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esteria:
Gudday my blessed sabi mamas, trust u r all fine nd our los.
Pls I nid ur urgent responses. My 10months old DD is having dis on ha skin (pix attached). It always luks like burns nd wen I apply ori or vaseline it will peel off. I noticed it wen she was 2months old but I tot I burnt ha wit warm I was using to massage ha body, but it happened again wen she was 4months old.
Dis current 1 has bin stubborn. When I applied sudocrem it seems not to work. She doesn't run temp. She plays very fine.

Pls sori for my long post. Tnx for ur usual responses

Since it has happened again, I would opt for proper treatment this time around. Pls take her to the Dr and explain to them it's happening for the second time and very stubborn this time around.

Do you still message her body with warm/hot water? (Why were you massaging it in the first place) That could also be drying out the natural oils on the baby's skin leaving it dry and breaking. Pls stop if you have not.

marygold:
Mother's!my baby had a very serious diarrhea for a week with mucus n blood stain on d stool.Just yesterday after she finished stooling,I wanted to wash her bum and saw a pink/red flesh.it later went in by itself.We were told its pile!Hmmm!its been coming out each time she stool now.Please any idea if this has a permanent cure?we were told to do sitz bath for her for weeks.

Blood in the stool is not to be taken lightly. Pls take her to see the Dr for proper test and treatment.

taryour:
Hello house, good being here. Please has anyone heard of or used SUDOCREM before? Please how effective is it for kids of 2 and 4 years of age? Then can it also be applied as daily cream like the normal day to day body lotion.

Looking forward to helpful responses. God bless our fruits.

Rashomo:
yes it is d same one, once u add wit ori n mixed it up , it is gud for body creme..dats wat i use for my children..

Mamas, I won't advise anybody to use sudocream as a permanent cream - either on its own or mixed with petroleum jelly. Sudocream is a special formulation made for treating nappy rash and other light infections. It wasn't design to be used on children bodies permanently.

One mama just said her pead. stopped her from using it while another mama said it contains zinc oxide which can be absorbed by the body system when used for a prolonged period thereby causing something else in the body.

shndy:
Assuming I never met my baby when he was eating at the creche I might have doubts too.

No, what is happening is very common really. It happened to me and other moms in my daughter 's crèche way back.

She already identifies you as 'mummy' and she knows you are not as stern as the crèche aunties so she takes advantage of it. I am not sure what the solution is but you could get firmer with her during meal times or you can decide to wait this phase out. You could also give her something she loves very much when it's you feeding her.

tearoses:
Kimoni Dear Ebay can be hit or miss. Looking at the packaging it looks genuine but one never knows. Was it much cheaper than buying it from the manufacturer?

arrrrrrhhhhh, you want to expose my Ijebu oo

Definitely it was much cheaper on eBay. It was about £30 thereabout in Apple Store and £7 on eBay. I went for the eBay one cuz I honestly didnt see any difference in both products. They both passed the genuineness test.

I guess I'll go ahead and use it but will take extra care when charging with it. Thanks ma'am.

tearoses:
Also please lets be careful of our phone and tablet chargers
I am guilty of buying chargers off Ebay
They are usually poor quality and I find that I have to replace them every few months

Someones house burnt down here in the UK a few days ago due to a faulty charger that was left on overnight.

Please lets pay the extra to buy a genuine Apple, Blackberry or Samsung charger or whatever phone one is using. I know that they are ridiculously expensive, but at least one knows that one is buying a qulaity product.

Thank God there was no loss of life, but the house is gone. Hopefully they are insured.

May God continue to protect us all. Amen.

Scary! I just bought this charger from eBay last month but not used it yet. The seller gave a list of things to look out to prove it's genuie and the product ticked all the boxes. Should I be still be worried?

bellong:
Na every year you dey born?

Reminds me of one of my secondary school mathematics teacher who was always pregnant every year. To us, she was the best invigilator we had during exams as she usually take a back seat for short nap after distributing exam questions and answer scripts. Any exam she invigilate, we usually don't record failure (collabo things )

Bellong, won o kin ka omo folomo o I sha don born pass one.

