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Chinwendym:
[size=3pt]Olubankemi hubby likes the milk o! Though me I can't bare to taste it once he starts sucking it he knows that's the end of kissing unless he goes to rinse his mouth [/size]

[size=4pt]Thanks senior kimoni! Will give it a try, not sure which of the As cos I love got one with a vertical and another coloured red [/size]


Yeah I did it!

shuo! You wan come blind our eyes?? Meanwhile, where is my money

EfemenaXY:
Tech or Ops?

Try IB Tech Derivatives (1st line support). You'll cry yourself to sleep every night.

Re: My almond flakes (they look like Egusi seeds) - fantastic stuff. Most of us don't like the "normal" hot cross buns you get from the supermarkets here. So I looked up a couple of online recipes and made mine with a funky Naija twist. For starters, I didn't do the yeast, salt, cinnamon, ginger, and spices thing, but I did do the cake flour, sugar, eggs, milk, butter, and almonds.

Baked it at gas mark 6 for the first 10-15 mins, then at mark 3 for the last 15-20 mins. It was lovely and surprisingly light. Almost fluffy. Tasted like sweet bread too. Kids loved it. Some had strawberry toppings / chocolate spread / honey/or just plain.

nearly there. We are the first line of defence

What you finally made sounds soo interesting. No wonder the kids loved it. Sugar, eggs, milk, butter, almonds who no go like am..

Chinwendym:
heheheheh me and you dey the same category o! Na him make me keep quiet since just dey read comments! only done it once this year and sadly I have no desire for it! Like one mama said THE SANTUARY IS VERY DRY libido doesn't exist in my dictionary for now.

Before I gave birth I use to wonder how it feels for a baby to suckle? Does it give the same arousal as when DH is at it? Taaa! No where near it at all! My nippul as gone numb, unfortunately before baby came that was where my center of gravity was at! One touch and am ready to kpekus, Now DH will suck and suck hoping to start the engine for where? All I will be thinking of was please don't finish the milk for my son lolz Oh God save our marriage from libidolessness.

Senior mama Kimoni please teash me how to do that font

Lol@ sanctuary is very dry

Select the words you want to change, click on the icon with A, reset the digit to the size you want.

Pls pay my fees to Zaynie..

EfemenaXY:


Crazy girl!! This made me laugh out loud. Missed you bae. How've you been?

Yeah, I know what you mean. I think we used to call them "Ebelebor" as kids. Yep, will definitely drag ourselves to mass but make I go cook first

Been good sis, found myself in a different branch of IB and there's no learning curve. Had to hit the ground running

So what did you finally do with the almonds?

mcjyde:
So u mean every betrayal must end up dead, our religion and even the law of the land have specified ways of resolving issues... I hope she get the deserved punishment

Biko did I say that?

OP, pls get busy! Too much time on your hands

YorubaWoman:
[color=#8C001A]ahahahahahah

Oselu ti wo o
Pelu felii, o le ma je Yewande oun gangan lo wo kootu o
O le je elomii ti won ti san owo emi re ni o
Ah ojoro ti nwo be
Mo daru ni
Hmmm, mo wa very sure pe kin se oun na ma ran lo sewon
Oro kudi lan so yi [/color]

Awon eniyan too n leri Yewande tii poju nigba to tii le je wipe a ko tii daa ejo fun ni wakati asiko yii.

Nitori eyi, a ni lati gbaa laye ki o boju re kii awon to fe gbesan lai duro de idajo re mase rii pa

A koo tile mo boya Yewande sii maa jare ejo yii ni igbeyin sef...shior


[size=3pt]@bellong - how did I fare in Yoruba writing? 100%??[/size]

Timbuktou:
Lol. What does this even mean? Nigeria and it's weird ways.

Biggest lesson from this case: men should stop being deceptive to their loving wives/women. Not everyone takes betrayal of true love kindly

Happy Easter. Were you at the Ex-May 60th bash?

bebe2:
Dats wat we spend our days doing, but not anymore.

