal beauty na

@Kimoni: come 'n see beta ojuju - and not the toy one you've been playing with

Choi! This is the real "CHANGE" Nigerians have been searching for...lol

armyofone:
Ladies, was told my iron is low even though i have been on iron suppliment....and the doc is planning to have me go on BC (Mirena or nexplanon)
I'm not really a fan and it's so confusing and draining.
I'm so getting twisted with the side effects I read about (weight gain, mood swing, depression) etc
I eat healthy so not sure what is going on.

EfemenaXY, Chillisauce, Kimoni, damiso, Edwife etc

Does the issue stem from your genotype?

I am AC and tend to have this issue during pregnancies or when I overwork myself but it normalizes once I start my iron supplements, take enough greens and give myself enough rest.

Pls take enough greens and rest well. I'm sure you'll be just fine.

How some people still believe that we were better off in the last government beats me...if the last government had continued in power, it is no exaggeration to say the nation called Nigeria would have crashed. We would have been begging Benin Republic and Togo to urgently loan us some funds pending when IMF finishes the paper work of the bail out funds.

But God loves Nigeria too much for that to happen. Nigeria shall rise again!

Aminat508:
Sorry mam

Lol...thanks babe

He who comes to equity must come with clean hands.

Aminat508:
hahahahahaha ! !! see rice and plantain similey

edwife:
LMAO

Kimoni you must tell us the truth, where did you get that ipad?

Hahahahahahaha

Guess what I found after taking the courage to magnify the thing? It's actually a pic someone posted on here, I think Akposy or someone, can't remember who exactly, of a plate of rice made into a face using eggs and plantain but how the thing got stucked to my pad na him I no fit explain, at least no be only me see the rice. But whatever, I don't care anymore jor...lol

Aminat508:
iya ibeji

receive it my darling

I will come and do omugwo for you

Whoever! All join

What exactly is the problem here biko?

The husband lives in the house and is not complaining
The sisters live with him and they are not complaining
She doesn't live in the house yet she is the one complaining
How can the guest be crying more than the bereaved?

When she relocates finally, no one will teach her to set timidity aside and face her problems but for now,
she should behave like a guest that she is.

jaybee3:
Not really since you can't access the source codes

thanks

jaybee3:
The image should still be the same (as expected) when used since the underlying code hasn't changed.



You can just type this : ' ( without the spacing

So there's nothing I can do to remove it?

EfemenaXY:
Latecomer!

Thanks

it was Efe's birthday Awwwwwwww

Happy birthday to the "bluntest" soul on NL

May this be your best year ever!!! God bless your new age

Check out your gift below (your favorite face )

jaybee3:
Email?

Look at that lastcrying face emoticon. How can I change that face? I have downloaded the latest iOS but it's still there.

jaybee3:
Ecowas court?
I dey laff

Jaybee, I need your help.

KanwuliaExtra:
Okaaaaaay!
From what angle?
The OP's or mine?

you want to know before you strike??

Bollinger:
You too mumu I swear.

Bobandgreat:
I love this Yoruba man ooo. He reminds me of my model Gani fawehnmi, Fela, Tai Solarin, etc. If the man comes out for president, I will vote for him.

Please leave Tai Solarin out of your list...you insult the spirit of these great men with this comparison

lokomo:
Which community, take a look at the scene everywhere is not in order, no 1 is even listening to him, he just paid 2 pple to give him a handshake. Dis 1 na real Governor of Madness.

I thought I was the only one seeing this...I am wondering what is pushing a serving governor to this height of deception

I pity Ekiti people