Growing up, we were a football team in my house so I still have a long way to go sef

In every good thing, I must surpass my parent's records

Nmeri17:
I dh tell u o. if armed robbers visited my flat that night, I for just enter the oil and hold my breath.... dh go find me tire . after a thorough search, they'll conclude the house has no occupants and leave

You've got raw talent you know. I laughed soo much.

Why did I used to think you were a male?

Idowuogbo:
@ damiso & kimoni

Ati e po ta wa anaemic.

Mehn I hate them iron tablets I swear. I find it difficult to swallow

Damiso,ndo ooo....na stress dey trigger my own.

My e-sisters, a bo n be by God's grace

Me I dey pack all the tablets throway as soon as I born finish ni o

It is well

Fhemmmy:
No pop corn oh . . .Only Gala and instead of Coke, it will be pure water . . . .

all join

Fhemmmy:
Vex ke? if i know i wont be here asking question too oh, so take a chair and sit beside me jawe and let us learn together except if you have done all these already.

***takes a seat besides him, share pop corn and coke***

Fhemmmy:
Chairman, if people do spend that much, i am sure there would be a lot of unclaimed dead body oh . . . That is a fortune and i think it is way too much jooooo, you want me to fold car business up?

Couldn't help the laughter.

@topic - sorry no idea, no vex.

edwife:
kimoni watch this,was pleasantly surprised when i saw this online.

Thanks babes. Will watch later today.

coogar:
i find it very hard to believe.
spin the tale anyhow you want. tell us you once beat up a bus conductor, we won't still believe you.
i have put your name forward to the united nations to help us solve the middle east crisis once and for all.
all hail queen damiso.......the minister of peace.

Walahi Coogar, you beat me to it

I honestly wanted to tell Damiso that we are seriously not convinced. Whether she likes it or not, she retains that award

prettmum:
good morning my beautifull, sexy bellefull mamas, una well done. Do you guys know what?I love this thread, the love, care, advice you gave to each other is really great.....
Espeacilly
Nurse kaffbill
Modath
Dairy mama zee zee zaynie
Twinne
Lovinam
Tatacherie
Viviparity
Apple19
Kimoni
A beg names plenty. May God give una the strength to deliver safely....bless our dhs, Supernatural delivery all the way
And to our vigilaty mamas una go eat the fruit of una labour.....
Let peace reign cos me I and my ttc sisters are eyeing this thread since last year..... Sorry for talking much

Love you too @ prettmum - Biko why did you chop the "y" in your moniker naa

Don't worry ehnn, just choose your month next year and it will be so. We all join our faith with yours. It shall end in praise. **hugz**

jaybee3:
Stay blessed

Pastor Jaybee in the spirit

bellong:
@Kimoni,

Marrying right is not marrying a perfect person but marrying a complimentary person. Someone who aligns and shares your values, belief and thought. Can two walk together except they agree?

If that is not done right, all these big grammars about domestic chores wouldn't finish.

Lol...Bellong. I agree and disagree. Will bring it up with you again much later.

lemme allow Tim and Yekini to see front

W

damiso:
I no fit type much. But I find sometimes temperamental people may not necessarily be a horrible person. I know people that you will call temperamental as they can't hide theur anger. They are also impatient as won't make excuses for people .You offend them or your are being too slow they call you out straight and the next minute they have forgotten about it. It could be tedious or dramatic but with them what you see is what you get. Sometimes they are also very fiercely loyal. I agree though that they need to manage their emotions but sometimes being prone to anger does not make someone a bad person.

I don't get angry easily and I can give people a veeeeerrrrry long rope BUT once they hang themselves that's it. My mum would say I dey fear you o the way you can cut people off ehn.its not like I would hate the person or anything I just would not want to have anything to do with them anymore.and it would take alooooot to change my mind.my sister is like those people I described earlier but tend to forgive people more than I do. The only thing is everyone will know that this person deserves to be cut off as I would have given multiple chances. I just hate drama and dramatic people.