It's sapping my energy. So I will just wait. If it doesn't come we go for visa.

I did mine last year, and it wasn't like this.

They ve backslided. The change didn't last.

Sorry sis, na change de worry them. But their own na negative change. But I am very optimistic you'll get it very soon.

goldmine:
*modified*

@ favoredgal
I'm already on one. Opted for the permanent one for which the procedure was carried out immediately after delivery via c-section. It hasn't been enough to allay my fears jor. Sometimes I have nightmares that the doctor either forgot to do it(despite constant reminders by me and the anesthesiologist) or didn't do it properly.

All through my marriage the onus has been on me to take precautions. I used calendar method to space the 1st 3kids. 2yrs betw 1st and 2nd and 3yrs betw 2nd and 3rd. Abstain when i'm not safe.Decided to close shop after the 3rd and suggested to DH that he should do the permanent method. He refused. I opted for pills as contraceptive but it failed me within the 1st month. Now i'm having fears that the tube-tying would fail. Warned DH not to come near me without condom. Sometimes I go as far as buying it myself.

I don't regret the 2 extra kids-love them to bits. My only regret is this libido thing. Imagine me dreading something I should be enjoying. I do hope it gets better with time.

@Kimoni, I was quite open to the option until certain events made me retrace my steps. After a 7yr old girl who's like a daughter to Me got sexually molested by a male domestic staff, I decided that I was done with maids(this was some months after my 3rd child). 'I am a pedophile' isn't written on their faces. I could manage without one. He went all the way o. Raped her the 1st time and threatened her so she wouldn't sing.then he continued until she got so used to it that she began to look forward to it. It was to me she eventually opened up to when her folks began to suspect something was fishy. The kind fear wey enter my body ehn. And to think my 3yr old daughter used to hang out with them a lot. It could have been her.

As God would have it, I took in again and required bed rest for a while and was forced to get a maid. She left 2 days before I had the babies. Just decided she was no longer interested. Had to get a replacement but cldnt get one till early feb. betw then and now I have replaced 2ce. Why would I agree to pay as much as 15k/m and have to correct/monitor something as minor as sweeping or doing dishes?

Lies were being told about the level of experience of these girls and despite the fact that I was willing to teach, they were either not willing to learn or take correction. On top my hard earned money they were adding to my stress,mbanu! Not that they had to tend to the kids o. Mainly housework. I do my shopping,cooking and tend to d babies myself.

I also put it in prayers that any maid who unprovoked wished me or my household ill,God would make my house hot for her and she would request to leave. One like that didn't even last 48hrs. She was so restless and began fabricate all sorts of lies about problems back home that she needed to attend to. Her people confirmed it was all lies but she wanted to leave so badly that she even refused to work. I let her go.

The one who left last week stole a tablet and snuck out of my house the moment she realized I was searching for it. Now her family whom I do not know claim I or DH have done something with her as she didn't return home. I have warned that should they come within an inch of my gate, I would have them arrested for setting me up. They probably know where she is. If they don't, I can understand their apprehension. I initially adviced them to be patient that when she gets tired of wherever she has gone to, she would return home.

She's an adult and had a destination in mind when she left my house. I would only see the agent who brought her to me as he was the one I did biz with and do not know them who claim to be her family. They may not even be actually related to her for all I care. It is this recent bruhaha that has strengthened my resolve again not to have a maid or nanny.

I've had my fair share of good ones back when I was under paid employment. But at some point in their lives they had to move on. It would have been wicked and selfish of me to wish for them to remain at that level forever. I also would not because of few nasty experiences label all of them bad. It's just that i'm no longer willing to take the risk.

MIL stays with SIL who lives a stone's throw away from my house. She comes once in a while to keep me company and help with the kids while I face house work. Sometimes she goes away with one of the twins and returns him/ her later in d evening. She is not always available though as she has other things she does and also helps with SIL's kids and home. I'm trusting God not to disappoint me concerning the case of this last maid. My hands are clean and she must show up at her people's place ASAP. The tablet is the least of my worries for now. I just pray she is safe.