I also find that I don't get angry easily but my anger when I do can be destructive I could say really mean things(not abuse can't abuse to save my life) but hurtful things. My faith has really helped with that though and I try not to get angry to that level whereby I turn nasty. I don't like it and thankfully that side rarely(I hope never) comes out again.

@destructive -

I get what you mean and I fully agree. Infact, I have two elders brothers like that. In our younger years, we feared the hot tempered one and thought the quiet one was an angel; but now that we are much older, we realize the former only barks but never bites, but the gentle brother, choi!! extremely quiet, unpredictable and very brutal when he strikes fortunately, they both now testify that their wives have them better persons. Hallelujah

@ freecocoa

@raumdeuter - waoh! thanks for the details. I'll say your wifey is lucky cuz of your undemanding nature. She can take her time to do the house chores. But knowing us women, even without any pressure, we would still look for ways to show off our multi-tasking abilities. Our hands must just be kept active

OP, I advise that you involve her more in financial matters. Let her know the total income the family makes and how it is spent. Take monetary decisions together and she won't have any cause to whine about you being broke.

I suspect she doesn't know how much you earn and she feels you can do much more than you are doing now. Or maybe there is something you are spending on that she doesn't believe in.

Again, since she is the type that complains a lot about money, tell her to get a job/start a biz and use the income to meet her needs.

freecocoa:
That's the beauty of our individuality.

I just believe that people who easily get offended aren't really nice people, I mean from my point of view, you have to make room for people's excesses to an extent and if one always reacts to everything done to them, it will ruin a lot of things, especially as the offender may have just made a honest mistake, so it's best not to react immediately till you are certain the action taken is worth the anger.

I'll consider things like, not being big on sharing, bad table manners, bad dress sense, mouth odour, poor hygiene(this one to some level sha), as minor because these things can be changed or managed better/easier than temper can.

@bolded - You can say that again but I feel you though. They are not the best people to have around.

Modath mi owon, pls don't stay away from this thread for too long Biko. May God bless our hustle

***To think that you will do parry for LBK and you won't invite me is mind boggling. I will catsh you

freecocoa:
It will be for me o, that's one of the things I detest in a man, I find it very annoying.

I mean, why get angry over any small thing in the first place? That's what I'll think, I'll be wondering, how does this one reason.

Lol...for me, it will be more of how me manages it. If the anger leaves a tail of woes behind, then I'm out but if he is able to manage it well, then it's fine with me. I look at it that we all have weaknesses but managing those weaknesses is the key.

zemaye:
Sweet yam and egg

Looks yummy Is there any specie called "sweet yam" or it's just ur adjective

freecocoa:
I wouldn't consider a temper problem as a minor one, that's a huge problem the way I see it.

I know but recall I said he gets over it without much effort/stress...would it still be a deal breaker?

SAMBARRY:
I dey here o.wetin shele

sorry for coming late o jare.na sim registration cause am. Them disconnect my line. Na today I just register my sim. What apoon?

Sambarrrrry, I nearly wrote here yesterday asking after you but somehow, it skipped my mind. I missed seeing you around

But why you sef no register sinnnceee naa

coogar:
that is ijebu.....
this is the you-kay.

When you are in Rome, behave like a Roman

No pounding in you-kay

We eat only burger in mancunian land

coogar:
now you are talking.....
i have just ordered a village mortar for my missus. there's a reason her creator gave her 2 muscular forearms.
we are going back to the traditional model.

Lollllzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

It's men that pound in Ijebuland ooo, women only share the dough and wash all washables

debosky:
If the husband is physically abusive, then obviously there's a serious problem beyond 'marrying right'. I don't think a 'mere' temper can result in beating only after marriage. It must surely have been present prior to marriage but missed.

Maybe it's an extreme example but I know most women undergoing physical abuse didn't experience it during courtship yet it has become a constant thing after marriage.