The downside of my decision is that I can't resume biz fully as early as I had hoped to.‎

I feel you on this house help issue. I guess we've all had our share of bad and good helps but by God's grace, I think I have been blessed with more good ones than bad. I try to get them from the same agents year in year out and I could also be very picky in choosing. As for that your special prayer ehnn, I no dey miss that prayer every day o God help us all

[size=4pt]How did we get to talking about house helps when nurse @kaffybill clearly instructed us to discuss kpekusing Abeg, I no want nurse punishment o
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Back to topic!!!

favoredgal:
Zaynie I saw your post on the other thread and don't agree with the dr's advice

My daughter had something similar it's called blocked tear duct - Google it

Breast milk is highly effective in treating it

Also massage the eye ducts that's the bribing of the eye ( on the side / top of the nose) that's what my pediatrician adviced and it has gone

I have not seen the other thread but I can attest to the fact that breast milk helped my baby too when he was having this whitish discharge from his eyes in the first few months. Just like you said, the NHS nurse told me it was blocked tear duct and told me to apply breast milk. It worked like wonders.

**i hope it's the same thing we are talking about o

favoredgal:
@kimoni I love this your style

I have a friend going through the same don't want no help from dh

Will give her your pointers

Thanks sis. I pray it helps her. We all need rest at some point. Body no be firewood

goldmine:
Pardon me Mamas, this might be long.
‎It's been a mixed experience for me. With 1st preg, libido was just there and got better after delivery. Resumed duties 4 wks post partum . With 2nd both preg. and after was so high I thought it was someone else in my own body. Resumed duties 5 days after delivery(covers face). It was that bad. Even DH sef was worried. With 3rd libido dropped when I conceived but returned to normal after delivery.

 But with the 4th?? I'm beginning to wonder if I wont destroy my marriage with this low level and the way I impulsively respond negatively on a regular basis. From conception to date, zero interest. Infact,if there's anything less than zero then that describes it. I almost jump out of my skin at the mere though of it. If it was only the lack of interest or not being naturally lubricated,it would have been better. But there's this thing that happens. I feel several small cuts/bruises which take days or even up to a week to heal up completely.

 Even when well lubricated.i don't feel it during,it is after o. Most times I would deliberately be hostile, just to quell DH's interest even b4 he considers it just to discourage him. Well, the chores and increased number of objects of my attention isn't helping matters but how do I explain d bruises even after being well lubricated? It never happened before.
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DH believes it's partially psychological, that he's sure one of the reasons for the low libido is that i'm scared of conceiving again even though I have refused to admit it.‎ And just like Zaynie's case, my willingness to 'co-operate' increases when he helps around, which he doesn't do often. He's just not the domestic type.

He once mentioned that I don't give him as much attention as I used to back when it was just the 2 of us(this was after just one baby o). Told him that the more he keeps knocking me up, the less attention he'll get cos I've got more people to spread/share it among and i'm not a super woman. With 5kids(3 under 2), to cater to and no maid, where the libido wan pass enter nau? ‎I get tired easily.The toddler is more of a handful than the infant twins put together. I also still haven't recovered fully from the pelvic pain that came with the pregnancy(sighs).

Sadly, i've not been bothering to dress sexy. How na? When i'm trying to run away from the thing, i'll now attract it? Sometimes I just want to hold or cuddle but his interpretation is 'go all d way' so I don't bother to touch him at all if i'm not ready for the real deal. I try as much as possible not to turn him away all the time. I'm left to deal with the pain and bruises later though.

I don't think we are being selfish Nurse Kaffy. We are just being human and responding to the additional stress of an increasing family. Unfortunately most men don't understand. They believe that catering for the family is a piece of cake.
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Waoh! Waoh!! Waoh!!! You are truly a goldmine ooo
5 kids, 3 of them under 2!!! How much super can you get, goldmine?

But pls pls and pls, get help. A nanny, family or an elderly woman that would come and go. I don't know how you are doing it which is why I am perplexed but I don't think I personally have the strength to do what you are doing. Pls get someone to help you fast.