In terms of 'marrying right', it's down to both your mindsets and attitudes. You will ALWAYS find out things after marriage that you didn't expect - the way you respond/manage those issues determines whether you'll be considered to have 'married right' or not. Yes sufficient common ground must exist, but that isn't enough as even two people socialised in the same environment will have their own individual personality traits/habits which may rub the partner up the wrong way.

I am tempted to look at things more from this angle too because I am not sure there is one perfect person out there that one should marry to have a perfect marriage or be deemed to have "married right".

***This is in no way saying one should just marry anybody o. Some things should definitely be non-negotiable

As always people can and should have what they won't accept/tolerate and make them known and clear to potential mates prior to marriage. My advice is don't rush into it and give yourself enough time for the love to stop 'shacking' you so you can see road before you sign the dotted line.

lol..I believe this will help a lot but still, there are no guarantees. May God help us all.

@ TV - I'll look at those threads and revert.

@Bellong - you just did what I was talking about. You said "marrying right" is the simple answer to the problem. I disagree jor! While I agree that the foundation should be solid, I will say marrying right is more about the daily and effective handling of issues as they come up and not about marrying "mr perfect".

@Nashville - welcome back. I think women need to hear what you just said. Sometimes, it's not like the man does not want to help, it's just that we require the help at the wrong time. I must confess I am also guilty of this. Wanting things done at my own time and getting the job done myself if it doesn't happen when I want it. Noted!

@edwife - I guess you are one hell of a superwoman. House chores tires me out like crazy. I must be one of the executives of the lazy wives association.

@ Damiso - eyin iyaa tun de ooo e tun ti de o
Lol...but how do you exercise so much with this condition? I am also anaemic but I experience it more during pregnancy or when I run/jog. I used to be very good in sprints, but I was advised to stop cuz of "short breaths". Maybe you should exercise less. Pele

@coogar - I agree with you. Let's us go back to the traditional model...wetin sef

@Pick - further to what Debosky said, some simple issues escalate after marriage and they are not necessarily foundational issues. My opinion though

TV01 et al. - There is something that confuses me about this "marrying right" of a thing. And fortunately, it has come up severally in past discussions esp this last one.

My confusion is this - as an aspiring single wanting to get married, couples are told there is no perfect person but they should only look for someone who they share a lot in common or/and someone who has weaknesses they can live with. Like we say, a guy or lady who is looking for a partner that completely ticks his/her box will most likely never get married. right?

But more often than not, it is those weaknesses that we thought were minor and we could live with that manifest itself to be the major problem in the marriage.

Example - A guy is very loving, caring, focused, intelligent...but he has a temper. That seems to be his major weakness. During courtship, the lady saw a bit of this guy's temper but he always comes round without much effort. And even though she has her reservations about it, she has been advised and doesn't think it should be a deal breaker considering his other qualities. I would say I agree with her here.

But on getting married, this little monkey continues to grow bigger and it grows to a stage where the temper now results in constant physical abuse. And therein lies my confusion. Can it be said that the girl didn't marry right? Is it her fault in any way for knowing that the guy had a temper but forged ahead to marry him thinking the problem would go away? Should intending couples see the 'minor' faults of their partners from a pessimistic point of view? Would we all get married if we think like this? Saga ( ) comes to my mind now.

I sincerely need some understanding here.

Edwife, I read your response, then went back to read the conclusions I drew from your post, and sincerely, I can't seem to find much difference. I would write the same conclusion if I am to do it again. Maybe there is a missing link I am not seeing.

On the manual intervention part, gadgets don't work with remote naa, or are operatable from remote locations so Carrin cannot be attending her yoga classes and be cooking or washing at the same time. She cannot be at work @ 8am and still drive her kids to school at 9am. Her presence is still required. That's what I meant that it doesn't automatically solve the problem but it will make life easier than before.

@abandon - you used the word abandon for sure, with further explanation, maybe you meant delay. That's fine.

fruitfulvine360:
I feel like a member of ds beautiful family. Oh God please make it a reality very soon, ds ttc journey is killing me. It is well
Okay, Goodnight mamas

Surely, you are a member already. Signed, sealed and delivered congratulations!