Like you said, where the libido wan take pass? I quite agree that the fear of having another baby might be a major factor but the stress you are going through is the biggest issue here IMO.

Personally, I am not sure I have experienced that spike or decline in libido due to pregnancy. I also don't experience preggy symptoms like most women so maybe my hormones no sabi work at all. I have been pretty normal but surely, I don't do without help esp when I am in Naija. At one point sef, I had 2. Childcare is a big deal for me and I would do anything to maintain my sanity. I can carry pregnancy without stress o, even help people carry am if them want but once I pop out like this...another story

But like Olubamike said, initially, my husband too didn't like the idea of a third party living with us yet he is also not very domesticated so I was always forming sick and pushing the bulk of the work to him. I would deliberately go to the market every Saturday and come back late so he could stay with the baby alone and of course he started complaining. The next time I suggested a nanny, he grudgingly and willingly (if there is any combination like that) accepted. I am not sure any man would naturally like that idea of a third party, it's always "me and my wife" at the beginning of the marriage, but we as women just have to learn how to play our game and get what we want.

It is well with us.

zaynie:
@ topic, I used to have high libido when we just got married, in pregnancy I switch between" do it for God's sake" and " I cant get enough"
When baby is born, I am worse as in " leave me let me eat and get fat and ugly joor'. So libido is 0 and I am a " leave me alone abeg!" Buh once I wean......the babe is back and we start doing boyfriend and girlfriend again.
Then I read that one stewpid hormone runs round the body postpartum. It is the dampens the libido so that you can care for your child more ie you get to pay more attention to your child than yourself or anyone. So I guess that's natures way of ensuring we take care of our babies well.
Buh to be honest, when I did CS, I bounced back quickly o ( around the 3rd week sef ), this time around....I hate my V ..... I am yet to bounce back fully and its 5months today!
It helps when he helps around the house. I get to 'love ' him for his little acts of thoughtfulness and the reward is a happy wife, eager to please.
When he leaves me to handle the kids and the house and still comes home with one or two complaints.....pls just goan sleep faraway from me! If you venture touch me....I no wan know whether na mosquito you wan kill, I go tear for you


I take care of myself o.....I go to work and dress neatly and nice. I have a lowcut on ( cos to make hair dey tire me, my husby doesnt like it tho), I have many nice lowcut/ shakies/ mini gowns as house wears so its not like I am a wrapper tying no bra/ no panties jiggling wifey .
Sometimes I no dey baff till evening buh I wear fresh clothes every morning so tey ppl no dey know say I never baff sef.

E no easy......una wey be FTMs, enjoy this period o! Enjoy am well well and if you are lazy like me...abeg space your kids with like 3 years.

Hahahhahaha see consolation oo

You cut your hair but you still dey do shakara. **yimu
You no dey baff for morning but you dey wear skimpy inside house **yimu

You go like short cut well well o zaynie

babythug:
It's amazing that its my hubby who generally has "loss of libido" during pregnancy and for months after childbirth. I'm usually keen but just not used to having to ask/reach out so I just stay in my corner!

I agree though that the pressures of child care coupled with running a household can enhance a loss of desire, like hajarahbadmus said one just needs to try really hard to remain on point.

I have vowed that this time round pregnancy and childbirth will not let me generally lose control of my appearance and the state of the house..

Speaking of which lemme comb my hair its been a few days

Make sure you post picture after combing. We must inspect it first

Just throw them inside your mouth naa

But seriously, that's one of the healthiest nut/food in the world o

Growing up in Lagos, we used to eat the fruit (which we just called "fruit" back then), break the shells with stone and throw it directly into our mouths. I am so sure Chilli did this too Very sweet and healthy even though we didn't realize it at that time.

So till date, I still snack on salted almond and pistachios.


Happy Easter peeps. This Holy Week, make sure y'all of your best behaviours. Chillis, you hear me so?

Proudmum:
Yeah.. I just joined.

Proudmum38, proudmum11, proudmum

Please oo, you people are confusing our brains oo, haha na wetin naa? Name don finish for this world ni

Just as we were getting used to proudmum38 and proudmum11, I saw another proudmum in family section translating Igbo language, you need to see how shocked I was that she could also speak Igbo. Only for me to drill further and discovered it is not proudmum38.

Na wa ooo

Proudmum:
We shall see when the time is right

you understand Igbo too?

bebe2:
I don't Wat else to do, being a Nigerian is a pain the a*ss.

My kids British passport exPired since Oct 2015 I didn't know till last week and we going to Spain on the 1st.

I called the her majestys passport office 2days ago got an appointment for today 9.30, drove from Manchester to Liverpool arrived at 9am went in and with 10mins I was out. Application submitted, the lady said max Wednesday I shud have it.

Now compare dat with the stress I ve been thru for this Nigeria passport.

If I don't get by may , I will go get my kids visas, I already bought tickets

Only God knows what happened to them cuz this is not my experience when I went there. Have you called the numbers on the website? Ndo!

bravitudenatura:
Oga ju uncle Royalroy na so you describe yourself so like this? Permit me to

This QC matter isn't a lie,its just something that happens in all Unity schools but teachers do cover up themselves. I attended FGGC oyo otherwise a Feggo babe,a lot of things happened. I can never forget Mr Adams Odeh biology teacher,his nickname was 'If I pounce on you,you will lay egg' He's always saying that in class,winking at girls

Hahaha no be only lay an egg...silly teacher.

But is this trait common to all Biology teachers, cuz if I'm not mistaken, this QC teacher also teaches Biology. Is there anything in the subject they are teaching that is making them go gaga on their students

An0nimus:
tehehe we are all readers. I'm positive I've done up to 70/80 pages of an NL thread before. But 120? mbanu . This thread is worth it though.

The eyes that read 80 pages can surely read 120 pages jor

I'm certain I've also read something like that esp those free for all agbero fighting threads. When you start those threads and you are idle ehnn, my brother, you wont know when you read everything from start to finish.

An0nimus:
all 160 pages?

Hahahaha why are you surprised naa? Some people are born to read, it's their calling.

I suspect you too sef

bellong:
Where have you been?

Been taking my chastity vows. It's very fulfilling being a nun

Show so shame!

The governor is partying publicly over an election that was marred by so much violence?? Do people's lives matter to these politicians at all?

Memphis357:
Nothing wey person nor go see for nairaland these days

As in ehnn

cococandy:
and she's fine. So I take it as a compliment

Lol....sure she is, MBGN is not an easy crown naa

How's your princess doing? Kisses to her

montezz:
Lol...beeni ma bo ti e je wipe Aminat no sabi dance lol.

Lollzz I will tell her

pickabeau1:
Bump

Happy New Year Pick. How's fam?
See as cobweb full this una room, why naa?

Anyways, just passing by...

montezz:
I climb trees too...you know it's mango and agbalumo season lol. I am doing fine ma. Awon aburo mi nko ma?

Alaafia ni gbogbo wa wa. Eyin naa nko?

Se e jo daadaa ni parry Aminatu?

damiso:
I am not a QC old gal o I wonder at the whole story e really get as e be. very fishy something. and the gals protesting just threw me too.

More often than not though, when there tends to be various suspicions/accusations about a person being a paedophile it ends up being true. Reminds of me of the Jimmy Saville case here, there had always been rumours, whispering about him abusing young children and it had to be when he was dead and could no longer face justice that it all blew open

Exactly, how can the same rumor be peddled against the same person year on year na only him be the male teacher ni? And to make matters worse, they are now recruiting innocents students to carry placard in public arrant nonsense! Dem lucky say my child no dey there, I for just hammer. Early retirement things

Anyway, I'm glad the issue is gaining wider attention everyday. Naija'll get there!!

[size=4pt]Why did I think you are a QC babe[/size]

Poor little ones irresponsible adult everywhere